#unaligned enby

[shynerdwantscuddles]

Shoutout to nonbinary people who are unaligned with either binary gender and get shoved into the categories of being either male or female aligned against their will or shunned from queer spaces for being unaligned. You deserve to be seen for who you are. Binary gendered people reading this, stop doing that.

[arovaricious]

Honestly fuck this site for making me think femme and butch were lesbian and woman exclusive.

I could have spent my teenage years feeling safe in femininity, feeling powerful and attractive with what little I had, and feeling protected and cherished by those like me.

My gender and my attraction (and lack of attraction in romantic ways) should never have been a way to make me feel like an outsider to my femme identity.

I'm femme. I'm also a number of other things, but this. This is what I was too scared to be, because of misgendering, of being assumed and expected to be masculine so I'd be properly trans, of the humiliation and anxiety of being treated like a joke no matter how I presented, of never connecting to romance the way everyone else seemed to do, of the terrifying fear of seeming predatory towards anyone paired with the desire to be attractive and dangerous.

I've always been femme, even when I denied myself to appease others.

(T/rfs, transmeds, and/or exclusionists DNI)

[nonbinary-safe-haven]

To any enby that has stood outside a public restroom, a dressing room, a locker room, or other boy/girl separation trying to figure out where to go or even just wishing they would never have to deal with this again, I feel you

The binarism is society is something we all have to face, and I'm here for you

[seraphic-sapphic-safehaven]

This may not be the right place but I’ve always wondered- if I fall for a non aligned nb person would I no longer be lesbian? For reference, I still can’t see myself falling for a male aligned nb person or men and I do consider myself primarily woman/woman aligned attracted but what if I did fall for an unaligned person?

I mean.. If the unaligned person you fall for is uncomfortable with you calling yourself a lesbian while you're with them but you're still attracted to them and all, then no, I don't think you could call yourself a lesbian. If they feel they don't fit into that description of your attraction, it wouldn't be... right? or fair? to call yourself a lesbian if you date them. That probably doesn't make sense, ugh... Lemme give an example:

Say you ID as a lesbian and are with a woman who comes out as a trans man, and you stay with them but continue to ID as a lesbian. That would be transphobic because your partner is a man. You're continuing to ID as a lesbian, which means that you're still viewing them as a woman when they aren't; you aren't respecting their gender identity. Like, if you're still attracted to them even though they ID as a man now, you're not a lesbian; you'd be bi, ply, or whatever other mspec term you wanna use.

What I'm trying (and failing) to say is respect your crush/partner's identity. If they say they're uncomfortable with dating you when you call yourself a lesbian (in regards to their gender identity, I mean), either don't date them or ID as another sexuality like bi, ply, etc.

I hope that made sense lmao. Sorry for being shit at explaining :/

[arovaricious]

Literally the only thing that's kept me from liking my chest is other people's cissexist mindsets and misdirected misogyny. I personally don't want any kind of top surgery, I just want to be able to exist with what I have, shirt or no shirt, and regardless of how I present.

[arovaricious]

Love not bein cis

[arovaricious]

unaligned nonbinary flag by @nonbinary-safe-haven !

ID: [two pictures of a zepeto sitting down in two different ways in front of the unaligned nonbinary flag, the first one's text reads: "unaligned enbies can be gay" and the second reads: "unaligned enbies are all valid" in peach, black, and light green text]

[arovaricious]

Oh my g*d why did I think I had any kind of "male passing privilege" I'm fucking unaligned and not transmasc and how I present DOESN'T MATTER