One thirsty dumbass enby

Non-binary Business Major Kinky NSFW sometimes, don't like it? just leave.

[sabertoothwalrus]

I hate the videoification of everything. If I have to hear one more video of someone speaking closely into their shitty mic and I have to have all their yucky wet mouth noises and plosives and nose whistles and throat clearings and sniffles I am going to dig a vertical hole the exact dimensions of my body and I’m going to slither in head first

[sabertoothwalrus]

as someone with misophonia, the widespread popularization of asmr audio editing + people that are being pushed to make video content with no formal training and have no idea how to edit their audio (ex college professors, average joe tiktokers, etc) is literally my nightmare scenario. this is hell I am in hell

[sabertoothwalrus]

this is actually the last straw for me I need to start sending people emails

[reckless-glitch]

[ramblingandpie]

[Video description: Gritty is turning the crank on a flagpole to raise the Progress Pride Flag. He gesticulates angrily that the flag is not blowing in the wind, then gestures offscreen. The flag begins blowing. As Gritty begins raising the flag more, the camera pans out to show a man in a suit and sunglasses, looking like a stern Secret Service agent, is holding a leafblower that points at the flag. End description.]

[partywithponies]

Strange racists and homophobes on the internet seem to have access to an alternate way cooler version of TV than me. "every white character on TV is in an interracial relationship" "every show has a gay couple in it" "main characters keep having to secretly be bisexual and nonbinary" "every show has gratuitous full frontal nudity" like damn promise?? What channel???

[urlocalpyshcopan]

as a black gay person real like where y'all be finding this stuff pass the name

[brainsforbabyjesus]

for real though, those DO NOT WATCH OR YOU'LL CORRUPT YOUR CHILDREN lists put out by conservative christian family groups is where I find all the stellar tv shows. Like, shit I didn't know half of those existed, thanks for finding them for me, gonna go watch 30 hours of gay tv now!

[infamousbrad]

I think I know how this works.

For personal context, before I went to the '98 Burning Man festival, one of the things I'd read from a couple different journalists was that "everybody" runs around naked. Which, fine by me, I'd already spent a lot of time in clothing-optional spaces, I'm not fanatic about it but it's nice.

So I got there early and set up a public shade structure on one of Black Rock City's main roads and spent most of each afternoon just watching the crowds go by. I don't remember seeing more than one actually naked person the whole week. I think a topless woman passed by my intersection maybe every half an hour, sometimes once an hour. So why in the hell were people, normally pretty smart and observant writers, coming away with the impression that everybody was naked?

Then I remembered an unrelated passage from Joel Garreau's great book about the history of the outer-ring suburbs, Edge City. Mall developers told him flat-out that they tried to keep the crowds in their malls less than 5% black. Not because they themselves were racist, but because they had determined, experimentally, that if more than 5% of the people in the mall are black, the median white shopper will wrongly describe the mall as at least half black, as mostly black. And not a few of them would describe it, at 6% black, as a mall where "only black people go." Why?

Because, emotionally, they were still upset over the last one when the next one came into view.

Same as the journalists describing Black Rock City as all naked. Same as the right-wing religious culture warriors describing television as entirely mixed-race and gender non-conforming. Not because it's even vaguely true, we know that, but because they haven't gotten over their discomfort over the last one by the time the next one comes along. The anger, not the stimulus, is the part that's continuous, so their mind lies to them that it's "all" the thing they can't get over.

[kagedtiger]

Similar effect for the presence/proportion of women in things, by the way: https://health.howstuffworks.com/mental-health/human-nature/perception/how-17-equals-496-the-amazing-multiplying-women.htm

[jayalaw]

What’s the solution then? Or if there’s no solution, should we make things even queerer and more diverse?

[tiktoks-i-enjoyed]

Clip of Lucy Dacus on the Las Culturistas podcast.

[daisy-if-u-do]

And this, in one video segment, is why I find heavily policed gendered spaces online deeply abhorrent.

If someone is trying to figure out how they fit in to the big picture, denying them 80% of that picture is cruelty.

[smoothjazzdigit]

Have you guys seen that clip

Go off Kermit

[juliathefacesofevil]

we're just normal men

[oddjoblin]

Why the heck is this dude trying to confirm if the frog puppet is hetrosexual???

[karnalesbian]

assessing the situation before he shoots his shot

[defilerwyrm]

Happy Pride to Kermit the Frog, questioning king

[zoomy-brain]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH 🏳️‍🌈

To all of us who’re just a mess ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🤎

[zoomy-brain]

Oh boy, this is getting notes again!

Hi, everyone, enjoy the little cartoon, avoid the notes and yes, I still fully identify as queer c: 🏳️‍🌈

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

feels like a real step back that with all the sexual freedom available to us we moved to Hookup Culture instead of Having Sex With Friends Culture

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

I find it weird, actually, that today it's more common to have sex with casual acquaintances you meet on the Hookup App than to have sex with people you already know and like and have fun with. and how if two friends have sex, there's an assumption there must be underlying romantic feelings. because apparently casual non-romantic sex is fine, but only with people you don't already like and care about?

I feel like the hippies and people who lived through the Free Love movement would be rightfully disappointed at us for these made-up lines we're drawing between Sex/Romance and (gasp!) Friendship. shockingly, it's fine to have casual sex with people you enjoy hanging out with and do not want to date. fun and healthy even!

[hextwo]

Ahhh... i dunno why but this feels like a result of purity culture.

Where 2 concepts clash:

You can have sex outside of marriage

But also sex is bad and you shouldn't do it.

It's not actually okay to have sex and it's shameful to do it and it'll taint your relationships if they know about it.

But also sex isn't bad and be free to do it whenever you want!

That turns into:

You can have sex but it's bad for your relationships.

So it's okay to have sex only if you're either planning to Marry them or Never seeing them again.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

HUH.... Society really fucked us on this one (and not in the fun kinky way ☹️)

[aren-after-hours]

I would like to say there are a few circles where people fuck their friends. Obviously in the kink community, lots of us fuck our friends bc the line between sex intimacy and friendship are already blurred by the nature of dungeon friends and kink friends. Like yeah you've seen me naked and moaning getting my ass beat and are aware I'm hot yeah we can fuck but we don't need to be more than just friends.

Queer people often also fuck their friends especially in rural areas bc there are literally no other queer people TO fuck.

This is just my experience though and I understand I am not an adequate sample size of the population but like there is hope is my point.

[hollypunkers]

kind of obsessed with the idea of the rest of the gaang leaving Toph and Zuko to watch over some cooking food and when they come back its burned and Katara starts fuming but Toph and Zuko are like “we’ve never stepped inside a kitchen in our lives and only have one eye between us, if anything it’s your fault”

[cypresstheworld]

[theloserarmy]

Top: If it bakes for 15 minutes at 350 degrees than it should only take 1 minute at 5,250 degrees

Zuko: I can do that

[paddy-nic]

Zuko: makes the "one eye, your fault" comment

Toph: YOU ONLY HAVE ONE EYE?!

[aren-after-hours]

I truly feel like they would either bond over vision impairment or make it to adulthood before toph realized zuko doesn't have two functioning eyes and she would be outwardly so mad at him but internally screaming for making sarcastic remarks to him about being able to see

[hollypunkers]

kind of obsessed with the idea of the rest of the gaang leaving Toph and Zuko to watch over some cooking food and when they come back its burned and Katara starts fuming but Toph and Zuko are like “we’ve never stepped inside a kitchen in our lives and only have one eye between us, if anything it’s your fault”

[cypresstheworld]

[theloserarmy]

Top: If it bakes for 15 minutes at 350 degrees than it should only take 1 minute at 5,250 degrees

Zuko: I can do that

[paddy-nic]

Zuko: makes the "one eye, your fault" comment

Toph: YOU ONLY HAVE ONE EYE?!

[afemalesebastian]

"Sewing is a gateway drug to thinking through complex problems. It seems really simple; culturally, we make it women's work. Let me tell you: real sewing at any kind of level of proficiency is a bloody magic trick. Sewing, like mold making, involves mental frames that require one to think inside out and backwards. It requires one to work on an order of operations that is often taking into account the reverse. It's a really, really important skill, and if you learn how to sew, you're mostly on your way to carpentry and welding and sheet metal work. I'm not kidding: these are planar forms meeting under rules and conditions. And if you can make a sleeve work, I swear to God, you could build a house."

--Adam Savage

[awritersrejections]

excellent tags via @gallusrostromegalus

[afloweroutofstone]

I am greatly entertained by the President Pro Tempore of Virginia’s state Senate, an elderly woman who constantly talks about her goal of countering GOP gerrymandering by rigging Virginia’s districts 10-1 in favor of the Democratic Party. She’s a rare breed for Democrats: completely ruthless, totally apathetic to criticism, only here to win. Here she is calling Sen. Tim Kaine a cuck for disagreeing

[starfieldcanvas]

ms. lucas i'm sorry i assumed that "calling sen. tim kaine a cuck" was hyperbole i wasn't familiar with your game

[doubleca5t]

Her 10-1 redistricting plan passed btw. Total L. Louise Lucas victory

[sandersstudies]

“Kids shouldn’t have to know about that.”

Okay so actually letting a serious topic be vague and confusing is much more scary for a child than explaining it in calm language they can understand.

[sandersstudies]

When you are in a safe place, explain the serious topic in a way the child can understand.

The fire alarm went off at school today because of a mistake, but your teachers did the right thing to take you outside to be sure it was safe.

Some people use wheelchairs because their legs don’t walk very well. It can happen because they are old and tired, or because they got hurt, or because they were born that way.

Your Uncle Jerod talked to mom and dad, and wants you to call her Aunt Kari now. We will call her Kari too, and we can all practice together if it takes some getting used to.

Anticipate age-appropriate fears the child might have so you can assuage those that are not a threat.

Yes, Kitty died at the vet, but that doesn’t mean that it’s not safe for Puppy to go to the vet.

Yes, Peyton and Jo are getting a divorce, but they are both still part of our family and love you very much.

Yes, Grandma has cancer, but cancer is not contagious, so you are not going to get cancer by visiting her.

Anticipate fears that are realistic, and give the child clear direction about what to do, and what happens next.

If someone asks you to get in their car without permission, find Mom, Mama, or a teacher and tell them right away. We will make sure you are safe.

If Sparky’s sickness makes him hurt very badly, we are going to take him to the vet and she will give him some medicine, and he will die, but then he won’t hurt any more. Because Sparky is very sick, we are going to spend some special time with him over the next few days.

If the fire alarm goes off at school again, follow the teacher’s directions. If the fire alarm goes off and you are somewhere alone, go outside, and ask a grownup to call 911.

Reassure the child that they’re safe and loved, validate their feelings, and see if they have follow-up questions. Give them the option to take space to process, or to stay near you to feel safe.

I’m sad about Sparky too. Do you think we could make his favorite peanut-butter treats, while we are spending special time with him?

I understand why Grandma’s cancer makes you feel angry. It doesn’t seem fair that people we love get sick. Would you like a hug?

You were worried about calling 911 if there’s not a grownup around. I wrote down some important things, like our address, and we can go over these together so you are ready if anything like that ever happens.

[sandersstudies]

These things are principally the job of the child’s parent or guardian, but in some cases directing the child to that caregiver is difficult or impossible (parent refuses/confuses the child, parent is absent, child’s questions are specific and relevant to a situation their parent was not present for, etc.) so I think all adults should be prepared to have these conversations with kids.

[lesvegas]

passing in public makes me feel like white shrek

[lesvegas]

literally how it feels

[bucketofdeltav]

So my beta reader for the Big Fics is an astrophysicist, right. Who is currently also writing a hard sci-fi novel about the exploration of Phobos (more power to them, I cannot with the physics required for that, best I can do is soft sci-fi/fantasy and that reminds me I should finish that story).

Anyway I was bitching about how hard it is to come up with feasible planets in Star Wars because sometimes you need a new planet from scratch and sometimes you need to know more about a planet than the 'has jungles, is probably a moon technically' than Wookieepedia will give you, and they're like 'oh yeah I can do something about that'.

So they've written (in Matlab but they swear it will run as a .exe as well and I may be conscripted to embed it as a web tool at some point) a star system generator.

You input what you know about the planet (ecosystem, population, sun colour, does it have liquid water, does it have a moon or moons, is it a moon or moons, temperature averages, atmosphere, you get me) and it will give you the... everything else about the star system, in obedience to real-universe physics. And if you input nothing you get a randomly generated star system.

And I’m like oh I know people who will be into this with a vengeance, and they're not on Tumblr, so this is me seeing who exactly would be keen on, and I cannot stress this enough, a real-physics comprehensive star system generator.

It's still in the debugging phase (last error fixed: every planet wants to have a population of exactly 5000 regardless of other factors, turned out to be a missing equals sign somewhere), but I'm psyched for this and trying to gauge interest for how high a priority 'make this an accessible web tool' needs to be.

[afurioushawk]

"These ancient Greeks sound too American. Everyone knows they should be sounding British."

[dancinbutterfly]

I hate to break it to this reviewer but Charleton Heston’s Moses absolutely has an American accent in the Ten Commandments and as the titular Ben-Hur.

What the fuck is he talking about?

Not to mention - why are his only golden age film references Charleton Heston Films? Is it because you can pry a British accent from his cold dead anachronistic hands?

Those choices make him look stupid and uninformed about film and weaken an already weak argument.

[kdrm]

us tv: reviewed 

[aren-after-hours]

Okay but genuine question as an American what is left besides childrens programming and news stations? Also you forgot to add mega church propaganda (either Christian tv show made by a mega church or straight up just their sermons) forgive me I am sick and high so I might have just forgotten shit but like. What else is there? Bc it's likes okay teen drama that's edgy(young adult/thriller), politics, sitcoms(comedy/family, "reality" tv), medical show("reality" tv/kinda it's own genre at this point), zombie shows (horror/thriller/also kind of its own genre now), Supernatural™(thriller/horror/paranormal with some crime thrown in), cops shows(crime/mystery/action),

You've got action, mystery, crime, thriller, some more horror esque stuff if it airs later at night, some "reality" tv and comedy, and somethings that you COULD get away with watching with your kids as well. Plus the news and usually childrens programs. We do also have lots of sci-fi and horror shows now, though it's unclear if your discussing shows in general or specifically television broadcasting. If it's the later, horror is considered "too extreme" for public broadcasting normally unless you happen to have a designated horror channel, and sci-fi is still considered "too weird" or often times "too liberal" to air on public networks.

Now you can get all of these if you pay for cable or more often streaming services but that's not regular tv anymore at that point.

[kdrm]

us tv: reviewed