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[the-charming-system]

Charming System/Collective. He/him unless member tags otherwise. Adult.

Members will tag by name.

General use blog. You may send questions.

[nenupiot]

[ronrono-system]

shocking news: your favorite character from the media you enjoy in a very very healthy way turned out to be not only your current obsession but also a headmate!!!!

[heartbeat-sys]

love being a fictive but i also kind of hate it. like hey you werent real before. you are now though. and you have to deal with so much bullshit. you can never go back. you may never fully feel like yourself ever again. maybe you wont ever get over it. maybe you dont want to go back. maybe it would be worse but you still want to. maybe anything would be better than this. maybe you deserved it all, just because you said that. everybody knows you. nobody knows you at all. close your eyes. open them and look at photos of the place you were ripped away from. be thankful for the people who are stuck here with you. try not to think about the ones you left behind. and most importantly, do not ever talk about your identity with any degree of seriousness and never refer to yourself as yourself, or else.

[weatherchannel-collective]

anyone else feel the need to just

(this is about being plural, please do not interpret/tag as anything else)

[fruitorchardsystem]

I think the worst part about having good internal communication is that trying to chart it out means sooooo many fucking arrows

[the-royal-we-reblogs]

Do you think something like this would work easier? We did smth like this a while back but I wanna remake it sometime because it was messy

[fruitorchardsystem]

Looks down sadly.probably the only issue is I am lazy

[274th]

[twilightsysblog]

Who said this? - 🍃🩵

[shatteredglass---system]

Whats his fucking problemmmmmmmm👎

[squaresaw]

[medleyofmind]

hell on body technique

we have been... Very Sick! and it's the first time this has happened since we figured things out... making this quite insightful into our functioning!

orange has been focussed on keeping us in contact/around people (for sanity) and communicating issues to our doctor

green has been maintaining the living space, and making sure we keep up with positive hobbies!

purple has been giving company and reassurance during flare-ups, keeping us calm when doing necessary outdoor tasks such as shopping

red has been preventing negative behaviour resulting from the pain and required downtime, especially when trying to sleep

white has been very hands-off, because he hates heat and we have a temperature and it's summer.

[orange: fuck i need to close the curtains

white: Yeah.

orange: thanks]

he just keeps creeping in at night when it's a bit cooler and agreeing with the obvious

overall, i think that we are handling things very well! (honestly white does so much for us he should get paid leave)

[the-charming-system]

given the choice between two cups for our water. similar height. one is straight with divots for the fingers, and the other is a normal water glass.

looking at em both. reach for the first. we'll probably spill it. (never done that before.) grimace. pull back.

"oh! this one has the omen of death! :D! (accident, spill)" (lovely new headmate.)

okay i think we have a problem.

[thevoillohiarchive]

taps the fucking sign. I’m going to cry

be kind to urself about your headcount. pls.

[pickin-up-pieces]

pickin' up pieces, comic #2. The non-amnesiac experience is interesting and often not discussed much among systems, so I wanted to say my thoughts.

[thekennel-drawn]

c'est la vie et la mort

[eldritchbauble]

Will y'all behave if I talk about internal relationships between alters?

[eldritchbauble]

For some reason sanism and cringe culture I've found internal relationships to be one of the biggest things people get weird about when it comes to DID.

Some of the worst takes I've seen either completely disregard it and say it's impossible / not real or worse, they essentially equate it to incest (ok so... first of all not all internal relationships are romantic or sexual, but that aside, masturbation is incest???)

But even when it's just people saying that internal relationships don't count or they're part of a delusion etc etc etc that's just fundamentally misunderstanding how DID works.

[eldritchbauble]

Our internal relationships are just as important as our external relationship with the partner.

But but but-look, if you think that sounds wrong, then I want to know why you believe that your relationship to yourself is less important than your relationships with others. That sounds unhealthy.

[eldritchbauble]

Discourse aside, I really do want to talk about this.

An internal relationship can be anything that an external relationship can be. Romantic. Sexual. Friends with benefits. Partners. Spouses. Exes. Kinky BDSM relationships with power dynamics. "What are we" relationships. All of the above is what I had in mind when I made the post, but as I said, it can have nothing to do with any of that, too. It can be platonic, familial, or even involve caretaker and therapeutic relationships.

The way we feel for each other is not less real than the way we feel for anyone else externally. The difference is that the way we interact and carry out those relationships is (obviously) within the context of sharing the same body.

[eldritchbauble]

Our system has alters who are:

Parents to other alters.

Essentially adopted siblings.

Best friends.

Married to each other.

In a QPR with each other.

Friends with benefits.

In a dom/sub relationship.

Polyamorous with multiple other alters.

Personal protectors for other specific alters (or enemies because of a protector vs persecutor thing).

An internal therapist to other alters.

We're real people so we have real relationships (they just happen internally, which is complex, and can be upsetting or frustrating at times in its own way). Parental figures are proud of the progress we make because they're watching their kids grow up. People can get jealous because of the time their favorite person is spending with another alter. We have years-long tension over breakups that cause some alters to avoid each other or not get along. Relationships between spouses were built over a long time before those alters considered themselves married. People stress over the way that dynamics change over the course of our life. Normal shit.

[eldritchbauble]

Some of us don't even know each other; we've never met and only "know" about each other secondhand. Some of us straight-up dislike each other. Etc.

[changelingcoded]

i believe they call this 'locking in'