Recovering Negative Nancy

They/She/He dm me about your hyperfixation if you wanna be friends 30s :/

[tempesttost]

Neurodivergent Nonbinary Polyamorous Fat Masc Bisexual Sadomasochist Socialist Smartass-Dumbass

They/She/He pronoun preferences may vary but they’re never that strong so take your pick

All the standard late 90s/Early 2000s nerd fandoms plus many many more, and too much time on my hands (terfs fuck off and die alone, though)

I also enjoy arguing for its own sake, as long as it doesn’t get personal I’m probably not gonna get mad even if you really really disagree with me (about low stakes things like media, or how to go about achieving mutual high-stakes goals)

Go look at some hotties of all genders, including my very own hole and pole, on my side blog

If you’re into @me that makes you gay

Tumblr is a place to express yourself, discover yourself, and bond over the stuff you love. It's where your interests connect you with your

[catchymemes]

[micro-usb-deactivated20230625]

[froggribs]

[alivehouse]

how dare the item of clothing i developed a weird attachment to and have worn almost every single day since i bought it start to show signs of wear

[nellasbookplanet]

The three tiers of queer sff:

Broke: what is worldbuilding? Made in a lab to be as blandly inoffensive as possible. Time to randomly namedrope terms like 'nonbinary' and 'ace' while doing zero work actually incorporating them into the world or characters and have someone give a speech about how valid they are. Lines like 'I'm too ace for this' while never exploring the concept of asexuality or aromanticism and still having very central romance plotlines is common. I hate it here learn how to write realistic dialogue and fully realized characters I'm begging.

Woke: more ore less typical sci-fi and fantasy but It’s Queer Now. Might include in-universe queerphobia to be struggled against or may have queer identities be fully normalized. Can be done bad or well depending on the skill of the writer. A good way to explore our contemporary ideas of gender and sexuality or to have a bit of a power fantasy with lesbian princesses and trans knights. There will probably be a bisexual love triangle.

Bespoke: what is a gender. What is monogamy. What is polyamory. What is romance. What is platonic. Time to show you the most fucked up uncategorizable relationship you’ve ever seen. There may be weird ass metaphorical sex

[ashlgcostumes]

Truly I hate to do this to you all but; you can watch all the videos and read all the blogs in the world but you cannot learn to sew without at some point picking up a piece of fabric and fucking it up. No tutorial exists that will stop you at some point ruining this poor piece of cloth. The visceral act of holding a project and wondering where you went wrong is the only way to learn sewing; you cannot escape it. I’m sorry

[scribefindegil]

And speaking of pronouns, flat-out my favorite part of the LOTR Appendices is when it’s revealed that the Gondorian dialect of the Common Speech differentiates between formal and informal second-person pronouns but the distinction’s been lost in the Hobbit’s dialect, so Pippin’s blithely been using familiar terms of address with the Lord of the City, and thus helps to explain both why the Gondorians are so ready to assume he’s a prince and why Denethor finds him so amusing to have around.

[hippity-hoppity-brigade]

not what i expected from a post that began with “speaking of pronouns,” but an a++ show of the versatility and surprise daily available on tumblr dot com

[shieldfoss]

Broke: Shitposting on your pseudonymous twitter account

Woke: Shitposting on your Legal-Name linkedin account

Bespoke: Shitposting in international standards document ISO/IEC Joint Technical Committee subcommittee 22 working group 21 paper D2349R0

introducing "std::pony" to C++

[shieldfoss]

Shitposting in an actual standards document is still the highest tier, but this linkedin bit is also good

[theartfulaesthetic]

Chloe Giordano

[oneheadtoanother]

[formulahs]

did u guys see the picture of the brazilian cardinals. theres a tiny diva in it

[formulahs]

spot the diva

[is-this-blasphemous]

No

[formulahs]

if i put tiny cuntress instead of diva would it be blasphemous

[is-this-blasphemous]

Yes. That would have been blasphemous

[lastoneout]

Fun ADHD hack is that you're allowed to just go to the library and reserve a study room for a couple of hours and make all your phone calls or whatever adult shit you need to do but can't because your house is for House Stuff and for some reason your brain has designated "phone calls for doctors and other such things" as School Adjacent and therefore refuses to do it in an insufficently academic environment. Like it's free. You can just do that.

[omegaversereloaded]

I wish there was more media where THE hot girl that everyone wants is black. Not lightskin or mixed either just a black woman but that pretty much never happens

[theehorsepusssy]

[pangur-and-grim]

in a moment, everything can change

[chick-it-out]

buk buk buk. bukow. bukow. werugh.

buk buk buk

bukow. bukow

werugh.

[bloodyl1ps]

this post hasn't left my mind since i've first saw it

[sonicrainbooms]

people jest but this is literally how i worked out i was gaslit for like 15 years of my life

[aphony-cree]

People who “want trauma” are recognizing, on some level, that they were traumatized but in a way that’s not “socially recognized” as trauma. What they really want is for people to see that they’ve been traumatized and be on their side

[respected-demon]

Hold up

[portraitoftheoddity]

I think it’s also important to talk about mental illness, and how the pain and trauma of being mentally ill as a kid is often diminished because of the lack of outside actors. If you spent your childhood being suicidally depressed because your wee little kiddo brain decided to be a chemical shitshow, it doesn’t matter how much mom and dad loved you, that kinda thing fucks you up. And having people only look at your external surroundings and argue that “nothing bad happened” ignores all the pain you went through internally. So wishing you could have something external you could point to in order to justify that pain and enduring stress -- just so people could understand -- makes sense. 

[girlmachinezeph]

Oh

Oh.

Well guess who just learned something new about itself.

[steampunktomboy]

Does this include having impostor syndrome about having trauma?

[virtualgirladvance]

yes, every time you go "oh it wasn't that bad I'm not really traumatized" you need to understand it was and you are

[technicoloryuri]

This goes for all relationships by the way! not just familial ones!!

As someone who's struggled with wanting to have been "traumatized more clearly" in several relationships, (both familial and romantic) its important to make it clear this isn't just for one kind of relationship!

[queen-mihai]

Me being trans and gay my entire life

Me growing up not being allowed to be trans or gay

"I'm one of the lucky people who have never had trauma"

"My childhood was good, I hardly ever even got into any trouble"

"I never even had my rebellious teenage years, I was such a good kid"

20 years after becoming a legal adult:

"I..... have...... never spent a single day recognizing myself in the mirror and I only now realize how badly my true self has been hidden from the world. I spent my young life being traumatized so badly that I thought if I showed even a hint of my true self, my parents would have beat me to death. And... they... probably would have...... I may never stop crying as long as I live"

[queen-mihai]

Holy shit this was only a few months ago

Uhm..

I was looking for something else, stumbled across this, and like... Holy fuck