You Will Be Defensive

blog & advice column dedicated to investigating culture and healing in the 2020s. we're @ https://youwillbedefensive.wordpress.com/ ask us questions!

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#2 conflict

‘the desire and option to stand defiant in this situation might be your subconscious way of questioning, rebelling, and fighting the conditi

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The Brontë sisters examine abuse. Not only physical, but emotional - and it's their ability to describe what is otherwise hidden beneath layers of gaslighting and shame and fear and utter dissociation for victims that make their efforts indispensable. And that was what I needed, growing up.

The Brontës on Abuse

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exploring "daddy issues" in jacqueline wilson's think again: a 4 star review.

a review: exploring "daddy issues" in jacqueline wilson's think again.

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hallow's poems

happy halloween, happy samhain, happy healing /|\ ^._.^ /|\ some dark poems full of pain and magic

home, by sea home has always smirked willinglyin my direction, teasingly, cruelit’s just like me in the snatching of itselfstubbornlyi think it’s a pretty fair deal given the blood shed over its thingsi trace its walls with my tongue to taste the creami gaze lovingly at its creases and debate its anglesgrazing at the chips of its holes, like we might fit together,like all this biting might serve…

hallow's poems

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Astrology. What's the big deal? (old entry)

'The point is, when you have no one to support you, to talk to you about interpersonal issues, to help you understand the world, you are forced to look for the answers yourself.' an older post i though to re-upload due to a convo on reddit.

an old RE-UPLOAD! re-uploading because some people were talking abt this on reddit and i care to share what i wrote at this time. there’s no need for me to pull this from the blog just cos it’s in a slightly different style to now. so SUPPPP…. Have you sensed something in the air recently? Just me? Well, it seems an interest in astrology has been on the rise in recent years. I myself, an older…

Astrology. What's the big deal? (old entry)

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What it means to be a 'witch'

new post: read what it means to sea, to be a 'witch'... this one is one half written by me 4+ years ago, one half written by me now... relevant... !! ₓ˚. ୭ ˚○◦˚.˚◦○˚ ୧ .˚ₓ happy hallow's season to all ♥

a note this is partly a post from 4 years ago – maybe longer ♥ that is still relevant today. (99% of italicised bits are past written). great timing for my favourite time of year: it’s halloween season ♥♥ mayhaps i will post a few articles this month, in celebration of our blog’s one year anniversary! as always, i have left any and all typos and mistakes ♥ hope you feel free to honour yourself…

What it means to be a 'witch'

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home poems

‘for a second, she’s gone i wait a little longer and feel a hint of her breath on my ear still no conclusion just a message on a plastic ans

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#1 the shadow

‘if you grew up in a dysfunctional family like i did, traumatic events are likely to trigger some very early vulnerable wounds. due to a lac

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where is home? the working class council estate

‘the essentiality of leaving, slowly but surely, and the heartbreak, the injustice of home being taken from you, as a working-class child. i

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flower in the cracks

‘i came to accept my own limitations – that i couldn’t stay in the fire and not be burned by it. that’s why i left. shame and guilt and doub

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to be or not to be; on anger

‘it became clear to me all of a sudden, hey… am i like… default angry and defensive because i’m overcompensating for having been silenced an

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the sharing of shame

‘having been emotionally abused means that i walk on eggshells and doubt myself when i shouldn’t, and that i’m silent when i should be just

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so you want to save the world?

‘perhaps it’s easier to think that it’s our nature to be well, greedy, manipulative, selfish, and hateful… rather than look our true fears i

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sweet dreams are made of… this

‘and in a natural effort to do something about it, unwantingly hearing the far-off cries of your inner child, feeling the anxiety, fear, ang

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Millennial Malaise: Job Market

‘Many attempt to go forth with these goals without looking to the far future, simply assuming someone will “sort it all out”. It’s fine to h

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A piece about survivors guilt.

This comic isn't perfect. I started it back in October 2023, and every time I picked up my pen, I wept.

I bring this to you today, on 9/11, in hopes that you reflect on this day a little differently than how most Americans would. Let it move you to continue to boycott, protest and challenge your family, friends and colleagues. You have a bigger impact than you would believe.

Thank you for reading this with an open heart.

From the river to the sea...

I'd like to bring to attention the fact that the figures depicted above are a gross undercount of the actual number of deaths. I scoured the internet high and low to source my findings and not a single one could break down the devastation that befell an individual ethnicity. Instead, they lumped a bunch of ethnicities together, provided a general timeline, and called it a day, reinforcing the sheer scale of dehumanization propagated in the west. The only consistency between all the articles I looked up was the 4.5 to 4.7 million figure I've included above, and even then, they were all published by western media news outlets... the very same that have been so unreliable and complicit in the genocide of Palestinians today. So I have to take everything they say with a grain of salt.

We are not just numbers.

All of us have ambitions and desires and lives worth living.

With that said, this is your friendly reminder to:

Donate an e-sim

Donate to PCRF to provide Palestinian children aid

Donate to Pious Projects to provide woman with feminine hygiene kits

Donate to CareForGaza to provide food to displaced families in Gaza either through their Gofundme or their paypal

Donate to any of the vetted gofundme campaigns on GazaFunds to help Palestinians trying to flee Gaza.

And if you or someone you know sees or experiences a hate crime and can afford it, SUE. This is a more effective use of your money than most realise. The reason zionists act with impunity is because of the normalization of white supremacy and oppression of ethnic minorities. Challenging that in any capacity tells them that there are consequences to their actions and makes them think twice before engaging in hate crimes and helps raise all of us up against the systems currently in place that let them get away with it.

If you can't donate or spend any money, you can:

Do your daily clicks.

Boycott targeted companies on the BDS list (if you're like me and you don't want a single dollar to go towards anything supporting Israel right now, you can use Bdnaash to double check what products are okay to buy, but the BDS list is sufficient as it is a strategic attack and proven very effective thus far)

Flood your representatives emails and voicemails with how you won't be voting for them unless their politics align with an immediate ceasefire in Gaza.

Attend a protest, be LOUD.

Challenge your circle of friends, family and colleagues with conversations about Palestine. (THIS IS THE MOST UNDERRATED AND MOST EFFECTIVE THING YOU CAN DO)

and if you're really up to, be disruptive in any capacity that you can think of towards major corporations benefiting from this onslaught. (i.e. halting military manufacturers from production + shipments, sticking boycott stickers on products at your market etc)

And finally, if your country wasn't mentioned in the above excerpt, it was no deliberate omission on my part and I encourage you to come forward and tell your story about the suffering of your people so that this may be a learning opportunity for everyone.

You are seen.

You are not alone.

Thank you again if you've read this far.

From the river to the sea...

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a different world

‘i’ve learned to stop doubting. at some point you have to make the choice. it’s always a controversial one because everyone hammers you over