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@transleninism
at this point a lot of you would cheer if terfs started pushing to relabel bathrooms as "afab" and "amab"
the arguments for "afab only" spaces are identical in both form and function to terf bathroom arguments, the language used is just "progressive"
every single example I can think of of a canonically male character where the fandom sentiment is "you can read them as both transfem or transmasc! isn't that cool?" is a vibes-based transmasc headcanon that doesn't really make sense with established facts, and an evidence-based transfeminine reading of the character. and the fandom has decided that instead of one of these obviously having more merit to it, both are equally #valid
#and i will never forget that one stupid motherfucker who posted about transmasc owen tvglow
THEY WHAT
their reasoning was that chronologically she started as isabel and then became owen. never mind the fact that the owen identity was specifically engineered to be torture prison
I gotta say that is like illiterate levels of media literacy
After some years of HRT I've been left with this deep, low simmering rage. Because what do you mean it was always this easy to be happy
I take a shot once a week, and even if that was too much, I could do it as pills, and so many of my problems just evaporated overnight.
And not one person thought to bring it up.
When I was talking about how horrifying puberty felt. When I was cutting myself. When I was in inpatient care. When I attempted suicide. When I talked for YEARS in therapy about how dissociated and trapped I felt in my body. When I felt like I never truly fixed something that was deeply wrong about me that started at puberty.
Not one person said it was a possibility. No one thought "hey, maybe this kid should go to someone trained to identify dysphoria". No one mentioned that trans people weren't some weird other group of people. It didn't have to be pressure. It didn't have to be "forcing" me. Just mentioning that trans people exist and it could be me. That it was possible and it was easy. No pushing, just laying the option out there.
HRT is treated like this last ditch option. This horrific, mutilating thing that I GUESS we can give to you if you have NO OTHER options. Because did you know it's permanent? Did you know you'll be on it for the rest of your life? Did you know the health risks? Did you know it'll make you infertile? Did you know that it's deviant? Did you know that it's an alternative lifestyle for other people?
No one said it was okay to WANT it to be permanent. Or noted that most people are reliant on the medical system in one way or the other anyways (and it's not even necessary for HRT). Or that the health risks are the normal parts of having that hormone, even in cis people of your gender. Or said it was okay to not want kids, or mention that you can just freeze gametes. Or acknowledged that the "deviant" people are just people, living their lives, that have been violently pushed out of "normal" society.
I grew up in an area that Republicans mock for being a kind of "woke central". And even then it's just. Not treated as an easy option. It was never on the table if you don't specifically already know you're going through gender stuff, and no one will help you get to that point. At which point, it's still treated like the last ditch option. Did you know you can be a feminine man? Did you know you can slap a "she/her" in your twitter bio and be done with it? Did you know that you're oh-so-valid without it? Did you know that you shouldn't take HRT? Maybe don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't take HRT? Don't ta-
When you've been in it a while, HRT is the easiest, most casual thing in the world. Just pop a shot on a Saturday as part of your "everything shower" routine and you're done.
Anyways. Support trans kids always and forever.
And if anyone comes swinging in here with "but Sierra you don't have to take HRT to be trans this is toxic" I'm going to fucking scream, because that is the status quo. "Just do this without doing this" has become a "give them an inch" refrain when making ourselves "acceptable" to the cis. Of COURSE you don't need to take HRT. I'm only reminded of it a dozen times a day.
Anne Sexton, from Complete Poems (1928-1974) first published 1981
*getting a tarot reading* the tower, a-another tower, and... a plane
I remember one time I had to argue with my (now ex) tme partner because they were sooo insistent that trans women had to "unlearn their male privilege" and they started yelling at me when I pushed back with the point that what they were saying is a literal transmisogynistic talking point. Even going so much as me saying "you know what I think we're missing a very important person's perspective on this (a trans woman)."
As someone who's tme myself, it really opened my eyes to how "progressive" people truly just use therapy speak and surface level supportive statements to hide their ugly personalities. It's exhausting, and I can't imagine what it's like for you.
"unlearning male privilege" is EXACTLY the quiet part when people talk about "unlearning male socialization"
if they took that logic any further they'd realize it's ridiculous. no woman on earth can "learn" male privilege, because performing masculinity as a woman does not confer male privilege. women are punished for the same behaviors that men are rewarded or excused for. that's why men have male privilege
some further writing I did on this a bit ago
I hate the "I hate labels" crowd. A "label" is just a descriptor. You use the word to quickly and efficiently describe what/who you are, rather than needing to tell an entire life story. If you want to be label-less/unknowable that's great, but don't be surprised when people don't immediately understand you. My labels are not a box they're a method of communication.
If I tell you "I am a heterosexual woman (meaning, a woman who is exclusively attracted to and only dates men)." I am not restricting myself the possibility of dating non-men, because that wasn't an option in the first place. The label does not determine my attraction, I determine my attraction and then I seek out a label which accurately describes said attraction.
If you feel boxed in and/or trapped by labels, maybe try identifying what your attraction (or gender) is first, and then find a label which accurately describes said attraction/gender. Use them descriptively not prescriptively.
I also find it very interesting how this crowd only seems to emerge during discussions of lesbianism. As in, you're only anti-label once a lesbian is describing her exclusivity towards women. It's very similar to how the gender abolitionost crowd exclusively emerges during conversations surrounding trans women.
Could it be, misogyny? Transphobia? Cissexism? Homophobia? Lesbophobia? Transmisogyny?
No no, you just purely in good faith take umbrage with how lesbians and trans women (and trans lesbians) describe themselves, for no external reason.
Posting here bc I can't say this is most trans dude spaces but saying your sexuality is "ABCD" (Anyone but cis dudes) is straight up transphobic.
Every time I've seen it they will list wanting to fuck literally every type of person but cis men and trans women because they view us as basically men. The vast majority of the queer/trans community is transphobic, trans men and theyfabs are just fine with it because they get treated like theyre pure
"The penis is the vessel for impurity "
Prob why there's so much phallo stigma too tbh.
Posting here bc I can't say this is most trans dude spaces but saying your sexuality is "ABCD" (Anyone but cis dudes) is straight up transphobic.
Youre not super woke and trans supportive for saying that trans men can't be misogynists or abusive and lumping us in with women or some kind of man literally.
Like why do I have to say this every fucking year for the past 15 fucking years.
Most recently in a transmasc space I saw "OH im anyone but cis dudes. Ill date cis women, trans men. And maybe some nbs"
So trans women are?????
Fuck off.
Posting here bc I can't say this is most trans dude spaces but saying your sexuality is "ABCD" (Anyone but cis dudes) is straight up transphobic.
TMEs when you talk about transmisogyny: I am all genders. I am the alpha and the omega. The concept of gender itself bends to my will. How dare you assign me to a binary, yet another oppressive structure by which you bind me to fantasies that you yourself have created. I live in the shadows, a combination of the masculine energy of the sun and the feminine moon. To all genders, I am stranger, but a friend. This is all a you issue, really.
cannot understand why people like youtubers who are yelling the entire time. why do you let that man raise his voice at you.
'women's bodies are SO amazing!!' is almost always a sentence in which intense dehumanising pro-birth propaganda follows. We must stop tying a woman's bodily worth to how fertile and impregnatable she is, to how well she carries child after child after child. To how well she can serve a breeding function. To refuse to uncouple pregancy and child bearing from womanhood and the worthiness of women is inherently regressive, weather you are doing it with a 'yessss girl powerrrrrr' coat of paint on top or not.
Call me an authoritarian tankie stalinist but I think think that if you call yourself a doctor on social media, you should be required to prove that you are both a doctor and that your field of study is relevant to what the fuck youre talking about
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