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decompose1

neovaginas can get wet naturally

a neophallus can get erect with an implant (this will either be a bendable rod or a device that inflates with saline at the press of a button, usually in the testicles)

both can feel sexual pleasure and experience orgasm

most neovaginas will be able to tolerate larger insertions with enough dilating/training

the nerves in neophalluses take a while to regrow but it is incredibly rare to experience no sexual nerve growth

both can look and feel "normal" if that's what you want, just take good care of your scars and look at your surgeons' results portfolio (and don't be afraid to be picky! its your genitals, you get to decide!)

in fact it's possible for many people to stealth and for their sexual partners to never know. even for phallo, some people with natal penises have erectile implants too, ED is common. neocaginas are often indistinguishable from natal vaginas

many surgeons are starting to offer preservation options for patients who want a more mixed look/don't want to lose what they have

YOU HAVE OPTIONS! demystify bottom surgery

woobifiedvillain

There's this thing where people will (correctly) identify a lack of something in a certain social sphere. And then. Sort of. Default to believing that the lack is due to internally imposed Censorship behavior from within the social group. And start trying to fix the issue by attacking people who aren't actually causing the thing. And then get frustrated that it's not working for some reason and accuse the people they've self appointed as Those In Power of hiding stuff or interfering with their efforts to uncover the truth of why something is being hidden.

And all the while the actual cause (structural context of this conversation) continues on.

woobifiedvillain

Like I just think a good amount of people who call for kinks to be examined or whatever seem to have forgotten the state of the modern internet at large? Which is probably easier to do if you're not kinky or otherwise a group being targeted by this sort of censorship! But like. Homie you haven't uncovered a conspiracy, you've... noticed that things are bad. Structurally? Please just attribute it to that first.

woobifiedvillain

In the sense of like. Yeah so if someone is talking about their kinks but doesn't "seem to have" examined the broader social positionality of them. According to you. That already might just mean they don't owe you that but frankly. Let's say they do. Let's say you are owed an explanation of why people are into what they're into, by default, and also you need to be allowed to check whether it's bad. Okay. So. You've noticed people will have a kink but not write essays about it where you can see.

Clearly nobody understands this needs to be spoken about! How dare! They're just telling me to fuck off! They're clearly hiding something--

Where. On earth. On the modern internet. Can someone "examine" their reasoning behind having a rape kink. In a way that's allowed and won't be inevitably reported to hell and back or at minimum subject to harrassment telling them to delete it. Where on earth are you even imagining that you "should" be finding the things you're allegedly looking for.

"nobody is talking about this I've discovered-" I suggest you. Check out a library. There's a whole field of beautiful research called sexology. It might be more cooperative than the Tumblr blogger who doesn't know you and also doesn't want to unleash structurally supported backlash against themselves just because you said so. Ya know.

kosmogrl

I will probably get through this just like I have gotten through everything before but I need to be really stressed and scared first

what-even-is-thiss

Health classes really ought to teach people what the beginning stages of addiction are like because a lot of people don’t realize they’re addicted to something until they’re years deep into it.

what-even-is-thiss

Signs you might be getting addicted to something:

If you go without it you feel unwell in a way that you never usually feel unwell. Sweating, tired, sleepy, headaches, irritable, depressed, etc. For example when I was in opium withdrawal I got incredibly depressed in a way that I’ve never been before or since. When you quit caffeine you might get super bad headaches even if you never usually get any headaches.

Thoughts of it regularly bother you and the thoughts go away once you’ve taken it but only temporarily. Unlike with a food craving which usually stays away once you’ve satisfied it or distracted yourself from it.

You find yourself rationalizing with yourself why you should break your own rules about how much you can take and how often. For example you might only let yourself drink alcohol every four days but start thinking that three days is actually close enough to four days, right? Especially if this happens regularly.

You’re using it so often that you feel the need to lie about how much you use because other people might think it’s concerning

If the substance or activity is nearby it’s genuinely difficult to not consume it or participate in it in a way that’s really frustrating.

You feel bad when you’re not on it and your brain tells you “if you just take the thing you wouldn’t feel this way”

You can only feel “whole” or “normal” when you’re on a substance even though it’s a recreational drug

And if you read this and think you might be addicted to something, don’t panic and don’t feel ashamed. Realizing you’re addicted to something isn’t a failure. It’s more information about your health that you can use to manage your condition, whether you want to get rid of your addiction or not.

junestrings

a lot of people dont care about insect biomass collapse bc when they hear we are losing 2.5% of the insect biomass per year they just imagine the cockroach and housefly population decreasing by that much. they dont realize those are among the only ones that will remain unbothered

librarycards

i think it's very important that people know how common undereating is, esp. for feminized people, and how the lower calorie requirements for "women" are bullshit. you don't need to have a restrictive eating disorder (a psychiatric disability in which your relationship with food + body image is dangerous to your health [sometimes deadly] and prohibits you from participating in your daily life, forming relationships, and so on) to not be eating enough.

you could go your whole life not eating enough and not die or get really sick, but just be tired and grumpy a lot, or perform worse, or have brain fog, or a million other things. like there are so many gradations between "should have a snack" and "has a severe eating disorder". maybe you don't have an eating disorder, but you should still start eating more than iced coffee for breakfast. try it sometime!

nyantara

After I suspected a climate connection to tooth decay, I conducted systematic saliva pH testing across my patient population and documented

agricultural workers in punjab who have to labor in 45°C (113°F) plus heat are losing their teeth as their bodies prioritise cooling through respiration and minimise saliva production.

(h/t @stylo-90)

argyrocratie

"Like most outdoor laborers during peak season, Rashid drinks 15 to 20 liters of water daily to survive the relentless heat. By mid-morning, sweat soaks through his clothes as his body’s cooling mechanism works overtime. He chews on sugarcane during breaks, which provides quick calories — an ancient practice that sustained ancestors but now compounds health problems. Nothing about his general health seemed unusual at first. But when I asked about saliva — that often-overlooked component of oral health that most people never think about — there was a long pause.

“My mouth is always dry,” he said quietly in Urdu. “Even when I drink water until I feel sick. My mouth stays dry.”

(...)

Saliva is not just moisture. It’s a physiological fortress, a sophisticated system that most people take entirely for granted until it fails them. For anyone, but especially for people doing physically demanding work in extreme conditions, saliva performs three critical functions that are absolutely essential to tooth survival: It buffers acids from food and stomach reflux that would otherwise erode enamel; it holds calcium and phosphate minerals, which actively remineralize tooth enamel when microscopic damage occurs; and it contains enzymes and antibodies that fight bacteria, helping prevent infection and decay.

Without adequate saliva flow — and I mean genuinely adequate, not just the minimal amount needed to swallow — teeth begin to demineralize within weeks, a process that becomes increasingly difficult to reverse.

(...)

Increasingly erratic monsoons — along with land degradation and other issues — have also been impacting crop yields in Pakistan’s agricultural belt. (In 2025, the country’s output of major crops dropped by 13.5 percent.) Malnutrition among agricultural families has worsened significantly. According to data from Pakistan’s National Nutrition Survey, roughly 28.9 percent of children under five were underweight in 2018, and about 40.2 percent of children in the same age group were stunted. Agricultural wages for outdoor workers have stagnated while food prices have skyrocketed in recent years. Almost half of all rural agricultural families are now undernourished, struggling with food insecurity, and unable to provide adequate nutrition to their children.

One farmer described the economic reality with painful clarity: “Twenty years ago, we ate what we grew: wheat, vegetables, milk from our animals. Even in difficult years, we had this. Now I can’t afford that anymore. And I chew betel nut because it keeps me alert through the heat, keeps me working longer. My teeth pay the price for all of it. But what choice do I have?”

(...)

My research that when workers in their late twenties and early thirties lose functional teeth, they don’t just lose the ability to chew solid food, though that’s devastating enough. They are fundamentally unable to do their jobs effectively. Agricultural and other manual labor is physically demanding, and, since tooth loss makes it hard for them to eat properly during long work days, their energy levels drop. Physical endurance diminishes. Productivity decreases significantly. Wages drop accordingly.

Additionally, there’s a stigma associated with having bad or no teeth. One of my patients, a 26-year-old construction worker in Faisalabad, who has lost four front teeth and has six others that are showing severe decay, described it this way: “Contractors see you and assume you’re weak, unreliable, physically breaking down. I lost three job opportunities after they saw my teeth. They literally told me they couldn’t hire someone who looked that ill.” He’s now unemployed, living with his parents at an age when he should be establishing his independence. “My friends joke that I look like I’m 60,” he said, with the weariness of someone who’s heard that comment one too many times.

Nasreen, another patient from Lahore, who used to work in construction but shifted to domestic work as her tooth loss progressed, says her condition, which has affected her speech (the loss of front teeth disrupts the ability to pronounce labiodental sounds like “f” and “v”), is costing her domestic work opportunities as well. Households hiring for in-home roles have turned her away, telling her she appeared “unclean.” Nasreen told me she stopped going to the market — the central gathering place for her community. “People stare,” she said. “In my community, a woman without teeth is considered unmarriageable. It’s not stated explicitly, but everyone knows it. My younger sister’s marriage prospects are affected too, because people talk. They wonder if there’s something genetically wrong with our family.” Nasreen used to earn 800 Pakistani rupees (about $2.85) a day as a construction worker; now she makes 400 rupees (roughly $1.45) a day, a 50-percent reduction that her family can barely absorb.

(...)

When a 28-year-old loses the ability to eat, speak clearly, smile, and work because of a climate crisis created primarily by high-emission countries on the other side of the world, that’s not just a dental issue, it’s a manifestation of environmental racism and climate apartheid. And it demands urgent recognition and immediate response.

(...)

What gives me genuine hope amid this, however, are the community responses emerging organically without government support.

In 2023, in the Punjab village of Chak Beli Khan, for instance, a local health worker named Shabana Khan started organizing work shifts that avoided peak heat hours — a simple intervention based on understanding that the worst heat occurs between 11 a.m. and 4 p.m. Shifting work hours from the traditional 6 a.m. to 2 p.m. schedule to 4 p.m. to midnight helped farmworkers reduce their peak heat exposure significantly. Crucially, it also improved their hydration capacity; workers can actually retain fluids better when working in cooler hours, when their bodies aren’t in constant crisis mode trying to cool down.

I’ve documented the results of this intervention over a period of two years: Two workers reported improved oral health six months in. More significantly, their saliva pH readings improved from an average of 5.1 — dangerously acidic — to 6.2, moving into healthier territory. Word spread through the region. By the following harvest season, eight surrounding villages had adopted similar work schedules. It’s not a perfect solution — the work remains physically demanding, and wages haven’t increased — but it’s a real improvement from their previous work situation, and it emerged from on-the-ground wisdom.

Similarly, in Faisalabad, a local microfinance and community health organization operating with limited resources began providing subsidized water stations and electrolyte solutions to agricultural laborers during harvest season to help their bodies retain fluids and maintain proper chemistry. It has made a measurable difference.

One patient told me, “My mouth felt different within weeks — less dry, less burning sensation, like my mouth was actually producing moisture again.” His saliva test showed improved chemistry across multiple markers. After I documented results in 15 workers there and helped the organization understand the clinical significance of what they were observing, the organization began lobbying provincial agricultural authorities to fund the work as an official worker-safety program. The group is now building the case for funding by compiling clinical evidence and lived testimony.

(...)

But even these emerging solutions are, in truth, band-aids applied to a systemic wound that requires major intervention, both nationally and at the global level. What’s genuinely needed is policy change on multiple fronts: government-supported mobile dental clinics in agricultural zones with expertise specific to climate-related oral disease; binding workplace regulations for shade structures and mandatory hydration protocols during extreme heat; food-security programs that support truly nutritious food access in rural communities and don’t depend on cheap, processed foods; targeted health insurance, specifically for agricultural and other outdoor workers, covering both preventive and restorative dental care; and finally, climate-adaptation planning that centers human biology and human dignity, not just infrastructure and economic metrics.

Rashid came back to my clinic recently, his face showing the toll of another harvest season. We discussed implants as a long-term solution, knowing full well that he cannot afford them — the cost is prohibitive for an agricultural laborer earning 400 to 500 rupees a day. Before he left my clinic that day, I asked him what he’d want people to know about what’s happening to him and others like him.

“Tell them that climate change isn’t abstract,” he said. “It’s here, right now, in my mouth, in my family’s survival, in my ability to work and eat and live with dignity… It’s not just teeth; it’s my entire future. And I’m not alone. Every farmer I know is experiencing this. We’re all getting older before our time. We’re all becoming invisible.”

shitgw3playerssay

New blog from Colin regarding their core game design philosophy!

Solving player problems: a deep dive into how we build games at ArenaNet.

free-and-to-none-accountable

How To Be A Rat Fuck, part 1: How to always win debates

So first of all the title is a bit misleading. There are actually two different kinds of political debates, and I can only help you with the second one. This is NOT advice on how to settle arguments with your friends; these are hostile tactics, meant to be used only on enemies, and if whoever u use it on wasn't your enemy before then they sure as hell will be when you're done. Anyway.

First off, you have to know ahead of time what kind of debate you're in. The two kinds of political debate are internal and public, and they have to be approached very differently because they're very different animals. The internal debate is a dialectical fact-finding process wherein some people resolve contradictions within their group by discussing the relative strengths and weaknesses of various positions; the internal debate should be respected, and the only way to win one of those is to have a good and well-presented argument. Good luck w/ that one.

Then there's the public debate. The public debate--and this remains true whether it takes place on a fancy stage or in the comments section of a youtube video--is a circus. More to the point, it's your circus, and you are the ringmaster.

The true target of a public debate is not the opponent, but the audience. You are not acting as a political worker educating a potential contact, but rather as a performer putting on a show for the audience. The object is not to win over your opponent; the object is to leave any observers with the impression that your side is reasonable and intellectual while their side is silly and histrionic. Always keep this in mind.

Try to avoid addressing your opponent's points directly, except to ridicule them. Instead, use phrases like "But what about--" and "Oh, so you're just going to ignore--" in order to keep bringing up additional points of your own, thereby monopolizing the conversation for your point of view and preventing your opponent from organizing a coherent counterargument.

Take any opportunity to imply that your opponent's arguments are foolish without saying so overtly. Keep an ear out for any lines of argument or turns of phrase that might sound peculiar to the general public, such as cumbersome academic jargon or obscure subcultural metaphors, and roll your eyes while repeating them back to your opponent in a condescending tone.

If you find yourself unprepared or otherwise caught out by a question, just refuse to answer it. Or refuse to elaborate. Imply that your opponent is being foolish by even bothering to ask such a question. "It's not my fault you don't already know about XYZ, someone who'd done any research on the topic would already know about XYZ and wouldn't need me to explain it to them. Anyway, have you considered--" You're never ever refusing to answer or elaborate because you don't have an answer, no, you simply refuse to embarrass yourself by condescending to answer such silly questions. Come on.

If at all possible, try to bait your opponent into getting angry or otherwise distraught. How to accomplish this will vary from person to person, but your pretentiousness and aloof indifference should get you about halfway there on its own. Remember, however, to try not to resort to overt personal attacks unless you're absolutely sure they're going to land; you're meant to look like the voice of reason dispensing sage wisdom while they're meant to look like an angry, blathering jackass. If you can so get under your opponent's skin, it's pretty much over. You can aloofly (and infuriatingly) dismiss whatever else they have to say as a baseless appeal to emotion and proceed to "Anyway, have you considered--" your way into using the debate floor as a soapbox from which to preach to the audience.

Keep these tips and tricks in your back pocket and you'll never, ever lose, as long as you define "winning" as your opponent giving up and storming out of the venue.

And now you're one step further on your journey to becoming a rat fuck! More to come. Quote to think on:

"Rhaegar fought valiantly, Rhaegar fought nobly, Rhaegar fought honorably. And Rhaegar died."

delicate-viscera

once you start noticing how fatphobic everyone and everything is, there will never be a moment you're not filled with rage

hyperions-fate

A Labour MP and Cabinet Minister reported one of their constituents to the police for emailing them about Gaza, which led to their arrest in a dawn raid. In Britain, the classic liberal advice ('write to your representative!') means having PC Shit Beard and his sex offender friends ramming your front door down.

anarcho-gamerist

They’re adding “skill issue” to the dsm

bideogaymes

The shooting occurred Sunday afternoon outside a Walmart in Senatobia, according to the Mississippi Bureau of Investigation.

literally yesterday. all because someone called the police about DIAPERS being shoplifted.

Black children deserve to live and be safe around ALL people, around the world but something so simple is routinely denied to us on the daily by people more concerned with making sure their group doesn’t become the next underclass in which the entire modern world operates on its dehumanization.

im so sorry to this baby, their family, and every Black family dealing with the horrors of antiblackness, having our freedom or lives stolen from us every day.

meanwhile, LAPD shot and killed a Black woman’s dog after being called by her neighbor for being “too loud” during the Knick’s game, one of the biggest basketball event in years.

i seen more comments by nonblack ppl showing sympathy for the dog than the Black woman in the video literally hugging her beloved pet’s dead body in tears while a mob of LAPD officers stand around and watch her dispassionately.

what the fuck.

expressions-of-nature

by Alexander Zharnikov

thebealog

hey so what the fuck rocky horror really is that bad

everything ive seen from it is more wildly transmisgoynistic than i couldve ever imagined, but sure let's "reclaim" the musical about how queer people are sex pests and trans women are rapist, murderous, mad scientist aliens who came to earth to corrupt innocent heterosexual couples and enslave them for deviant, "mindfuck" sexual desires

like holy shit how is anyone defending this

thebealog

"it was progressive for its time"

cabaret came out 10 years before it and has much more well-intentioned and faithful queer representation. not perfect, but frank n furter WISHES to be the emcee

tajrishgp

in europe "anti-immigrant riot" is what they call attempted pogrom these days

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