[popokko-deactivated20210315]

[maemaybe]

Systems are not random. 

The traits your alters have are not randomly assigned or drawn out of a hat.

Even self-chosen traits have reasons behind them. We aren’t just rolling dice to decide who we are. 

Fears and phobias didn’t come from thin air and persecutors aren’t being harmful because they are inherently evil. 

Just like every person is shaped by their life experience, every system is shaped by their life experience. 

Understanding why your system is the way it is can help all of you have more compassion for each other. 

Without understanding we tend to see people’s behavior as just a function of who they are and be less forgiving when they make mistakes. E.g. “Well they are just evil. That’s what they do. They’re always hurting people. I can’t forgive them. ” 

With understanding we tend to see people’s behavior as a function of circumstances and we tend to be more forgiving and understanding when they make mistakes. E.g. “I can see how that situation triggered their protective instincts and caused them to lash out. The way they handled it wasn’t okay, but they were reacting from a place of trauma and I will be patient with them while they work on this.” 

It is okay to not know why your system is the way that it is. 

It’s okay to not know why a persecutor is so angry, or why each alter formed. 

It’s okay to feel that your system isn’t ready to start exploring these things. 

Being dissociated means that many of these things are hidden from you, and maybe they are hidden from you for good reason. It could take years for you to feel okay about exploring these things and you will probably need a therapist to guide you through it. 

It’s okay to not know. 

But I don’t think it’s okay to say that it’s just random and that there is no meaning. 

I know that I am not random. 

[teashoesandhair]

Oh no… I saw a wiggly worm on the pavement and it looked sad and so I said “oh no, mister worm, you are in a very sorry state… back into the thicket with you!” and I gently put it back into the grass, and then I turned around and there was a TEENAGER LAUGHING AT ME… why are The Youth so cruel

[teashoesandhair]

Someone has reblogged this with the tags ‘I’m not sure if this is real or not’ and LOOK!! I am 27 in 2 weeks and I live with an old woman I met on Facebook!! I don’t know what to tell you!!

[bajablastedboy]

Duolingo is really taking that “threatening bird” meme to heart

[hustlerose]

[hustlerose]

[hustlerose]

i have been informed by literally every french speaker on earth that “une pipe” is slang for blowjob

[businessofwomen]

Good looks on Girls™: • oversized denim jacket with patches and pins • dress shirt + bowtie • flower crown • long sleeved shirt + choker • glasses!!!1!!!!!!! • lacey lingerie • tank top+ basketball shorts • all • every look • i’m not straight

[catpda]

how can ppl say cats dont have feelings like. 

when my cat got deadly sick she refused to eat a single thing and it had been days but when i started crying she ate just a little bit, and upon seeing how happy it made me, kept doing it whenever she could.

now whenever im sad or crying she finds wherever i am with a mouthful of food and eats the pieces one by one, every time looking up at me making sure i was watching her eat it all because she knew it made me happy. and it DOES make me happy

i love cats!!! 

[catpda]

im so glad my little Foofy has touched everyone’s hearts… she luvs you all

[jumpingjacktrash]

what a precious good beastie

[unmooredonasundayevening]

@thisbibliomaniac

[dangerhamster]

TAN’S HENNA ART

[anissapierce]

Karamo agrees with you

[githvyrik]

people who hate chatty cats are the worst like. your small friend is singing a song just for you! they have things to say! listen to them

[secretaura101]

Coping mechanisms for paranoia

Paranoid at night?

Here are coping skills I’ve found

Play a TV or a YouTube video on your phone. Background noise of people talking helps. I listen to Good Mythical Morning.

I know you may love horror shows, but it isn’t worth it.

Have a friend? Call them. Stay on the phone overnight. Mobile sleepover.

Or legit sleepover.

Dark bother you? Live near city lights? Put some closed blinds on your window and leave the curtains partially open. Enough light may filter in to look like dawn.

It’s okay to leave the lights on sometimes.

Pets help. Not a dog if you can’t leave your house at night.

It’s totally okay to check closets, under the bed, behind the shower curtain, etc. If it helps, do it.

!!!See-through shower curtains!!!

Mindspace is super helpful and I think they have a free trial!

[lesbomatriarchy]

*writes I LIKE GIRLS on every other page of my journals so future historians don’t try to insist that I’m straight”

[penis-siz3-average]

Future straight Historians: “we see several examples of her prioritizing a sisterly bond with the women around her, for example on page 12 she says ‘I like girls’ and throughout the text she references loving women and preferring their company. This is not to say she prioritized above her romantic relationships because on page 78 she mentions talking to a man one time in her life. It’s hard to know just how much she valued her sisterly bond with women due to this one reference of men and the ambiguity of early 21st century slang. For example on page 12 when she said she liked women, the passage continues ’…in a lesbian way. I want to kiss girls, they are so pretty, I’m so gay.’ Now it’s difficult to understand just what that sentence means. We know that in the early 21st century kissing on the cheek in greeting had gone out of vogue but the word gay, a word with an archaic meaning of happiness gives the contextual clues that perhaps she is references that old fashioned practice.

Going back to the nameless man that is mentioned once on page 78 for one sentance…”

[aisandetsarepeopletoo-deactivat]

“Now, given that she wrote on page 12, ‘Just to be clear: I’m sexually and romantically attracted to women exclusively,’ one may be tempted to read this literally, but we can’t rule out sarcasm.”

[crazy-pages]

It may seem like @vilesbian is joking, but she really isn’t. 

[bullysquadess]

a dear friend once told me “all lesbians have to share one brain cell, and it goes to the person who needs it the most”. she then promptly stuck a metal bowl in the microwave and busted her knee open on the kitchen tile when the resulting explosion startled her so im gonna go ahead and guess she wasn’t the chosen lesbian at that particular moment

[bullysquadess]

[gorps]

seriously though, when are people going to start paying me to write callout posts

[gorps]

The implication that law school covers kin drama is really good

[aflo]

it’s called identity theft

[gorps]

It’s not my fault komaeda left his social security papers at my house

[stargabs]

Hey, I haven’t seen much promotion for Queer Eye season 3, I only just found out about it today, the day it was released.  In the wake of the One Day at a Time cancellation nonsense, I’m just gonna go ahead and suggest ya’ll give Queer Eye a watch if you don’t want it cancelled.  I don’t know if it’s in danger of being cancelled, but tbh I thought ODAAT was on solid ground until the announcement, and with Netflix’s track record, any show that stars 5 gay guys, two of whom aren’t white, could be in trouble.  ESPECIALLY when they’re not even bothering to promote it.

Honestly, who knows what Netflix will do at this point?

[autisticqueen]

people who make fun of autistic people are no longer allowed to use slime, weighted blankets, stress balls, or anything similar that originated and/or was popularized by the autistic community.

[square-enix]

when i was a little kid i got bullied on the playground so my mom asked me “what did jesus do when people were mean to him?” and i thought about it for a second and then started crying and screamed “he DIED”

[31st]

man why do people wanna be psychotic or schizophrenic or bipolar or schizoaffective so fucking bad like … people i dont even know well have randomly told me about distant family members who have schizphrenia and how they “might get it omg im so scared”, kinnies will put psychotic in their bio for edgy points, its so aestheticized and yet every single memory i have related to my delusions or hallucinations or mania is so like … intertwined with trauma and physical and emotional abuse and sadness. like … people will JUMP at the chance to say they have sleep induced psychosis or reblog Funnie Memes about hallucinations like shut the fuck UP for real… mentally ill people who arent psychotic or clustered will literally just lump the ableism and stigma that is specific to US in with their trauma while also brushing us to the side. stop thinking psychosis is trendy or edgy or a label you can steal to excuse ur shit behaviour shut up

[ursulaklegun-deactivated2024122]

It’s already scary enough having a psychotic disorder or bipolar disorder, because you never know when your own brain is gonna turn on you. you slip up with your meds and next thing you know, your life is in pieces at your feet. But it’s also scary knowing that other people are afraid of you because of your diagnosis, and that that fear translates to hatred and violence.

The moment I was diagnosed, my credibility was shot, every time I expressed any emotion in the hospital my bodily autonomy was violated with tranquilizers, restraints, solitary confinement, and physical assault (that’s how I find out that hospitals have cops, and cops are cool with hurting anorexic teenagers 🙃).

People with “scary” disorders are treated like rabid animals, especially poc like me. People literally do not think of us as humans with the right to make decisions. Every time we are harmed by the medical or prison systems, it’s “for our own good.” I don’t know where the idea that it’s cool and edgy came from, but I resent it so much. the material reality of people with highly stigmatized disorders is fucking abysmal. And so-called mental health advocates, for the most part, do NOTHING to address this stigma or amplify the voices of people with anything less common than generalized anxiety or depression. Off the top of my head, the only public figures I can think of that have really addressed this was Carrie Fisher (rest in peace, princess).