#transmasc vent

[cybercrowz]

hey so terms like “ tme “ “ transandrobro “ “ transmen “ “ transtrender “ are harmful and are literally made up to make trans men look bad and be erased from the only spaces they feel safe (trans spaces)

hope this helps

[geckoslove100gecs]

Man I expect bigotry from allocishet people but on an emotional level I really can’t fathom why so many queer people I come across that seem like otherwise cool, relatively levelheaded people at first believe and say nasty shit about transmascs specifically. I don’t understand why its so easy for so much of our supposed community to completely look down on us or just altogether forget about us and the struggles we face. I don’t know why so many people in our supposed community don’t want or care to even try to understand what things are like for us, both on personal and systemic levels.

[fieryfoxboy]

I really hate it when people act like transandrophobia/anti transmasculinity is a “chronically online problem” and irl queer spaces (or the general public) don’t have major problems with treating us that way in real life at all. Maybe for some people that is actually the case and they’ve just been lucky enough not to experience a lot of anti-transmasculine attitudes/words/behaviors in real life, but I literally only post about ATM related stuff so often because I face so much ATM in real life, in and outside of queer spaces.

It’s just as bad in real life, if not worse, than it is online- even though I will say people online are generally more open/overt about their bigotry, whereas in real life it’s a lot of the time more covert, I think because people are more afraid of the consequences of sharing their opinions with their whole chest in real life as opposed to online (but not necessarily, it depends on context).

And like… y’all do realize that the people who post stuff like “bomb that kills all tboys” or “testosterone HRT makes transmascs become violent and predatory”, are a lot of the time real people who don’t exclusively exist on the internet, and sometimes even involve themselves in real life queer spaces, right?

I see a lot of people say generally transandrophobic things that are hurtful to people like myself online, and I see a lot of other transmasc people get personally targeted online, but just in my own experience, the vast majority of times I’ve ever been personally targeted by transandrophobia were in real life, despite the fact that I talk about the topic of ATM/transandrophobia online WAY more than I ever bring it up in real life- mostly because online I feel comfortable enough to do so, whereas in real life I only really feel safe bringing up the topic with my partner and occasionally close/long time friends.

Idk, I just wish people would treat ATM like the serious and pervasive issue that it is instead of dismissing it as silly internet drama that doesn’t actually matter or have real life implications.

[critical-bug]

the tumblr trans "community" makes me want to fucking kill myself at this point for being a trans guy. im not kidding.

i'll get skinned alive if i say i don't have privilege over other trans people or CIS women.

ill get skinned if i say 98% of trans men will never have male privilege because the conditions of that applying to us are almost impossible to achieve to the average transmasc.

i'll get skinned if i say transandrophobia exists. or any other term that describes the intersectionality of the oppression transmascs face.

i'll get skinned if i say SOME trans women on this site are horrid to trans men. but at the same time, in this discourse, ALL transmascs have privilege and less oppression than others. the first one is seen as a generalization, while the second one is "the truth." Even though i know many many transfems will stick by our side and fight with us, and the transandrophobic ones are not the majority offline.

i'll get skinned if i say i experience transmisogyny and am not tme despite being "afab" or transmasc. you literally cant tell what im transitioning into and what i was before, so people just hurl both transmisogyny and transandrophobia my way.

i'll get skinned if i say trans men and transmascs of color dont have privilege over white trans people or white cis women.

and its getting worse on this hellsite to the point where a white cis gay man and other non-transmasc folks talk over us, and people listen to them more than us.

man.

[lookmomnouterus]

I wish more transfems understood the real reason why transmascs often get labeled as transfem by transphobes.

It isn’t just transmisogyny.

It’s a combination of that and transmasculine erasure. Not invisibility. Erasure. We are only seen if we are trans in a specific way, and oftentimes because transfems are the persona of a trans person in many transphobes heads, we end up getting told we are transfem or treated that way. Even when we try to explain it. Do you think transphobes are rational people?

[twinkpussysupremacy]

Does anyone else feel like you’re walking through a minefield when you want to voice a transmasc headcanon you have?? I feel like it’s received poorly 9/10. It makes me self conscious about the characters I find comfort in.

[orion-archives]

sometimes i want to rot somewhere else

[rock-kandyshark]

Seeing how posts with trans men sharing their experiences with transphobia get dogpiled and hated on, while also getting very little support really makes me sad. This is what we've come to as a community? Really?

Not to mention how posts that say shit like "all of you little cuntboys should kill yourselves" get 1k+ notes with barely anyone calling them out on their bullshit makes me hate myself. Do people really despise me that much for my gender? I know Tumblr isn't everyone but it really feels like I'm either ignored or shat on every time I talk.

I just keep thinking maybe people would like me better if I was a girl. It would be easier