All Souls College, Oxford University, Oxford, England
by itchyfeet

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All Souls College, Oxford University, Oxford, England
by itchyfeet
(my favorite) ways to say i love you
you’re really something, aren’t you
come here
sit next to me?
you’re my favorite
i was just thinking about you
i notice you all the time
here, i made this for you
this song reminds me of you
if you do it, i’ll do it
i miss you so much
i wish i had known you sooner
you’re warm
https://twitter.com/CriminelleLaw/status/1037511306906099712
Reminds me of my mom getting remarried several years ago, for about a weekend - dude waited until after the wedding to tell her he expected her at waiting at home with dinner waiting when he finished work.
I dunno, like I get that this version of manhood is “normal” but goddamn is it the most brittle, contemptable fuckin thing
This is NOT these women’s fault in any way - these men hide their misogyny until they think you’re hooked. They know what they are doing.
These women are wise and brave. I admire them so much!
Not even touching the fact that he thinks teachers and nurses are lesser…he wants her to be less so that he can be more.
Am i the only one that thinks they could have come back from this? Like please tell me this was just the straw that broke the camels back and not a one off event. He must be an at least somewhat respectable person if she managed to stay with him up til that point. Him feeling lesser is a taught facet of his life pushed upon him by the patriarchy. It obviously damaged the way he viewed his gf, and his relationship, but that doesnt mean it cant be untaught. And of course its not this womans responsibility to be his teacher, but i hope she at least made him aware that this is what happened and why she left…
Literally how can you come back from someone wanting to have more power over you?
He’s not a little kid, he’s a grown ass man and if he hasn’t learned that 1. Teachers and nurses are smart as fuck and 2. That women aren’t and shouldn’t be lesser to him then when the hell is he going to learn from that?
Why does it need to be a final straw? Signs that someone is this fucked up are logs, not straws. And being a “respectable” person is easy when you’re lying about who you are and what you think.
These guys waited until they thought their women couldn’t possibly exist without them and then tried to shut down the things that made them special. Being nurses. Public defenders. Teachers.
These men pointed out what they were so proud of… how hard they worked… and tried suggesting that they stop. Tried making them feel bad about it. This is a common pathway into emotional and psychological abuse.
It was designed to make them feel bad and give it up. The next step would have been “what else can I take away”. Those situations where the woman’s confidence is shattered and it takes her years to get free of the asshole… 9/10 started with comments like this.
Please understand that this wasn’t an off the cuff thing. This was something he’s been thinking for a while, but waited to say til he thought he could make her change to suit him.
This is so important. These are not normal or innocuous comments these are red flags and classic behavior of abusers. People like this are insanely manipulative. They hook you in and pick you apart piece by piece. It starts with this, moves on to isolating you from your support system, and then flashforward a few years and you’re convinced that you’ll never be good enough and you need them to survive. You end up broken and completely subservient. These women did the right thing and are brave for speaking. Abusers aren’t usually the neighbors you hear screaming and shattering dishes like you see in the movies. They’re your “friendly next door neighbors” and they keep quiet. People are too scared to talk. Again, why her speaking up is so important.
THIS STUFF ALL OF THIS.
People wonder how anyone stays with an abuser - this is how. Because manipulative people don’t hit you or insult you on the first date. They wait until you’re invested in them and the relationship, and then they start small, with comments like this.
And they rely on the fact that so many people’s reaction will be “okay, that sucked, but we can come back from this.” They bank on their victim thinking that way. They might even apologize and claim they won’t do it again. But they always do, and they escalate slowly, so you’re a frog in a pot of hot water.
Don’t wait for the tenth red flag, because by then you’ll be starting to think that hey, that’s actually kind of a nice shade of red, so maybe it’s not so bad to have all these red flags around, maybe if I just decorated with them they’d be okay.
Also, women are not rehabilitation centers for poorly behaved men.
Ladies, this is how you do it.
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Biblioteca Palafoxiana, Mexico.
Today I went to this amazing place and books really are the most beautiful human creation ever, huh?
sunflowers to brighten the day🌻
never underestimate the power of:
• eating fruits and veggies
• going outside
• opening your windows and letting the fresh air in
• cuddling with your pet
• catching up with your sibling or parent
• complimenting someone you don’t know
• exercising
• journaling
• cleaning out your fridge and cabinets
• listening to happy music
• putting yourself first
• making and eating a home cooked meal
• washing the dishes/putting the dishes away
• washing/brushing your hair
Sen mavi giyin ben denizi unuturum.. ☁️
Important TED talks
Summer is time to relax but we should take the time to think. Here are my favorites ted talk videos that I think everyone should watch:
The virginity fraud - Nina Dølvik Brochmann and Ellen Støkken Dahl
This is what it’s like to go undercover in North Korea - Suki Kim
My escape from North Korea - Hyeonseo Lee
The Muslim on the airplane - Amal Kassir
The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong - Amy Morin
The skill of self confidence - Dr. Ivan Joseph
How to stop screwing yourself over - Mel Robbins
The Magic of Not Giving a F*** - Sarah Knight
Why the universe seems so strange - Richard Dawkins
The pattern behind self-deception - Michael Shermer
Militant atheism - Richard Dawkins
Why domestic violence victims don’t leave - Leslie Morgan Steiner
Lessons from death row inmates - David R. Dow
Lessons from the Mental Hospital - Glennon Doyle Melton
Why we choose suicide - Mark Henick
What’s Wrong with Dying? - Lesley Hazleton
I’m Taking My Body Back - Rupi Kaur
My philosophy for a happy life - Sam Berns
The surprising habits of original thinkers - Adam Grant
The surprising secret to speaking with confidence - Caroline Goyder
Want to sound like a leader? Start by saying your name right - Laura Sicola
Programming your mind for success - Carrie Green
All it takes is 10 mindful minutes - Andy Puddicombe
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I’m not sure how to post about how I’m doing for this but hey. 7 days!
stop believing that you ran out of time to shape yourself into who you want to be! stop believing that its ruined! stop believing you don't have potential! you are not a fixed being! you have endless opportunities to grow.
Autumn resides within me, filling her lungs with the air that brews a spell of otherworldliness that can only be seen in the bleeding trees and crunch of fallen leaves.
ig: rosenaufsuden
Clarion-Ledger, Jackson, Mississippi, September 1, 1939
I had just seen that 30 days of learning. And it seems like the perfect time because I recently started doing Duolingo for French. And what a perfect way to keep me going! I know technically I’m posting about this on Oct 3. But here is a picture that shows I’ve been doing it already for 6 days! I’m really quite proud of myself. So here’s to hoping I keep it up. Especially because next week I leave for vacation for 2 weeks. And sometimes vacations can throw people off. Wish me luck!
Is there a skill you’ve always wanted to master someday, but kept procrastinating on? A language you started learning – then abandoned? A topic in class you’ve never quite grasped? Or maybe you just want to expand your horizon and try something new? Distract yourself from your usual studies?
This challenge is the perfect opportunity to achieve that! Pick a skill and see how much you can improve and grow in 30 days – or really start working on your to-read list (I know those books have been piling up), your portfolio for that dream job in Illustration you want, or your blog you’ve been meaning to post more original content on.
Self-growth and development are so, so important, which is the main reason why I created this challenge.
The idea of this challenge is that people from all communities come together to gain knowledge, add skills and just have fun with the amazing amount of resources out there. This way, we can all support and motivate each other, whatever field you might be interested in.
Post an introduction with the hashtag #30dol with your goals and expectations for the month, and what your current level is. (Of course, you can join in later as well, but it’s fun to start a the same time!) In the end, you’ll be able to compare and see how much has changed!
Rules:
choose a topic or field you want to concentrate on
post an introduction to #30dol
define your goals or aspirations
update daily or weekly, we want to hear from you! ♥
post a picture, a sketch, or audio, whatever you deem fitting to show us all your progress for the day/week
Here are some ideas for you:
bullet journaling (read about it here on @emmastudies, here’s an amazing online course on it)
books/reading (if you don’t have a personal to-read list, here is one with the best books of the 20th century, best series with a gay plot/subplot, and books everyone should have read at least once)
coding (here are some sites to learn html, css, data science, python 3, java, etc.: x x x x)
design/illustration ( stickers and illustration, character illustration, Ink Illustration, 45 best adobe illustrator tutorials,
business/freelance/open your own shop (tips on how to open your own sticker shop, digital skills: web analytics and marketing)
languages (apps like lingodeer, duolingo, lingvist, busuu, blogs like @lovelybluepanda. there are also so many pdfs and amazing websites out there depending on your target language!)
online mass education courses (edx, coursera, skillshare, futurelearn where universities and professionals teach you about their subject - be that astronomy, engineering, ancient greek history, artificial intelligence or medicine!)
social media (learn to take iphone photos for your tumblr or instagram, and here’s a great post by @studyquill on how to start and maintain a studyblr!)
photography (travel street photography, find photographers you admire like annie leibovitz or henri cartier bresson and read about their path, or browse youtube channels like negative feedback which specialize on photography)
creative writing (there are tons of workshops online - you could also try to set yourself a piece or word limit similar to nanowrimo)
culinary (check recipe websites, or challenge yourself to try one new recipe a day, or dedicate the month to a specific cuisine)
music (learn music production, andrew huang has also made a video on how to start making music here)
film and filmmaking (karsten runquist’s channel is wonderful for film analysis, learn about cinematography basics here and film history here)
painting (acrylic painting, sketchbook illustration. you could challenge yourself to fill an entire sketchbook/create a piece every day or week, or to improve a specific technique)
Every resource linked is free (if you click on the links you can get Skillshare for free for two months and cancel anytime), so all you need is some free time and lots of motivation!!
I’m very happy to be announcing this to you all, and will be working on my Japanese for this challenge – so excited to see what you all and I will do and how far we can come!
Use #30dol as the general tag, and add your field (your specific subject, or writing, painting, lang(uages), pho(tography), film, book, design) to find people doing something similar! Though honestly one of the things I’m most excited about is the multidisciplinary aspect - we are such a brilliant and colorful community :)
Have fun guys!!
bringing this back for October!!
What a perfect time