itās from Claudia Severa to Sulpicia Lepidina and dated to around 97-105 AD. I find it so comforting to know that even almost 2000 years ago people had friendships like these and wanted to spend their birthday together.
We arenāt so different from each other after all
Not telling your kid they have a learning disability, chronic illness, mental illness etc. so they can āfeel normalā actually does the opposite. They will not feel normal if they do not have the context to understand that their normal will be different from that of their peers.
The amount of times Iāve heard a parent say something like āIām just not going to tell my son he has ADHD, I want him to feel normal.ā HE DOES NOT. HE DOES NOT FEEL NORMAL. HE IS WONDERING WHY HE IS STRUGGLING AND COMING TO THE CONCLUSION HE IS AN IRREDEEMABLE FAILURE.
By the way, you can improve your executive function. You can literally build it like a muscle.
Yes, even if you're neurodivergent. I don't have ADHD, but it is allegedly a thing with ADHD as well. And I am autistic, and after a bunch of nerve damage (severe enough that I was basically housebound for 6 months), I had to completely rebuild my ability to get my brain to Do Things from what felt like nearly scratch.
This is specifically from ADDitude magazine, so written specifically for ADHD (and while focused in large part on kids, also definitely includes adults and adult activities):
Executive functioning skills range from working memory to cognitive flexibility to inhibitory control, and beyond. They power our daily func
Here's a link on this for autism (though as an editor wow did that title need an editor lol):
Practical Strategies for Enhancing Executive Functioning Difficulties in Adults With Autism - Living with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) as
Resources on this aren't great because they're mainly aimed at neurotypical therapists or parents of neurdivergent children. There's worksheets you can do that help a lot too or thought work you can do to sort of build the neuro-infrastructure for tasks.
But a lot of the stuff is just like. fun. Pulling from both the first article and my own experience:
Play games or video games where you have to make a lot of decisions. Literally go make a ton of picrews or do online dress-up dolls if you like. It helped me.
Art, especially forms of art that require patience, planning ahead, or in contrast improvisation
Listening to longform storytelling without visuals, e.g. just listening regularly to audiobooks or narrative podcasts, etc.
Meditation
Martial arts
Sports in general
Board games like chess or Catan (I actually found a big list of what board games are good for building what executive functioning skills here)
Woodworking
Cooking
If you're bad at time management play games or video games with a bunch of timers
Things can be easier. You do not have to be stuck forever.
do you think, for a potato chip, being dipped in an onion-based condiment is like seeing an old friend for the first time in years, both of you fundamentally changed and soon destined to die but nonetheless still here in this moment?
Prayer request - just got a call that my dad got hit by a car while out on his bike. Very limited information at this stage, heās at the ER and apparently coherent, but I am worried and thereās not much I can do right now except pray.
I don't know who needs to hear this, but if the phrase "self care" doesn't resonate with you, try calling it "system maintenance" and see if that clicks.
this is SO important. And to the person who wants to commit suicide, please donāt.
you donāt have to think too far ahead, just be happy to reach today.
Just be happy to try the new things you havenāt tried yet. Find something to live for.
Iāve seen more people in the same place as you than I care to ever see again.
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