did somebody ask for starstruck domestic headcanons :3 iâm making up for the anguish caused in dear future self guys trust
tom has a few dozen properties he owns scattered across the world mostly because of how often he films in each area â he has three in the tristate area, three in cali/nevada, two in texas, two in florida, and random singles across other states, and thats just the US. he has more internationally. but generally speaking, his favorite place to go during his down time is his san francisco property (which he bought exclusively after getting together with ryland) just so he can be around ryland
ryland doesnât like gifts, he has an aversion to receiving them, mostly because he doesnât know how to react and it just puts him on the spot in a way he doesnât really enjoy. tom has a workaround for this: deliver it to ryland inadvertently (so having it sent to him, shipped to him, leaving it somewhere for him to find) so he doesnât have the pressure of reacting, and he can just enjoy for the sake of enjoying it. even despite having this workaround, it doesnât work with expensive gifts most of the time (and mind you, tom ALWAYS pulls off the price tag so it cannot be visible whatsoever, but ryland still finds the price somewhere and complains/returns it anyway)
ryland is SO BAD at cooking. SO BAD. he doesnât enjoy it and while he follows directions, he takes them so literally that most of the time he canât keep up with the fluidity of cooking (so if a box tells him to boil noodles for 8 minutes, damn right heâll boil it for 8 minutes, and if the noodles come out burnt, the box shouldâve said a DIFFERENT time! Why say a time thats not right?!) but tom finds incredible joy in cooking, and has since he before was first starting out as an actor, so he likes to cook for them, and sometimes their date nights are literally just cooking together while tom tries to show ryland how to do it so he doesnât eat junk food all the time
in that same vein he has tried. many times. to get ryland a personal chef, a better apartment, any number of things that would improve his quality of life, and each time ryland refuses it hard and heavy. he doesnât like the idea of being reliant on tomâs money and, again, aversion to gifts.
since he canât always be there while heâs filming, tom likes to order food for ryland so itâs there whenever he gets home (worked out a schedule for it and everything), and he usually orders from nicer end food chains, things that are at least a little more healthy than jack in the box and mcdonalds. its become part of their routine
ryland tries to make a point to text at least three times a day when tom is away, and tom never stops blowing rylands phone up because he pretty much lives in his phone. he takes videos on set, sends him pictures of the cats he finds while heâs jogging, heâll send photoshoots from when heâs buying new clothes, show off the restaurant heâs dining at with the producers, writers, and directors of his ongoing project, and will always have some terrible flirt or sweet line packed up and ready to go with each one (âi wish you were hereâ âthis cat might be cute as fuck but i would still much rather be petting youâ ânew date night fit? i wanna look good for youâ etc.)
ryland is a chronic night owl. tom is a very early morning bird. tom wakes up at 5 am every day without fail no matter how late he goes to bed, its in his system to be up by that time, and once heâs up, itâs hard to get him back to sleep. ryland stays up til at least midnight almost every night, 1 am if heâs stupid, and on the weekends, 3 am. tom has had to carry ryland to bed on more than one occasion
they text each other stupid memes while being in the same fucking room. they will sit across from each other at the kitchen table, giggling up a storm as they drink their morning coffee together and just send each other the videos that makes them giggle or reminds them of each other. the best ones are the ones that gets them to âsuper reactâ (tom has gotten ryland with a jumpscare so bad that made him drop his phone and cover his face, he had to apologize for that one HARD. ryland has sent one that was so aggravating for tom that he had to splutter with rage and point at his phone, then drop it, cover his face, and groan like the world was out to get him. ryland could not stop laughing at it the entire time. the best ones are the ones that make them drop their phone and react to one another directly in person.) mind you, tom started this, btw. ryland did not see the purpose in sending each other videos/photos when they were right next to each other, and then he fell into the trap
when tom gets stuck doing intense training regiments for work so he can get into a particular body type, ryland likes to parallel play with him while he works out. tom has a gym in most of his more lavish properties, but his apartments in cali especially. he doesnt like paying for gym memberships when he can just own the equipment itself. so while ryland does make a point to try and work out with tom from time to time, most of the time heâll be in the gym while tom works out and heâll be reading, grading papers, working on exams or essays or god forbid he starts making kahoots, he loves making kahoots. tom engages him most of the times theyâre parallel playing, asking about the kahoots, or what hes reading, and sometimes ryland will read for him out loud. it usually helps ryland bounce off ideas so he can think of more things to add to his quizzes and he is so grateful for it
tom is a dweeb! he learns to accept this side of himself more as heâs dating ryland but it becomes especially bad when heâs dweebing out over musical theater! he discovered wicked and hadestown and the guy who didnât like musicals and now, he just starts belting random lines from any of his musicals or will start his own one man show on any of the musicals, mostly to get ryland to laugh. it works a lot.
when theyâre in public, tom is veeery touchy, and ryland gets pretty shy about it. usually heâs okay with holding hands or having tomâs arm around his waist. but one time at the grocery store, they were standing in line and people recognized tom, and ryland got self conscious of how touchy tom was with him (he was hugging rylands waist and had his chin on rylands shoulder) that he tried to squirm away. that was a mistake. tom promptly hauled ryland up on his shoulder and loudly pronounced âyes i am tom ryder, yes this is my boyfriend, so what the fuck of it? i love my fucking boyfriend!â (ryland never denied his physical affection in public again, but tom will sometimes still embarrass him in ways like that for the sake of rylands adorable reaction)
BACK on the topic of working out sorry its a big part of toms life, tom gets bored with his workout routines pretty easily. he likes to try and shake things up somehow but theres only so many ways you can change a lat press. one of his favorites is involving ryland! he likes to have ryland sit on his back while tom does his pushups, or heâll have ryland spotting him while he does his situps and heâll use it as an excuse to kiss ryland every time he sits up, or sometimes ryland will direct him on the length of his pushups bordering into planks (so heâll tell tom when exactly to go up or down in a pushup, and tom will hold it for exactly as long as ryland tells him to, and THAT is a pretty good workout for him.) and if ryland has him holding some pretty long-deal planks so he can listen to toms pretty voice while heâs focusing on staying upright, well, thats nobodys business but theirs
ryland was really nervous about arie (tomâs pet cockatoo) at first, but he quickly became arieâs favorite parent! whenever heâs over at tomâs house, arie is always nearby as much as she can be, she likes to perch on his shoulder while he does stuff and she gets veeery vocal with him. he encourages it greatly and he sings and dances with her to encourage her to get her energy out. heâs like the âwhos a bird? whos a bird? whos a pretty pretty pretty pretty pretty pretty bird? its angus! mcbangus!â with her (and by golly he spoils that sweet thing, she loves him so much and its impossible not to love her and cherish her right back!)
ryland likes to bring tom into school sometimes, same way that he does with colt. heâll find some excuse to talk about the science in tomâs movies and debunking certain things or explaining how others are actually really smart. its the kidsâ favorite thing because most of the time it consists of watching a tom ryder movie in class while tom and ryland get to do their own thing in the back, anywhere from passing sticky notes to talk shit or just curling up against each other and enjoying the movie, too
ryland enjoys his personal space. tom also enjoys rylandâs personal space. ryland cannot fall asleep while someone is touching him when they first get together, and he learns quickly how to overcome it because tom started clinging to him after he fell asleep, and whenever ryland might wake up to use the bathroom or get water or something, he couldnt fall back asleep unless he got over his space requirement. now he has his own personal weighted blanket that sometimes he struggles to fall asleep without
the days when tom has to leave out for shooting are always the roughest, tom has such a hard time leaving ryland and heâs almost missed his flight on account of kissing ryland one last time before he goes (although ryland has tried to better describe it as making out many times)
tom signs off every call they have with âlove your sexy butt, bye <3â in one format or another, because when they were in the early stages of their relationship, he almost signed off with âi love youâ and it scared him that he was jumping the gun so fast so he quickly corrected it to âi love youâŚ.rrrrâŚ. sexy butt . uh . BYE.â and quickly hung up and then just hung his head in shame.
colt is not ecstatic about their relationship but he learns to come to terms with it because ryland is genuinely the happiest heâs seemed in years when heâs with tom, and tom seems to be genuinely softened and bettered by being around ryland. colt actually becomes pretty good friends with tom, although theyâre still very much the kind of friends who make jabs at each other and play fight and will get VEEERRY competitive whenever the situation allows for it. they have competed over who could get the most donuts and still park properly in under 20 seconds. almost got the cops called on them in the grocery store parking lot for it.
on the other end, ryland doesnât necessarily âget alongâ with henry (tomâs best friend). their personalities are very much conflicting by nature. henry is very much a dude-bro kind of person and thinks ryland is a little high and mighty for his liking, and ryland thinks henry is trying to dumb himself down to seem cooler. even if they donât actively get along, they donât fight, either. theyâre pretty deliberate about just being standard acquaintances.
tom LOVES whenever he gets to tag along with colt and ryland for a road trip or anything like it, cause these two idiots are so fucking dumb together its like a comedy show. theyre like the sturniolo triplets. real and honest conversation theyâve had starts with colt going âitâs like a dinosaur. like bronchitis. can you imagine thatââ âbronâ Thatâs not a dinosaur???? you mean a brontosaurus????â âbronchosaurus :]â âi will hit you.â âWHAT??? I DIDNT EVEN DO ANYTHING.â
ryland doesnât really like âgoing hardâ at partying, but sometimes tom will bring him along to the functions he goes to and when tom starts going hard, ryland starts drinking with him, and he outpaces tom BAD. he and ryland have done drinking contests before. tom always fucking loses. tom has heard that ryland used to be into raves when he was in college and if ryland outpaces him NOW, he canât even imagine what ryland was like in college
whether or not ryland likes sex (i still hold true to asexual ryland grace god bless), he still appreciates toms body and still finds him so fucking attractive, he lives in a state of âholy fuck how are you realâ and tom eats it up every time. he knows heâs pretty, objectively, but hearing it from your boyfriend while youâre sitting on his lap, shirtless after your work out, and he keeps struggling to follow a train of thought because he just keeps having to remind you that youre so fucking handsome, that is EASILY one of the best feelings in the world
and if you think of ryland as being sexual in any capacity (demi, ace and making the choice to have sex, aceflux, allosexual, etc.) then god please hear me out weâre back to the workout thing right. ryland intentionally making the workouts harder for tom by teasing him through them. pumping him or blowing him while heâs trying to do weights (not bench presses, thatâs too dangerous, but like curling with kettlebells and dumbbells etc), making him use a vibrator while heâs trying to keep up with his workouts, just watching tom progressively fall apart as the workouts continue⌠ryland getting condescending and taunting when tom can barely get past five pushups because the vibrator is shoved as deep against his prostate as it gets⌠ryland rewarding him when he finally makes it through his set⌠tom just being so exhausted and sweaty and pouring tears cause of all the conflicting sensations while ryland fucks him against the bench and keeps tomâs chin up and head back enough to make him look at himself in the mirror while heâs getting ruined⌠lowkey might be working on a fic exactly like this errmmmâŚ. anyways
i have more. i know i have more lying around. there are so many things you can do with a domestic vibe for starstruck and i love love loooove thinking of the little things theyd do together gughhhh đ
