the people angry about poison will never be satisfied by any direct depiction of sexual abuse. sexual abuse, by definition, involves sexual acts, and showing sexual acts = sexualization to them. whether they admit it or not, they think this should never be shown, only discussed- if that.
angel is physically hot and he is doing sex work. yes, he looks sexy. but the camera and editing are not voyeuristic. the start of the song is a bunch of shots showing what he's literally doing, focusing on his face and showing how he feels about it, then cutting away as if to give him privacy. then it starts introducing his fantasies, his coping mechanisms. it starts showing us what he wants us to see.
by the end of the song we're fully inside angel's fantasy, with his reality played in brief flashes in the background. he's not looking at them, he's actively drawing our attention away from them. there's also this great change in body language when valentino interrupts his fantasy:
when we're looking at angel's fantasy, what he wants us to see, he's hot and confident, shoving out his chest and making sure we look. then val shows up, taking away that tiny shred of control. now centerframe shifts away from his chest and toward his collar, his scared expression and hunched shoulders. the second picture feels uncomfortable to look at, not arousing. and look at these:
idk man, is this sexy to you? do you feel like you're supposed to leer at this? i don't.