[balkanradfem]

Radfems, what kind of activities would you like to do in separatism?

Social activities: laughing, singing, dancing, telling stories, festivals

Food related: foraging, growing food, cooking, preserving food, baking

Crafting: pottery, weaving, sewing, knitting, crochet, embroidery

Building activities: building houses, fireplaces, furniture, doors and windows

Gathering knowledge: Teaching or learning, establishing a library, sharing books

Healing: Organizing activities that serve to help traumatized women

Activism: Reaching out and forming alliances with women in need of safety

Spirituality: Establishing traditions that center life, nature and love

Competitive activities: Organizing women's sports and holding lessons

Other (add in replies!)

Voting ended onMar 5, 2023

[balkanradfem]

I'm actually thrilled at how everything is well represented! Especially building, it's a joy to know so many women want to build and this society is just not giving us the opportunity to do it at all!

I do have to warn you all who voted the first option, if you're in separatism, and you're a storyteller, you either need to have a scheduled time of the day when you tell stories, or you will have me at your throat all day because I LOVE being told stories, I will want stories at all times of the day, while doing everything and anything, I will never hear enough stories, and I will want to have discussions of the stories.

Also for storytellers: tell me where you source your stories so that I can go look them up.

[puppyboydavidbyrne]

[owls-garden-deactivated20231123]

genuine question regarding your tags on the post about sylvia plath, what is wrong with the word poetess? english isnt my native language so i may be missing some connotations

It’s just…that’s hardly a word people use. It’s something men do where they add a feminine signifier to a word that doesn’t need one and is rarely required in English. By doing so they imply the male to be the default. Actor, actress, painter, “paintess”, plumber, plumberette??? it is also condescending to add a cute girly little ending to a serious profession.

[modern-heresy]

This is a point I struggle with - which better combats male-default language?

“She’s a poet” or “the poetess.”

Recently, I’ve been leaning towards the sexed language because a lot of the time, it isn’t natural to add the “she” in there, so we just end up using the term which is already male-defaulted, but its hardly a settled issue in my mind.

I think a good measure is which causes more discomfort, really. That should mean its challenging norms, right?

[owls-garden-deactivated20231123]

No way we aren’t normalising “poetess”. There’s nothing uncomfortable with saying ‘she is’ I’m tired of people having a phobia of the word she as if it implies more than it actually does.

[psspsspussy]

The suffixes -ess and especially -ette have become synonymous with the diminutive. The suffix -trix has become wholly sexualized. Yes they will clearly indicate women to your listeners but, unfortunately, the vast majority of the time will also inadvertently indicate someone smaller, lesser, or otherwise worthy of dismissal.

[psspsspussy]

Are you, as a woman,

very very cold

far too hot always

whichever my traitor body decides will make me most uncomfortable in the moment

secret fourth thing (functional mammal)

Voting ended onFeb 24, 2023

[zegalba]

[whimsicat-murderkatze-etc]

Also there's a lot of things i can tolerate from a woman but not from a man. Like my roommate being messy? Well, nobody's perfect. Any woman acting like a smartass? Love that shit, actually. A woman being cold and/or rude? More power to you, queen. Any of that from a man, though? Stay away from me.

[slutdge]

[balkanradfem]

Ladies I need you to write me a list of your favourite female youtubers because I am struggling! I need women telling me things!

Mine are: 

Jess (Roots and Refuge farm aka all my gardening knowledge)

李子柒 Liziqi (separatist heaven, magical food growing and cooking)

STRANGE ÆONS (lesbian content)

Jenny Nicholson (fun analysis of media + themeparks)

Lindsay Ellis (in-depth analysis of media)

Melissa Norris (homesteading content)

I also like SarahZ, tiffanyferg, Karolina Żebrowska and Bernadette Banner but I need MORE and youtube algorythm is giving me NOTHING 

[balkanradfem]

Update with my new faves! 

Last few weeks I’ve only watched women-made content and I’ve seen women build a house, build every piece of furniture imaginable, build a sink, care for a food forest, carve utensils, chop and store wood, grow and process so much food, clear areas after a flood, plant and care for trees, go together on adventures. I am honestly so high on women content right now, I don’t think there’s a single thing women can’t do, even the tiniest, weakest-looking women can do more than a non-women can. Here’s some of that with links!

GET HANDS DIRTY :  She will build anything and my lesbian heart is weak for her: Watch her build the most beautiful sink you’ve ever seen!

Anne of All Trades: She has spoon carving classes! She will show you how to make utensils out of wood! Also watch her build a whole tiny house in 7 days! + Garden and fermenting content

HannahLeeDuggan: Life in a cabin and van-travel content, but she also shows you how to make paper, how she builds shelving, cabinets, fixes up her entire off-grid cabin by hand!

PlantAmnestyBrand: I cannot stress this one enough: TREE CARE!!! How to properly prune and care for trees, how to have healthy and productive environments, how to maintain native plant gardens, I learned all my tree facts here! If you ever plan to grow a tree watch this!

Mother The Mountain Farm: how I imagine separatism would look like, I am living my dreams in these videos, two sister care for a food forest in Australia, make their own food and care for the land and create art and clothing

[balkanradfem]

New favs!

Emmymade : She makes all kinds of old and exotic recipes! There’s a lot of recipes from depression era and poverty era, real study into how people used to eat! And cool food reviews.

Cruel World Happy Mind: Exposes all the scams, MLM’s, pyramid schemes, and abusive or exploitative work practices, even fake and biased journalism! Amazing resource to have in late capitalism, to be aware of scams!

Isabel Paige : Lives on the mountain and is absolutely incredible with what she can do, every video has a from-scratch recipe made out of natural ingredients, she spun and created blankets from scratch, makes her own soap, shampoo, deodorant, kitchen tiles, is currently cooking from her own garden, and makes music! I’ve learned tons from her.

Haphazard Homestead: This woman will teach you how to forage ANYTHING, if a plant is only edible for 5 minutes in one day she will HUNT IT DOWN and show you how to safely cook it, priceless foraging resource! You listen to this lady, you will never go hungry again.

She is of the Woods : Herbalism, precious medicinal plant info! Follow her advice with caution bc I did almost get poisoned, but I am here for everything she knows about plants.

Her86m2 : Urban food growing, endless recipes and tips for growing food indoors, recipes, and creating very beautiful lamp shades and updates in her space! Her bread-making video sent me years forward!

FairlylandCottage and TheCottageFairy are both very soothing with women living in nature, sharing tips and advice for natural life!

Emily Artful: She will tell stories from her life while you watch her paint! The stories are absolutely wack and I love listening to her talk, also watching her paint is extremely soothing

Wild She Goes : Van-lifer who settles in a small isolated village in Italy, you get to see her start up a life in nature, work on her house, make food and furniture! 

Acre Homestead : This woman has amazing ideas about growing, storing and cooking food in bulk! She shows you how she grows, cans, dries and cooks massive amounts of food and uses every single plant to the fullest. I’d never think to make onion-top pesto! And her voice, gods, I could listen to her talk forever.

[balkanradfem]

Thank you for everyone who added new recs in the comments and replies, every single time I want to see some new stuff I check the comment section and it’s an absolute treasure of resources there. Here’s my newest recs:

Mickey Atkins :  She’s a therapist, and she talks about therapisty things! She’s quick to pick up on abuse and adamantly against fatphobia, and I love her for it. Does a lot of debunking and calling out child abuse!  

SWOOP : She does documentaries on social issues, crime, and youtubers abusing their power. She’s very good at calling out abuse and especially kind to the victims of sexual abuse.

Not even Emily : I feel like we all know her, absolutely hilarious sketches and comedic content, she’s often including gay and bi characters in her jokes!

Rachel Makesy : Soft, gentle and easy-going sewing content, I really warmed up to her, she makes costumes, second-hand things and often cosplays of her favourite shows! Feels peaceful to listen to her speak.

Aurikatariina : She cleans people’s houses for free, makes intensely satisfying deep-clean videos where you see her transform places from dumpster-infestation into home. Very kind and understanding towards people with mental health issues, never indulges in any shaming.

Dani Connor Wild : She is a wildlife photographer, and her favourite are squirrels. I’ve never been as mesmerized and awed by photos as I’ve been on her channel, she’s absolutely incredible and I love her calming voice as she talks about animals. Absolutely amazing experiences of squirrels and other animals up close.

Jonna Jinton : Cinematic videos of life in the North Sweden, absolutely beautiful cinematography and beauty of the northlands, she was my first real insight into how it is to live in very cold weather, without sunlight in the winter, and just how beautiful it could look.

[an-awkward-tangerine]

Ann Reardon is my fav youtuber. She cooks and debunk fake viral tutorials on her channel. She have a great sense of humor and spend a lot of time doing experiment and stop motion for her videos. Her channel’s name in How To Cook That

[kosmogrl]

[sacred-portal]

[female-malice]

Okay I'm gonna say it. Men in patriarchal societies have no traditional culture besides oppressing women. That's it. That's their only traditional culture. Women preserve real culture but men do whatever they can to suppress and appropriate women's expression of that real culture.

100 different women from 100 different nations have 100 different perspectives. That's culture. But 100 different men from 100 different nations just all oppress women. That's not culture.

[rad-siren]

They literally do jack shit and get all the credit😭 They don’t cook the food, they don’t plan events or invite anyone. They don’t make the traditional clothing, they can’t create henna or dance well. Women dabke better anyway, sorryyyy😏

[googleimagefinds]

images found while on google images ©

[huariqueje]

Flu on wheels    -   Cecilia Collazos

Peruvian, b.  1950s -

Oil on nordex with spatula , 120 x 154 cm.

[vintagenatgeographic]

Female beluga whale in Cunningham Inlet, Canada

National Geographic | June 1994

[bulldyke-rider-deactivated20251]

Another reason I hate the whole "GUYYYSSS COMMUNICATION IS KEY" bullshit is because I feel like it punishes reacting to being dismissed repeatedly and rewards not paying attention to context clues or taking hints.

When you get dismissed over and over, you stop saying what's wrong. And then the other person gets to pretend they just don't know what's wrong, and they're rewarded for being such a great direct communicator for saying "what's wrong" when it's something they did not care about when the communication was more direct.

[bulldyke-rider-deactivated20251]

If a woman is a "direct communicator", she's a nag and a bitch, but if she's not a nag and a bitch, she's bad at communicating.

Make it fucking make sense.

Combined with the fact that about half of people who call themselves "direct communicators" are actually just assholes who get passive aggressive when someone tries to avoid conflict with them. "I just ignore people until they communicate directly". You're a fucking dick. Like, you're not cool, you're not better than other people, you're actively worse at communication.

[magnetictapedatastorage]

mike’s hard water stains

[kramer]