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i love tiktok multi-duets where theres so many duets the original video is tiny and its either a masterpiece or completely incomprehensible. its the video version of going on tumblr and seeing this

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the impulse to just make weird noises for no reason is something i have to ignore like 24/7

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Thought it was just me

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microwave: mmmmmm

me and my friends, in perfect unison, loudly: mmmmmmmmmmmmm

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MAL ORETSEV Shadow and Bone | 1.02

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except for the fact it was my birthday, MY FUCKING BIRTHDAY

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in this essay i won’t

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fuck you for coming to my ted talk

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Why is this so funny skdkska

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Reblog if you need this energy

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Current diagnostic criteria for autism excludes children who have been raised in supportive and accepting environments, making them undiagnosable.

“That’s right…. my son’s paediatrician says that my autistic way of parenting supports my son too well for him to be traumatised enough for a diagnosis, so we should let school traumatise him and come back later…

…Which brings me to thinking about how we identify autism in the children who are now being raised by autistic parents in a respectful and supportive way. The children who have experienced acceptance of their autistic neurology from birth and who have never been exposed to harmful therapies.

Autistic children raised by accepting parents, often autistic themselves.”

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It’s true. The current clinical model for Autism is based on traumatized Autistic children. The experiences of happy, well-nurtured, thriving Autistic people have been hugely excluded from the clinical literature. That needs to change.

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on the converse i got undiagnosed by a misogynistic psychologist because the specific ways i was traumatized (especially as a girl) led to me constantly masking to the point where he said i outwardly didn’t seem autistic enough for him to think i counted as autistic, despite my brother there to put in word for how i used to be and despite me saying the amount of constant effort i put in to masking my autistic traits in everyday life leads me to periodic breakdowns, to which he took no concern and dismissed it as me being irrational and exaggerating my struggle, despite only meeting me 4 hours earlier.

the fact that both of these experiences are common goes to show that the mental health field under capitalism neither cares about ameliorating people’s suffering nor genuinely creating a world inclusive of neurodiversity

for me and for many in the community, the label “autistic” is a convenient shorthand for certain patterns/commonalities in the way we/our brains function, and can give us space to communicate with others like us about what that means for our experiences in our current society

for them, it is a way to pathologize certain outwardly exhibiting traits that are seen as a burden or a drag on resources or that are seen as refusal to neatly integrate into structures capitalism uses to perpetuate itself. so whatever people’s needs are, they’ll be happy to switch between denying agency and denying need for help/resources whenever is most convenient

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It’s because neurodivergence means nothing to neurotypical society, outside of how it affects them.

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I’ve asked this question before:

What do you call an autistic that meets every single criteria except the whole, “it interferes with their life,” thing because they manage to cope well enough to get by?

In someone who is already diagnosed, we call them autistic. In someone who hasn’t been diagnosed, we call them subclinical.

But if we recognize that learning the skills for coping after diagnosis still means a person is a life long autistic, how come we don’t recognize this same thing in autistics who figure it out before they are diagnosed autistic?

This is literally the reason it is so very hard to get a diagnosis as an adult. A lot of the times we do have enough coping skills to get by, even if we don’t understand what those coping skills are being used for.

The entire premise of autism as it is understood by the broader medical community is that if you are autistic, it is impossible for you to learn to cope with the world and that’s how you know you are autistic, then turning around and saying, “Here’s how you cope with autism,” after you are diagnosed.

This is 1.) why anyone who says clinical diagnosis is required or the only real diagnosis needs to just eff right off and 2.) why a strictly medical model is a shit idea, and 3.) why we absolutely neeeeeeeeed to listen to late diagnosed adults about their experiences and 4,) fix gaps in clinical diagnosis for people who want or need it.

At the end of the day, the answer to, “What do you call an autistic who can cope,” needs to be, “autistic,” full stop.

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The autistic adult who can cope at 30 may be unable to at 60 as the energy they have to spare for masking dwindles.

Since autism is a life-long thing, “you can cope right now” should never be part of any diagnostic criteria for or against. Knowing that you’re autistic when you’re 30 may help you to cope as your energy declines later in life, because you’ll know what’s happening and why.