Aspen is not a jerk. He broke up with America because he wanted to be the one to feed her, not the other way around. He wanted to be a proper husband who was able to feed a family. He knew that her life as a Five could be marginally better than a life as a Six. He didnāt want that for her.
He wanted the best for her, because he is a selfless person. Aspen works several jobs to feed his family of seven (his mother and his six younger siblings). Ever since his father died he has been the main reason his family stayed afloat from borderline poverty. Aspen has been the man in the family for a very long time, and so it was natural for him to want that with America. He wanted to be Americaās hero too. But America is her own hero. She has the ability to save herself and others. In that way, she and Aspen are alike.
Aspen told America to enter the Selection, despite the slim chance that she would be chosen out of the thousands of other girls who entered, because on that slim chance, she would become a Three, and ergo have a better life.
The break up wasnāt an irrational act. It was deliberate. Aspen wanted her to be happy, and he didnāt think that sheād be happy being a Six. This may be cliche, but love can make people irrational. Ā When he saw America at the palace, he began to pursue her again because he was now a Two. He would be able to feed her and protect her.
Though the physical aspect of their relationship is significant, they did have a genuine emotional connection that was also bound by the shared experience of starving and also striving for a new life in which they would be wealthy. Aspen was the boy who wore ripped jeans and overused t-shirts and bathed in homemade soap and not store-bought, and yet he managed to be loving, selfless, noble, and a genuinely good person. America was the girl who had a talent to sing and play several instruments, and she took that in stride and with grace. She didnāt brag about it. She used that talent to earn money for her relatively big family as well. She cooked for the family as well as Aspen, because she knew that he probably ate the least, even though he was the eldest, so that his mother and siblings could get their fair share of food.
They were right for each other, once upon a time, except America was Selected and met Maxon. She changed throughout the course of the series because of that. Maxon Schreave is practically the heartthrob of IllƩa who would do many good things, no doubt. However, the lower castes (i.e. America) would perceive him as the snobby prince with too much money that could save millions of lives from poverty. When America met him, she realized he was not a snobby, stuck-up prince, but a boy who should have been broken a long time ago.
Maxon and America were right for each other too. He saw his country through a different pair of eyes; eyes that have seen more hardships than he could ever imagine. She saw Maxon in a different light, a side that no one else saw. Maxon may not have fallen for America the same reason Aspen did, though both saw her good heart and altruism. There can be no comparison between the relationships, because Maxon and Aspen are two very different people.
They were both right for America, but in the end, America chose Maxon because he was more than she ever knew and expected. Yet America could have chosen Aspen, and she would have still been happy. America didnāt need saving; in the end, it was Maxon. Aspen and America are heroes, and it should be understood that they couldnāt save the other, because they had the ability to save themselves and other people who actually needed saving. Aspen fell for Lucy because she has experiences misfortunes that he never would, and she managed to live serving other people without complaints. Aspen could be a hero to her.
In conclusion, Aspen does not deserve hatred or any malignancy. He was good for America, but Maxon is as well. Aspen and Americaās physical relationship is more prominent than Maxon and Americaās, but then again, Aspen and America have known each other longer. They were right for each other, but that was before. In the end, America knew who she wanted to marry, but she also knew to keep Aspen in her heart because he was her family.
I apologize for having written a lengthy response in the format of a nine-paragraph essay, and I do understand that Tumblr is not an institution. However, I felt the need to defend Aspen.