It's easier to say "jokes about sexual abuse are always wrong because they will hurt survivors" than it is to say "survivors of sexual abuse are not a monolith and what hurts one of us may make another of us laugh or feel seen, and actually we're very often the ones making those jokes, so there is no heuristic that will allow people to treat us all the same way and get the same result. As in all human relationships you just have to proceed with tact, accept that your impact will not always align with your intentions, and be prepared to engage in the messy, misstep-ridden work that is human connection" but I think the latter is much more helpful.
















