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[cyberneticslut]

another one of @swannofswords and i by @/pleasureuntil4ever (on instagram)

[dykepuffs]

Bootblacking is top level kink because it's one of the few I can think of where the nominal sub is treated as a thoughtful, knowledgeable technician from the outset.

Like, a flogging bottom might be praised for their ability to take pain and know their limits, or a rope bunny might be recognised as keeping themselves in good physical shape so they can hold complicated stress positions for longer than a novice, but even the most beginner of beginner bootblacks has learnt a little bit of materials science (Will this type of brush scratch this patent finish?), a little bit of basic chemistry (If these were last polished with a silicone wax, how do I remove that to start to bull them?), a little bit of leatherworking history (Is that natural fibre stitching on those surplused Warsaw Pact boots, will my polish rot it?) and spent time practising techniques on their own boots.

And it's one of the few kinks I can think of where the top is so immediately physically and emotionally vulnerable to the bottom in that way: I put my foot in the hands of a stranger bootblacking at a party, and I trust that they won't damage the boots I was gifted by my long-dead Master when I was 17, that they won't soak the stitching and start the rot of the boots I was wearing when I first fucked the love of my life, I trust that they'll carefully work around and treat the cuts and scuffs in the leather that I picked up wearing these same boots marshalling at a dozen prides and going toe-to-toe with strikebreakers and scabs on twenty years' worth of picket lines. The experienced bootblack can look at my soles and where my boots crease, and see that I have a weak hip, that I'm slightly bowlegged, that I don't drive and that I walk even in the weather where I'd rather not. And I trust that they'll see that worn-out, poor, slightly sad old man and still call me "sir".

It just feels like a lot.

[faggotfungus]

@spitfaggot

[spitfaggot]

the joke among my leather circle is "everyone subs for a bootblack," not necessarily that bootblacking = sub or dom, but rather, we could have the most stone-top, left-pocket-black-flagging, powder-coated-steel-paddle-gripping Sir Dom, and all a bootblack has to do is move their wesco boot with a palm and they obey. "give me this foot." tugging laces loose with one practiced finger. hefting a heavy-soled engineer up to wrench pebbles loose from in between the lugs. "stay still." taking finger-fulls of huberd's and lathing it meticulously and lavishly over a pair of oil tans - watching my customer curiously eye the lubricated shine with a rising heat behind their cheeks. planting the full weight of their boot on my shoulder and commanding them, gently, to press their weight onto me.

there's something so deeply fulfilling in being a technician, someone who restores leather like a museum archivist, accentuating scratches and blemishes and returning life to those leather pieces so they can go on to keep fucking, kicking, running. i am as much a craftsman as i am a history keeper. my respect is given not just by the titles i refer to you with, but the care i have given to your boots, jackets, and harnesses, and the stories they tell.

[lusciouslusciousliz]

watching this random video that popped up in my feed that's "wearing a shock collar and getting shocked every time I swear" and. this is just bdsm. like I'm watching it and they're just doing. they're just doing bdsm and I feel like they just didn't think about it and never considered whether they're doing bdsm because apparently they don't know each other and are doing a silly youtube video but jesus christ I'm just watching this girl get dominated virtually with a smile on her face each time she gets shocked and I feel like the pervert for saying something about it

[lusciouslusciousliz]

like I think bdsm has just been so widely spread around as this pervert sex thing that it's wrapped around to the point where someone can genuinely believe that just because they're not actively horny that strapping a shock collar to your neck and giving the controls to a stranger on the internet who constantly abuses that power is like. just normal. which it is! technically. but isn't this crazy

[lusciouslusciousliz]

if only more people understood that laughing and being horny are basically the same thing

[invertebrateinvert]

the erotic thing about puppy play isn't acting like a dog it's being treated as a dog but this means that people acting completely normal towards real dogs looks insane to me

[innumerable-voices]

The thumb ring; my suggestion of symbolic jewelry for Dominants

Submissives have collars which signify both their status as a sub and that they have a dominant (or someone who put the collar on them). Being a dominant is no less of a commitment, no less of a responsibility, no less important to be displayed.

There are a few things I like about this choice

Thumb rings are historically significant often worn as a symbol of power or status by rulers and religious leaders across many cultures. More recently they've been associated with queer identities.

The thumb itself is also symbolic. It's the strongest finger, it's the finger that allows us to use tools and to hold things, it's the finger that let's us control the world around us.

It's super versatile, I'm wearing one made of silver a centimeters wide because it matches my wife's collar but a leather ring to match a leather collar or a ring made of rope for a rigger, there are a lot of cool options.

The thumb rings are also fairly discrete whilst being impossible to hide. There's no escaping your responsibility, you see it on your hand constantly and so does everyone else even if they don't know what it means.

Finally it'll look great against their throat when you put you hand on their neck

[kill-jar-dyke]

something worth mentioning when it comes to the historical significance of thumb rings as status symbols is that a lot of them have their roots in archery. drawing a bow with the thumb has a lot of benefits in archery over the three finger draws more commonly practiced in western and Olympic archery, especially on horseback, but the high poundage of war bows necessitated a piece of protective equipment for the joint and skin of the thumb. historically speaking most thumb rings used in warfare were made of hard materials like stone, wood, animal bones/horns, and metal, but as they evolved into status symbols for military leaders and nobility it became common to see them made from precious materials like gold and jade, often highly decorated with glasswork, carvings, and gemstones. empires were built and maintained on archery, and much in the same way that carrying a sword has denoted status and authority throughout history so too did wearing a thumb ring. it's not just a signifier of power, it's a physical manifestation of duty and commitment to those you protect. it's a piece of jewelry with the weight of a weapon.

[princesskuragina]

(guy who heard that she needs to romanticize her life but got it confused with eroticize): migraine light sensitivity is just another type of sensation play when you think about it

[polytropic-liar]

out with "i have a migraine and I can't lift my limbs"!! IN WITH "I'm engaging in bondage play with my beautiful girlfriend named barometric pressure"

[implied-divinity]

nothing gives me queer joy more than vintage queer kink porn. like omg... weve been doing this for generations... through thick and thin... i feel so connected...

[sapphling]

it is a little silly to me that every time someone brings up the salient point of "it's asinine to treat top and bottom as life-defining personality traits and not sex positions" every response is like "yeah!! the terms you're thinking of dom and sub!!" because while people conflating these two systems of categorization is annoying, like, the wider thing is that once you have a good handle on which is which you Also need to internalize that dominant and submissive are roles pertaining to sex and not astrological signs. calling someone's actions "bottom behavior" is a faux pas less remedied by swapping to "sub behavior" than gaining an actual understanding that what someone likes to do in the bedroom does not dictate the shape of their soul

[transmutationisms]

really fucking irritating how many people think theyve invented blistering new social commentary by being like "what if a kink... forms because of trauma and social violence" without ever asking that same question about the sexual desires and practices that they consider normal and therefore natural and therefore not in need of explanation or justification

[sic-semper-hominibus]

"oh, you feel more desirable when you're wearing fancy and/or skimpy underwear? don't you realize thats because of classism and patriarchal beauty standards? you dont need lingerie, you need therapy. sign my petition to make wearing two-piece bathing suits in the presence of minors a felony because the people at the pool didn't consent to be part of your misogyny fetish so if you think about it you're really assaulting those kids"

[lewismathesonart]

“Tactical Impractical”

Digital

2025

[tomhoppusdelonge]

suck the thumb that rubs your clit or whatever the saying is

[bedazzlecunt]

what's a girl gotta do to get objectified around here?!?!

[flyingpurplepeopleprogrammer]

[miscling]

the thing is, that there's different ways of being in control in kink

there's the kind where you do something to someone else, like tying them up, hitting them, dripping wax on them, and so on and so forth

there's the kind where you are in charge and command someone else, having someone do exactly what you say

and both of them get labelled dominant a lot of the time.

there's a second problem, where there are two ways to be a top

the kind where you take an active role in sex, often the one penetrating but not necessarily

and the kind where you are the active role in hitting, tying, or otherwise doing something kinky to others

and both of them get conflated with being dominant too!

and because of these overlaps, the combination of dominant bottoms and submissive tops don't easily parse out. similarly, when someone calls themselves a dominant, they could very well be active sex giver, or able and enjoy tying others, and not in control whatsoever - a service top/dominant.

control pairs well with service, and riggers/sadists/etc pair with bunnies/masochists/etc, but someone controlling need not necessarily care about tying/hitting/etc others.

dominance is not a catch-all for anyone who bears responsibility for a scene, but a kink in itself, and similarly, being submissive is something distinct, separate from consenting to being tied or hit or anything else.

which is something complex around the language of kink that anyone wanting to engage in kink should be aware of!

[ace-trainer-alice]

Good analysis!

Personally, I think this is part of why it's important to have an understanding of your sexuality and erotic interests that is more complicated than merely relying on abstracted terms like 'dominant/submissive'.

Or, I think it's important to know precisely what you want. What kinds of things give you the kinds of emotions you like, and what those emotions are. The more examples the better, and forcing yourself to fit in a specific category as-you-understand-it isn't always the best idea.

Language is imprecise, and will betray you if it's all you rely on.

[taylor-titmouse]

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[mutt-bone]

I love subs that are so needy that they completely ignore consequences

Like, "yeah sure you can cum tonight, but you don't get to speak human words tomorrow," "You have permission to touch yourself if you agree to not cum for a month" etc

It's so cute

[puppygirllaika]

people act like CNC is some evil irredeemable kink as if it's not literally just you and your partner(s) deciding that today opposite day.

[puppygirllaika]

"But if we let people play the floor is lava around the house, it normalizes being careless around real lava!" that's y'all. that's how you sound.