Without fail, every time a woman is talking about how she does not want to have children and never wants to be pregnant and how medical professionals, romantic interests and family members keep trying to bulldoze her decision and keep expecting her to change her mind because motherhood is something that is expected of all women and it is abhorrent to think a woman could not desire it, a random mother spawns in the comments to be like “Well, actually, you never know! I didn’t want children and then I got pregnant and I realized I love being a mama and I have five little babies now! Could happen to you! 🥰”
Sister, keep that to yourself or make your own goddamn post, you are ignoring that woman’s central concern and belittling her, you don’t even think you’re doing it. Formerly childfree women who ended up having children and loving it are like detransitioners in the sense that there is nothing inherently wrong with changing your mind about having children or realizing you were mistaken about your gender identity but immediately weaponizing your indecision to tell people that the barriers to healthcare and the violations of their bodily autonomy and the way society ignores that person’s wishes is actually okay because you were wrong. Some people do know themselves.
it also makes me doubt how happy they actually are with having the kids why do you feel the need to broadcast you've changed your mind and are happy now just be happy no need to be a missionary for making more babies those are not yours chill
We will never know because there is an extreme taboo against admitting you regret having children, especially for women to admit they regret having children since they’re repeatedly told by society that they should love being a mother. And it is sad, no child should ever have parents that regret them. That’s why I support people who are childfree or on the fence about having children to remain childfree. It is always better for you, the individual, to one day regret never having children than for you to have children and realize you never wanted them and now you and your child are both suffering as a result. I believe becoming a parent should be an opt in thing and not a societal expectation or a matter of reluctant acceptance, people who are becoming parents should enthusiastically want to be parents.
It gives very "are you sure you're gay? I thought I might be gay but then I fell in love with a man/woman and now we're happily heterosexually married and soooo happy, you just need to find the right partner!" vibes.
