[astrologymarina]

On the topic of being obsessed with introspection and “self discovery”, i recently read something by Viktor Frankl which I feel fits the whole following of astrology/mbti/personal discovery etc very well. He said that, because life has become void of meaning for many, because there is an “existential vacuum”, we compensate by “psycho-analyzing” ourselves, sharing our psychological problems and insights with others, discussing them, etc (and he predicted this development in the 40s!). An existential vacuum leads to an obsession with the own psyche that can be the cause of neuroses and its pseudo-therapy. Self-reflection can in itself be the root of many problems. I had a talk with someone about how phases of self-reflection and lots of journaling are often the least mentally stable and happy ones. When we feel good, we do not feel the need to conduct some sort of self-therapy. Viktor Frankl also came up with the concept of using a paradoxical intention for healing neuroses. A patient with insomnia, for example, cannot sleep because they so rigidly and obsessively try to sleep, which hinders them from relaxing into an unconscious state. So a paradoxical intention would be “for a change, why don’t you try to not sleep tonight, and just relax and think about something nice?” - which then makes them fall asleep quickly. Maybe by setting the paradoxical intention “i will not try to figure myself out and heal myself” many of the problems which were simply rooted in obsessing over yourself will take care of themselves.

[antiporn-activist]

Porn, marriage, and kids

“(Six hours of) pornography consumption had a most powerful effect on evaluations of the desirability and viability of marriage. Endorsement of marriage as an essential institution dropped from 60% in the control groups to 38.8% in the treatment groups. The effect was again parallel for males and females, students and nonstudents.

The most astonishing effect of prolonged (six hours) pornography consumption on family values, however, concerns the desire to have children…exposure to (six hours of) pornography reduced the desire to have children, and it did so in a uniform fashion. Male and female respondents, students and nonstudents alike, wanted fewer children on the average. The desire to have male offspring dropped 31%. The desire for female offspring, being lower overall, dropped by about twice that margin: 61%.

This reduction proved specific to gender. Males respondents expressed little desire for female offspring altogether. It is the desire of females for offspring of their own kind that, after consumption of pornography, shrank to one-third of its normal strength.

These findings suggest that prolonged consumption (six hours) of pornography, presumably because it continually projects the attainment of sexual joy without acceptance of social confinements and obligation, indeed makes having children and raising a family appear an unnecessary inconvenience. But such reasoning explains only the overall reduction in reproductive desire. It leaves unexplained the discrimination against female offspring by women.”

–Dolf Zillmann, Indiana University: Effects of Prolonged Consumption of Pornography, prepared for Surgeon’s General’s Workshop on Pornography and Public Health, 1986

Original at: https://profiles.nlm.nih.gov/NN/B/C/K/V/_/nnbckv.pdf

[animentality]

[dragonsagainstcapitalism]

Kinda hurtful towards people who DO shave (like me, I'm afab nb) cause now I just feel unattractive after reading that. I don't even shave for looks it just gets itchy if I don't.

Anyway shoutout to all cunt-havers who shave! You're beautiful and deserving of love and don't let the so-called "feminists" shaming you for your choices make you feel undeserving or unattractive. Feminism should be about autonomy and choice to do whatever the hell you want, not just doing the opposite of "traditionally feminine" things.

[feminist-furby-freak]

Ok but literally when outside of this one specific post have women EVER been shamed for shaving? If this one post made you this upset imagine how it feels for women who resist the pressure to shave even thought they have been bombarded with messages since they were preteens about how disgusting the natural (hairy) female body is. Can we stop making weird positivity posts for things that are completely socially accepted because one person on the internet said something critical.

No woman is preventing you from shaving and none of us are perfect feminists because unlearning patriarchal beauty standards is hard and takes work. But also let’s be realistic and use some critical thinking about why women are expected to be hairless and the implications of that.

And as someone with A LOT of skin problems I can tell you that stopping shaving has made my itching and eczema so much better. Why subject yourself to ingrown hair, razor burn, and body acne? Yeah it itches for the first week growing it out but it’s worth it.

Also please stop calling women “cunt-havers.”

[sapphsorrows]

the barbie movie and the culture around it was the ultimate libfem wet dream. shallow performative girlboss feminism that provided a brief feeling of change without any actual change.

[bucketxyz]

“emasculating” is a euphemism for “demeaning in a way only women should have to suffer”

[littlemissandry]

[eve-was-framed]

shout out to our greatest ally, wolves

[capricorn-season]

[peach-against-transphobia]

The stupidest shit terfs (and similar) do is the “don’t call me cis I don’t identify as cis” thing like....you don’t get a say in that

That’s like if you were told you benefit from white privilege and then try to claim you don’t identify as white 😑

[friendlymathematician]

Yeah, like, imagine if a male person was told he benefits from male privilege and then he tried to claim that he doesn't identify as a man and actually that means women hold privilege over him.

[antiyourwokehomophobia2]

I do not "act like a man" or "dress like a man" I act and dress like myself. It's not my fault that other people have decided that certain looks and acts are reserved for a certain subset of the population. Take that up with yourself. I'm not trying to emulate a man, I'm trying to express who I am.

[lebsianism-deactivated20221027]

“man is defined as a human being and a woman as female — whenever she behaves as a human being she is said to imitate the male.” -simone de beauvoir

[femmesandhoney]

"the buttress is a radfem?" yeah she posted this absolute banger of a post on instagram a few months ago

[socialmaya]

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

Yeah, when he called them out for molesting their daughters. But then he said their daughters had sexual fantasies about them instead and they were cool with that.

[madammedusasplace-deactivated20]

What the fuck?

[blackswallowtailbutterfly]

Yeah, his whole “electra complex” thing. He was studying “hysteria” in women and they were telling him how their fathers molested them and he presented his findings as the reason for these women’s problems. Well, he found out pretty quickly that the very colleagues who were paying him to figure out why their daughters weren’t happy with their shitty positions in society didn’t appreciate being called out like that and he was shunned. So he amended it to something they could swallow and something he could gaslight the women with: the molestation never happened! It’s a fantasy in your head! It’s all right, though, we all have erotic feelings for our parents. Yeah, sounds crazy, but it’s a normal part of our development. You can stop feeling bad and act like a proper lady now.

[basedandradpilled]

so many ppl don’t know this!! freud changed his theories bc he didn’t want to incriminate his cokehead friends after coming to the conclusion that female “hysteria” was the direct result of male violence against young girls

[princessterf]

From Why Does He Do That?: Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

[shirkers2018dirsanditan]

The “acknowledging women’s oppression = equating womanhood with victimhood” has become a really common argument recently, I’ve noticed.

yes its such a psyop

[leechfruits]

😐😐😐

[detransed]

It took a mass shooting of an LGBT+ nightclub for TRAs to realize men would take advantage of gender self-identification

[divinedionne]

I love their excuse is “well nobody calls him those pronouns and this is brand new”

Please do tell:

How long someone has to be out before their trans identity is valid

How many ppl need to comply w your preferred pronouns before it’s valid

If closeted trans people are valid or not

[crazyalien87]

it's not that hard to understand that someone who only came out as nonbinary right after murdering queer people is probably lying. it would be exactly the same if he came out as bisexual or gay. it's very suspcious and seems like he is just trying to get out of going to prison for a hate crime.

[divinedionne]

Okay. So you’re saying that the men who waited until they were fully in clutches of the law for sex crimes to come out as “transwomen”-we can be reasonably suspicious of their identity and thus rightfully resist them being transfered to women’s prisons.

So you agree with TERFs then. Great. Try to convince others to stop harassing us about not wanting male offenders being transferred in female prisons on the basis of identity then.

[sick-sad-world-revolution-now]

@queeralien87 We do not refute the fact that he did this on purpose in order to have a better defence, in fact it’s exactly what we are saying in all cases involving a trans-identified male. Look up at those cases (rape, murder, even possession of child pornography, etc) and you will see this that it is a pattern. You (and by that I mean gender activists in general) decided to ignore that and to call feminists “bigoted” or right-wingers simply for acknowledging something we can easily observe. It’s time to have critical thinking.

It’s sad that you only see such a manipulative male tactic in the context of such a terrible drama but please now start extend those thoughts to all the cases where a man started to identify as trans just before or just after committing a crime. Why should we not believe this one while believing all the ones currently in prison with women ? This isn’t even just about where he will be sent but the punishment he will receive. This has chances to not be qualified as a hate crime. If justice decides to follow the “right to self identification” then justice will not be truly accomplished.

[fdhfjdafdajfa]

The social conditions which lead to an increase in prostitution, astoundingly, are not actually female enpowerment; they’re widespread poverty and exploitation. The increase in prostitution in Greece since the financial crisis is not actually because the women have been empowered by IMF/World Bank. The high rates of prostitution in refugee camps are not, astoundingly, because refugee camps are utopian bastions of gender equality. Invading armies typically do not arrive as liberators, so rather than explainig the growth of the sex trade in the wake of invasions of armies like those of the US or Japan as an act of genuine liberation, it makes more sense to seek other explanations.

One clue might be the fact that higher levels of prostitution are typically accompanied by higher levels of alcoholism, addiction, authoritarian political tendencies, crime, early death, unemployment, poverty, debt, and imprisonment. If this is caused by gender equality and womens’ liberation, then this form of womens’ liberation is the greatest enemy of people everywhere.

[eliyanah-deactivated20220918]

some good fucking takes in the NYT comment section for once

[sapphos-catpanions]

an old economics professor of mine studied crime his whole professional life, spanning about 4 decades. one day we asked him to sum up his research in a few words, if he could. he chose to do so with this:

“just lock up all men under 25.”

[spoonwizardd]

gender is a performance and im getting heckled by those old gay muppets