[weepingwidar]

Minyoung Choi (Korean, 1989) - Sun Moon Tea (2024)

[cheaphalloweencostume]

“everyone is mad at me and they just won’t tell me” —> “no one has said anything about being mad at me and i haven’t done anything to warrant being mad at so if someone is silently fuming about me and not saying anything that’s their problem and actually quite weird of them and i can effortlessly move on with my life”

[cheaphalloweencostume]

this took SUCH a huge deal of unlearning because, like so many of you, i came out of a home where being quietly in trouble WAS the default state, and i DID grow up not just with the assumption but borderline religious conviction that Everyone Is Mad At Me, I Am Bad, I Must Exist In A Constant State of Attempting to Pacify The Natural Rage I Inspire In Everyone. and no it actually turns out that my family are the freaks . and yours are too

[cheaphalloweencostume]

“this isn’t true because i DEFINITELY silently fume at people in the hopes they’ll figure out what they did and apologize” that’s not good. you shouldn’t do that

“this isn’t true because the ex-friendship that traumatized me ended explosively after they were mad at me and never told me why” that’s not good. they shouldn’t be doing that

“i don’t think this is true because my current friend group is constantly icing me out until i figure out what ive done to upset them and properly apologized without being told” hey thats not good. they should not be doing that

if the peacefulness of your relationship with someone (familial, romantic, friendly, anything) can be destroyed by effective communication/asking them for effective communication, you have got to get out of there. if you can’t get out of there, you’ve got to throw away any ideas about what that person thinks of you because they have their own shit to figure out before they can accurately read anyone else

[fulgrims-big-naturals]

The shortest most basic form of the lesson here is just: don’t be mad at yourself on someone else’s behalf. It’s a waste of your time. If they wanna be mad they can do it themselves.

[strawberriishortcakess]

get in babe we’re loving fat black lesbians with our entire chest and dismantling the blatant fatphobia and racism that is still running rampant in sapphic and queer communities and spaces

[silliestbutch]

Transfem Butch Books:

The Scales of Seduction by Rien Gray [historical fiction, retelling, erotica]: An erotic lesbian monster novella reinterpreting the Medusa myth. Romance between Medusa and a basilisk warrior. Transfem butch protagonist.

Reverse Tomboy by Auto Anon [literary fiction, autofiction, essays]: A novella about a trans woman who struggles with relationships, familial dynamics, and reclaiming her masculinity after transitioning. Comes with an essay on transfeminine butchness and masculinities. Transfem Jewish butch protagonist and author.

Hot Girls with Balls by Benedict Nguyen [litfic, satire]: A contemporary satire novel about two trans lesbian volleyball players, who have to grapple with the anxieties of stardom as well as their their own off-court relationship drama. Transfem Asian-American protagonist. Transfem author.

Little Blue Encyclopedia (for Vivian) by Hazel Jane Plante [litfic]: A trans lesbian mourns her straight trans friend, and comes to terms with her death by writing a personalized encyclopedia/love letter about the latter's favorite obscure TV show. Transfem soft butch protagonist. Transfem author.

Herculine by Grace Byron [litfic, horror]: A disaffected and traumatized young woman arrives at an all-trans girls commune founded by her toxic ex-girlfriend, only to discover something sinister afoot. Transfem butch love interest and side characters. Transfem author.

Our Monsters by Jemma Topaz (mystery, erotica, satire): In a futuristic city inhabited by monsters, a human woman tries to solve a series of grisly murders, while romancing several monster girls. Transfem butch love interest (poly romance, not the only love interest). Transfem author.

Always open to recs. Transfem butches are loved and appreciated, and I don't tolerate invisibilization of transfeminine people when speaking of butchness and lesbian masculinity.

toss a coin to a silly butch 🐻

[may12324]

Books and comics with Butch/Masc protagonists or Love interests 🧡

I asked on IG for book recs, and these are the ones I got! Well, including a lil promo of my comic. In any case, I figured I would make a graphic for them. I love seeing recs laid out all nice.

[black-salt-cage]

ଘ(੭*ˊᵕˋ)੭* ੈ♡‧₊˚

[ceruleanheaven]

all that and i havent killed myself yet i must really love this stupid fucking life

[thevirgodoll]

and we will keep loving this stupid fucking life together get in we are going hopecore

[nayohme]

one of my favorites of all time

[frogmoss1]

that’s kamala harris

[girlnephew]

[zazrichor]

D E V O T I O N

[dykecadence]

periodic reminder that the queer liberation library is an awesome non-regional library you can add on libby to access hundreds of queer titles. NO LIBRARY CARD NEEDED. i just found an audiobook for a pretty new release on there with no waitlist. also everyone use libby for your local library too NOW

Libby Access — Queer Liberation Library

[realluigi16]

this is gonna be my first read on there… i was looking for nonfiction history books but like… look at these grandmas… i’m so excited

[realluigi16]

A NOVEL ABOUT DRAG HISTORY IN NYC OUGHHH DELICIOUS DONT MIND IF I DO

[brownbookrecs]

"ex. old west yuri horror novel (with non-white lesbians)"

you know a book that fits that description?

I sure do! Lone Women by Victor LaVelle. I will be honest the lesbians are not the main characters, but I still enjoyed the read. It follows Adelaide Henry, a young Black woman, as she flees her family's murder to homestead in Montana.

[celebrating-queer-indie-comics]

Eve from Coven (2023) by Taous Merakchi and Da Coffee Time by Europe Comics

[celebrating-queer-indie-comics]

Trudy and Gabby from I Hate This Place (2022) by Kyle Starks and Artyom Topilin, Image Comics

[chunkysoup22]

[garthy-obrien-fan]

FAT BLACK WOMAN GETTING THE GUY I USED TO PRAY FOR DAYS LIKE THESE

[junglejim4322]

Something that I have noticed is I know almost nobody my age that goes to a food pantry. I know people who regularly run out of money for food and in general have to eat an unsuitable diet because that’s what they can afford and they still don’t go to a food bank, im not sure if it’s because they’re embarrassed or maybe if you didn’t grow up going you don’t know much about it but if you’re financially struggling I really recommend it. And look into other options for food assistance too like community fridges and gardens and other programs that can assist you, where I live Salvation Army pays for an allotted amount of grocery delivery for low income people every month, in the summer farmers take excess produce to the library to be taken by anyone who needs it, etc. There are a LOT of resources for free food that you can look into especially if you are literally not eating because of your financial situation

[junglejim4322]

Btw if you have dietary restrictions you can often let them know and in many cases they’ll prioritize certain items for you

[realmarysue]

Global map of community fridges

Urban Harvest - global foraging maps

Food Not Bombs Global Chapter Locations (mostly vegan!)

USA - Find your local food bank

USA - Meals on Wheels free or reduced cost food delivery (age usually 60+, check your specific area's eligibility

[aleph-none]

Map of US food banks that can accommodate gluten-free