...and don’t wear it out!

remy raphael - 26 - us - they/them show me ur fragglesona and receive one (1) kiss on the lips

[vforeverxmillion]

flickr find via twitter

[jetix]

2018-12-28

[orcbara]

i swear to god if people don't start understanding that responding to doylist critique of a piece of media with watsonian exonerations is not an actual rebuttal

[orcbara]

somebody saying "hey i don't like that the only gay man in this story is a weird pervert and it portrays gay sexual promiscuity as a moral failing and character flaw" cannot be rebuked by arguing about how the character's backstory or personality traits explain their behaviour. the choices made by a writer are all fundamentally mutable; somebody saying an author's choices should have been different is not going to be persuaded by an argument that takes those choices as immovable fact

[justanisabelakinnie]

[dogpuppy]

[ellewantsrevenge]

[frierenburger]

just saw an elf at the supermarket turn a red apple into a green apple in her hand and put it straight back on the shelf

[json-derulo]

the past three weeks in a row, partner has gone to chipotle and been served by the same employee who, in bold defiance of the testimony of his own eyes and ears, ardently refuses to believe carnitas exist

[json-derulo]

partner: “Hi, could I please have a bowl with white rice, black beans, and carnitas?”

employee (completely blank expression): “No.”

partner (autistic) (socialscript.exe encountered an unhandled exception) : “…Uh. Um. Sorry?”

employee: “We don’t have that.”

partner (wondering if perhaps he put too much of the authentic accent on the word and that’s what’s throwing the guy): “You don’t have…(pronouncing it whiter) carnitas?”

employee (face still unreadable): “No.”

partner (looking at the near-full hotel pan of perfectly normal carnitas in its usual place on the other side of the glass) (noticing this employee looks unfamiliar) (maybe he’s a new guy that just started five minutes ago with no training?) : “The…pork?” (pointing at it)

employee: “We don’t have pork.”

partner (beginning to wonder if he’s the one that’s losing it) (desperately looks to the menu on the wall behind the employee) (the menu lists carnitas as a protein option) (the word “carnitas” is not crossed out or taped over or otherwise adulterated) (carnitas have been on the standard menu since at least 2016) : “Okay. Um. Are you…sure?”

other employee working the toppings part of the line (familiar) (have seen her before) (she has cool earrings): *gives the new guy a strange look, nudges him aside, and scoops the carnitas onto partner’s bowl before continuing with the other toppings*

Repeat conversation again the next week. And the next. Same guy. If it’s a bit, no one is laughing, including the employee.

[json-derulo]

theories I’ve considered:

- the employee keeps very strictly kosher/halal/vegan and refuses to handle pork (understandable, I respect that, but if you’re gonna work at a place that serves pork I do kinda feel like when someone orders it you’ve just gotta tap in a coworker to do it for you)

- someone did something gross to the carnitas and the employee is trying to warn people not to order it (??? throw it out then? also, three weeks in a row???)

- the employee is a space alien who views humans as so similar to pigs that for us to eat them is tantamount to cannibalism

[json-derulo]

- the employee is the lead in a kdrama romance about a pampered, clueless chaebol heir who is sent by his father to work in the company’s restaurants for a year in order to prove he’s ready to take over as CEO. he’s dumb as rocks but they can’t fire him or even correct him that harshly due to the power gradient. partner is just a minor reoccurring character, and the interaction is kept the same from week to week to highlight the development of the relationship between the employee and his love interest with the cool earrings (even if the restaurant is literally a fully-branded Chipotle, that’s somehow still not enough product placement for me to believe this is a real kdrama)

[json-derulo]

After reviewing again with partner, evidently I forgot a detail that set this week’s carnitas denial dance apart from the others.

partner (well aware of what he’s getting into with this guy now): “Hi. Could I please have a bowl with white rice, black beans, and pork?”

employee: “We don’t have pork.”

partner (demonstrating a level of patience only a public school teacher could have): *points at the pan of carnitas* “Could I please just have some of that?”

employee (after several slow, confused blinks): *points at the same pan* “That’s steak.”

partner (looking at the hotel pan they’re both pointing at) (it is filled with shredded meat of a pale beige color) (at the other end of the row of pans is another pan containing dark brown, lightly charred meat chopped into small pieces): “Okay.” *deciding he’s willing to play in this fantasy space if it gets the job done, he points at the first pan again* Then could I please have the steak?”

employee: *starts to reach for the pan at the other end containing the actual steak*

partner: "Oh—no, sorry, this one please?" *points at the first pan containing the carnitas*

employee: *blinks, then just walks away and starts helping the next customer in line, leaving partner's bowl unfinished*

other employee with cool earrings: *rolls her eyes at new employee, takes partner’s bowl, and fills it with carnitas herself*

new theories:

- the employee is a bridge troll who will only dole out his delectable carnitas to those who prove themselves worthy by correctly answering his riddles three

- the employee is stoned out of his mind at all times on a specific strain of weed that totally erases the concept of pork from his memory and awareness

[noctuusarts]

I feel like many binary people don’t consider that there’s many nonbinary people who regardless of transition could never “pass” as their gender in a binary world. That it’s just impossible because there’s not a social place for our genders, no matter what we do or look like we will at best be seen as confusing and weird or an *insert slur here.*

And we, as said nonbinary people, don’t talk enough about how exhausting it is. That we will never be casually correctly gendered in day to day public life. That’s not something we get to have. It’s get misgendered or try to start a potentially dangerous and overall socially unacceptable dialogue about your gender and pronouns with every person who *might* address you (impossible). And we don’t talk about it for specific reasons. The reasons is exorsexism

[manichewitz]

trans men and trans women are not opposites bc men and women period are not opposites. man and woman are not two sides of the same coin they are two drops of water in the great gender ocean

[butchfagminotaur]

some of you are so fucking transphobic towards nonbinary people and it’s because there’s still a part of you that doesn’t fucking take us seriously and sees us as just playing around as opposed to your Real Serious Binary Transgenderism that is serious and actually matters

[andhaveapleasanttomorrow]

yesterday I had the thought "visual novel for normal people" (?) and halfway through making this image (which I thought would be really funny) I realized it was completely meaningless

[theweirdwideweb]

There's a general strike and protest in Minneapolis tomorrow and it's going to be -45°. Really.

[theweirdwideweb]

[theweirdwideweb]

[dogpuppy]

[calware]

i don't think spending more time on something on its own inherently makes that thing any better. because i'm not protestant

[calware]

i sometimes see videos of digital artists being like "here's a tip on how to draw x thing faster!" and it's like, tracing over stock images or free 3D assets from the clip studio store. and the comments are filled with people saying "no that's cheating!!" can we be so real with ourselves for just one second. how is this cheating. it's not a competition. nobody is getting an award. i don't care if Samantha the digital artist traced a png of a chessboard instead of freehanding it—i see no reason for her to work harder arbitrarily for the same exact outcome

[wizardarchetypes]

oh hell yes an open askbox. builds a nest in it

Aw man I can't remove that bc of the migratory blogger treaty act of 1918. very well.

[morganaspendragonss]

will you guys cancel me if i say that queer tragedy has a place in the creative arts and shouldn’t immediately be dismissed as bury your gays

[rubynye]

adding @glorious-spoon 's astute tags:

#bury your gays and women in refrigerators and the black guy dies first are all about treating marginalized people like props#to further the story of the (white straight male) protagonist#that's not the same thing as a tragedy! some stories are tragedies! whose story has weight and meaning - that's the question

[cosmicstrays]

yea you don’t have to transition to be trans but also changes don’t have to be universally visible to others to be a materially impactful “transition” to you. like JUST accepting and re-building your understanding of yourself with your true gender, pronouns, titles, experiences, etc.—it changes how you process everything else, even if nothing about your body itself changes. and that can both positively and negatively change how you subconsciously carry yourself in a way people can notice—maybe not consciously, maybe not all the time, maybe not specifically as a trans thing, but still there.

that’s why the experiences of closeted trans ppl aren’t the same as the experiences of cis ppl of the same agab/dgab, even if they look superficially similar. and why some eggs get noticed before they even realize it themselves. in fact, that’s why eggs resist even just realizing themselves as trans before they’re ready—whether or not you count it as “mental transition”, it’s still a significant step forward that requires extra support to get through.