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The dom shortage is fake. The top shortage is fake. The masc/butch shortage is fake. You just have bad vibes.

no but literally tho its like the one constant also idk if this happens to trans men/trans mascs a whole lot but if youre a trans woman on the apps you get a LOT of cis dudes trying to explore crossdressing/gender with/through you every single time

pingintech

also from talking with a black gay cis man friend of mine it seems like he also gets some pretty insane messages on the apps which is not surprising tbh

st-dionysus

In reply to first reblog: in my experience cis dudes in trans men's DMs are either trying to convince us to bottom for them (even if we have stated super explicitly that we only top) OR it's a "heterflexible" cis dude who wants to take the strap (and will almost always use the term pegging) and ~explore~ his sexuality with someone he can aknowledge as a dude when being fucked but then refer to as a woman after sex to re-affirm his heterosexuality.

In reply to second reblog: That doesn't surprise me at all. I've had multiple friends who are cis Black men and bottom exclusively (and will state this their bio) and they tell me that they get endless DMs from people who want them to top becouse the person in their DMs has some sort of BBC fetish. I imagine for Black tops those sort of dehumanizing DMs are even more common. (And my own experience as being a top who is Latino on the apps has been...interesting. A fascinating number of DMs will start off with calling me "papi" and it's like...I didn't say you could call me that white baby.)

elancholia

It's fine to try to persuade someone to do something lol. Obviously subject to all norms about being nice, respectful, not weird, etc., but it's not inherently "disrespectful of someone's autonomy" or whatever

str-ngeloop

all communication is rhetoric and rhetoric is fundamentally evil

todaysbird

the chimney swift is a medium-sized member of the swift family primarily found in the southeastern united states + northern south america. at one point, these birds used hollow trees to nest; today, they are almost entirely found using man-made structures, primarily chimneys, which is how they get their name. like other swifts, they are unable to perch, but can vertically cling to surfaces. if groups of chimney swifts are disturbed, they may loudly clap their wings in an attempt to scare off predators. these birds live much of their lives in the air, and only feed on insects and arthropods caught in flight.

rationalisms

using a pumice stone isn't very butch of you

i need you to know that this is already a top contender for funniest anon message of the year for me

iwantyoutocryforme

gothhabiba

“Europe is literally the creation of the Third World. The wealth which smothers her is that which was stolen from the underdeveloped peoples. The ports of Holland, the docks of Bordeaux and Liverpool were specialized in the Negro slave trade, and owe their renown to millions of deported slaves. So when we hear the head of a European state declare with his hand on his heart that he must come to the aid of the poor underdeveloped peoples, we do not tremble with gratitude.”

— Frantz Fanon, The Wretched of the Earth (via precarious-life)

girlnephew

delicatelymorbid

intox play with stoner lesbian teaching sober lesbian how to smoke with the bong between their thighs

pommegf

overlooking Gurnard's Head Mine at Treen Cove

pankendev

(snaps out of it) OH MY GOD WHAT HAVE I BEEN DOING!! HOLY JESUS CHRIST FUCK WHY DID NOBODY TRY TO STOP ME (eases back into it) ahhhh. yeah this feels right