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Currently having a crisis about the effects of purity culture on myself as an ace person trying to parse my romantic orientation. If you have stories youāre comfortable sharing about this, please add them here!
[ID: Pink and blue pony with green text reading āidk who needs to hear this but there is no glory in suffering just take the headache medicineā]
I agree so hard - if thereās an uncomplicated, unproblematic way to make yourself more comfortable, just do it
more like netflix and chili amirite
Image ID - person saying āwhat?ā While sat eating from a bowl in front of a laptop. Text says āfrom your ace friend who thinks this is the ideal way to āNetflix and chillāā
Happy Ace Week, everyone!! No matter where you are on the ace spectrum, you are celebrated this week! And if you are learning about asexuality, we hope that this week will prove helpful.
[image description: a purple square with the text "Happy Ace Week!! October 22nd-28th, 2023." There are illustrations of a rainbow in the asexuality pride flag colors (black, gray, white, purple) and a purple star character with a smiling face. The AVEN logo is in the lower left corner.]
Itās always yoga š¤¦š»āāļø
I love yoga, but it definitely is not making my fibromyalgia go away.
Yep. I literally had an anaesthetist recommend massage to me as I was walking into spinal surgery.
Spicy-brained friends, I would like to propose an update to the very useful āif you hate everyone, eat, if everyone hates you, sleep, and if you hate yourself, showerā mantra to live by
Have you suddenly become a petty, hateful little gremlin who thinks people should face the firing squad for (checks notes) leaving teabags on the counter, breathing loudly, or daring to exist in the same space as you? Perhaps mundane and reasonable requests like āhey, we agreed to hang out now, letās hang outā make you want to scream and move to a yurt in the woods.
You. Are. Overstimulated.
People talk a lot about being overstimulated, and the physical/mental effects of it. What I havenāt seen is people talking about what it does emotionally, and it took me an embarassingly long time to link up those nitpicky, resentful emotions with the state of overstimulation/meltdown/shutdown.
These feelings do not mean that youāre a bad person! They probably arenāt how you actually feel about the people around you. They probably do mean that your nervous system is at its absolute limit and any request/demand/stimulus is Too Much and taking you into fight or flight territory.
Go lie down in a dark room for an hour, or find somewhere safe and familiar to stim for a bit. If itās happening a lot, schedule yourself regular low-stimulation shutdown time
Signed: someone who moved in with their nearest and dearest only to have a massive crisis of faith about Suddenly Hating All of Them. I donāt hate them, itās just overstimulating living with people. If I can spare anyone else a similar 9 months of suspecting that they may actually be a bit of a shit person, then this post is worth it!
you might especially feel this way if someone picks up on your bad mood, but all their kind suggestions make you want to bite and scream. in my experience thatās not because you hate them or even the suggestion, itās probably because *any* new information or ideas, no matter how gentle, is just Too Many Thoughts. this is when it helps a lot to have a plan in advance, even if the plan is just ātake medicationā or āgo to hidey-hole,ā because trying to think of a solution in the moment might be beyond you.
(also if ur overstimulated, itās often worth checking if you need to eat/sleep/shower as well, because that might be part of whatās overstimulating you!)
chronic pain is also a source of overstimulation
i hate that bad backs aren't viewed as a disability. i hate that "Every back is a bad back" mentality. i hate minimizing back pain by encouraging people to "just take a tylenol". i hate that people who throw out their backs regularly are told to "just sleep it off" or even worse "just exercise, it loosens things up." i hate when people say "my mom has a bad back and she just powers through it."
let people with bad backs be disabled and talk about how much pain we are in, and how much of a disability living with a weak, broken, eroded, degenerative, or paralyzed spine is. let us talk about the horrors and dangers of spinal surgeries. listen to us when we talk about the limited options for pain management and how it is an absolute nightmare to get treated for back pain and receive medication that actually works.
having a bad back is a disability. being in back pain all the time is not trivial. having back pain so bad you can't sit or stand is serious. feeling shooting pain into your legs is a big deal. feeling like no matter how much you stretch or take medicine your back never seems to feel better is a genuine medical issue. listen to disabled people and stop dismissing our pain.
This is a short personal comic/ stream-of-consciousness I made to mark the last day of Deaf Awareness Month (September). Itās based on something that Iāve experienced a lot in my life, but rarely see mention of, even though itās a big issue. As a mainstreamed deaf person who grew up without sign language or a Deaf community, I had to learn a lot about advocating for myself and my language needs.
Isolation is very alienating and painful. So the next time you meet a deaf person, please, be patient, and respect the mode of communication they choose.
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[Image Description:
A six-page comic about deaf identity titled, āWhat Do I Mean When I Talk About Deaf Loneliness. All pages have capitalized text, simple colors, and drawings set on a white background.
The first page shows the title written in black in scratchy, rough lines. The final word, loneliness, is written in thick red marker.
The second page shows countless tiny black circles of the same size scattered over the entire page. The message is written in light blue and reads, āI mean not existing in a room full of people.. The letter O in of is filled-in with dark blue.
The third page shows nine stylized speech bubbles, each a different size and shape and which correspond to the words in the text. The message reads, āI mean always being talked about but never talking. All the words are light purple, except for the word talking which is a darker violet.
The fourth page shows a large column of text in the middle of the page surrounded by eyes of all different shapes and sizes. The eyes are all staring intensely at the words in the message, which reads, I mean stared at but never seen. All the words are green, with the word seen in light green against a dark green background.
The fifth page shows a tangled mess of black threads interwoven within and around the text, trailing off the page. The message reads, I mean being the joke but not laughing! All the words are in yellow, except for 'beingā and ālaughingā in dark orange.
The sixth and final page shows three large, mostly abstract drawings stacked with the text. At the top is a loose, sketchy drawing of the sun in yellow, and at the bottom a swathe of tan brushstrokes indicating sand dunes. The message reads, 'I mean having hands like water in a desert.ā All the words are brown except for the word water, which is bright blue and takes up the center of the page. It fades into a series of blue waves, which morph into various handshapes and letters in American Sign Language that reach up and around the word water, which is also rendered in the ASL fingerspelled alphabet. Finally, the word desert is written in dark brown, and is stylized with scattered brushstrokes to match the sand dunes. End of Image Description.]
We can't ibuprofen our way outta this one boys
This post was meant as a joke but it has come to my attention that literally none of us are ok
This is the energy y'all are giving off in the notes
Hey itās ace week and youāre local ace has something to say! Iāve been out as ace for 3 years now and itās still a big part of my identity that Iām proud of so hereās a lil something for those who need it!
Saw this and HAD to repost! I love it so much!!
Just looked up when ace week starts this year and Iām going to be in Disney World that whole week!! Itās going to be the BEST week EVER!!!!
Ace week starts October 24th this year!
All the aces in the house say WHOOP
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For a second I didnāt realize it meantĀ āhighā as in a stonerāI thoughtĀ āHigh Geologistā was like a rank of geologist or something and he was insulted you would challenge him to naming stones
great poast every oneš
I have drawn himā¦. The High Geologist
Canāt believe heās ace
He is now And hereās the photo evidence:
hey guysā¦https://twitter.com/MatthewLillard/status/1322648148364324864 so does this make it canon?
the high geologist has ascended
every time i see this post it getsā¦. better? but also weirder.
I always gotta reblog the High Geologist once in a while.
I love this too much.
Reblogging for the future
Who are you? And why do you broadcast private messages from Aceapp contacts?
If Iāve posted a message from you and you want me to remove it - please message me to say which one and I will get rid of it.
Hey kids, take it from an old forest hag: it's totally okay to half-ass your hobbies
... trace that picture for your journal
... like old cars without knowing how to fix them
... watch the movies without reading the comics
... super glue the part of the model
... learn one (1) way to make a braid
... watch how-to videos for every step of the recipe
... google every second word in that article
... use the automatic setting on your camera
And don't be ashamed. Real life isn't school. The all or nothing mentality is not healthy. Don't gate-keep yourself from stuff that might be fun. Shrug, grin, and hold eye contact with a boomer while you do it. It's good I promise.
Iām currently knitting myself a blanket that will be full of holes, dropped stitches and magically added stitches. That is okay because if i try to do it perfectly, it will never be finished.
In defense of staying up late the night before getting up very early to travel: it is 11pm and I only just remember to pack the keys to my house. To my own house.
Something Iāve noticed a lot of guys do on ACEApp:
Them: āhiā
Me: āhelloā
Them: āhow are you?ā
Me: āIām okay, you?ā
Them: āIām goodā
And then they never say anything else! What was the point in starting a conversation if you have nothing else to say? Itās just a bit bizarre
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