Takes Pride in Many

I am in no particular order a Swintonian, Freemanian, Barrowmaniac, and Cumberbatchian.

[cowthropologist]

What good is the concept of justice when most people use the word as functionally synonymous with "vengeance"?

[cowthropologist]

How do we divorce justice from punishment? What does that even look like?

[cowthropologist]

I just wonder if maybe healing, safety, fairness, and compassion are more useful goals than justice.

[cowthropologist]

There's this pervasive idea of justice as inherently penal and vindictive. How do we dig ourselves out of this hole?

[cowthropologist]

We gotta stop hurting each other.

[ymirjotunn]

op may already be aware of these, but other people might not be.

https://transformharm.org/ - collection of writing about all kinds of restorative, transformative, and healing justice work and theory

https://rjdtoolkit.impactjustice.org/ - a toolkit for putting RJ/TJ into practice in your community

https://healingjusticeproject.org/ - more about healing justice, focusing especially on people who have been or are incarcerated or impacted by the “criminal justice system”

http://www.brattleborocjc.org/blog/indigenous-roots-of-restorative-justice - restorative justice has been an indigenous practice for millennia. you can start to learn more about some of them here, but please don’t be afraid to read more!

https://www.beam.community/healing-justice - RJ/TJ/HJ is also a powerful tool in Black justice movements; you can read a little more about its use by Black healers and warriors here.

https://batjc.wordpress.com/resources/pods-and-pod-mapping-worksheet/ - lots of great resources on this blog, but this piece is where you can learn about pods - small circles of relationships that turn to each other to respond to violence

http://restorativejustice.org/ - an international RJ organization, tons of resources on this site

https://brownstargirl.org/care-work-dreaming-disability-justice/ - care work: dreaming disability justice by leah lakshmi piepszna-samarasinha. worth getting the book; some essays are available online if you look around, and i can probably get them to you if you’re having trouble.

while you’re at it, check out https://www.sinsinvalid.org/blog/10-principles-of-disability-justice for more about disability justice

https://www.feministes-radicales.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/Angela-Davis-Are_Prisons_Obsolete.pdf - pdf of are prisons obsolete? by angela davis

i love you. keep reading, keep learning, keep fighting. this is how we heal our world

[justqueenthoughts]

Bohemian Rhapsody. We Will Rock You. Somebody To Love. All hit singles, and all the direct product of a band that was formed when an astrophysicist and a dentistry major found a new friend in an art college, who then went on to recruit a fourth member from the electronics school. Based on this alliance I propose the rift in society between Arts and STEM students was fabricated to keep us separated so as to dilute our true power - and fabricated by who, you may ask? The business major, the only member of society who reaps no reward from art and science and thus must weaken us so as to stay ahead. In this essay I will

[euclase]

Do you ever think you'll stop drawing fanart? No offense it just seems like the kind of thing you're supposed to grow out of. I'm just curious what your plans/goals are since it isn't exactly an art form that people take seriously.

Ah, fanart. Also known as the art that girls make.

Sad, immature girls no one takes seriously. Girls who are taught that it’s shameful to be excited or passionate about anything, that it’s pathetic to gush about what attracts them, that it’s wrong to be a geek, that they should feel embarrassed about having a crush, that they’re not allowed to gaze or stare or wish or desire. Girls who need to grow out of it.

That’s the art you mean, right?

Because in my experience, when grown men make it, nobody calls it fanart. They just call it art. And everyone takes it very seriously.

It’s interesting though — the culture of shame surrounding adult women and fandom. Even within fandom it’s heavily internalized: unsurprisingly, mind, given that fandom is largely comprised by young girls and, unfortunately, our culture runs on ensuring young girls internalize *all* messages no matter how toxic. But here’s another way of thinking about it.

Sports is a fandom. It requires zealous attention to “seasons,” knowledge of details considered obscure to those not involved in that fandom, unbelievable amounts of merchandise, and even “fanfic” in the form of fantasy teams. But this is a masculine-coded fandom. And as such, it’s encouraged - built into our economy! Have you *seen* Dish network’s “ultimate fan” advertisements, which literally base selling of a product around the normalization of all consuming (male) obsession? Or the very existence of sports bars, built around the link between fans and community enjoyment and analysis. Sport fandom is so ingrained in our culture that major events are treated like holidays (my gym closes for the Super Bowl) — and can you imagine being laughed at for admitting you didn’t know the difference between Supernatural and The X Files the way you might if you admit you don’t know the rules of football vs baseball, or basketball?

“Fandom” is not childish but we live in a culture that commodified women’s time in such away that their hobbies have to be “frivolous,” because “mature” women’s interests are supposed to be marriage, family, and overall care taking: things that allow others to continue their own special interests, while leaving women without a space of their own.

So think about what you’re actually saying when you call someone “too old” for fandom. Because you’re suggesting they are “too old” for a consuming hobby, and I challenge you to answer — what do you think they should be doing instead?

[talesfromthemek]

#I love the fact I’m ‘weird’ for writing fic but some guy painting a team logo on his beer belly is normal

[destielhiseyesopened]

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[takaraphoenix]

This whole modern approach is also seriously undermining just how important fanfiction is - from a historical standpoint.

The concept of fanfiction formed and forged the earliest stages of literature in Europe. Because the majority of authors in France, Germany and Great Britain looked at that funky little Celtic dude Arthur and thought “hey, he’s neat. I wanna write about him”.

The entire concept of a book outside of religious purposes was born out of fanfiction in my country.

There is no “first canon” for Arthur where he came as the prince of Camelot, with his sidekicks Lancelot and Merlin and his endgame love interest Gwen.

Arthur was some random hunter when he started out.

Someone’s fanfiction made him a prince.

Someone else’s fanfiction gave him a round table.

Someone else’s fanfiction gave him Merlin at his side.

Someone else’s fanfiction gave him Morgana, gave him Gwen, gave him his swords.

And, to this day, we still write Arthurian fanfiction. Literally last year there was a movie adaptation that is, by all intends and purposes, fanfiction, because it wasn’t even close to a literal adaptation of the source material (The Kid Who Would Be King). Heck, BBC’s Merlin, itself an Arthurian fanfiction, remains one of the biggest fandoms that people today write for on AO3.

You were a joke in the middle ages if you tried to write your own stuff. Who’s interested in your stuff? You were only a respected author if you wrote fanfiction. The most famous medieval German authors are famous because they wrote fanfiction about some knightly OCs they created who served on Arthur’s court. That is the literary legacy of the middle ages. Arthurian fanfiction.

Yet somewhere along the way, this concept of “I find x story/element cool and want to elaborate on it more, shift the focus onto an aspect of this original source material” has gotten this “eh, it’s fanfiction” connotation and lost respect.

Even though this very concept is still being used - even outside of the actual medium of fanfiction - and it is still being used for the very same purpose it was used for in medieval times. Original movies often don’t get as much recognition as adaptations of existing source material that the audience is familiar with. People see a movie about a character they’re familiar with and seem more inclined to buy a ticket to see the 10th new interpretation of Batman or Superman or Snow White. How are these new interpretations of familiar source material that usually add to the lore, reinterpret characterizations and dynamics, any different from fanfiction?

But heaven forbid we call The Dark Knight Nolan’s Batman fanfiction. No, fanfiction is that silly thing that we can’t take seriously, but that new Joker movie, that however is high-end art.

[stufflizleelikes]

SO IMPORTANT

[kyraneko]

This. Fanfiction is variations on an existing theme, simultaneously making use of and satisfying people’s existing love for a story that they’re happy to consume more of, and cultivating the synergy between an existing story/mythos and a new author who, in interacting with characters they’d never have created themselves, creates something that neither they nor any of the story’s previous tellers could have made all by themselves.

Fanfiction is the new whole being greater than the sum of its parts, and fanfiction is the story being made limitless, retelling by retelling, and it is wonderful.

[amuseoffyre]

It’s also worth noting that Batman himself only came into being because of The Scarlet Pimpernel, a series of books about an extravagantly rich foppish playboy by day, daring hero in disguise by night (I mean, loosely. He also fopped by night and heroed by day, but you get my drift). Written by a woman no less.

Batman is a transformative work with a modernised crime-fighting SP but also borrowing strongly from earlier comic books, and yet it is seen as definitive.

[zara2148]

Coming back here to say that I think the derision for fanart also has some of its roots in our capitalist hellscape.

It’s the age old “If thing not make you money, why you care about thing?” that’s so prevalent in the system. Of course some people do make money with their fanart, but I think that is still part of the scorn. 

It’s supposed to be something you do not just for fun, but for practice, people like this think. Once you’re good at it, you can drop it and make money by focusing on your OCs and original work!

[yespolkadotkitty]

**smashes reblog**

[tuxedoelf]

Couldn’t agree more. Fan art and fic are absolutely valid. We really need to stop putting an age limit on fun as well!

Funnily enough, my Mum sent me this just today. It was in the front of the Doctor Who book she’d just purchased. (My Mum’s in her 70btw… tell her she’s too old for fandom, I dare you…)

[theheroofheroes]

Fandom, fanart, and fanfiction is for everyone.  No, it isn’t something you “have” to grow out of.  If it brings you joy, then who cares?

[stargirl-judooz]

Always reblog

[hogwartscastle]

whats your type?

Fictional men written by women.

[morosoro]

Yes.

[somnabuis]

Sherlock actually DOES correct Angelo, twice. Once for clearing his name just ‘a bit’, and other time for the fact that Angelo did go to prison.

But not for twice assuming John is his date. Sherlock corrects like everything else he says lol. Interesting

[ebaeschnbliah]

That’s really a good one, @gosherlocked . According to John in ASIB Sherlock even corrects the television and he ‘always replies – to everything. He’s Mr. Punchline. He will outlive God trying to have the last word.’  Sometimes silence speaks louder than a thousand words. :)

[en--dear]

The Secret to Love Is Just Kindness

Those who showed genuine interest in their partner's joys were more likely to be together.

“Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: he’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

People who turned toward their partners in the study responded by engaging the bidder, showing interest and support in the bid. Those who didn’t—those who turned away—would not respond or respond minimally and continue doing whatever they were doing, like watching TV or reading the paper. Sometimes they would respond with overt hostility, saying something like, “Stop interrupting me, I’m reading.”

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in ten of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of ten, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.”

…

“Kindness… glues couples together. Research independent from theirs has shown that kindness (along with emotional stability) is the most important predictor of satisfaction and stability in a marriage. Kindness makes each partner feel cared for, understood, and validated—feel loved. “My bounty is as boundless as the sea,” says Shakespeare’s Juliet. “My love as deep; the more I give to thee, / The more I have, for both are infinite.” That’s how kindness works too: there’s a great deal of evidence showing the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they will be kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship.

There are two ways to think about kindness. You can think about it as a fixed trait: either you have it or you don’t. Or you could think of kindness as a muscle. In some people, that muscle is naturally stronger than in others, but it can grow stronger in everyone with exercise. Masters tend to think about kindness as a muscle. They know that they have to exercise it to keep it in shape. They know, in other words, that a good relationship requires sustained hard work.

“If your partner expresses a need,” explained Julie Gottman, “and you are tired, stressed, or distracted, then the generous spirit comes in when a partner makes a bid, and you still turn toward your partner.”

[inevitably-johnlocked]

Steph! Can I write you a fic?

Hey Nonny!!

YOU NEVER HAVE TO ASK OMG, I'd be honoured. If you post it on Ao3, I have an Ao3 at inevitably_johnlocked if you'd like to gift it to me, but OF COURSE let me know here too, because I don't EVER check my messages on Ao3.

BUT DON'T FEEL OBLIGATED!!! You don't have to write me anything *coughs*but my 40th birthday is coming up in August so it won't go unloved *cough*!

<3 <3 <3 Thank you in advance, truly you're very kind for even thinking about it! <3

[inevitably-johnlocked]

Hi steph, I'm looking for a fic. The only lines I rly remember are sherlock saying "I'll keep my nose clean as long as you keep you gun pointing in the right direction" or smth like that. John's like "yo what so you're saying we already have an unhealthily codependant relationship?" or smth similar. Then there's smth about "it wasn't a difficult leap, you don't get invalided with your service weapon," or smth of that vibe. I don't rly remember. it's probably p short tho, I'd guess under 30k max

Hey Nonny!

Ooof this sounds familiar, it’s annoying me, hahah. 

Anyone have any clue which fic this one is???

[lavendermarker-tbd-deactivated2]

Full offense but you are responsible for curating your fandom experience. You are responsible for making it a fun and safe place for yourself.

Don't like someone? Block.

Don't like a character or ship? Blacklist the tag and stay out of it.

Don't like a trope? Blacklist the tag and stay out of it.

Have boundaries? Enforce them. They're crossed? Block.

Someone asks you to leave them alone? Do it.

People tag triggers and squicks on this site pretty well and if you ask they'll usually tag it for you, so take advantage of it. But just because you're uncomfortable with something doesn't mean no one can make fanwork involving it. (I'm talking about dark topics, not, like, cp or anything else illegal because that is very much not ok)

Don't post hate in the character or ship tags.

Don't insult, harass, or demonize people for liking things you don't. Be mature and move on.

There are, like, actual problems in the world and petty fandom stuff isn't one of them.

[cursedcursingviking]

A reminder:)

[angelofdarknessmp3]

ive seen a few other posts about this that didnt get a lot of notes because i know it makes nonblacks uncomfortable (😐) but you people need to start examining why so many of your reaction pics and gifs and memes are of black people being expressive or literally just existing because its not a coincidence. it directly correlates to how black people are seen as overemotional and overreactive, the sassy black woman and the angry black man stereotypes and so on. like you really need to ask yourselves why such a large portion of the most used reaction memes this year are images of black celebrities like wendy williams and oprah and why non sequitur memes including dababys face seem to be so inherently funny to everyone, and if you are contributing to this problem.

this video explains it well:

"White people and nonblack folks using black memes and GIFs to express their emotional labor on black bodies contributes to what American literary critic Sienne Ngai calls 'the animatedness of black folks', A.K.A. seeing black people as hyperbolically emotional and expressive, particularly black women and [q word] black men."

in the video khadija also talks about how this relates to blackface and minstrelsy and about the appropriation (and butchering) of aave in online spaces, and cites these articles on the subject of digital blackface that i also recommend:

We Need to Talk About Digital Blackface in GIFs

Are you part of the problem?

Digital Blackface: How 21st Century Internet Language Reinforces Racism

Author(s): Erinn, Wong | Advisor(s): Acevedo Butcher, Carmen

[hyrude]

STOP! are you operating on an arbitrary set of terms and rules known only to you? have you created an ultimatum or specific if/then scenario for someone else without communicating it to them? have you considered making a decision and calculated all the consequences and potential reactions to those consequences and consequences for those reactions before you actually made the decision? it may be time to say some words out loud to another person!

[orangememesicle]

the idea that all coping mechanisms are valid and completely immune to criticism is honestly one of the worst things on nd/mentally ill tumblr.

just because you’re doing something to cope doesn’t mean it’s not hurting you, or that it isn’t hurting others.

sometimes, coping mechanisms hurt other people, like compulsive lying or constantly expecting your partner to give you reassurance every second of the day. sometimes, your coping mechanisms harm your recovery even though they feel good at the time. sometimes, your coping mechanisms just further entrench you in whatever you’re struggling with.

stop defending unhealthy behavior with the justification of “oh it’s just me coping”. you’re not permanently chained to whatever harmful bullshit you do.

[void-kids-stuff-deactivated2021]

Hey now that everyone is willing to reblog my posts... How far can this lil fishy go?

[writtenfoxscreams]

YyyYyYEeEeeSsSss. Go Lila!

[khorazir]

I’ve opened my shop for US orders again as well since the postal service situation on both sides of the pond seems to be improving. Orders may still take longer than usual to reach addresses in the US, but even those I sent last year have arrived by now and none were lost. So check out the link for Tolkien and Sherlock art, illustrated books and more.

https://khorazir.storenvy.com/

Home from khorazir

Welcome to my shop. Here you'll find original art, artprints, postcards and books inspired by the works of JRR Tolkien and the BBC series' S

[angsty-aliens]

Do you need some serotonin? This is my view every single morning.

[blvnk-art]

‘Come on, Ginny’s not bad,’ said George fairly, sitting down next to Fred. ‘Actually, I dunno how she got so good, seeing how we never let her play with us.’ ‘She’s been breaking into your broom shed in the garden since the age of six and taking each of your brooms out in turn when you weren’t looking,’ said Hermione from behind her tottering pile of Ancient Rune books. ‘Oh,’ said George, looking mildly impressed. ‘Well, that’d explain it.‘ 

Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix

Anything is possible if you’ve got enough nerve.

[instagram @potterbyblvnk] 

[blvnk-art]

I revive this comic every march 8th

[tina-was-here-deactivated201312]

[deereynoldslesbian]

OH MY FUCKING GOD IF YOU DON’T THINK THIS IS THE CUTEST SHIT EVER GO HOME

[spookyfbi]

PETITION TO HAVE A MOVIE MADE OUT OF THIS STORY.

[broughtsand2dabeach-deactivated]

Like A Boss!!! This just made my day

[fo-rizzle-deactivated20200921]

I’m actually dying this is so cute