Just to be perfectly clear, none of those things is hugely egregious or problematic on its own (the 'LGBT' acronym especially, I've seen a fair amount of 'Q+' people that associate with it just fine and that's understandable), it's just a lot of little things that tend to pile up over time. And yes, most of the time none of them are intentionally pushing us aside – but again, that's 'cus we'd have to exist in people's eyes for that intention to even exist in the first place.
Anyway. I dunno. Feels a bit overly whiny. But it's another one of those things I'd wanted to get out of my system ig.
Weaponized Incompetence: "You should do (x) because you're better at it than I am." "I don't know how to do (x). Can you do it?"
Learned helplessness: "I didn't know I could do (x)." "I never learned how to do (x). Can you teach me?"
These are similar on the surface level. But the vital difference is intention.
Weaponized incompetence is to prevent a person from engaging in a task. They'd rather not do it at all. This is intentional.
Learned helpessness comes from repeated lack of control in one's life that renders them with an ingrained sense of powerlessness. Oftentimes people with learned helplessness DO want to engage in the task given the opportunity. They just have barriers.
Both result in an an unequal division of labor. But learned helplessness can be surmounted while weaponized incompetence is an intentional excuse.
TL;DR: Weaponized incompetence is intentional and an excuse to make other people do the work. Learned helplessness is a result of repeated external factors causing a sense of powerlessness.
thanks for all the kind notes on our Look Outside cosplay group 🥰 here’s another pic of my Leigh mask and Rat Baby prop! I hope more people do cosplays from this awesome game!!
Progress pics under the cut
Progress pics since people were interested! Mind, this is not a tutorial and the whole project was an exploratory bumblefuck. I recommend Kamui Cosplay’s videos on YouTube to learn how to work with foam.
Bought a generic circular mask pattern on Etsy, first cut it out of paper and finagled with it, taping it, cutting it apart, retaping it, marking the locations of facial features etc. When I liked it, I traced it onto my craft foam and cut it out, sticking the pieces together with contact cement. I used a lot of both Barge contact cement and E6000 adhesive for this project, both adhesives have their different uses and advantages.
Foam clay… foam clay is the coolest and funnest thing ever. It was invented in 2019; the last time I cosplayed, it didn’t exist. We live in a wondrous age. Sculpted, sanded and reworked in many layers.
Rat baby time
Rathan was made out of 2 baby dolls stitched together. the head and fingers/toes were first made with craft foam parts acting as “scaffolding” to build up the shape (attached to the baby doll with contact cement) and then detail was sculpted with foam clay.
The rat tail was made out of a poseable wire embedded in a long cone I cut out of mattress foam, wrapped in a membrane of pantyhose fixed with super 77 spray adhesive. I also wrapped pantyhose around his limbs and torso to create wrinkles and lumps. This was a very unsexy process with a lot of fumes and gunk, and I did not take pictures bc I was not about to touch my phone with my gunky ass hands. I would not do it this way again, but idk how I would have done it otherwise.
The heads lookin all nice after being sealed with Plasti-dip spray and ready to paint. The body was much harder to seal as the plasti dip kept dissolving the spray adhesive that kept the pantyhose in place. I ended up slathering it with contact cement and letting that dry into a solid mass, then hitting it with the plastic dip again. I repeat, I do not recommend this
Painting was painting. A lot of cheap craft paint and a lot of mixing, because I really wanted to match the game’s palette. Painted Leigh’s eyes on a plastic mesh used for fursuit eyes, blasting the holes with compressed air to keep them clear. This was a PITA and it took me about 7 tries to get 2 okayish eyes. But I’m really good at it now soooo
Also if you want a matte finish on your props just bite the bullet and buy the liquitex acrylic matte sealer. it’s fuckass expensive but you literally cannot get a better, matte-er finish for cheaper. lesson learned
One thing I didn’t record was the infrastructure. i used magnetic clasps for the mask bc they’re strong but low profile, and I knew I would want to be able to pop the mask on and off in a pinch. These I fixed to the inside and top of the mask with contact cement (I covered them with a thin black fabric so they wouldnt look conspicuous), and they attach to magnets on magnetic straps that are sewn into the wig. This worked awesome.
The wig btw was a cheap 80s rocker mullet Halloween wig from Amazon that looked awesome and worked beautifully! I just chopped it down to Leigh’s hair length. We used the same wig cut even shorter for Hellen. It just looks exactly like Look Outside Character Hair.
This isn’t a tutorial and idk what I’m doing. But for people curious about the process I hope this is informative!
So can non-disabled people stop doing that thing where they act like it’s morally righteous to force yourself to work while you’re sick and assume taking sick days automatically equates to laziness. Any time now. That’d be great
The leader of the scout group I help out at approached me out of hours while I was walking to work to tell me that people have been talking behind my back because I missed more sessions than I attended this term (on account of having Covid twice) and was like “We all show up when we’re sick because we take responsibility” and I felt really shitty and guilty and cried the whole workday then I got home and told my mum and she was like “So they want you to throw up on the kids? That’s dodgy. They don’t even pay you. Stop going” and a wave of serenity hit me like a bus
Golden Girls was so incredibly progressive for its time and not even slightly afraid to be loud about it. They talked about queer people, about race, about ableism, and they made it central and overt. They talked about things that mattered, and they never punched down, and they were allies off the stage too.
Reblogging this again to add some context for anyone who may not know. In the 80's, being outed as gay could get you blacklisted in Hollywood. It ruined people's careers.
Bea Arthur and Betty White both suffered damage to their careers for standing up against racism and homophobia. Back in the 50s Betty White hosted a variety show that was canceled because she featured a black dancer and doubled down when they told her to stop.
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