All Things Tereghan

Okay, let's face it. This has turned into more than half Star Wars by now. Also occasionally knitting, spinning, and gardening pictures. She/her/bi/married so don't bother trying to get me on your dating app (it happens more than you'd think).

[hyrude]

is the world really such a terrible place? yesterday i asked if oat milk was extra and the barista said yes so i said ok just regular milk then and when she gave me my chai latte she whispered “i used oat milk ;)” doesnt that make u want to live another day?

[hyrude]

here is my life philosophy: next week there might be someone ahead of you in line at the store who’s short a quarter and you have a quarter and you can give it to them. if you weren’t there, they’d have to put something back. the week after that you could be getting lunch and the waiter might ask if you want some pancakes someone else ordered and never picked up. you could find someone’s lost cat. you could watch someone’s bag while they go to the restroom. there are so many ways you are going to touch other people’s lives and they are going to touch yours and there’s no way to know when it’s going to happen. so you have to keep living!!! i wouldn’t want to die knowing that tomorrow the barista will give me free oat milk just to be nice. 

[elaninrecovery]

When I was 11 years old - we went to Sea World for my birthday. This was to avoid the realization I had no friends, and no one to come to a birthday party and probably because someone gave my mother free tickets at work. It was kinda a shitty day despite being at a theme park full of cute animals. There was a new roller coaster there that had just opened so we decided to go on. I was nervous. I’d never been on a roller coaster.

A group of 6 college kids were ahead of us in line and started chatting with me. Full on just having a fun conversation with someone literally going through the beginning of a very awkward middle school period. I was so shocked they wanted to talk to me. I think my mom mentioned it was my birthday. They were very nice about it. When we got on the ride they told us to go ahead of them so we could sit at the front of the car since it held 8 people.

Now the ride (called Journey to Atlantis - I believe it is sadly no longer there) started with a slow ride of beautiful visuals of dolphins and oceans and computerized images of this imaginary Atlantis before going up the hill to the beginning of the coaster, where it paused for about 30 seconds, and then the ride started. The college kids must have known there would be a pause. Maybe they’d ridden it before I’m not sure.

But as we sat there on that peak, 6 people I’ve never known, and will never know again, sang a very very lonely 11 year old happy birthday. Loudly. And with gusto. They were happy and laughing and joyful. And it made me feel less alone in the world.

I am 29 years old this year, and I still remember them. I still remember that kindness. It is so important. It doesn’t go into a vacuum. It exists beside me in my daily life. And I love the idea that I have been that person to someone else too.

It’s stunningly lovely to be human when we’re kind to each other.

[lymmea]

OH THIS CAN’T BE LEFT IN THE NOTES

[chemistfail]

stellar's jay, a bird pending a better name. Still trying manifest "Boreal Jay"

[depsidase]

[weaselle]

“LA is burning”

A: it is not. a couple of self-driving cars got set on fire

B: you didn’t give a shit a few months ago when LA was literally on fire in a big way. So.

[ominous-signs]

was at the nashville zoo a couple weeks ago. talking about animal camouflage but did they have to word it like that

Official ominous sign

[asmrgaret]

"you caught me unawares" more adjectives should end in plural. you caught me undecideds

[writingmia]

what i love so much about Mistborn and Kelsier in particular is that he is not a good guy. i don't agree with people's arguments about his 'villany' by a long shot, however i can acknowledge he is not a morally stereotypically good person. and that's why i love him. because let's be real, so much of the cosmere is good guys. to be a Knight's Radiant you whole schtik is that you want to help people and be good. vin and elend (although i love them) are so so focused on helping their people also. which is great, of course. but getting that breath of fresh air, the person with his own motivations and plans that are at times selfishly driven, and who isn't afraid to be the bad guy in other people's story, is amazing. i love Kel because he's so different from the Dalinars, Kaladins, Adolins and Vins of the cosmere. which is also why i love Hoid, Shai, Breeze, etc so much. and why i adore Kelsier so much.

[liberalsarecool]

Sharing space is nothing new. Sharing bathrooms is nothing new. The reactionary outrage is so manufactured.

[theconcealedweapon]

The parking lot? As in the gender neutral parking lot? As in a place where you have no privacy?

[greatmountainfloofsquatch]

These are the bathrooms at the airport in question:

As you can see, complete privacy for all waste-expulsion activities. You only encounter other people around the sink.

[aspiringwarriorlibrarian]

This just proves a point that I’ve repeatedly noticed and it’s that every time a bathroom goes gender neutral it gets about a hundred percent safer.

I distinctly remember coming back from college to find that they’d converted the two of the bathrooms into all-gender restrooms. Among the changes were doors that went all the way up and down, a locking mechanism within the door, and actual door handles. Even the single-occupancy bathroom got a wall for extra privacy.

In contrast, I remember the women’s bathrooms in my old school. They were broken as shit. Some doors needed to be held by a friend, some doors you held with your foot from inside. The wheelchair-accessible bathroom straight up did not have a door at all. And yet we all pretended this was okay because hey, the womanly honor code. You think that shit would have flown if there were two gender-neutral restrooms?

All I’m saying is that if I were fleeing a predator or wanted to be absolutely sure I was private, which one would be the better option? The one that assumes that a “no penises allowed” sign will be enough? Or the one that actually, physically protects me?

[aurpiment]

Also, nongender restrooms are better for parents. My brother and I grew up raised by my mom. While nothing ever happened to him going into the bathroom alone, not even like a poop accident that he would have needed help cleaning up with, my mom certainly got anxious sending a seven-year-old into the men’s room unaccompanied. A nongender restroom means that parents of small children can worry less about their kids.

[roseintherainforest]

Gender neutral bathrooms are The Shit. I love the privacy. Like as someone who gets menstruation related intestinal issues, the ability to just have an actual fucking door, and some goddam privacy is awesome. Gender neutral bathrooms benefit everyone. And back to the parents/caretakers of children thing, imagine if you’re a dude who’s out with a fairly young daughter or niece, what the hell do you do if there’s no family or gender neutral washroom? Use the womens’ and deal with the weird looks and/or comments, or chance it with the guys bathroom? Gender neutral bathrooms solve dozens of problems at once, including partially eliminating a need for family washrooms, as a gender neutral bathroom with change tables would take care of all that.

[elodieunderglass]

I’ve been saying for years that TERFs are showing their utter lack of parenting with the bathrooms thing. (Nothing wrong with not having parenting experience. But I don’t care to take advice on “protecting children” from people who don’t actually manage any risks on children’s behalf.) each time they bang on about public bathrooms, it’s like: ah. You have genuinely never cared for children or thought about children’s needs in any way.

Public bathroom design, in the gender segregated sense, is actively hostile to children.

Quite apart from gender considerations, parents are often forced to use unisex wheelchair accessible stalls, which is fine, but makes them less accessible for wheelchair users, and contributes to the demand for unisex stalls. Why? Because children are small people who are usually accompanied by carers, often with a mobility aid, often needing assistance or wearing a nappy, and often have a sibling. Below the age of 3-ish, children are often in pushchairs/strollers. You cannot remove a baby from a pushchair and place it loosely on the floor of a public toilet while you are assisting your toddler. Instead, you and the pushchair/baby and the toddler are all accommodated in the wheelchair stall. That’s also where the changing table usually is.

In bathrooms where the changing table is thoughtlessly gender-locked to the womens’ room only, fuck yes you are going to see daddies changing nappies in the women’s room, and if that bothers anyone reading this, then shame on you. and to redeem yourself I hope that you write a stern letter to the mall, saying that you demand a changing table in all the bathrooms.

(The most obvious way in which public bathrooms are hostile to children are the electric hand dryers, which blast painful and distressing noise directly into the eardrums of short people whose hearing range is more sensitive than adults. But, you know, why design public spaces to protect children, or make them actually safe or comfortable…)

[girlrustcohle]

fuuuuck i just realized that the future idealized version of myself cant exist without current me being the catalyst for change and doing hard things. has anybody heard about this

[ojibwa]

i rlly hope it gets easier soon bc i am fucking losing my mind

[pinkcatminht]

[calicolen]

Siri: When are you gonna... Y'know...

God King Susebron: Imma be fr rn, I literally have no fucking idea what's going on

[what-even-is-thiss]

There’s certain hobbies and interests that aren’t inherently conservative or regressive but do attract a lot of people who are those things or worse and when you’re a progressive person involved in those hobbies hearing that someone else is interested in your hobby usually has to involve some “But are you normal about it?” conversations before you get too excited

[what-even-is-thiss]

Someone: I think the Vikings are really cool. I like Viking metal and stuff like that.

Me: *threateningly holds up plastic fork* Answer me quickly. Do you have normal opinions about immigrants?

[handsomeamoeba]

UFOlogy and cryptozoology 😔

[britt-ish]

long suffering roman history fan

[herpsandbirds]

Splendid Fairywren (Malurus splendens), males, family Maluridae, order Passeriformes, Australia

photograph by Jennifer Sexton

[lakevida]

im going to drink a $7 light beer at the zoo and become the jane goodall of leafcutter ants

[e-rose]

[pumpkinpaix]

kinda wish I had taken a photo of these before, but I’ve been doing some visible mending on my clothes recently :) the fashionable distressing had turned into slightly less fashionable gaping holes lol

thought it would be fun to try and continue the tree print onto the pants themselves to make it look like they were growing out—I’m not terribly good at embroidery bc I don’t do it very often but I think it turned out well!! yay :) I left some of the frayed edges in bc I liked the look, and I’m pretty happy with that decision \o/

[herpsandbirds]

Beautiful Nuthatch (Sitta formosa), family Sittidae, order Passeriformes, Mishmi Hills, AP, India

photograph by abhinav sharma

[rhythm-of-lesbianism]

and then it hit venli… who the fuck was tien?