Asexual Advice Hour @asexualadvicehour-blog - Tumblr Blog

Neurodiversity is the diversity found in the human brain and mind. A neurodiverse person, then, may have autism, PTSD, anxiety, etc. These are LGBTQ identities specific to neurodiverse folks.

ciscordian-deactivated20170628

its so nice to see aro/acevague and gendervague on here… orientations that i coined! i hope knowing this helps people

sketchythoughtsart

Just a little idea I wanted to try out, designing a Wayfarer using the colours of the Asexual pride flag.

I’m also wondering if people would be interested in seeing similar designs for other orientations; pansexual, bisexual, aromantic, etc? If not I’ll just leave it at this one for the Ace community. :)

Journey © thatgamecompany

#yes

lgbt-bi

Modern society, bisexual becomes more and more, perhaps say, as a new human concept is more and more open, there are more and more bisexual choose out, with the development of bisexual, a growing number of bisexual people choose out, some bisexual bar, bisexual dating sites began to emerge. Bisexual group experience gradually strong, one day, bisexual are all approved, accepted.

slashpalooza

I needed this, thank you♥

#ace/bi alliance #also works for biromantic

icewinerose

What it's like to be demisexual

WHAT PEOPLE THINK ITS LIKE:

*Me, with person I would like to be friends with.*

Sexual desire:

Originally posted by icefoxn64

Me: No. Go away. I don’t even know them yet.

Sexual desire: oh. ok.

Originally posted by yourreactiongifs

WHAT ITS ACTUALLY LIKE:

*Me, hanging out with someone I would like to be friends with, doing normal, platonic, friendshippy things*

Sexual desire: *lies completely dormant, unaware of the world around them.*

Me: this is nice.

*Becomes close friends with this person over a montage to save time for this post.*

*One day out of literally nowhere:*

Sexual desire:

Originally posted by rwbygameswithmarvel

Me:

Originally posted by nwordbelike

secretsfromwholecloth

Someone gets it! Super extra bonus points for the person being unavailable and/or a really, REALLY bad idea to sleep with.

(Side note: This is why the idea of “friendzoning” pisses me off so much. Because if I’m genuinely good friends with someone who doesn’t tick any of the “ew, nope” boxes (wrong gender, related to me, other issues on a case-by-case basis), “friends” doesn’t mean “no longer a potential partner”, it means “halfway to lovers already”.)

#demisexual testimony

phereinnike

Ok but a spanish mattress brand just showed a matress commercial that talked about asexuality and how it was valid and normal and it was really well put and easy to understand and it finished with “we believe everyone should do or not do whatever they want in their bed” and I was so happy I squealed. Here (x)

#representation

treeoflife2011

dear young girls who think that they may want a future with another girl:

-you are not doing this for attention

-you can call yourself a lesbian if you feel like you want to be

-you are not “keeping your options open” by labeling yourself as bi

-you can not call yourself anything

-you don’t have to come out

-you are not doing this for attention

-your attraction to girls is valid even if you cant pinpoint gay moments in your childhood

-your attraction to girls is valid even if you have never had a crush on a girl

-you are not “too young” to be thinking about this. people say that because f/f relationships are hypersexualized in our society. its ok to dream about having a wife one day and cuddling on the couch with her and adopting a dog together

-you are not doing this for attention

#this also applies to ace girls who like girls #you're going to be fine #affirmations

aubade

The niece of the great Mongol leader, Kubla Khan, Princess Khutulun was described by Marco Polo as the greatest warrior in Khan’s army. She told her uncle she would marry any man who could wrestle her and win. If they lost they had to give her 100 horses.She died unmarried with 10,000 horses.

Sandi Toksvig’s top 10 unsung heroines (via manicpixiedeathbitch, aubade) (via wheretheoscarwildethingsare) (via batty4u) (via spicychimney) (via murphels)

#aces and aros of history

oversoulultrasonicglassescleane

Ace Pride Flag Aesthetics

Pride Flag ACEthetics

Free to use however you like! No credit necessary, just leave a like or a reblog if you plan on it.

Have a good day, everybody, and remember that you are valid and enough. c:

(EDIT: Header made punny by popular demand.)

#art!

asexual-aphrodite-deactivated20

I 100% support Asexual Luke Skywalker

asexualadvicehour-blog

That is absolutely my interpretation. Aro, too.

#asexual characters #aromantic characters

pettyartist

Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise!

Late for #AceDay but I was stuck at work all day, boo!

This is a message to all spectrums of ace peeps out there, from the Ace Trainers: Me, kynimdraws and shoelesscosmonaut!

#affirmations #dat art style tho

runawaymarbles

x

#humor tag

saccharinerose

everyone keeps saying space is gay but consider this:

you can’t spell space… without ace

#INNNNN SPAAAAAAAAACE #humor tag

preciousillya-deactivated201708

Honestly I wonder how many aces with sex drives actually thought they were bi/pan before discovering the term asexual?

I wonder how many aces thought, “huh, sex sounds alright, and I get turned on while thinking about sex no matter the gender of the person, so that must mean I’m bi/pan.”

Because for me, that’s exactly how it was - before I learned what sexual attraction actually was, that having sexual desire for somebody who WASN’T engaged in a sexual act was actually a thing, I thought I was bi simply because sex with any gender was appealing. It was the stimulation, not the person.

Same thing for aromantics interested in life partnerships/QP relationships, who thought that wanting that intimacy with somebody and not caring what gender they were.

That kind of journey of self discovery is just as important as feeling broken before discovering the terms asexuality and aromanticism; don’t let anybody invalidate you because of your past identities, or for having a sex drive/want for a intimate relationship. You’re beautiful and valid and so important!

grace-and-ace

Yes!!!!! RELATABLE CONTENT!!!

daydreamingofdragons

I think this can apply to aces without a sex drive too. I assumed I was pan for a bit because my feelings about sex were broadly the same regardless of the gender of the person I was thinking of. Just took me awhile to figure out those feelings were actually ‘complete disinterest’. (Because, of course, everyone must want sex and I’m an everyone so obviously this is just what wanting sex feels like despite it not feeling like much of anything.)

alessariel

THIS IS SO IMPORTANT!

#asexual testimony

aromanticismspectrum

Platonic vs. Romantic Attraction

One of the trickiest things I have found as an aromantic, and a problem I have heard from alloromantic friends too, is distinguishing between romantic and platonic attraction. Learning the difference is a factor that contributes to many people realizing their aromanticism. Learning about platonic attraction, I have heard, also makes life in general loads easier and more enjoyable.

Romantic attraction is very loosly defined. Generally, most people include these in descriptions:

-“butterflies in stomach”

-always wishing to be with crush

-wanting to be physically close with person

-wanting to go on dates

-wishes of kissing, holding hands, embracing, etc

But this is not all it can be. Attraction is different for lots of people. The only question that really defines it is: “Do I want to be in a romantic relationship with them.”

Platonic attraction is something that most people feel, but many are unaware of its existence. Platonic attraction often is:

-hoping for conversations with person

-wanting to be emotionally/mentally close to person

-wanting to be physically close to person

-high excitement during/after conversation with person

-person brings joy during conversation

-general appreciation of existence

Like romantic attraction, this is very loosely defined. The general counterpart to “Do I want to date them” is “Do I want to be friends with them.”

Romantic and platonic attraction often overlap. Wanting to be physically close is something people experience through both types of attraction. Some people enjoy platonic kissing, and some people just appreciate their romantic crush’s general existence. Many people have trouble differentiating between the two. (These people often identify as quoiromantic.) There is no set way to determine what you are feeling. The label can only be put on by you.

#aromantic #aromantic testimony #attraction theory