i continually see posts telling people how to treat systems correctly and yet i STILL see systems being hurt by harmful behavior, whether singlets know it or not.
do NOT put whether an alter is an introject or not above them being a real person. as a singlet BY DEFAULT their source does not matter to you. treat them like you would anyone else until you know what they are and aren't okay with.
do NOT treat alters other than the host like they're lesser than them. everyone in a system is in the same boat, your host friend included. if you treat any other alter like shit the host (and everyone else in the system) WILL be affected.
do NOT trigger alters on purpose. i shouldn't even have to say this. we aren't fun little toys for you to play with, we're REAL FUCKING PEOPLE. i don't care how big of a fan of our sources you are or how stupid you think our triggers are. be a decent person and treat us like you would anyone else. it's dehumanizing to act otherwise.
do NOT make jokes about "waiting for [x] to split" to your system friends. this one really depends on the boundaries of whoever's in question, but joking about wanting us to split is insensitive. we don't split for fun or for you to interact with your favorite character. we split because it's how our brain knows how to cope. you're not in the place to make jokes about this unless you KNOW it's okay.
often times i see posts like this get mainly reblogged by systems, when singlets are the ones who perpetuate this behavior a majority of the time. singlets can (and should) reblog AND internalize this. we're real people with a real disorder. learn to treat us like human beings.
