Tboy West

FTM binary trans man | 21 he/him

[our-ftm-experience]

How do you (or anyone applicable) deal with having their bones be a barrier to passing? I would pass well if I didn’t have wide hips and it hurts greatly.

I've heard that clothing that can hide the shape of hips can help, and T can also help with fat redistribution (although obviously not everyone has access/wants to go on T).

From just googling "hip dysphoria," I found a few resources:

First forum thread, second one

Reddit post

Tumblr post

Also, way more resources than I initially thought there'd be! I'd recommend doing a search of your own to find more.

[cancelledcore]

[image description: a reddit comment by user evergreengoth. quote below]

People who have been hurt by cis men are sometimes angry. They want a target. They want to hurt the men who hurt them.

But they can't. Cis men are protected by privilege and systemic power that makes it so that woman, sometimes especially trans women, really don't have a lot of recourse.

It also feels good, if you're the right type of person and you hate yourself a little, to have someone below you that you can hurt so you can reassure yourself that at least someone else is lower than you. This is especially true if you're insecure in your own identity. It's why poor white people eat up racist ideologies; it feels good to punch down at someone when you yourself are feeling both inadequate and powerless. Anyone, including trans men who are insecure in their position, is vulnerable to giving into the temptation to pick a vulnerable target to go for. It's a way to feel big and build yourself up and when you're marginalized or hurting, that kind of thing becomes appealing, whether you realize it or not. Not everyone has this impulse, but enough do that it's a problem.

You can't hurt a cis man as easily because of all the privilege. They're just not very vulnerable.

But a trans man? A trans man is a man without any of that protection.

A trans man is a man you can *hurt.*

If that trans man gets to talk, though, and if he starts pointing out that he's as oppressed as you are, if he demonstrates that he's vulnerable and, in fact, a victim, just like you, then you don't get to feel good about it, especially if you've framed the justification for hurting him as though you're a victim who is punching up and entitled to act on your righteous anger. Men, whether directly or in more abstract ways through the pressures of patriarchy, have hurt you, and you're allowed to be angry and fight back. He's a man, so he's automatically an acceptable stand-in for who or what it is that you're angry at and want to hurt.

If he has a voice, it means you're punching laterally or punching down and you're as evil as the men who hurt you. You want to keep feeling big. You want to keep feeling like the harm you're doing is righteous justice. You want to feel like you're punching up. You don't want to be the bad guy. You just want a guilt-free outlet for the pain you're in.

If the fact that he's also a victim and more than innocent, and has had nothing to do with causing your pain, you don't get that guilt-free outlet because then you're as bad as whoever hurt you. You want to be the underdog hero, not the villain.

So you'd better get him to shut the fuck up, and if doing so allows you to hurt him more, so much the better because hurting him feels good.

[razortouched]

"Trans men have male privilege, they just lack cis privilege"

Male privilege is predicated upon what the Patriarchy dictates as male. And I think this should be obvious, but The Patriarchy does not classify trans men as male. To lack cis privilege is synonymous with lacking male privilege, because The Patriarchy only considers perisex cis men to be male.

[westencouragement]

Louder for those at the back!!

But seriously, I dont see why everyone sees male privilege as an "off/on" binary thing. We all have some flavours of it so we shouldn't worry about whether or not there is a presence of it.

Instead we should look at the real numbers. All trans people have a harder time in every regard than every group of cis people.

Even then, most of our issues are contrived by the extremely upper class who wish to continue to exploit us.

Minor theoreticals of where trans men might have a 0.01 increase in male privilege is not where we should be focusing. Plus, it often is transphobic as it erases our historical identities and current challenges. We lose things when we start to pass, our trans identity is erased for cis centrism. That is also a tangible harm that others dont acknowledge when considering surface level male privilege. (Not even getting into intersectionality, or differing amab experiences)

[transguyarchive]

"Building a Male Body" by Beryl Dean Kotula

This article comes from a 1997 issue of Transgender Tapestry. Beryl Dean Kotula is a FTM artist, writer, and activist from Portland, Oregon. He has published other material, most notably his book The Phallus Palace, which documents the medical transition of FTM/F2M people in the early 2000s.

Read more about transmasculine history on the Trans Guy Archive!

[a-trans-comic-by-me]

[smokeytoastyghosty]

Me: yep

Me: sees trans man not binding and one in a dress

Me : nope!

You didn’t have to draw a trans man with boobs sis, thanks for the dysphoria babeey

[trainwreckbisexual]

if u get dysphoric when u see a boob that’s understandable but its also your problem to deal with n u don’t get to shame other trans dudes for drawing people like them with visible breasts. as much as it sucks, most trans men do have non flat chests and it’s not a bad thing to draw trans men with breasts (unless ur sexualising them, or ur drawing a real life trans man who’s dysphoric about his chest).

also u can’t have a go at op for drawing a trans man without a binder bc it makes u dysphoric n then call him sis. dont be a fuckin hypocrite dude.

anyways good post op

[maraeffect]

some trans men can’t bind for medical reasons. some don’t prefer to bind bc it’s uncomfortable, and hot, and sweaty!!! some trans men arent that bothered by chest dysphoria!

trans people are not required to attempt conformity to be valid in their identity. no one is required to try and “look cis”. that’s your own shit to deal with.

[eroticcannibal]

Thank you for drawing trans men who aren’t binding and who wear feminine clothes, OP, seeing trans people like myself really helps with my dysphoria

[transmxnfenris]

I can’t bind because of my severe asthma and pain in my ribs from fibromyalgia. So seeing trans men who aren’t binding really helps my crippling dysphoria. Thanks op (also disabled trans men aaaaaah! 💖)

[bleepblopbugs]

Also some trans men cant afford a binder, or are closeted, or itt isnt safe where they live to bind, binding isnt a necessity v

[xaira-gabvi]

Also trans men, just like cis men, are allowed to wear dresses.

[elalmadelmar]

Hot take: at the end of the day, privilege is a material, measurable phenomenon. We identify privilege when we identify that the privileged group, taken as a statistical block, experiences a range of particular improved outcomes versus the overall population average.

Whenever I see people talking about whether or not trans men experience male privilege, I see them talking about hypotheticals and anecdotes. "What if a trans man who has had...." or "well this one trans guy I know has said he..." Privilege isn't about a trans man or some trans men. Does the population of trans men experience this?

Pointing at individuals to argue against the disprivilege of groups is nonsensical. Alice Walton is worth US$101 billion; her fortune does not disprove the overall economic subjugation of women. Stephen Hawking was a household name, and remains easily recognizable years after his death; his prominence does not disprove the overall public marginalization and invisibility of disabled people.

When you're talking privileges, you're talking the concrete aggregate experiences of real people, not the demographic equivalent of a perfectly spherical cow in a vacuum. That's what your hypothetical fully passing trans man who has had all possible surgeries is; he has no inconvenient biology, he has no social ties to his previous life, he has no history, and he ultimately has no material reality. And somehow, he gets treated as though if he can be admitted into the patriarchal class of the privileged, then that must be the ultimate truth of the transmasculine experience.

Perfectly Passing Georg is an outlier and should not have been counted.

[manicpixiedreamguy]

Dr. Alan Hart, a trans man from the USA who pioneered the use of X-ray photography in tuberculosis detection (saving countless lives according to researchers), was "reclaimed" by the lesbian community after his death in 1962, which means he was deadnamed and described as "a women loving woman who had to transition because at the time transsexualism was a quick medicine against sexism and homophobia" by numerous gay and lesbian associations and activists (including Jonathan Ned Katz whom I just quoted and who received many awards for his contributions to... I don't know, transphobia against trans men I guess), even though his widow always expressed how offensive it was to both her and her husband to refer to them as lesbians.

Hart was on testosterone, legally changed his name, and had gotten a hysterectomy (that was described as "unfortunate" by the Right to Privacy gay and lesbian political action committee), making him the first documented trans man to transition in the USA, yet he was characterized as a lesbian woman because cis gays and lesbians had the nerve (when do they NOT have the nerve, dare I say) to think they had the right to "honor [his] life as a woman" by having fundraiser dinners with his deadname attached to them, having college lectures where they talked about him as a lesbian hero, and using she pronouns for him until 2000. The USAmerican trans community, including trans activist Lou Sullivan, had to fight to defend Hart's identity and to have his manhood recognized by the wider community by protesting these lectures and dinners and having a conversation with the Portland chapter of the Lesbian Avengers association, which ended up having a favorable response and joining the trans community in the battle.

I want to end this by reporting the words of Candice Hellen Brown, a trans woman from Portland who wrote a letter to Just Out magazine in 1994 defending Hart's transness:

The Right to Privacy Political Action Committee in Oregon has a big fundraiser every year that is called the [deadname] Hart Dinner. When asked if I am going, I indignantly answer, "Not until they stop using the wrong name and gender for one of our heroes!" His name is Alan [. . .] He never wavered from his identity as a man, and upon his death, his widow continued to insist that he was a man. Why would such a straight man be called a lesbian by the gay community when today we would certainly call him a female-to-male transsexual? [. . .] He was transsexual or, at least, a transgenderist - a true pioneer. One who is seen as a hero by today's transsexual community. Please don't let him be taken away from us by allowing his old name to be used as though it were a badge of honor.

Think about this story every time the "trans men never contributed to anything in history" discourse resurfaces again. If this can happen to a famous historical figure from the USA and from a relatively recent time who medically transitioned and was explicitly out as a trans man, imagine how many others from other countries, historical periods, and situations have been erased or "reclaimed".

[tinakolesnik-deactivated2022073]

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[parlerenfleurs]

I remember that everything gay was rebranded pedophilia, child abuse, and inherently sexual thus pornographic, thus unsafe for children and public spaces and thus pedophilic and abusive. Neat false circle. Yeah. Does ring a fucking bell, doesn't it?

[therapatical]

even if it were true that "cis men only ever benefit from the patriarchy" (which... it isn't, for the same reason why every system of oppression involves downsides to the oppressor group),

it would still be the case that trans men are oppressed by the patriarchy by definition and I'm so tired of well meaning people using "cis men are harmed by the patriarchy, too! all men are!" as a talking point because trans men are positionally not oppressors in any way shape or form re: the patriarchy. they are literally the oppressed class, just as much as any woman (cis or trans).

"all men suffer under patriarchy" in response to people misrepresenting trans men's placed as an oppressed demographic under the patriarchy, only serves to prop up and legitimize the false argument that trans men have patriarchal power. they don't.

trans men are worse off and more oppressed than cis women. trans men occupy a lower rung on the patriarchal hierarchy than cis women.

cis women literally have more access to patriarchal power than trans men do, and that's saying a lot considering you could barely consider the power some cis women are capable of as "patriarchal power" in the first place (that's a discussion for another time, because it's really more of an illusion of power than power itself, leopards will always come to eat their faces etc., but I'm talking about people like MTG and mrs. kirk as well as plain ole church leadership and their wives who basically act as leaders even if they're not allowed into official roles, which they often use to encourage young girls not to report their rapist pastor husbands etc.)

but by doing this whole "we must show that men are capable of being oppressed by appealing to the ways cis men suffer" show, it is only continuing to miss the point. it isn't helpful to use that on its own, but especially not when it's being propped up as the main argument. that is not what you should be arguing, first and foremost. trans men are oppressed because they are trans men, not because cis men are capable of existing with intersectional oppression.

cis men are not oppressed specifically for being men in anywhere near the same way that trans men are, and it isn't gender disaffirming to argue so. trans men's oppression is entirely wrapped up in their identity as a man, it is their manhood that is the literal reason why they are oppressed. that is not the case with cis men. we do not need to be making these kinds of arguments because they are unhelpful at best and, at worst, do in fact make you sound like a bit of an MRA, even if I am well fucking aware that calling anyone talking about transmasc oppression a "TMRA" is a strawman bullshit argument pulled out of TRFs' asses to try to "discredit" your authority on *checks notes* speaking about the oppression you deal with on a daily basis. but. it is not helpful to basically validate those things instead of reasserting that, no, trans men are oppressed. end of story. period. no more words necessary. it has nothing to do with cis men and whether or not cis men are capable of being oppressed. you don't need to argue that. it's unnecessary. you can just end it at "no, trans men are oppressed for their gender identity." end. of. story.

[phosphorusab]

I love getting on TikTok and seeing a cis feminine white woman say that cisgender masc lesbians (not butch! masc, which could just mean the butchest girl Twitter can handle) had male privilege

This is what this transandrophobia discourse inevitably leads to, saying cis women have male privilege

Does male privilege even mean anything anymore? I was under the impression it meant cisgender men who fit and uphold society’s toxic and hegemonic masculinity and patriarchy, but now I guess it means anything to silence any gender minority you don’t like, whether it be trans men, trans women, or literal cisgender lesbians

[razortouched]

Trans Male Privilege: An Analysis

One of the crucial arguments for the concept that trans men experience male privilege is that they, as a marginalized class of men, experience privilege in relation to women of the same marginalized class - that being trans women.

So we're going to use statistical analysis to see if trans men benefit from male privilege in relation to trans women. We'll be looking at several categories that male privilege typically manifests in, such as economics, Healthcare, rates of victimization, and more.

Disclaimer that most of these statistics will be regarding the USA since that is where I'm able to find the most comprehensive studies.

Politics

Let's start with political office. Cis men still hold the vast majority of political power and are over represented in both elected and appointed public office. So we should expect trans men to be similarly over represented.

According to this list of transgender public office holders, there have been 77 trans and nonbinary people in USA public office as of 2021.

Of these 77 people, 7 of them were trans men, 9 are nonbinary, and 61 are trans women. About 10% of trans public officials are trans men - meaning trans men are actually severely underrepresented. In fact, the rate of trans men in public office is significantly lower than that of cis women.

In 2023, Cis women represent 28% of the US senate, 28.5% of the House, and 32.7% of the state legislature.

By comparison, trans men are clearly not benefiting from the political power that cis men have by being over represented in public office.

Wages

In this study, trans men make 70 cents to the dollar of the average worker. While trans women only make 60 cents to the dollar. That's a 10 cent gap.

In comparison, cis women make 85 cents to the dollar of the average cis man's wage. That's a 15 cent gap.

So there is a clear difference there! Its smaller than the gap between cis men and women, but still notable.

However, the very same study says that nonbinary and genderqueer people also make 70 cents to the dollar, same as trans men. If we're going to use this as example of trans male privilege, it would have to mean that nonbinary people in general are also experiencing male privilege in relation to trans women.

Its also important to note that the wage gap trans men experience (70 cents to the dollar) is also significantly larger than the gap cis women experience (85 cents to the dollar).

Economics

Wages aren't the only part of the story when it comes to the economic experience of trans people.

According to this study, 33.7% of trans men reported living in poverty, in comparison to 29.6% of trans women. According to the study itself, this gap is not statistically significant. The gap between gender identities is not nearly significant as the gap between transgender and cisgender people. The study finds that 15.7% of straight cisgender people live in poverty, marking a much larger disparity.

Despite the apparent wage gap between trans men and trans women, they still have very similar rates of poverty overall - indicating that the wage gap, on its own, does not present any significant benefit to trans men.

Healthcare

Cis men experience the privilege of not facing medical misogyny. They experience better Healthcare overall, have more research into their health needs, and have less fears about seeking Healthcare.

This study on Health and Well being in the trans community tracks numerous factors. Let's look at some comparisons.

53% of trans men reported negative experiences with healthcare providers, vs. 41% of trans women

32% of trans men avoided pursuing care due to fear of mistreatment, vs. 20% of trans women

Transgender women have the highest rates of living with HIV (2.4%), vs. trans men which was only 0.3%

72% of trans women reported good overall health, vs. 64% of trans men

31% of trans men reported not seeing a healthcare provider due to cost, vs. 22% of trans women

13% of trans men were denied HRT, vs. 9% of trans women

The tables regarding desired gender affirming care vs. received gender affirming care are pretty complex. The largest disparity was trans men who desired a hysterectomy, 55%, but only 10% received it. However, transgender women seemed to experience a higher frequency of disparities. For example, 48% desired vaginoplasty but only 11% received it. 58% desire voice surgery but only 19% received.

There's a lot more to go over in this study. The overall impression is that while there are some gaps, the important takeaway is that trans men and women experience very similar rates of healthcare-related issues. All trans people experience high rates of mistreatment and lack of access. There is no evidence to suggest that trans men are experiencing any male privilege in this category - especially considering there are categories where they are marginally more affected than trans women.

Discrimination

We'll be looking at the 2015 USTS report to analyze general forms of discrimination among the community.

Relationships

18% had a relationship end solely because of being trans, as opposed to 9% of trans men

28% of trans women had their children spend less time with them due to being trans, as opposed to only 6% of trans men

School / Jobs

38% of trans women were attacked in school due to being trans, vs. 20% of trans men

21% of trans women were sexually assaulted in school due to being trans, as opposed 9% of trans men

22% of trans women left school due to harassment, vs. 15% of trans men

21% of trans women left college due to harassment, vs 16% of trans men

18% of trans women lost a job due to being trans, as opposed to 9% of trans men

36% of trans men hid their transition to avoid discrimination in employment , vs. 29% of trans women

Other

62% of trans men reported never or rarely being treated with respect by law enforcement, vs. 51% of trans women

32% of trans men were denied HRT, vs. 18% of trans women

57% of trans men were denied surgery coverage, vs. 54% of trans women

42% of trans men reported negative experiences with healthcare providers, vs. 36% of trans women.

52% of trans men report issues with airport security, vs. 31% of trans women.

Trans men (54%) have the highest rate of suicide attempts with the next highest being trans women (40%).

There are some notable differences between trans women and trans men, with trans women overall facing more interpersonal discrimination, and harassment specifically on account of being trans. Trans men overall have more negative experiences in other areas, such as healthcare, and treatment from authorities.

Violence

From the USTS report:

51% of trans men reported being sexually assaulted in their life time, vs. 37% of trans women

From the National Crime Victimization Survey:

Trans men experienced slightly higher rates of violent victimization (107.5 per 1,000 people) vs. trans women (86.1 per 1000 people) though the study itself does not find this difference to be statistically significant

However, the rates are significantly higher than cisgender women and men (23.7 and 19.8 per 1,000 people, respectively)

Notably, the gap between trans men and trans women, is bigger than the gap between cis men and cis women.

From the FORGE 2011 survey:

HRC 2024 Report:

83% of victims (372 victims since 2013) of fatal violence were transgender women. This is one of the most widely cited statistics regarding trans violence. This is a horrendous injustice faced by trans women, especially Black trans women who were 61% of victims.

This statistic is often cited with regards to how trans men benefit from male privilege in comparison to trans women. However, when we compare this to global murder statistics, we find that 81% of murder victims are [cis] men.

So I don't believe that this statistic alone can be used as an indicator of trans men benefiting from male privilege, considering that cis men are the most statistically likely to be murder victims worldwide.

The murder rate of trans women is absolutely an indicator of violent transmisogyny, and should be treated very seriously.

I could not find other studies that made a distinction between trans men and trans women. Every study on violence faced by trans people, however, indicates that trans people overall face significantly higher rates of violence, regardless of specific gender identity.

Race is a much more significant factor than gender identity in determining rates of violence. Trans people of color ubiquitously face higher rates of violence and discrimination than white trans people.

Conclusion

While there are various areas in which transgender women experience more discrimination or difficulty than transgender men overall, the same can be said for the reverse. The greater conclusion is that trans people in general face much higher rates of discrimination, and that the disparity between trans men and trans women is often not as significant as one would think.

So far, there is not enough evidence to suggest that trans men experience male privilege in relation to trans women, at the very least on a systemic scale. And they especially do not experience male privilege in relation to cis women, as their statistics of discrimination and violence are almost universally higher than cis women. In all the areas one would expect male privilege to manifest, trans men are not experiencing any significant benefit.

[therapatical]

the wage gap study btw is based on full-time wages & deliberately excluded all income from part-time employees, self-employment, or 2nd jobs (i.e. the only income that counted in the study was for jobs where you worked 40 hours per week. worked 60? 20 of those hours were cut off). I did a thread going over the issues with it over on the condemned musky website in case anybody is interested. here's a bluesky link as well, showing a second study wherein trans women were actually estimated* to likely make more (albeit I think it's complicated due to the ages in the samples being skewed; older people tend to make more money, so it's unclear if the increase in income for trans women in this study is due to age or due to gender or due to who knows what other factors. fuck transmisogyny. also all trans people made dramatically less than cis people, period).

*I don't have access to the actual dataset and technically this math is not the best estimation ever, since the over 100K category could be $101K or it could be $1M, who knows, but the chances of those outliers imho would be excluded in measuring the effect size in any legitimate study anyways. I'm not publishing a paper, we're writing tumblr comments. I think it's okay if the rigor is slightly improper when you'd expect that to also be the case for the other demographics measured, assuming proper randomization. the difference between estimated results vs true results are... likely not massive enough for me to think it matters for the purpose of an internet discussion. the number of trans millionaires is miniscule. sure, they exist. but. cmon. squinting my eyes at thee. obviously I've written papers before I know how to do research this is me making educated estimates based on what's available okay get off my tail please and thank

just discovered this account today and I'm putting my 2 cents out to say that this razortouched account is not me, I do not run this account, I have no relation to them at all, but godspeed tbh I've been trying to do this type of myth busting for years

[luxiomahariel]

is it a "womans space" or is it a reproductive health clinic?

is it a "womans space" or is it a domestic violence shelter?

is it a "womans space" or is it a queer pride event?

is it a "womans space" or do you just exclude people who arent women from spaces that they belong in because you think people who arent women are "evil"?

[westencouragement]

This is such an important distinction. "Girls night" or friends night? "Women's spaces" or spaces away from misogyny?

Cis men and those who are not cis women can be feminists too, and everyone benefits from having feminist community and unpacking their own biases. If we want a world that is collaborative and willing to dismantle our current systems of oppression, its starts with us in our communities.

[westencouragement]

Some pics of transandrophobia support and uplifting on r/curated tumblr on a post calling out an incredibly transandrophobic mod abusing their powers to silence trans men!

These brought me joy to see and also had flavours of discourse we haven't seen on here yet.

For a moment, the queer community(+allies) is listening to us and trying to affirm and uplift us.

(I kept the usernames just for archival reasons and bc there is no highly identifying information! Not sure how i feel about that yet)

[smorksthings]

Here are two statements I have seen and need to talk about:

"Discrimination can be tangibly enacted against men". This is correct, OP implies this cannot happen, that is feasibly untrue and frankly impossible to not exist. Sexism towards men exists as a way to discriminate against men, believing that men are inherently violent is a form of discrimination. To imply that discrimination cannot be inacted towards men means the systemic erasure of slavery, the AIDs crisis, the term sodomy and its use, amongst other things.

OP mentions that intersectionality breaks down the idea that a trans man is discriminated against (or any man) for being trans and not a man, this is entirely false and is the exact opposite of what the term intersectionality stands for. It stands for how different axes of oppression come together to form a new, unique form of oppression that a certain group receives. It's not a plus sum game, "man" as a category is not -1 or 0 intersectionality. Man means nothing until it's is placed besides something else.

More importantly, the AIDs crisis is an excellent example of how intersectionality works, gay and bisexual men were treated as incredible dangers and were the center of homophobia while lesbians were left more so alone from the propaganda and fear mongering. They were being targeted fir being men and homosexuals.

The fact that OP selectively choses the word "discrimination" and not "oppression" already tells me that they erase historical homophobia and is not talking in good faith. Discrimination and oppression are two different things, oppression is often used as the way to describe the systematic hurt, and discrimination as more interpersonal or societal. They shut down the idea that men can be oppressed before we can even address our acknowledge it's existence.

The first comparison is false. Being a (cis) man is favored over being a woman, I can agree to that. But being masculine is not favored. Forget butch women, talk to a black woman, she will tell you about how she has been perceived as masculine and how it has hurt her. Many cis women who are not masculine by choice (and certainly not inheritley masculine) can talk about being intersex, or a poc, or liking masculine things have been discriminated against forpercived or treated as masculine despite not identifying as masculine.

Masculinity is often held in negative regards, are seen as inherently violent or prone to drugs, or even prone to predatory behavior. Things black women have faced for being forced into masculine boxes. The only place where masculinity is praised is within the cis white man, and is villanized in others.

The fact that OP has "white" in their bio helps me to see how they fail to understand intersectionality or acknowledge masculinity in black women in the very least.

[zhenya-grey-deactivated20260809]

We all know trans women are women, and we are also not cis women and everyone understands that and are able to realize we are still women, but different types of women that experience transphobia and all that. We all got that. Yeah.

But the moment trans men are brought in, suddenly they're ONLY men, and treated like CIS men exclusively. While also trashing their gender and using their agab against them because that totally makes sense when fighting the evil CIS men.

The fuck is up with that, y'all.

[lokean-18-deactivated20251225]

Thank you, it’s so nice to know other trans women/fems see how weird those people are.

[therapatical]

we're going to have our right to own a bank account, vote, and in general exist without a husband again stripped from us by this administration & there will still be useless fools online arguing that transmascs have male privilege

[longfleshyfinger]

Remember that for many, many of our brothers around the world, this is already real. It's an anxious thought to you and me. It's their actual life to them.

If this applies to you, brother, reading this, I see you. You should not have to be ignored anymore. Together we'll make them finally listen

[dangerbabegang]

What to do if you suddenly find yourself homeless

FOOD

Find your nearest food bank or mission, for food

grocery stores with free samples, bakeries + stores with day-old bread

different fast food outlets have cheaper food and will generally let you hang out for a while.

some dollar stores carry food like cans of beans or fruit

SHELTER

Sleeping at beaches during the day is a good way to avoid suspicion and harassment

sleep with your bag strapped to you, so someone can’t steal it

Some churches offer short term residence

Find your nearest homeless shelter

Look for places that are open to the public

A large dumpster near a wall can often be moved so that flipping up the lids creates an angled shelter to stay dry

HYGIENE

A membership to the YMCA is usually only 10$, which has a shower, and sometimes laundry machines and lockers.

Public libraries have bathrooms you can use

Dollar stores carry low-end soaps and deodorant etc.

Wet wipes are all purpose and a life saver

Local beaches, go for a quick swim

Some truck stops have showers you can pay for

Staying clean is the best way to prevent disease, and potentially get a job to get back on your feet

Pack 7 pairs of socks/undies, 2 outfits, and one hooded rain jacket

OTHER

first aid kit

 sunscreen

 a travel alarm clock or watch

 mylar emergency blanket

 a backpack is a must

 downgrade your cellphone to a pay as you go with top-up cards

 sleeping bag

 travel kit of toothbrush, hair brush/comb, mirror

 swiss army knife

 can opener

[spork-of-humanity]

Reblog to literally save a life

[hipsandheartbreak]

if there is a Dollar Tree near you, they have entire food aisles

Planet Fitness also has $10 memberships. you can shower and they have free food days! pizza night 1st monday every month, bagel tuesday the 2nd tuesday every month.

[himynameisrollin-deactivated201]

Save a life reblog

[kukachoosays]

i am so glad that i renblogged this however so long ago. i saw this post and shared it with others in mind, but now i am the one who really needs this. id like to think of this as good karma i guess

[comrade-jiang]

also a good list if anyone ever needs to run away from home for whatever reason.

[jantesika]

probably worth keeping around.