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"I'm Dorothy Gale from Kansas"
$LAYYYTER
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YOU ARE THE REASON
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constantly hearing casual talk of how disgusting and awful my anatomy is from cis gay guys really takes a toll on you as a gay trans man
not trying to force people to like something they don’t like but holy fuck just stop being assholes about it??
You know every show that the premise is like “people find out ghosts/monsters/demons are real and are charged with stopping them” appeal to me way more now as a post-graduate not because I believe in ghosts more or whatever but because can you IMAGINE just being handed a job that you don’t even need to apply for? Like just being told “basically there’s this bad thing and all you do is make sure it doesn’t do what it wants” that’s just customer service baby and I worked that for 6 goddamn years! Just TRY getting past “I have a job to offer you” before I can jump down your throat agreeing.
some idiot with a dumb ghost-hunting name who joined the Cause because they love the paranormal: oh fuck oh shit this is really scary guys I’m having second thoughts
me, who knows that if we run away I have to apply to like, a real actual Jobbe again: wakey wakey demons it’s this or retail so guess who’s got nothing to lose
Grace, you can't say that!
yeah im complaining again becuse its pride month and for some reason im not seeing any agender posts that have a million notes, we arent included in the heart flag gifs, and it feels like nobody is talking about us
please dont forget about agender people this pride month
dont forget about agender people who dont also identify as trans
dont forget about agender people who want to transition (binary or not)
dont forget about agender people who dont
dont forget about agender people who use or like traditional binary pronouns like he/him and she/her
dont forget about agender people who prefer they/them or neo pronouns or a mix of pronouns
dont forget about agender people who dont want to use pronouns at all
dont forget about intersex agender people this pride
dont forget about agender people who are bisexual, pansexual, lesbian, gay, ect.
dont forget about agender people who are aromantic or asexual or both
dont forget about agender people who just dont care about dating or dont want to date anyone for any other reason
dont forget about agender people this pride
Don’t forget about agender people!
I feel like a lot of conversations about the porn industry and how it abuses trans people generally neglects to mention trans men, which isn’t surprising but it’s disappointing nonetheless.
I feel like it’s worth talking about how the vast majority of transmasc porn is detrans kink and how trans men are forced to market themselves as “fakebois” or “pussyboys” and do mostly detrans kink content. Please include trans men in these conversations.
Silly comic. Grace would absolutely pull this move.
I would give an arm and maybe a leg to see the PHM characters in your artstyle (no pressure)
PUT YOUR LIMBS BACK AND HOLD THIS INSTEAD
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grace after finding ilyukhina's hidden bag of vodka and lipstick
the people have spoken
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If you don’t have this one already
I fear we may have gone too far...
Unfriendly reminder that women are autonomous beings who can, in fact, consent to participating in kink. Claiming women can't actually consent as a feminist concept is not only sexist, but it is incredibly infantilizing.
This is actually a useful thing to understand how to spell out. What exactly is wrong with puritanical attitudes towards sexuality? TW: Discusses body image issues, suicide, STIs, sexual assault etc
1. It fosters fear, disgust and loathing of our bodies. By hiding the human body as soon as we are born, and treating it as an object of inherent shame: THAT creates trauma. Shame is one of the primary sources of trauma, its the fuel and lets trauma burn. Those raised in nudist societies, and children raised in households where nudity is treated in a neutral and non-sexual tend to have a much more positive relationship with their bodies as adults. This makes complete sense when you think about it. Going through puberty not knowing if your body is "normal" terrifies children in ways that stick with them for life. In fact, most cultures outside of the Unites States aren't as strange about non-sexual nudity actually...and are healthier for it. We can't have body positivity as long as we are literally criminalized for having an uncovered body. 2. It creates fear, shame and disgust about sex. Most people have sex at some point in their lives. No one would be here at all without it. Most people have sexual desires which lie outside their control. When people are ashamed of those desires, it leads to self hatred, and depression and anxiety. This shame is just as traumatic as bodily shame. When sex is normalized, and treated with the same candor as any other hobby: it becomes less apt to traumatize people.
3. Puritanical attitudes towards sex limit sex education. When people are too ashamed to talk about sex, people don't learn about pregnancy, stis, or consent. All of these things can and do kill people when they aren't addressed with an open dialogue.
Sexual shame leads to people too ashamed to buy condoms, to talk to their doctor about birth control, to ask their partner to use protection, to get tested...the negative health impacts of sexual puritanism have a massive negative effect on society.
4. Sexual shame leads to poorer communication in relationships. Ohh if I had a dime for every person i knew who ruined their relationship because they felt too guilty to talk to their partner about their sexual feelings...Not just that, but the general body shame that comes with puritanism blocks people from connecting to one another too. Have you ever avoided getting close to someone because you were ashamed of your body? If not, I guarantee you know someone who has.
5. Misogyny! Puritanical sexual believes hold that women are not capable of sexual agency. That only men should initiate sex. That women should only ever want babies and not pleasure from sex. All of this rolls right into the next one:
6. Victim blaming in sexual assault. When women are the gatekeepers of sex, its easy to blame them when they 'fail' to protect their chastity when someone violates their trust. This isn't something that just effects women: as the same attitudes hold that men are not capable of experiencing sexual assault. The lack of education and discussion about sex in a sex-negative world inherently prevent the open dialogues necessary for creating and maintaining consent culture.
7. Suppression and marginalization of the queer community. If we're too ashamed to talk about sex, we'll be too ashamed to talk about sexuality. Puritans can't accept any deviation from gender norms either. Anything other than sex between a cis man and a cis woman for the purpose of making a baby is a deviant kink, a mental illness, and needs to be wiped out. Its important to point out that many queer people hold puritanical values about sex: believing that they can achieve sex negativity and queer liberation at the same time. However, sex negative movements always rise with censorship and discrimination of queer people...because queer people are inherently considered deviant by the vast majority of sex negative "allies". It's very dangerous to forget this.
8. Censorship of art. Who decides what is sexual and what is not? Its easy to agree that sex needs to be hidden...but it never takes long before the definition of what is "sexual" expands. Even women's breasts are considered sexual in the United States. Its so normal for Americans to think of them that way that women can't feed their children in public. Drag queens face violence for reading at libraries. Books get taken off the shelves. Artists are bullied offline.
9. Censorship of scientific exploration. Scientific research into reproductive health, sexual behavior, gender identity and more are often hindered due to the "moral objections" of puritans, delaying progress and understanding. That's just off the top of my head. I think its time for people to take how problematic 'puritanism' is more seriously. As we see fascism rear its ugly head all over the world, we're going to see a lot more talk about 'degenerates'...and we know where that kind of talk leads.
Repeat after me: kink is not a "gateway" to committing a crime.
Not being said enough, but
-Sex workers are cool people
-Sex work is important
-Porn is important
-People who consume porn are chill
-People who write/draw porn are cool
-the rights and visibility of porn and pornographers are directly tied to everyone else’s freedoms and rights
-giving the government license to police porn, pornographers, and sex workers, will result in the government classifying its political enemies as porn, pornographers, and sex workers
Lines of thought that seem Normal but are actually rooted in extreme puritanism:
-Seeing the nude human body is inherently traumatic -Sex scenes in art are pointless -Wearing kink-related clothing in public is the similar to performing a sex scene in front of unwilling participants -Depicting female characters expressing sexuality is always degrading -People's sexual fantasies are always an endorsement of the behavior they want to see in real life -Sex work is more traumatic and coercive than other types of work The goal is to treat sex as just another thing people do. That is a much healthier attitude than hiding it! It's not uniquely traumatic, it's not weird to talk about it or include it in society.
There are basically no unwanted consequences of casual sex that don't also happen to people in committed relationships.
STIs happen in committed relationships. Rejection and heartbreak happen in committed relationships. Assault, rape and murder happen in committed relationships.
You don't have to have casual sex if you don't want to! I actually never have, it isn't for me. But it isn't uniquely risky or universally bad for women or whatever you may have heard. The ways to keep yourself safe during casual encounters -- using protection, having good boundaries, noping out if you get a bad vibe -- are strategies you would still need to ensure your safety in a serious relationship.
