This is so bloody stupid, and rests on a terrible understanding of female biology.
A woman is born with about 6 million eggs. By puberty, she has about 300.000 to 400.000. Between that time about 10.000 a month die.
Every cycle, the body selects a cohort of follicles to mature, the best of them makes the selection and becomes the egg. This continues untill you reach menopause, and you've run out of eggs. This means that you can have a healthy baby up until menopause. Healthy here is largely dependant on the physical health of the mother AND father. If dad's fat, smokes tobacco and weed, and drinks regularly - the child is just as likely to have health problems as if the mom does that. Y'all may wanna worry more about the quality of your swimmers while giving women a hard time.
By 30, your fertility begins to decrease. But this doesn't mean you can't have a lot of children anymore, it is just the start of a decrease. But since we are talking about hundreds of thousands of eggs, and not a couple dozen. You can calm down. If you want 5 kids, you still have good odds.
By 40, you'd be down to about 10% of your eggs. It would become harder to conceive at this point. So the oft repeated maxim of "by 30 a woman has lost 90% of her eggs" is simply false. But you also don't want 6 million children. Or even 300.000 children. You want maybe five. Chill the fuck out.
You should understand that the number of eggs a woman has and the number that die before ever seeing a single swimmer of yours is a mechanism exactly like yours. A single ejaculation has thousands upon thousands of spermcells. They have to compete to make sure only the best of the best make it so the child is healthy and strong. This is common sense. The same is true for a woman's ova, it's just not widely known.
However, your personal health and genetic history of fertility are huge factors here. Diet, especially preconception, has a huge impact on your ability to not only have a healthy egg and have it be fertilised with a healthy sperm, but also to have that right implant and survive the first 12 weeks.
A healthy, fit 30 year old woman who eats well, who eats clean, and who gets a lot of animal fats and vitamin k and cod oil has a BETTER CHANCE of having a large family of healthy children than a 20 year old with a poor lifestyle and poor mental health. (Do NOT underestimate the impact of mental health and stress on the ability to conceive or, ya know RAISE healthy and stable children).
And lets touch on that last bit, the mother's ability to raise her children. If you, as a guy, are so obsessed with having a large family in quick succession so that she's popped them all out before she hits 30? You better be fucking rich, my man. You better shill out for excellent food, excellent healthcare, help around the house, and do not expect her to work. You better be the cream of the fucking crop of all men out there.
Because you have not the slightest clue of the toll on a woman's body and mind that is having children. Pregnancy is incredibly hard work on the body. Post partem depression is very common, especially if mom isn't sufficiently supported. It can take up to 2 years for her cycle to come back fully if she breastfeeds. And since your so concerned about a 30 year olds ability to have healthy children, you better let her breastfeed long term to ensure the best start for your child once it is born, so no switching to formula to make sure you can breed your wife again quicker.
The care of a newborn is intense, especially while she is still in recovery from birth. A normal pregnancy and vaginal birth leads to a full 9 months to a year of recovery until mom is back to normal. At six weeks post partem ONLY the vagina and uterus have been put back together and the weakening of the ligaments at the hips should have strengthened again. That's nowhere near all the changes and repairs that needs to happen. So you better be supportive of her body and ability.
And lets talk about having a baby and a toddler. Or 5 children under 5 years old. And the amount of diapers that need changing, the broken nights, the tantrums, the full 24 hour job that is childcare. Will you still expect her to keep a perfectly clean house? To go to work?
Do you have any idea how bad maternity leave is in the US? Or paternity leave? She'll have to do all of that on her own, cause you'll barely be allowed a full week paid leave post birth.
And you want all of that, with a girl who just made it to her 20's? You expect her to be mentally strong enough, to handle the stress with grace? To not loose her temper? To not show her frustration around her children? To be patient and gentle with them, to discipline them consistently in a productive manner without anger or rancour? You may even want her to homeschool on top of that.
I got news for you lad, most women aren't capable of that until they're at least 25 to 27. And demanding it earlier is simply cruel to your wife and your children. And if you do think you deserve all that labour, what do you bring to the table? Can you afford all those kids? The healthcare? Can you ensure her safety and health through many pregnancies close to each other? Can you support her physically and emotionally through the physical and emotional changes that is pregnancy and motherhood. Are you able to raise your kids as you should, with a good temper and emotional availability as well as have the time for them all? Are you good enough to be worthy of that mystically put together 20 year old who has all the world to choose from?
Or are you being an entitled little idiot who took his understandings of female biology from sceptic tm youtubers in the 2010's and the manopsphere after that? You should want to know your partner well before you commit to children this is why the average time from meeting to married with children is 5 years. You should want to grow together, know each other in and out, and truly live each other before you put a child in the mix.
Having children isn't a right, its a privilege and a duty to look after and raise up well the souls the gods put in your care. You should take heed when selecting their mother, make sure you are compatible and live each other. You should make yourself worthy of her and your children. You don't pick the mother of your children and your lifelong companion as if its a cow you buy for breeding only.
And for the love of all that is holy, learn some actual facts about female biology.
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