TW: Trauma anniversary, insys death, system collape, grief
It's January.. And last year on January 20th we had to go though the biggest collapse in our systems history... About half of the known headmates at the time went dormant.. I know for a lot of systems this is a natural process, headmates go dormant.. but for us it really isn't... outside of collapses the only time headmates go dormant is through being forced dormant.. (which we regard as, as bad as murder, so this rarely happens, especially now)
A lot of us are very nervous about it.. and also a lot of us are not doing well with the very painful reminders of who we lost... I... I lost my son... I don't know.. if I could've prevented it.. but... if there was a way to get him back.. that's all I'd want... I'd rather him be here and me be in the hell that is Dormancy..... I miss him... so much... and his brother.. my other son... he's blamed me since it happened... hasn't talked to me for most of this year.... I don't blame him of course... he was... he experienced a lot due to that collapse... from what people tell me sometimes he doesn't even talk.... he went through hell.. because I couldn't save him.... I just... I wish I could have a better relationship with him.. so I could protect him... so next time... if there is a next time... I won't loose my son again.....
.... I regret what happened... everyday..... we had a big fight before everything happened... and.. he didn't trust me... he had every right to not.. I wasn't the best dad to him.. I know that... and when... the collapse happened.... he didn't trust me... he didn't trust that I'd take him to safety... and now he's......... gone.......... I just.... I should have been better... I was trying... I'm still trying... why did I let that happen..? I shouldn't have let that happen....
Some people lost their partners... and some lost their parents... it was... an awful experience... amd when we talk about it..a lot of the time people say things like "their just headmates" or "you know they're not really dead though" and.. I just need you to understand that our headmates are literally people... they aren't anything less... infect sometimes they feel more like people than people do... my relationships in my system are so so real... and.. most of the time... when people go dormant in collapses like that... it either takes years for them to come or... or they just don't... it's very much like death... there are a few headmates that can pull people out of dormancy... but it's dangerous and very harmful to both of them... so...
— Ethan Dawson | He/They/Fox | of the Bookstore system
...Jeez, that's a lot. I'm so sorry.
No it makes sense to me that you're upset and hurt. A lot of you lost people who were important to you, of course it scares and upsets you. 🫂🫂🫂 Sorry that happened to you, Ethan.