Isn't it sad that for many women, the only place where they feel comfortable being bra-less, bare-faced and sprawling out wearing flowy, functional clothing is their own home.
Meanwhile, men can wake up, put a pair of sweatpants and t-shirt on, follow zero grooming rituals, walk out the door and go about their day taking up as much space as they need.
This isn’t an accident. Controlling women’s appearance has always been about controlling women’s behavior.
It’s also about controlling women’s time, our self worth, and our finances.
And to stop us from noticing what is being done to us. When you're preoccupied with figuring out how you keep yourself pretty the whole day, how you sit, how you walk, how you dress and how you keep yourself looking effortlessly flawless... in other words, when your gaze has turned inward in an act of self-criticism and self-observation, you do not have much resources or energy left to pay attention to the bigger structure beneath it all.
Your internalized insecurity makes you stagnant, passive and compliant... and that's exactly what men want.
