Just Here For A Good Time

Multifandom reblogger. May sometimes post my own content. Spoilers. Non-binary (they/them) Asexual Panromantic

[nonbinarystarlord-deactivated20]

whenever i see a post about someone wondering how an  asexual and a sexual can be in a healthy relationship there’s always someone being applauded for saying well asexuals can have sex too or just because someone’s asexual doesn’t mean they won’t have sex but i have never, not once, EVER seen someone say well hey, some sexuals don’t have sex. you can have a full relationship without sex. just throwing it out there

[applesandbannas747]

Everyone in the notes saying polyamory and open relationships are great fixes for this too are missing the point. Ace people can have sex—and, yes, some enjoy sex. Yes, open relationships can be loving and healthy for ace people too. But ultimately you’re saying asexuality needs to be fixed by access to sex somehow. To quote op ‘you can have a full relationship without sex’. Your suggestion to find sex outside of the relationship with an ace partner completely misses that point.

[answrs]

sorry but you’re not hiding this in the tags:

#it may be surprising to learn this. but allos can choose to be celibate. famously there are entire religious orders where this is a thing #and a catholic nun who stays celibate her whole life can in fact still have a very full and meaningful life with important relationships #it’s not the end of the fucking world #there are people who don’t drive too. there are people who have never seen a mountain. there are people who don’t play video games. #human experience is too wide to be like ohh if you never do This One Thing then you are sufferinggg like chill maybe

[arthoesunshine]

i like to pretend i already died and asked god to send me back to earth so i can swim in lakes again and see mountains and get my heart broken and love my friends and cry so hard in the bathroom and go grocery shopping 1,000 more times. and that i promised i would never forget the miracle of being here

[arthoesunshine]

— our town, thornton wilder

[imjust-a-funnysimp]

I'M GOING TO SAY SOMETHING ABOUT THE WHOLE SUITS SPECIALIST THING IN THE AIB FANDOM AND I'M ONLY GOING TO SAY IT ONCE!!

I'm SICK and TIRED of people dismissing clubs players!!!!! And I blame the tv show for this, they treated clubs as just team work when it's not that at all!!!!

Clubs are supposed to be the games that test ALL of the skills, it's not just about being logical OR stong OR emotional intelligent, it's about being ALL OF THEM AT ONCE, and that's why they're usually played in teams, because it would be too hard to cover all of those spots.

BUT

A clubs specialist would be someone who actually COULD cover all of that, it would be someone who can put all of those strengths into one package and get shit done, so if you ask me, they are the real cunteezzzz of the borderlands, the all-rounders of that shit, because you see, throw a clubs specialist in a hearts game and they will most likely get out of there, but throw a diamonds specialist in a spades game and it's bye bye baby for them.

(oh but chishiya—oh but arisu—plot armor!)

IN CONCLUSION, STOP TREATING THE CLUBS PLAYERS LIKE DISPOSABLE OR WEAK, THEY ARE THE ONES ACTUALLY CARRYING EVERYONE'S IN THEIR BACK!!!!!!

[yellbug]

the word "difficult" just autocorrected to this right before my eyes i feel like i am undergoing forced glindafication

[dragon-in-a-fez]

if you washed any clothes recently this is a friendly reminder to put them on the chair and then on the bed and then on the chair and then on the bed and then on the chair and then

[grendelmenz-deactivated20200929]

Joan of Arc

[infernallegaycy]

[id: a black-and-white comic of joan of arc. she is depicted as a sturdy young woman with chin-length dark hair. she is shown spitting out blood, more smeared on her face as her expression contorts in anger. “joan is more violent than often depicted,” the narration reads. a shot of her standing with a neutral expression and arms at her sides is shown. “younger, too. less blonde. her genius was not in strategy (where she’d often in her passion forget defense),” it continues, “but in the way she reached out to others.” her outstretched hand, a scar covering her palm, is shown.

“she didn’t just bring a torch to the dark corners of apathy,” continues the narration over a shot of a torch in hand, and then cut to white: “she lit the room.” joan is then shown extending a sword, arrows flying at her and beams of light surrounding her. “the maiden of prophecy, leading the french, who were so broken, to victory.” she interacts with other soldiers. “war weariness beat back by a teenage girl—”

joan is shown standing in a field, arms loose at her side. “she was small and stocky,” continues the narration. joan smiles slightly as a close-up of her face is shown, showing birthmarks and uneven eyes. “she had the olive skin of a farmer and common face. she hid a birthmark behind her ear, a kiss left by a saint that whispered there,” the narration reads as that gentle ghostly kiss is shown.

“she yelled orders through pain,” the narration continues over shots of her screaming and angry. “she shouted at generals.” and then joan is shown against darkness, crying as the narration continues, “she whispered goodbyes and prayers in ruined fields of the dead.” fade to white. “she was volatile and headstrong and resilient. even her image, burned three times,” continues the narration over a shot of smoke billowing up, “stays.” /end id.]

[im-tempted]

@youmustfixyourheartt

[salmonella-warrior]

really everyone you love has something miserably wrong with them or an obvious flaw that won't ever be fixed but like it's up to you what kind of person you can and cannot deal with. someone in my family has anger issues which I can handle and diffuse with no problem, but a person who can't tolerate yelling could not be close to him. another person I know is very anxious & needs constant reassurance and she gets along famously with gentler and more straightforward people than myself, but I can't handle being second guessed all the time. someone who is loosey goosey with their morals wouldn't bother me, but a person with a profound sense of justice makes me feel afraid of getting on their bad side. none of these traits actually make someone a bad person & just because there are personalities I can't handle doesnt mean I'M a bad person either. litany against callout posts for stupid shit and simple incompatibilities we all have to live on this earth together & need to learn how to deal with each other

[salmonella-warrior]

actually to add to this point having one person leave you due to a flaw they cant tolerate may make you feel fundamentally unlovable but i promise theres a person out there who will look at the same thing in you and find no fault with it

[deactivated20251114]

Son, your mother and I are unfollowing each other on Tumblr

[shamebats]

Well this sure hit me like a ton of bricks

[xx-thedarklord-xx]

I’m always fascinated by people who can trick their brain into doing things.

“If we finish this chore then we can have a treat.”

I have ADHD. My brain says orrr I can have the treat and never do the chore

[3liza]

one of the most enlightening realizations ive had was finding out that non-24 hour circadian rhythm people were a pretty large group and most of us have oddly similar cycles of usually around 28hr internal "days" and this masquerades as "insomnia" but if allowed to sleep and wake naturally we will just advance forward through time an extra 2-4 hours a day at a relatively stable pace. we can't go to school or jobs or even run errands on normal schedules without massive pharmacological and behavioral intervention. most of the people who have been diagnosed or figured it out themselves will report horrific, life-ruining disruption in their professional lives and terrible health from accrued lack of sleep. this disorder is most common in vision-impaired people which seems to suggest it's related to light cues. anyway just thinking about this as extremely loud yard work woke me up at 8am for the second day in a row

[3liza]

lot of people reblogging this identifying themselves in it so i wanted to give you a link to a more detailed desription of Non-24-Hour Sleep-Wake Disorder, and mention theres a similar disorder called Delayed Sleep Phase disorder where you are on a regular 24 hour cycle but you naturally get sleepy around 3-4am every day and wake up around 10am-12pm (roughly). as far as i can tell, despite the widespread nature of both these disorders, its basically impossible to get diagnosed bvecause sleep medicine is probably the single most useless specialty and if you dont have sleep apnea they dont want to hear about it.

[3liza]

this got 14k because Tumblr is absolutely a self-selected population of people with the worst sleep disorders you can possibly imagine

[valtsv]

You were given teeth. Use them now and use them wisely.

i liked this ask so much i made it into a sign

[hellenhighwater]

Sometimes the technology conspires against me to make me sound crazy in my text messages.

[hellenhighwater]

Horrible government operatives

[cogneartive]

person in fandom: eeeyikes!!! i hope im writing this character in this short little fanfic right >_< eeekkk what if my takes on my meta are all wrong and everyone will Kill me!!

guy in professional comic industry: okay lets mischaracterize every single character that appears in this comic for 50 or so issues

[carouselcometh]

Devastating! Art museum gift shop doesn’t sell prints of specific and unpopular painting that struck a cord with you!

[miketalkstrash-deactivated20170]

Let’s not forget to acknowledge Alexandre Dumas this Black History Month

The writer of two of the most well known stories worldwide, The Three Musketeers and The Count of Monte Cristo was a black man. 

That’s excellence.

[latinagabi]

Let’s not forget that he was played on screen by a white man. And the fact that he was black is barely ever mentioned or the book he wrote inspired by his experiences.

[princessnijireiki]

Other things not to forget about Alexandre Dumas:

chose to take on his slave grandmother’s last name, Dumas, like his father did before him.

grew up too poor for formal education, so was largely self-taught, including becoming a prolific reader, multilingual, well-travelled, and a foodie, resulting in his writing both a combination encyclopedia/cookbook (which just— is fucking outrageous to me) AND the adaptation of The Nutcracker on which Tchaikovsky based his ballet

he also wrote a LOOOOT of nonfiction and fiction about history, politics, and revolution, bc he was pro-monarchy, but a radical cuss, and that got him in a lot of hot water at home and abroad.

even beyond that, he generally put up with a lot of racist bullshit in France, so he went and wrote a novel about colonialism and a BLATANTLY self-insert anti-slavery vigilante hero (which he then cribbed from to write the Count of Monte Cristo, the main character of which, Edmond Dantés, Dumas also based on himself).

(…a novel which also features a LOAD of PoC beyond the Count, and at LEAST one queer character, btw, bc EVERY MOVIE ADAPTATION OF ANYTHING BY DUMAS IS A LIE; seriously, at LEAST one of the four Musketeers is Black, y'all.)

famously, when some fuckshit or other wanted to come at Dumas with some anti-Black foolishness, Dumas replied, “My father was a mulatto, my grandfather was a Negro, and my great-grandfather a monkey. You see, Sir, my family starts where yours ends.”

for the bicentennial of his birthday, Pres. Jacques Cirac was like, “…sorry about the hella racism,” and had Dumas’s ashes reinterred at the Panthéon of Paris, bc if you’re gonna keep the corpses of the cream of the crop all together, Dumas’s more widely read and translated than literally everybody else.

and they are still finding stuff old dude wrote, seriously; like discovering “lost” works as recently as 2002, publishing stuff for the first time as recently as 2005.

ALSO IMPORTANT:

SWAG

[sugaryumyum-deactivated20170907]

I am absolutely ashamed to admit I had NO idea Dumas was black.

[elodieunderglass]

when this post first went around (a year ago apparently) I was like BUT WHAT ABOUT DADDY DUMAS THOUGH because basically

daddy general dumas was an immense fierce french warrior who was a 6 foot plus, stunningly gorgeous and charismatic Black gentleman 

he invaded egypt

the native egyptians said “is this napoleon? this must be napoleon. we for one welcome our majestic new overlord”

then napoleon showed up

napoleon has all the presence of yesterday’s plain Tesco hummus

the native egyptians were like “… no… no, we’ve thought very hard and we’ll have General Dumas actually”

this did not make napoleon happy

in fact it made him jealous

napoleon felt so emasculated that he launched a campaign of revenge against General Dumas, including taking away his pension, that probably inspired a lot of Alexandre’s rather satisfying scenes in which fathers are nobly avenged and the money-grubbing villains are rubbed in the mud

[liza-not-lisa-deactivated202401]

I was never taught that he was Black either. WTF.

[petermorwood]

General Dumas (aka Thomas Alexandre Davy de La Pailleterie) looked like this…

…and like this…

…while “Napoleon has all the presence of yesterday’s plain Tesco hummus“…

:-D

I suspect Alexandre Dumas would have laughed at that, because besides looking like someone who laughed a lot…

…he was also a foodie.

[sicktress]

He was also born in present-day Haiti. Back then, it was the French colony of Saint-Domingue.

[you-are-talking-about-this-deac]

General Dumas was also the highest ranking officer of African descent to have command of a European army. EVER. 

[biblioaesthetica]

His stuff is in the public domain, you can find them on Project Gutenberg here:

Project Gutenberg offers 73,007 free eBooks for Kindle, iPad, Nook, Android, and iPhone.

And for those of you who would like to try audio versions, this is what is on LibriVox, the free, volunteer run audiobook version of Project Gutenberg:

LibriVox

[astriiformes]

Really says something about the dire state of offerings for men interested in sewing their own clothes that even searching things like "interesting men's clothing patterns" brings up articles with links to four or five whole websites that primarily offer admittedly nice but practically identical patterns for making button-ups and work pants and maybe a varsity/bomber jacket if you're lucky.

(Branching out into historical costuming for everyday wear is like your one shot at variation, and even then, the ratio of men's to women's patterns on every website is frustrating to say the least.)

Patternmakers as a trans man I am begging you. Give me a little more to work with here.

[astriiformes]

Like it's also hard if you're buying your own clothes, don't get me wrong, but there are at least more retailers that offer fun and quirky clothes for guys if you do a little digging.

And some of that comes down to print choice, where you obviously have significant leeway if you're making your own clothes, too, but the erasure of men who sew by society writ large has wreaked absolute havoc on the selection of sewing tutorials and patterns aimed at men and people interested in wearing menswear. It is uniquely frustrating to be a man who wants to sew interesting things, not just wear them.

[astriiformes]

I wasn't expecting this to take off, but since so many of you seem to have resonated (or at least sympathized) with this, I thought I'd offer some links to some of the fun patterns I have been eyeing lately

Twig and Tale on Etsy have a modest selection of slightly more unique men's and unisex patterns, I'd really love to make their Pathfinder vest and Ridgeway shirt, among others

Merchant and Mills have a small selection as well, including their Billy gillet and unisex Landgate raincoat

Wardrobe by Me has mostly basics, but I do like their Ozark vest and utility jacket -- and as a very small trans guy, I appreciate that their men's patterns go down to a 2XS

Thread Theory is one of the places I absolutely have my eyes on for modern menswear -- I'd particularly like to make their Gosling short-sleeved button-up, Jutland pants, and Belvedere waistcoat

Folkwear are absolutely inching into the desperately-needed much more unique zone -- I have plans to make both their varsity jacket and vintage vests, and also have my eyes on their frontier shirts, sailor pants, shirts of Russia and Ukraine, and poet's shirt

Black Snail Patterns does historical clothing patterns ranging from 1700 to 1910; I just nabbed their Victorian/Edwardian walking trousers and lounge jacket patterns the other day

Laughing Moon Mercantile also do historical patterns, likewise I am planning on making their Victorian shirts and neckwear (which has 15 different historical neckwear suggestions included) and Victorian notched collar vest

The Tudor Tailor do 16th century clothing, which might be a bit bold even even for historybounding for most people, but they do great work, and I highly recommend their bias-cut footed hose as well as their excellent books

(Last but not least, I would be remiss not to mention Norah Waugh's The Cut of Men's Clothes, which is a book and not a pattern retailer might be best for slightly more advanced sewers, but I did make a really excellent 1600s cassock using a pattern from it that has gotten a lot of compliments as everyday wear!)

Frustrating as the men's sewing landscape is, there are still some fun things out there, and it's worth the digging! I vote we all make weird clothes and start a fashion revolution.

[ayamccabre]

Cosplay and LARP patterns are worth a look, though the ratio is still very skewed. You need a good eye for what patterns are plausible though, and how to adapt them for different fabrics. That's another part of this problem - you have to be good with patterns to be able to make the stuff but how do you learn the 101 stuff if you have to jump right into pattern drafting?

[stormsbreadth]

#theres a guy called Mark Francis who was on the Great British Sewing Bee a few years bacl#and he does some really cool men's patterns! (via @shutupeiffel)

I had a look at his shop and it's honestly pretty delightful. Particular fan of the seventh doctor inspired trousers.

[marzipanandminutiae]

@vinceaddams this feels like a You Post

[clusterfrock]

For those interested in Victorian menswear, be sure to check out The Gazette of Fashion and Cutting Room Companion. It was a 19th century periodical that is geared toward tailors and is focused almost exclusively on menswear. Every volume is stuffed full of patterns, and the articles talk about trends in cut, style, and color each season. It's a fantastic resource and almost no one knows about it.

I've included a link to one of them (1870), but there are multiple volumes available for free on Google Books.

Gazette of fashion, and cutting-room companion [afterw.] Minister's gazette of fashion