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i could never handle immortality not because of any existential reasons but because i know itd make my procrastination so much worse. catch me putting off tasks for decades. catch me putting off tasks for centuries. what do you mean that movie ive been meaning to get around to became lost media 40 years ago. what do you mean that landmark ive been meaning to visit has been eroded. oooh i got PLANY of time..............
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This coming out just days after it was revealed in the Jeffrey Epstein email dump that powerful people manipulated American and British news, political figures and forums to push transphobia to distract from people looking at their child abuse ring.
This includes chief anti-Corbyn-ite in Labour Peter Mandelson, directly feeding anti-trans stories to UK and US newspapers, actively bullshiting "biological studies" that trans people are idk ontologically evil (we have proof of Epstein pitching this exact thing), and creating /pol/ and then feeding anti-trans conspiracy theories for years until it all boiled over.
And over and over we found out each plank of this argument was rotten from the start but people are choosing to keep the bigotry.
Rattling the bars of my cage but you can tell my heart's not in it and I try to discreetly look down check my phone several times
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Honestly fuck AI for making me have to go on and on defending the dignity of toil like I’m some kind of protestant
What the fuck is this advertising. Can you see this too.
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had someone come to my book event last night and give me this. couldnt ask for anything better, really. yes, they’ll be at my birthday party in november
you’ll never believe the turn of events that have transpired tonight
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A brief moment of rationality from the bird place.
your life should not be a museum
“no crew, no help, just pure hustle” cut to this poor woman bawling her eyes out. what the fuck is wrong with people? why is this being framed as a good or impressive feat? this person makes below poverty wages already. Burger King meanwhile takes in $27 billion in global revenue every single year. everyone involved in making this woman endure this should be tortured and force fed chicken fries until their heart gives out. fuck this country.
Can someone who understands psychology explain why this makes someone "rude"?
Phatic discourse, a subset of affiliative signaling.
When Co-workers do things like ask about weekend plans, chat about non-work topics, eat lunch in the same room, they are--subconsciously--reaffirming that they are part of a cooperative (or, minimally, non-antagonistic) social group.
The other primates cement social bonds by grooming each other; we do it by making small talk.
If they solicit your participation in these rituals, and you repeatedly refuse those bids, you are marking yourself out as, at best, an outsider to the group, and thus potentially antagonistic.
This is all happening on the monkey-brain level; they have no idea what they're doing or how they are interpreting your response, so there's no way to clear up the misunderstanding.
To the ape sleeping in your co-worker's DNA, either you are part of the grooming circle, or you are an outsider who, for all it knows, may be coming to steal all the bananas.
Even if you would prefer not to socialize with your co-workers, it's generally worth it to set aside 5 minutes a couple times a week for phatic communication. You don't have to answer your co-workers' affiliative signals every time, but it's less trouble in the long run if you respond to a few of them.
if you are the type of person who really just wants to be left alone to do their work in quiet: it is actually easier to achieve this as part of the in-group. when you enter a new space, in this case, a job, make it your GOAL to make everyone Know Who You Are. introduce yourself to everyone you meet. literally everyone. "hi I'm Jack I'm New." this helps burst the awkward bubble. you are now one of the monkeys.
at some point, either in response to an invitation, or just in the natural course of conversation, you can add in that you are a "quiet type" who "needs their silence" or what have you. customize to your personal needs. i find it helpful to imagine a well dressed elderly woman describing the sort of peace she needs to manifest.
roughly once a week if you see a group of people chatting, engage with them. keep it pleasant. it can be superficial. word will travel that you are Nice and Quiet and Not The Chatty Type protecting you from group lunches etc. if you have an office with a door that you keep closed a lot, putting up any kind of decor will also send positive signals.
humans are monkeys! for better or worse!
If you struggle a lot with what to say while chatting, the key is asking questions. People LOVE being asked questions. Provide a small comment on the answer then ask follow-up questions. Do your best to remember key answers others give you (e.g., if they're going to a concert over the weekend or if they have a romantic partner, kids, pets) and ask follow-up questions about those answers later. This will make you seem Nice and Thoughtful. It also helps you deflect answers by minimally commenting on yourself before launching it back to them without seeming standoffish or cold-shouldered.
Example questions:
Did you do anything fun over the weekend? That sounds so nice! I had a pretty relaxed weekend myself, just [hobby] and a few errands.
Any plans for the upcoming weekend? [If yes] That sounds so fun! Are you excited? Going with anyone else? [If no] Same here, I can't wait to just relax at home! Any other fun plans coming up?
[Follow-up]: How was [event/hobby] over the weekend?
How's your [spouse/partner/kid/bestie] doing? Good to hear they're doing well! What have they been up to recently? Still liking their job / doing [hobby] / doing well in school?
Have you been doing anything new in [hobby] lately? Oh, that sounds so cool, do you have any pictures?
Read any good books lately?
Watched any good shows/movies lately? I don't know if I'll have time to watch that myself, but it sounds interesting. What do you like about it? [Note: this really hits if you don't care about spoilers. People love sharing enthusiastic spoilers. React shocked/excited then ask more.]
Remember, it's about being polite. Being friendly is not being friends.
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