[veneziamore]

GUESS WHO HAS A NEW FAVORITE?

THAT’S RIGHT IT’S ME

HE BLUSHES A LOT

AND IS EVEN CUTE WHEN ANGRY

LOOK AT THE ‘LIL THING BLUSHING WHILE BEING ANGRY

WHO’S EVEN A FANG-TAN

AND DOES THE EYE-SHIMMER THINGY EVERY FEW SECONDS

I DON’T EVEN CARE HIS HAIR LOOKS LIKE ART’S HAIR WITH A WEIRD PONYTAIL

YOU ALL SAW THAT BEAUTY NAMED KI-JA?

'CAUSE I SURE DID 8D

[fittingoutjane]

What’s the Real Lesson?

Here’s something that happens to ADHD children a lot:  Getting pushed beyond their limits by accident. Here’s how it works and why it’s so bad.

Child says, “I can’t do this.”

Adult (teacher or parent) does not believe it, because Adult has seen Child do things that Adult considers more difficult, and Child is too young to properly articulate why the task is difficult.

Adult decides that the problem is something other than true inability, like laziness, lack of self-confidence, stubbornness, or lack of motivation.

Adult applies motivation in the form of harsher and harsher scoldings and punishments. Child becomes horribly distressed by these punishments. Finally, the negative emotions produce a wave of adrenaline that temporarily repairs the neurotransmitter deficits caused by ADHD, and Child manages to do the task, nearly dropping from relief when it’s finally done.

The lesson Adult takes away is that Child was able to do it all along, the task was quite reasonable, and Child just wasn’t trying hard enough. Now, surely Child has mastered the task and learned the value of simply following instructions the first time.

The lessons Child takes away? Well, it varies, but it might be:

-How to do the task while in a state of extreme panic, which does NOT easily translate into doing the task when calm.

-Using emergency fight-or-flight overdrive to deal with normal daily problems is reasonable and even expected.

-It’s not acceptable to refuse tasks, no matter how difficult or potentially harmful.

-Asking for help does not result in getting useful help.

I’m now in my 30’s, trying to overcome chronic depression, and one major barrier is that, thanks to the constant unreasonable demands placed on me as a child, I never had the chance to develop actual healthy techniques for getting stuff done. At 19, I finally learned to write without panic, but I still need to rely on my adrenaline addiction for simple things like making phone calls, tidying the house, and paying bills. Sometimes, I do mean things to myself to generate the adrenaline rush, because there’s no one else around to punish me.

But hey, at least I didn’t get those terrible drugs, right? That might have had nasty side effects.

[aberrant-eyes]

#I wonder if this might potentially apply to people with autism as well?#because I haven’t been diagnosed with adhd but MAN do I fee this#and like I had the situation a lot of people went through#breezed through elementary and high school and in gifted and talented#but then college happened and I was LOST

[fittingoutjane]

There’s a lot of overlap between ADHD traits and autism traits.  Whether you meet the diagnostic criteria for ADHD, too, I have no idea (because I’m a random person on the Internet), but you might find ADHD resources helpful in figuring out your life challenges. A lot of “help” for executive function skills comes from neurotypicals who are naturally good at it and lack insight into people who aren’t, which makes it spectacularly useless to the people who actually need it.

[myautisticass]

Well shit this explains so much about me

[chavisory]

Yes, I am autistic without ADHD, and this is…how a lot of things happened to me.  I’m an adrenaline addict, too, and this is why.

And I’m not going to say that that mode of operation doesn’t have its uses.  But it is a really, really counterproductive way to teach kids how to take the time and focus to learn to do something well and sustainably.

It can also make kids look lazy who aren’t, because you start to learn that you’re only good at things if you can do them PERFECTLY, IMMEDIATELY, RIGHT NOW and you don’t learn how to work through your anxiety and processing difficulties to actually practice and understand something.

[misaimed-archer]

Also, child never learns how to articulate why the task is difficult.

They learn that they’re not allowed to.

[fittingoutjane]

^ This is it. The child IS taught that they’re not allowed to talk about the task being difficult. Whether they’re ignored, disbelieved, punished, or given “help” that actually makes things worse, the message is the same: Don’t.

[highlycaffeinatedhorsewriter]

Oh my God. I never realized why I was like this. I can do incredible things in a panic mode, like write an advanced 12 page neuroscience research paper and edit it in less than 24 hours. But sit down and skim my class notes in my free time? Nope. I even had a therapist tell me once that I needed to learn how to study when I’m not running on adrenaline because it doesn’t work (sadly it DOES for me so that advice didn’t help.) This explains so much

[aella-a]

Casually drops this here. 

[adustyspectacle]

So you are the mediator for your brothers, Prince Kai?

I love my brothers. I want us all to get along.

[dollfaceangelheart]

Extra:

[farl3lann]

I’m sorry

[medusabraids]

i’m losing my fucking mind (x)

[kscotter]

I ACTUALLY SCREAMED

[newyorkcityhomo]

THIS WAS TOO MUCH FOR ME I CANNOT IM DONE

[fourglasseyes]

[deadlydelicious]

A note on bullshit Dubs vs Subtitles

Its frankly fucking infuriating that tumblr will bend over backwards about providing subtitles and promoting the use of subtitles for those who have hearing difficulties, but continue to laugh and deride people who rely on dubs as being lazy ‘unintellectual’ idiots. 

i’m dyslexic guys

reading is fucking exhausting for me. I’m a smart fucking person, I’ve written a goddamn dissertation, and I was in AP English in high school. But reading is fucking hard. Especially reading a white Helvetica font on constant changing background in the bottom 1/5 of a scene. like its not rocket science but some of you arseholes apparently really need to be told this

Subtitles are not dyslexia friendly

look, there are a lot of people out there in the world who have low literacy. some of those factors are developmental like dyslexia, some of those are to do with economics and access to education.

but its fucking infuriating to see you all patting yourselves on the back for being so accommodating for those with hearing difficulties, while making no attempt to even understand those with literacy struggles, let alone help us. in fact, you’ll actively make fun of us 

If i want to watch something with subs, I have to watch each line of dialogue at least 3 times, often more. an hours episode of tv can easily take me multiple hours to watch because I have to keep going back and rewatching moments so I can read it once for the words, then a second time to understand the contextual meaning, and then a third time to be able to watch the actors while thinking about what they’ve said. And thats fucking exhausting. 

So you guys have got to stop jeering and sneering at the use of dubs. yeah, a lot of performance is lost in a dub, but its also lost by not even looking at whats happening on the screen because i’m struggling through trying to read the dialogue fast enough to comprehend the written text into what it means. theres a fair gap in my mind  between a reading a phrase like ‘i want to leave’ and interpreting that as ‘oh this character wants to leave’. It might sound dumb to you but thats how dyslexia fucking works. its not floating words and all jumbling up letters, its me being a fluent reader in my native language needing a minute to translate written words into actual meanings. and thats an exhausting and difficult thing to do when I’m trying to watch an actors performance or a perfect camera angle.

TL;DR stop shaming dub users. low literacy does not make you an idiot. dyslexia fucking exists. stop being cruel  

[veneziamore]

Just wanted to add that sometimes people with OCD can develop reading problems as well, no matter how well-versed or fast they are with words in times when their compulsions don’t actively take over their lives. Reading subtitles or longer pieces of text, e.g. book pages, can be exhausting and feel like a chore instead of as a part of entertainment. Some need to read the same sentence more than 10 times, read each letter individually, or a combination of that, before being able to continue and then still feel unsure if what they read has been interpreted correctly.

There will always be folks around who can only enjoy something if it’s dubbed, purely for reasons like dyslexia, OCD, or literally any other disorder that can envelop reading problems. No one chooses to have trouble reading, but you can choose not to be a dick towards people who do and prefer dubs over subs as a result.

[sailorcuba]

the purest form of serotonin is when a cat looks at u and u go like “what?” and it meows at u

[arborealgargoyle]

like, that is a very unspecific response I still have no idea what you want but I applaud how adorably you meowed all the same, well done

[arborealgargoyle]

This post led me to reminisce on the nature of cat’s meowing, and I have a funny story

I befriended a feral cat once who had spent her life in the forest without human interaction. I was worried about her because she had a paw damaged from an old injury and was emaciated but obviously nursing kittens that were hidden away somewhere. It took me weeks of putting out food and sitting across the yard every evening for her to trust me even a little and when she decided we were friends and she expected dinner every night she started coming to my door and trying to call for me in the evening, but she didn’t meow. Why would she? Cats only meow naturally as kittens when their vocal chords/ears aren’t fully developed, adult cats communicate with vocalizations that aren’t audible to humans. She probably tried making noises I couldn’t hear to call me but ended up sticking to the one I always responded to- a horrible yowling growl that she had made at me when we first encountered each other in the forest. Except once we were friends she would make this noise while purring and rubbing affectionately against a nearby tree or the porch railing (because she didn’t want to touch me yet). This understandably freaked my family members out but I was touched that she had taken the time to find a way to basically yell FUCK OFF in an affectionate way.

Fast forward to when she finally trusts me enough to bring her hidden kittens out of the forest to me, long story short I gained their trust and put them in this big pen, that I had previously used to keep chickens in, so they’d be safe and to keep her from having another litter. Except she was already secretly pregnant again! (Fix your pets, guys, they make SO many babies) and ended up having her new babies in this pen. I kept my distance, sitting on the outside once they were born until she seemed comfortable enough to let me come inside. The kittens were a bit wild, hissing viscously at me as soon as they opened their eyes, but they warmed up to me. There were four of them and soon they all wanted to be the center of attention during the twice daily play sessions. I’d be playing with one and another would meow insistently behind me and I’d immediately answer them and give them love, teaching them that humans could be friends that answer their needs- making them adoptable once they were weaned. Mama cat (Artie) would just watch me play with them, and I guess she was doing some thinking because one day when they were about a month old I was playing with them and one meowed behind me. I was confused because I hadn’t realized there was a kitten behind me and when I turned, there wasn’t. The only cat there was Artie looking at me really intensely. I turned back around to the kittens and I heard the meow again, I turned back to Artie and responded in the way I always did with the kittens “yes baby?” And she meowed again in an exact imitation of her kittens! After that she would.not.shut.up. It was like she had cracked some kind of code, meowing for attention and snacks and just to say hi. Her two older kittens, the ones she’d had in the forest, had never meowed at me either but started to once they saw how I responded to their mom. and I find it endlessly fascinating because before that it had never occurred to me that cats only meow at humans because they were taught by other cats to keep meowing past kittenhood because that’s the best way to get a human’s attention.

Imagine befriending some weird giant with the wrong number of legs that you met in the forest who seems nice enough but doesn’t seem to be able to hear you, until your friend explains that all they can understand is fuck off! And I’m a baby give me love!

[femmchantress]

I’ve come to inform you all the Ancient Greeks spelled Thoth, the Egyptian deity, as Θώθ

[small-funny]

hey, thanks! now die

[latining]

Actually, Ancient Greek thetas had a dot in the centre, and lowercase letters wouldn’t be invented for several hundred years.

You mean ΘΩΘ

Behold the face of your god.

[argumate]

[cuirassier]

[babyanimalgifs]

An adorable birb waving its gorgeous tail feathers around in slow motion 

(via)

[huebris808]

[huebris808]

the sequel

[d4rk-x-w0lf-17]

i attempted to make one for M!IK but i don’t remember over half that cast’s names bc i have shit memory

Y A Y

[plounce]

coming this fall………. a new YA novel series about one girl……… in a post-apocalyptic dystopian setting…………….. who is different. unique. and can use her specialness….. To Save Us All

[plounce]

jordan…… the cunning, cool, gruff rebel leader……………… born outside the Dystopia… a Freedom Fighter…… with a heart of gold……………

brad

[rebecca-schaeffer-deactivated20]

This is the cast for @suzietownsend‘s wereferret book that she’s always talking about.

[scrims]

ppl who are shy at first but become obnoxious and loud once theyre comfortable around you r awesoem. hold on  a sec wait pt this text ost on hold. theres pirate ship outside my window right now whath the 

[scrims]

I LIVE BY A R river I CANT GET A CLEAR picture its turnign around

[scrims]

[dahichu-deactivated20180922]

Whatever I was expecting from this post wasn’t this

[nehirose]

this is absolutely one hundred percent my kind of post.

[peerieweirdo]

i love when ur writing an essay and u all of a sudden get a burst of inspiration or find the perfect source to back up ur point and it’s like the clouds have parted and everything’s clear and ur not gonna have to drop out

[peerieweirdo]

never mind everything sucks essay writing is horrible i have no clue what im doing im gonna drop out and become a street performer

[peerieweirdo]

NEVER MIND IM THE KING OF ACADEMIA IM GONNA GET 100% IM GONNA FINISH ON TIME AND HAVE A WELL STRUCTURED ARGUMENT AND IT’S GONNA BE AWESOME

[peerieweirdo]

never mind.

[iguanamouth]

did you know red snapper can live for over 50 years…. whatre they DOING down there ( this used to say 100 because i CAN NOT read )