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achilles writer & artist he / thae / they / it writing & art blog

[vc-allthetime]

if you’re on tumblr and over the age of 24 it means the mental illness won

[michaelnothing]

[archillean]

so like

i haven't been super active here because i've Basically moved accounts :'D

not for anything bad, tho~ i've just been discovering a lot about myself & was WAY too timid to start talking about all of it here. i'll still use this account, but not as often; it'll mostly be for running my fandom/fanfic sideblogs, and that's about it!

i may share a link to my new(er) account, but only if anyone wants it lol

[prawnlegs]

been sitting on this one for a WHILE

[prawnlegs]

while I’m here, this keeps getting called (among other things) a digital illustration.

it is, in fact, shitty acrylic craft paint on an 11x14″ sheet of bristol

[pizzaback]

do people earnestly think that an independent artist would have a chance in hell if they decided to sue a media corporation if said corporation plagarized their artistic work? be realistic

[pizzaback]

hey remember when hot topic and disney decided to print a bunch of disney fan art on their t shirts and the fan artists’ hands were tied because it was technically disney’s property to use??? hey remember when disney sent legal threats to small artists making baby yoda throw blankets on etsy and the small artists had absolutely no recourse at all??? hey remember when walt fucking disney himself plagarized oswald the lucky rabbit and then the disney corporation managed to manipulate the legal system so that the character remained their sole legal property for a hundred goddamn years??? stop playing pretend.

[pizzaback]

like let me be crystal clear: when you have a conflict where the resolution relies on one side having more money and resources to throw at it to ensure it turns out in their favor, the entity that has more money is going to win. even if they are wrong. even if you don’t think it’s right. this is how the legal system fucking works. assuming everything is fair and equal just because the laws on the books say so is foolish point blank period.

[archillean]

couriercoyote > sword-of-strays

[ifyouknowmeirlgoaway]

Man when I was growing up and dealing with my undiagnosed, unmedicated ADHD and having the worst time, my parents would say, “If you can’t do this now, how are you going to handle being an adult?” all. the. fucking. time.

But all of my problems are actually so fixable.

My mom is out of town and asked me to take out her trash. I forgot. And when I remembered I had two seconds of freaking out before I put together a plan: I got two big plastic boxes, loaded her trash into the trunk of my car, and threw it out in my apartment complex’s dumpster. The only bad thing that happened is I had a small leak into one of the boxes, and I’ve already got that soaking with bleach in my tub. FIXING my terrible ADHD mistake took less effort than doing it properly and you are the only people who will know.

But nooooo when I was a kid it was always ~do it right the first time exactly how we expect or it can’t be done at all~. No fucking wonder I’m a mess of an adult now.

[transhysterical]

And can we talk about how “how are you going to handle being an adult?” encourages suicidal ideation as well? Bc holy FUCK

[prof-grace-aspen]

The fact is, if no one teaches you these coping strategies, if no one encourages your creativity and problem-solving, you WILL suffer as an adult - but that’s still not your fault.

SO many ADHD kids that go undiagnosed because they’re “gifted” or fly under the radar crash and burn in college. So many crash and burn trying to hold down a stable job.

This isn’t mean to be doom and gloom, it’s meant as an admonishment to parents and teachers and administrators and therapists and all other adults: if you see a child who is struggling and you do not give them coping techniques; if you do not teach them a different way to accomplish the task, or if you don’t encourage them to think up ways that work for them, you are setting that child up for failure.

I’ve had to do so much work just to stay afloat as an ADHD adult. It’s hard. Sometimes it feels impossibly hard. But I just keep trying to stick with the tricks I know work; to try out new ones, and if something is novel and works for a bit, great!! If the novelty wears off and the coping technique stops working, that’s normal for ADHD too. You are not FAILING if the thing that worked for two weeks suddenly isn’t working anymore. We thrive off novelty, period.

Some of the techniques will stick, I promise.

[fittingoutjane]

My parents spent years and years trying to teach me to keep track of my keys with shame. 

Never. Fucking. Worked. 

I’d do shit like walk around the neighborhood for two hours in winter rather than admit that my keys were lost again. And even when I could keep track of my keys, it was a constant drain of executive function points that I could have been spending on things like homework.

My husband hung little key hooks by the front door, and it worked instantly. Not 100% effective, but like 99% effective. And when my keys do get lost, instead of blaming myself, I stop and think about why the system broke and how I might need to modify it. Oh, there was snow, and dealing with boots and other outerwear distracted me as I came in the door? Yeah, that might happen. How do I incorporate key hanging into the process of wet boot removal?

[bettsfic]

as someone without ADHD but who lives with someone with ADHD who has in turn experienced all the constant parental shaming we’re talking about, the things he’s most terrified of doing or thinks i’ll get mad at him for are actually not that big a deal in the grand scheme of things.

scared to use the oven in case he forgets to turn it off: ovens can stay on for a while. i’m never gone so long i wouldn’t notice and turn it off myself.

scared to forget to lock the door: who cares? we don’t have anything valuable anyone would want to steal, and they did, a locked door wouldn’t stop them.

scared to park in the garage in case he hits either wall and damages the property: yeah that would definitely suck but 1) he’ll get a scratch on his car, whoopdeedo, and 2) a garage door can be fixed. it might cost money but whatever. mistakes happen. all you can do is fix them.

scared to forget his laundry in the washer (which he’s done several times now): just wash it again. 

scared to forget his meds before work: i bought him a little med bottle for his keychain so he can take a couple spares with him.

scared to forget something i asked him to do: i’ll remind him or, better yet, we’ll do it together.

scared to leave something out in the kitchen: ?? ??? i will put it away.  

to me, unless something causes actual bodily harm or death, it’s not that big a deal. everything can be fixed. everything. the worst that can ever happen is that you lose time or money, and maybe it’s a lot of time and maybe it’s a lot of money, but the point is, it can be fixed. you can burn your entire fucking house down and as long as no one’s hurt, nearly everything can be replaced. no doubt it will suck and you’ll lose a few things of sentimental value, but it’s just stuff. just physical objects that you own. and the place you live is just a building. imo it’s way more worth it to live without shame or fear and make the occasional mistake/forget something important than it is to be constantly vigilant of what-ifs. 

[faeleverte]

My life changed when I learned HOW to fix mistakes. When a mistake wasn’t a spiral to despair. When I finally quit trying to be perfect and decided to use my weird brain for creative solutions. ADHD brains are WIRED to be creative and beautiful problem solvers. When you accept that your can be GOOD at fixing mistakes, they become opportunities to shine instead of abuse yourself. And that’s a WONDERFUL feeling!

[conflictingheart]

[coquelicoq]

#every time I see this picture I am briefly overwhelmed#this piece of art outlived its context and milieu#but. but. in reality there is no such thing#because art is made anew with every glance. it comes to life. awakens laughing#and time compresses. softens. the past is not so much a mystery if we remember we weren’t the first to dance.#this is what art is for#this is what it can do#it doesn’t only speak to us of our own humanity#it reminds us that humanity is shared. this girl isn’t dancing in a mirror. she is dancing with a friend.#paintings don’t simply show us the world. they help teach us how to live in it. (via @robotmango)

[incorrectinfinity]

Just wanna be clear because I have a feeling something like this will happen

[incorrectinfinity]

For those who didn't know!

Source 1

Source 2

[internalizedkryptophobia]

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

[internalizedkryptophobia]

[exquisite-peculiarity]

You don't have to understand someone completely to respect them and fight for their right to exist.

[calder]

classic fallout: what if there was a bunch of cool unique FEV mutants running around

todd: hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm. what if it was just green people and they are all dumb so you can shoot them

[doesnotloveyou]

new vegas: but what if they made their own settlements, dealt with their psychological issues, coexisted peacefully with humans/ghouls, and were grandmas with heartbreaking backstories?

fo4: evil green dogs too. shoot'em, loot'em, move on

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

i'm begging you guys to start pirating shit from streaming platforms. there are so many websites where you can stream that shit for free, here's a quick HOW TO:

1) Search for: watch TITLE OF WORK free online

2) Scroll to the bottom of results. Click any of the "Complaint" links

3) You will be taken to a long list of links that were removed for copyright infringement. Use the 'find' function to search for the name of the show/movie you were originally searching for. You will get something like this (specifics removed because if you love an illegal streaming site you don't post its url on social media)

4) each of these links is to a website where you can stream shit for free. go to the individual websites and search for your show/movie. you might have to copy-paste a few before you find exactly what you're looking, but the whole process only takes a minute. the speed/quality is usually the same as on netflix/whatever, and they even have subtitles!

In conclusion, if you do this often enough you will start seeing a few of the same dependable websites popping up, and you can just bookmark those websites instead. (for downloads, you'll need to torrent that shit, which is a whole separate and beautiful thing)

[slightly-gay-pogohammer]

stop hatewatching bad shows stop hatewatching bad shows stop hatewatching bad shows!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[slightly-gay-pogohammer]

NO BECAUSE YOU COULD SPEND YOUR LIMITED TIME ON THIS EARTH DOING SOMETHING MUCH BETTER THAN WATCHING SOMETHING YOU KNOW YOU’LL HATE!!!!!!!!

[so-over-ableism]

auditory processing issues are like yes i can hear everything in this room no i didn’t hear what you said yes i will finish your sentence when you restart and no i will not know the answer to your question after all of this

[degenderates]

yall DO realize that when tags on ao3 are like “abusive relationships” “homophobia” “racism” “consent issues/r*pe” they are there to protect you, right? you do realize that those tags being there lets you know that an author RECOGNIZES when something is wrong and is explicitly tagging that because it’s a story that discusses those things right? you do realize that the author is not *shudders* condoning those things, right?

[thepoppypenner]

This at all the people who say, “well they shouldn’t be there in the first place!!!!” Wait until I tell you about public libraries.

[the-text-doctor]

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[neenarchive]

i do hate that the frequency of boring relatable protagonists has caused many readers to become affronted when met with a protagonist with like different values and interesting flaws. like ok be mad at that literary device like it's a real person. i am eating them though

[jesterbots]

constantly switching between “this is MY tumblr and i post whatever i want” and “oghg  god . oh my god. okh god. okay. im going to talk abt. an interest now. im so sorry.”