xenomercy

it/he/hx

[xenomercy]

Hi ! Welcome to Xenomercy very inconsistent coining blog. You may also call me by my username or simply "Mercy".

For those who may wonder, yes I was a Mercy main in my Overwatch days and I possess most of the skins I based my flags on (most importantly Atlantic Mercy & Pink Mercy !).

ABOUT ME

Genders : Transneufemasc nonbinary boy, genderfluid, xenohoarder (hoard link)

Pronouns : It/He/Hx & neos, masc/neutral/nonhuman terms.

Kintypes : I’m a robot/cyborg/metahuman and I like to be referred to/perceived as such !

Other identities : Voidpunk, aldernic & fictiself

Extra : I'm a French Blasian adult. English is not my native language, I may do mistakes.

BYI / BYF

I mostly reblog liomogai stuffs.

No DNI, follow your own. But I won’t hesitate to block assholes & anyone who invalidates what I support ⬇️

I am pro : 

- Xenogenders, neopronouns, xenopronouns, alterhumans & nonhumans (duh)

- "Contradictory" labels (mspec lesbians/gays, lesboys, turigirls, cistrans, transsex cisgender, etc)

- Freedom of gender presentation (femboys who are transmascs or trans men, tomboys who are transfems or trans women, nonbinary people who don’t want to look androgynous, GNC cis people, etc)

- Plurality of any kind : endogenic, willogenic, traumagenic, polymindence, tulpamancy, soulbonding, etc.

- Disability pride : deafness, blindness, intellectual disabilities, dwarfism, tic, wheelchair users, autism, etc. Let’s stop making disabled people the butt of the joke. 

- Acceptance of personality disorders : NPD, ASPD, BPD, etc. There is no narcissistic abuse nor any inherently evil disorder.

Other stances : anti-harassment, pro-paraphilia, pro-consent (minors & animals can't consent btw), anti unconsensual harm, pro-kink, transID neutral. Please check this great post from thisisparamisia to understand how paraphilias actually work.

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[beardedmrbean]

[this-is-phobia-discrimination]

ok but isn't that just misogyny??? like u can't be afraid of women without being misogynistic idt

being afraid of something does not equal discrimination. Misogyny is discrimination and prejudice against people who identify as women and feminine presenting people

Edit:

(id: comment by @/starryblack0 that says "Person with gynephobia (who isnt a misogynist): i believe women are equally as human as anyone else. They deserve rights. However, i have an aversion to them and experience distress while near them-- not because i think poorly of them, but because of a mental condition that i have. It is not personal and is out of my control. || Misogynist (+ nongynephobe): I view women as less than in some way shape or form, consciously or subconsciously. I also believe in the exploitation of women and often want to be near women in order to extract things from them." / End id)

Adding this because they put this very well

[rebellum]

My hot take is that its misogynistic for people to accept that some people are scared of men because of past experiences, but say that fear of women is "just misogyny". Like, women can do bad things. They can do awful traumatic things.

(More stuff added below read more, but its not that important, but warning for it op reblogs this onto their blog: maybe dont click the read more if youre gynephobic. Discussions of abuse by women.)

It's wild cause it's like... people recognise that women can be abusive towards children. But theres this awful patriarchal idea that it's impossible for women to abuse men, or to even abuse each other if its not a parental relationship. Like people just straight up deny the fact that women can be rapists. People are made fun of if they say theyve been sexually assaulted by a woman, if its a boy who has been SA'd by an adult woman then he is treated as lucky! As if that's not horrific! People will literally admit to having been sexually or emotionally or otherwise physically abused by women and its seen as not a big deal, or fake, or laughable. People wrongfully automatically assume a woman can not be a child predator.

And it's part of misogyny. It is directly based on the idea that women are naturally weak and gentle and caring and helpless. It's seen as laughable because cis perisex women dont have penises, therefore any other form of sexual violence isn't actually sexual violence.

If a woman (or someone socially seen as "a woman", but thatd complicated) is scared of men, it's seen as a sad consequence to ""mens innate brutality"". In many spaces its also seen as acceptable for women do just straight up hate men, say theyre all inherently evil, etc. especially if theyre scared of men. Which isn't okay. Like people absolutely deserve care and grace, but there is a difference between "i am scared of men and I am still working on it" versus "I am scared of men because men are evil and I am not working on my fear because its correct." Like the latter is harmful, and ends up in people discriminating against people see they see as men/mascs. "Sorry, trans woman, you cant come to this support group for survivors of sexual assault because your masculinity might scare people" is fucked up. Pushing trans mascs out of feminist spaces because now theyre The Enemy is fucked up. Being scared of 50% of the population is something people have to work on.

Whereas if someone of any gender is scared of women, theyre seen as the same as people who think women should all be kept barefoot and pregnant and assistants at best, especially if the person is a man. Their fears are totally dismissed as "you should already be over it, since this ridiculous fear shouldn't exist in the first place" if it IS accepted that as fear. People dont give them grace for having a phobia, dont give them any amount of time or space for working on it. Which also makes it worse. Its hard to work past a phobia if you are constantly being exposed to it and shamed for your fear.

Saying "gynephobia is just misogyny" is misogynistic.

[runcibility]

[werewolf-transgenderism]

irritating as fuck when people get mad at Black people existing in premodern historical fiction/fantasy media. like first of all, you're racist. and second of all, you are acting as though Black people didn't exist in premodern Europe which is simply false. especially when we're talking about the Mediterranean, like what the fuck do you people think is along the southern half of the Mediterranean Ocean?? everyone's on boats, there are GOING to be interactions with Black people in Northern Africa, and there are GOING to be Black people in Mediterranean Europe. stop being stupid. your imagined homogeneous white European past is not historical reality, get over it you massive losers

[stackslip]

we're moving to an internet where children would be banned from reaching out for help and friendship online but abusive parents can post their children's every second online to humiliate and expose them for money with no pushback

[yaoigaysexaura]

no one ever talks about how isolating being transmasc is. you're not "one of the girls and the gays" because you're not a girl and not seen as a guy enough to be gay. you kill the mood when you bring up how men Can get pregnant in real life when people make mpreg jokes. your old friends talk about how "nasty" men are and how they want to "kill all men". your queer acquaintance tells you that fujoshis are just perverts trying to fetishise gay men. cishetallo guys talk over you. cisgay guys talk over you. you go home and your parents toss out your masculine attires for you "daring to be a man".

like I don't even identify as transmasc anymore (is complicated) but back when i did, i would be so scared to come out as a trans man instead of nb because it would get me pushed out of friend groups and killed by my parents (which all eventually happened when the dam burst)

[thisis--ableism]

people saying they are not ableist at all, then use "chronically online" as an insult

youre inherently ableist if you call someone that to mock them, i dont care

"Chronically online" is an ableist insult!

[midnights-dragon]

[this-is-anti-masculinity]

A serial killer in my country was able to get away with what she did for so long because the police assumed raping children + murdering them = male suspect. It recently came out that they had witnesses report a woman of her description acting solo. They could have stopped her years prior, but predator = man, so instead the cops wasted time interrogating men and men only. Literally did not interview any of the women in the area matching her description.

'Believe victims' needs to apply even when the victims name a woman. Protecting children should matter more than how uncomfortable the idea of a non-man committing these crimes makes you. PS to all the people online speculating about her testosterone levels I wish you a very fuck you. Testosterone doesn't cause murder and rape.

This is gender essentialism and interandrophobia (specifically the speculation of high testosterone, which is an intersex trait, being the "reason" she is a criminal.)

Women/girls are notoriously underreported for their crimes because boys/men are told they are "unable to be harmed by a woman", and because queerphobia prevents women/girl-on-women/girl and women/girl-on-enby crime from being taken seriously.

(Gentle note - "non-man" and "non-woman" have a racially charged history, having been used to other and depersonalize Black folks. I'd recommend not using those terms.)

[hagiomoto]

Daily reminder to Americans on this website that American war on Iran is bad because Iranians are getting killed not because you can no longer afford going to the movies in the weekends or refill your car 😒

[ivy-is-dreaming]

Let’s talk about something really specific, that doesn’t get talked about enough: anger.

Obviously, not everyone with ASPD experiences anger in the same way, and not everyone struggles with anger issues. But when it does show up, it can be extremely intense for some of us.

For many people, there’s a clear psychological buffer between feeling anger and acting on it. A kind of internal braking system made up of inhibition, social hesitation, fear of consequences, and emotional “distance” from impulses. It creates space between the feeling and the behavior.

With ASPD traits, that buffer can be weaker or less consistent for some individuals.

When anger escalates, it can be very rapid. There isn’t always a slow build that’s easy to identify in real time. It can go from calm to overwhelming frustration or aggression in a very short span of time. In those moments, it can feel harsh, raw, impulsive, boiling, and consuming.

The hardest part is the control. It can take a massive, exhausting effort of willpower just to not act on the impulse.

Personally, I have deep anger issues stemming from impulsivity. Frustration, disrespect, loss of control, and anything that gets too much in my way can provoke an intense reaction. Yet at the same time, I usually appear composed, and there are relatively few things that actually push me to the point of genuine rage.

It was a major problem when I was younger, and while I've learned to control it far better over time, control does not make the anger disappear. The capacity for it is still there, consuming when it surfaces. I simply put a great deal of effort into remaining disciplined.

For me, anger and control are fundamentally at odds. Becoming angry feels like surrendering control, and I deeply resent losing control of myself. The two do not go together.

This is also relevant when looking at childhood, since difficulties with emotional regulation and impulsivity are often part of what contributes to a Conduct Disorder diagnosis. There is overlap in underlying mechanisms, but it’s also shaped by development. Children generally have less inhibitory control and fewer “brakes” on impulse-driven behavior.

Another thing that’s sometimes observed is that these emotional spikes can be very short-lived. Some of us, including me, describe anger as intense but brief, once the peak passes, the emotional state can drop back to baseline relatively quickly, without much lingering rumination or emotional “aftertaste” compared to what many other people experience.

The intensity of an emotion doesn’t always mean it lasts long. In some cases, it can be explosive in the moment and then disappear just as quickly, leaving a kind of emotional flatness or neutrality afterward that can be confusing to people observing it.

Of course, this varies widely. Like I always say in my posts, it’s not a uniform experience, and emotional expression can differ significantly from person to person. But this pattern is not uncommon.

[uptownthots]

white people will literally be like if u arent nice to me Im going to become a nazi. and think they’re making a great argument

[uptownthots]

this stupid shit has been around for so long and it’s crazy to me there are still people with enough rocks in their brain to believe it. “Oughhhhh if you aren’t nice to you oppressors they’ll become bigots instead of allies” if someone’s support for marginalized groups hinges entirely on whether or not that group is niceys, they’re by definition not effective or useful allies and, by admission of this argument, an active danger to the communities theyre supposed to be allied with because they can Enter Bigot Mode the second they become displease

[w0rmsmeatofme]

I want to see more polyamory pride this pride month i'm serious. Stop being weird about people with multiple partners polyamory is awesome and beautiful and queer

[unfilteredpsychopathy]

If you had to describe your life with your disorders, how would you describe it?

Forewarning: I'm going to attempt to be vivid, authentic & unfiltered in my experience in this post, not everyone is going to agree with it or relate. My goal with this writing style specifically is for the reader to live it as if they're me; This is how I see the world, this is how I experience the world, This is how I think, This is what I know type of rhythm with the same intensity I would normally give off in real life as well attempting to articulate the nuances which are hard to capture. This is also one of my more long-winded posts. We'll see how this goes and if I achieved my goal or not.

———

Incredible boring & also extremely chaotic there is no inbetween and my life jumps around from 0% to 100% back to 0% and then 100% again.

I also like to say I'm very calm but others would describe me as very intense.

Fucking tumblr has a character limit i had to find out about on PC after failing repeatedly on the app. Reference Post

This might need a part 2 as this still doesn't fully cover it. Also when i mention BPD im making the comparison of their feelings of emptiness & sensation seeking & randomly clinging to any stranger that is nice to them and ASPD's sensation seeking to find stimulation resulting in similar behaviours, as im sure other cluster B's also do however im most familiar with BPD's.

[wulfbones]

If you see a feminine-presenting trans man or a masculine-presenting trans woman and your first thought is to make comments like THIS (shown below), you are not as “woke” as you assume that you are in any way.

Clothes do not have assigned genders. Anyone can wear anything. Your judgment is simply alerting others to your bigotry.

[this-is-anti-subtliden]

This is anti subtliden

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

If you're comfortable accusing anyone of faking disability, you're not a real ally to disabled people

[teaboot]

One time when I was a kid a group of girls and I had to treat another student for hypothermia by ourselves because she had so many invisible health issues that the adults we asked for help didn't believe us. The student in question was actively hallucinating. When I finally ran for help the people I grabbed were slow as shit to respond, casually joking about how "dramatic" the person in question was.

The kid was picked up by an ambulance 30 minutes later.

Now as an adult working in security I get SO MANY folks- upper-middle aged mostly- coming to me to 'rat out' people they think are faking it.

I was once sent into a bathroom because a client demanded that the "fucker won't get out, so go drag them out"- I was NEVER going to do that, so I did a wellness check instead. You know who it was? A person recently released from the hospital after a car accident. They had a hole in their skull and major hearing loss. They couldn't answer the owner because they couldn't HEAR the owner.

Another time about a homeless man who got around town by kicking the ground from his wheelchair. "You know he doesn't actually need that thing, his legs work fine, it's just for pity points"- Oh, so he's not paralyzed, his wheelchair is performative? Funny story Dale, I actually know that guy, he was backed over by a truck and has chronic pain from his shattered pelvis. But sure, let's make him stand up and walk everywhere so nobody feels too bad for him and tries to help him or something.

"She doesn't need that scooter, I've seen her get out of it."

"Look how fat he is, because he just rides around and refuses to get up."

"She doesn't really need that cane- she comes here without it all the time"

Sincerely, truly, from the bottom of my heart- as someone who isn't physically disabled but hears this shit all the time- fuck off