where the northwind meets the sea

“Only in silence the word, Only in dark the light, Only in dying life: Bright the hawk's flight On the empty sky. —The Creation of Éa” ― Ursula K. Le Guin

[sunanthrope]

"But what if people will pretend to need this accessibility option so they can be lazy! People who don't need it will use it!!" I don't actually care

I dont care if 9/10 of the people who use the wheelchair ramp arent actually in wheelchairs. As long as the 1 person who needs it has access to it.

I dont care if 9/10 people who use the automatic push button on the library door can actually push the door open themselves. As long as the 1 person who the door is too heavy for gets to use it.

I dont care if 9/10 people who buy the can tab opener, or the little guitar clamp that holds the chords for you, or the hand grip that helps you hold chop sticks, don't need any of it and just get it to "be lazy". As long as the one disabled person who needs it gets access to it.

I do not care. Oh my GOD I do not care. As long as there's a disabled person on this planet who the accessibility device will benefit, the accessibility device is necessary.

Also, if you're so worried about people being "lazy" by using accessibility devices, MORE worried than you are about disabled (visibly or not) people not having access to them, you have unchecked ableism you need to work through.

[jenroses]

Lazy usually means "efficiency driven" or "executive function issues."

We have got to stop using it to imply "malingering".

And yeah, the curb cut effect is great.

It means I can get around more easily in my wheelchair most places, but also large package deliveries are so much easier on the driver.

[prismatic-bell]

Also, demand drives supply of minority needs.

Let's say you have a town of 100 people. Two are in wheelchairs.

There are no curb cuts.

Nobody sees why there should be. I mean, that's a lot of money to spend tearing out sidewalks and redoing everything for two people, and they hardly even go anywhere anyway (gee, I wonder why), it's not really worth it....ugh. The law says we have to. We can put them on the downtown main crossing I guess.

...oh, but hey, we also have two people with walkers, and one of them is Mrs. Jane Doe, who works a lot with the church and is deeply respected in town. Maybe it's not a great look if we're so nasty about putting these in. Okay. Two crossings and it looks good--

--oh. And we have...seven moms with strollers? Who've been saying how much they love those crossings because taking a stroller up and down a curb is such a hassle? Well...when you put it that way...and them being more easily able to shop has been stimulating the local economy...I guess we can do most of the downtown curbs, especially with the extra reven--

--what? And the mayor's wife broke her leg, and she's considering it such a blessing to not have to take curbs on crutches?

...oh hey. Twelve percent of the community is actively using those curb cuts now. And all seven of those moms have partners. That's nineteen percent who are in favor. And Jane Doe is a widow, but her pastor and the head of the ladies' Bible study and her son have all seen how much safer it is for her going from the church to her house. That's 22%. Oh--and the jogging group? There are six of them and they've had no slips, stumbles, sprains, or falls since the curb cuts went in. It's easier to cross in morning fog when you don't have to look for the edge.

Now elections are coming up. 28% of town is like "hell yeah curb cuts." We'll say 30% can't vote, because some of them are kids and some aren't citizens and, yes, some just can't be assed. That means you need 36 votes to win the mayorship.

One candidate says the town has already met their legal obligations and it's silly to add more curb cuts. The other says the curb cuts have been such a boon to so many townspeople, it seems only natural to have them on every corner.

Who do you think is winning this election?

Who do you think is more likely to be responsive to "hey, we have some blind folks in town, we should consider those street crossing buttons that talk to you"?

Which scenario--the one in which people say "oh, I can't use those, those are only for wheelchairs," or the one where everyone uses them and the two percent in wheelchairs go "heck yeah ma'am, I'm glad it helps you too"--do you think is more likely to result in the people in wheelchairs getting the resources they need?

If everyone else had said "those are only for wheelchairs," do you think full curb cut expansion would even have been on the mayoral candidates' radar?

Accessibility is not pie. It's the vending machine in the break room that gets taken away if nobody uses it.

[godtrauma]

the man who owns and runs the thai restaurant in my town knows me by name. he is one of the kindest and most thoughtful men i know. i started ordering from his place back in january, which was when i got my fibromyalgia diagnosis. back then i was using a walker, had limited mobility in my entire body but especially my hands, and was very visibly in pain. i always ordered the same thing: yellow curry with no meat, potatoes and carrots only (i have texture and other dietary issues). he always made it a point to make sure i could get out the door and carry the food safely. he had his workers package the food so that it was easier for me to open. as i kept coming back and i told him a little bit about my health status, he would always encourage me to keep going. he told me about how the spices he used were good for inflammation and began to edit the recipe just for me so that spices that were even better for fighting inflammation were used. he’d give me extra portions and despite the fact that i would tip every time, i realized later that he never charged my card for them. as time went on and my condition began to get better, he would make encouraging remarks and tell me how happy he was for me. the day i came in without my walker, he practically jumped for joy, and despite my insistence, he gave me my meal for free that day. i continue to make progress with my conditions and i continue to go to the thai place. this man who does not know me personally and who i hardly know anything about is one of my favorite people. it’s interactions with humans like these that make loving life easier. and his curry really does help my chronic condition. it’s comfort food taken to the next level.

[northstareclipse]

"Some preferences have to be sacrificed for society" is such a broad statement that it can cover everything from

"Maybe not every household needs its own industrial-grade leaf blower."

"Maybe we should accept denser housing and shared infrastructure."

"Maybe private lawns should become community gardens."

all the way to

"You don't get control over your schedule."

"You don't get privacy."

"You don't get to choose your own aesthetics."

"You don't get to decide who has access to your emotional life."

"You don't get to opt out of communal activities."

"You don't get to have tastes that aren't socially approved."

Those are not remotely the same category of thing.

Some people treat all preferences as interchangeable units. They imagine a giant pile labeled "individual desires" and then talk about reducing it by 15%.

But preferences aren't equal.

Wanting three power drills when one shared drill would do is different from wanting control over your schedule.

Wanting a third car is different from wanting a bedroom door that locks.

Wanting a private yacht is different from wanting the ability to listen to music nobody else likes.

Wanting a 10,000-square-foot mansion is different from wanting to spend an evening alone.

The fact that these get lumped together is what makes the discussion so frustrating.

Because someone says, "Well, people will have to make sacrifices."

And I ask, "Okay, what sacrifices?"

And they think I'm being difficult.

No, that's the entire question.

A society that says, "You can't own six lawnmowers because we have a tool library" is making a very different demand from a society that says, "You can't go to bed when you're tired because the wellness committee has determined that lights-out is at 10 PM and not a minute earlier or later." The first one is actually a functional society. The second one is a "therapeutic" boarding school for adults.

[hyperlexichypatia]

Food. Clothing. Manual labor. Medical choices. Sexuality.

There is a vast difference between "You can't get out-of-season produce on demand, because the resources needed to make that available are unsustainable" and "You can only eat food obtained locally or grown yourself or cooked yourself."

There is a vast difference between "We don't need multiple iterations of the exact same product under different brand names" and "We don't need gluten-free or high-protein or low-fat or vegan or kosher or other specialized food because those things don't' matter."

There is a vast difference between "Fast fashion with oil plastic fabrics made in sweatshops with quasi-slavery conditions needs to be abolished" and "People should only wear handmade bespoke clothing."

There is a vast difference between "Everyone should have the free time and space and resources to pursue hobbies like gardening, canning, cooking, sewing, knitting, and other crafts" and "People should have to rely on small-scale crafting to survive."

And sexuality and medical choices... well, I talk about those all day, so.

[dailymanners]

If you've been feeling lonely / isolated lately, and you're lacking the time/energy/spoons to do something like joining a club or an activity, a low effort / stakes / spoons thing to do to connect with people more is just taking pictures of cool / neat / pretty things you encounter in your day to day life and sending it to your friends / family / associates with a little caption about it.

I learned this from my cousins after they moved abroad. It was their quick, easy, low stakes method of reconnecting / staying connected with family, like if they went for a bike ride by a lake taking a picture and sending it to us like "went for a bike ride by the lake today and the lake was so pretty!".

When I'd been feeling pretty isolated because a chronic fatigue condition was making going out and socializing too exhausting for me, and one of my cousins sent one of their messages, it was a big lightbulb moment like "hey wait a second, why don't I just do this to stay connected with the people I've been drifting from since this chronic fatigue condition has been keeping me from spending as much time with people as I'd like?" and I did.

I'd take pictures of wildflowers and send it to people with a little "look at this cool wildflower I saw today, it smelled so good", and doing this with cats, and birds, and whatever cool or pretty or interesting things I'd encounter during my day. Maybe sometimes doing this with interesting dishes / culinary projects, you get the drift.

I'm not saying it was a complete replacement for actually going out and spending time with people, but it was amazing how much of a difference it made in how isolated vs connected I felt, and subsequently the difference it made in my mental health.

It might seem like a really obvious thing to some, but if you're struggling with the types of ailments that can lead to isolation, either physical or mental, it's incredible how easy it is for "obvious" solutions to escape you. It's low effort, low spoons, the majority of people like seeing or hearing about cool or pretty or interesting things, and it says "hey, I'm thinking of you and you still matter to me" without having to come right out and say it.

[afemalesebastian]

"Sewing is a gateway drug to thinking through complex problems. It seems really simple; culturally, we make it women's work. Let me tell you: real sewing at any kind of level of proficiency is a bloody magic trick. Sewing, like mold making, involves mental frames that require one to think inside out and backwards. It requires one to work on an order of operations that is often taking into account the reverse. It's a really, really important skill, and if you learn how to sew, you're mostly on your way to carpentry and welding and sheet metal work. I'm not kidding: these are planar forms meeting under rules and conditions. And if you can make a sleeve work, I swear to God, you could build a house."

--Adam Savage

[deadsetagainst]

australian sour patch kids have gluten in them i am truly at my fucking limit im crashing out im waging war against wheat idgaf anymore

[amvs]

oh is that one of those things where ableist companies put in traces of common allergens so they can just avoid the cost of making it safe

[deadsetagainst]

WHAT

[amvs]

Why Manufacturers Are Intentionally Adding Allergens to Their Foods

A trend we predicted in 2016 continues.

US based but it’s similar reasons in other countries. and of course many companies have international locations. idk if that’s why it’s happening with sour patch kids but this is a thing

[rosetintmyworld84]

I cannot even explain how ANGRY I am at this.

My nephew is very allergic to eggs, peanuts, tree nuts, and sesame. Last year my sister discovered all hot dogs and hamburger buns now contain sesame. Not "may contain", but listed in the ingredients. This year basically every brand of sliced bread also now contains sesame, making it very difficult to find bread items he can eat.

They're just adding it to their products, so they can just list it as an ingredient and not bother with worrying about cross contamination. And they aren't even bothering with telling anyone. Capitalism is going to kill us all.

"Which brings us back to Kellogg’s. Back in 2016, the company found a way around the added burden and expense of complying with the FSMA: they simply began adding trace amounts of peanut flour to their cracker products. Doing so allowed them to list peanuts as an ingredient of the product, freeing them from having to prevent cross-contact.

At the time, Kellogg’s notified Food Allergy Research and Education (FARE) about the impending change and left it to them to warn the allergic community. In this case, Pearson’s didn’t even bother as near as we can tell."

[sandersstudies]

It’s really fun to be

1. dedicated to Playing Nice with others, and helping others get along

And also

2. notorious for Taking No Shit

Because people will be foul and nasty to each other and then I insert myself like “hello all of my Friends how is everyone today :) is everyone feeling Kind?”

Nobody tries to convince me they’re right. Nobody tries to get me on their side. They know I Take No Shit. Everybody just Plays Nice until I’m gone.

If only they would realize that they can Play Nice and also Take No Shit. It’s possible.

Play Nice is about being civil, not being a doormat.

Take No Shit is about setting reasonable boundaries, not being mean.

[sandersstudies]

I’m gentle parenting a bunch of adults.

[sandersstudies]

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[sandersstudies]

It is like. Shockingly difficult to argue with someone who is both dedicated to being courteous but also not moving an inch. It’s easy to be mad at them obviously but it’s difficult to argue.

I’m living life with everybody mad at me and nobody arguing with me. And if you never argue with me well then as far as I know we are Friends and I’m going to continue to treat you like a Friend.

You might think Clarity and Kindness can’t piss you off but oh what if you want to fight what if you want to fight SO bad and I don’t give it to you? I’ll let my Clarity and Kindness be the worst thing about me.

[sandersstudies]

You understand. Making people say what they mean really can shock them.

Asking “what action can I take to help you right now?” in the middle of a string of complaints stops them cold in a similar way. They can’t just keep saying things they are upset about, they have to be part of the solution.

[prokopetz]

Thoughts on the schism?

"The Society of Saint Pius X pulled some excommunication-worthy fuckshit" is basically any given Wednesday. The only mildly surprising thing is that it took the Vatican this long to pull the trigger!

[rlyehtaxidermist]

I do think that the funniest way to respond to schismatics whose core complaint is that your institution is changing too quickly is to take nearly 40 years to openly declare them schismatics.

[beatrice-otter]

I mean. "you're changing too quickly/too much" is the way the complaint gets phrased in public, but that is not the core of the issue. For example, take Latin. If all they wanted was to have mass in Latin, they can do that. My understanding is that under the current Pope, you don't even have to get special dispensation to do it! You can have every mass in Latin if you want!

... what you can't do is use the old wording which blames all Jews for the death of Jesus, no matter which language you use.

And there's a bunch of other stuff like that, where you look at which traditions they want to keep that the Vatican isn't letting them, and it's not just "tradition." They talk about tradition and what they actually mean is antisemitism, fascist-leaning stuff, racism, and misogyny.

If the Roman Catholic Church is telling you you're too antisemitic, too racist, too misogynist ... yikes.

[achillesinhighheels]

Naomi Osaka at 2026 Wimbeldon wearing Hana Yagi

[tlirsgender]

What is up with lefty types pushing to learn practical skills (sewing/gardening/etc whatever) as like "you'll need to know this after The Revolution:tm:" and not, like, "this is a useful skill to help yourself & others in your communities Right Now". You all sound like doomsday preppers and it's weirding me out. We don't have to prep for communist rapture maybe thee revolution starts with helping your neighbors

[sotrias-labyrinth-deactivated20]

I feel like ODD being an official disorder in the DSM should be the thing that makes everyone go “hm” about how psychology is practiced

[txttletale]

[looking a child directly in the eye] i diagnose you with Shitty Bitch Syndrome. this makes it legal to do medieval german tortures to you by the way

[cringepics]

cmon man

[picklepuffin]

Hi I have an undergrad psych degree! I also have ADHD! In my motherfucking TEXTBOOK, the authors said, “Research describes ADHD as a neurodevelopmental disorder in the same vein as Autism. We are putting the (miniscule) section on ADHD in the same chapter as ODD, though, because we believe really these disorders both boil down to ✨️ people not doing what we tell them to because they are lazy✨️”

So my actual TEXTBOOK admitted that it was biased and teaching these disorders based on opinion and not up to date research. And, as described above, the section on ODD was basically just, “these are bad kids. We will not look into why or how or what comorbidities exist and we will also not be exploring the possibility of ODD really being a manifestation of trauma/undiagnosed adhd/autism/pathological demand avoidance/persistent drive for autonomy. We will however be mostly focusing on how annoying these kids are to their parents and teachers ✨️”

It’s fucking crazy. “Yeah we know lots of people with autism struggle to follow demands. They may either ignore/not register demands or have meltdowns when demands are placed. They may engage in physical aggression, verbal aggression, and property desctruction when directed to complete tasks or be exposed to uncomfortable sensory input. They may need to know the why behind demands and consequently argue with authority figures. They may be easily upset by sensory input or social interactions and have emotional outbursts when pushed beyond their limits. Some children with autism seek attention and may engage in maladaptive behaviors to elicit the attention of peers and caregivers if positive attention is not given freely/if they are ignored when behaving appropriately. All of these are symptoms of their underlying neurological differences and should be met with compassion and understanding. They are not bad children. Their brains process information differently and therefore they have executive functioning, sensory processing, and emotional regulation challenges that cause these behaviors.

Those kids over there? Yeah they have all the same symptoms but they are just Morally Wrong and Bad Children. They have Oppositional Defiance Disorder. How can I tell? Well that one hand flaps and that one doesn’t.”

[brightlotusmoon]

[glorioustidalwavedefendor]

How would you even measure that?

Things adults wrongly identify as arguing:

Asking for clarification

Asking any kind of question

defending yourself

answering a question teh adult has just asked you

breathing

Existing

Oh, also:

Race and the Mental Representation of Individuals Diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder: Implications for Diagnosis

Results: Classification images (CIs) showed that the children selected as having ODD appeared more prototypically Black in facial appearance than children not chosen as having ODD. No differences emerged in the gendered appearance of the two group-level CIs. Judged rates of ODD were higher for the children who appeared to be Black. However, diagnostic judgments of clinical trainees and practitioners were unaffected by appearance factors, suggesting that formal clinical training might attenuate the influence of stereotypes on judgment. Discussion: These results indicate that an overlap in Black stereotypes and diagnostic criteria for ODD might contribute to elevated diagnosis of ODD in African American children.

[whereserpentswalk]

Overwhelmingly Black diagnosis.

Pathologizes problems with authority to dismiss them as irrational.

Drapetomania - Wikipedia

[depsidase]

[robotslenderman]

The recent hot VS cold polls have made me realise that a lot of people have no idea how to cool down.

As someone from a hot country that's regularly on fire, here's some tips:

WATER IS YOUR FRIEND! WATER! IS! YOUR! FRIEND! You can transfer SO much heat into this bad boy! You cannot cool down without water!

Wrists under the cold tap. Splash your face and the back of your neck. Fan yourself.

In some countries you can buy a little handeld fan with a water sprayer.

Damp tea towel around the neck. Stick an ice pack in there on hotter days.

Half fill a water bottle with water, stick in freezer. If you use a bottle with a straw, make sure it's lying on its side with the straw side up and out of the water. When frozen top up the rest of the way with tap water and off you go.

Desperate to cool off? Wet T-shirt. Sit in front of a fan. This will nuke it, just don't get hypothermia and don't fall asleep like this.

Cold showers are also your friend in summer. Some people get psyched up by these. Personally, I sleep like a baby, so I'm good to have them before bed. Just keep in mind that it takes a bit of time for the cool to circulate, so your body will tell you that you're colder than you actually are. I find that when I have cold showers I need to step out of the spray when I think I'm cold... I'll just wait, and thirty seconds later the temperature has evened out and I actually need to step under again. Rinse and repeat until you maintain coolness even after stepping out for a bit.

If you can't do cold showers, turn the cold shower on anyway and just stick your arms under. When they're cold, lift your arms up above your head. The sensation of cool blood draining into your body is fucking weird and kinda unpleasant but less unpleasant than being hot.

Feet in a tub of water with ice. Blood naturally flows to your extremities when hot, so take advantage of this. If you don't have a tub of ice water, sticking a wet rag on your feet in front of the fan works too, it's the less powerful version of the wet T-shirt.

Drinks lots of water but make sure that water has electrolytes as well. Stay in the shade.

Keep air circulating. Fans don't actually cool rooms down, they just help transfer heat from your body to the moisture on your skin or the air via evaporative cooling.

Block north facing windows early in the morning so the sun doesn't get in. If you're in the northern hemisphere, this is opposite for you. Keep in mind that if your home is brick, the bricks will still heat up and slowly release heat into your home even after the sun goes down so this will only do so much.

If it's hotter inside than outside, close all your windows but two, making sure they're on opposite sides of the house/unit you're in. Point a fan out of one window, making sure that the doors between the rooms with the open windows are all open. This will help create a mini pressure system in your home, pulling cooler air in and pushing the hotter air out via the fan. Bonus points if you can get that fan high up where the hot air rises; even within a single room the top is much hotter than the air by the floor. Adjust the amount of open windows based on how many fans you have, but generally you want more windows with fans open than windows without fans to keep the pressure correct.

Obviously, use your common sense for these. Not everything WILL work for you, just use the stuff that does and adjust what needs to be adjusted. Some of these will be impossible to use in the workplace but others you can still use. Others are best used at home. If humidity impacts your ability to use any of these, get a dehumidifier if that's an option, or use more ice instead of evaporation.

Also keep in mind that the skinnier you are, the faster these will work. More fat means more insulation, means more heat, so you may need to be more patient with some of these or use them in combination.

[robotslenderman]

Bringing this back for my dying mutuals

[coinin]

Electrolytes are really important! You lose a lot of salt from sweating.

They also don’t have to be expensive! Here’s a simple recipe from the University of Virginia health system:

32 oz / 950 ml water

1/2 teaspoon / 3 grams salt

2 tablespoons / 25 grams sugar

The source, which includes more rehydration options: https://med.virginia.edu/ginutrition/wp-content/uploads/sites/199/2023/12/Homemade-Oral-Rehydration-Solutions-11-2023.pdf

[quick-nip]

(via Saturday Morning Cartoons: Baopu #15) by Yao Xiao

words to remember

[ceylonsilvergirl]

THIS HAS MADE AN ACTUAL DIFFERENCE IN MY LIFE!!

Implementing this has improved how I feel about myself, and HOW I SEE OTHER PEOPLE!!

I’m not a burden to put up with. I’m a person who deserves respect, but does have some idiosyncrasies.

Other people aren’t barely tolerating me, they’re being patient and considerate and working hard to be polite.

And I find that when I acknowledge the good I see in other people, they feel respected and appreciated.

[dagenssvenska]

Prima reaktionsbild från Filifjonkan

[quasi-normalcy]

So what I think is that there's this default belief in patriarchy that men are superior to women and therefore the "masculine" sphere is superior to the "feminine" sphere. And so, as feminists have fought to expand the number of allowable female activities, men (on the aggregate over generations) have retreated from those activities because they're now seen as "feminine", and so partaking in them is incommensurate with their belief in their own superiority. And, unfortunately, as this has progressed, this has resulted in a lot of men sectioning themselves off from, frankly, everything that actually makes being alive worthwhile. It's a misery spiral, and the only way out is to abandon male supremacy.

[quasi-normalcy]

#men gave up deep friendships and reading and poetry and colourful fashion#all things that used to be considered manly in the 19th century#they're currently giving up on studying law and medecine#it's so stupid and sad

(I mean, the colourful fashion was more of an eighteenth century thing, but yeah)

[quasi-normalcy]

#more women in higher education meaning fewer men is incredibly depressing to me. funny in a sad way#what happens when women will finally get into trades? will they just stop working

[sherryzade]

spectacular tags from @luesmainblog

[arisingonmorningsinnocent]

[image: tags that read: #what's interesting is manosphere dudes seem to be vaguely aware of this problem - but they're unwilling to make the steps needed to change. #their idea of manhood is still centered around being a Provider and Protector and Successful and having power over others and money and gal #AND they define masculinity as that which is Not feminine. #so as more and more thing become universal - they feel backed into a corner as masculinity is "taken away" because NOTHING is immune #to femininity anymore - and all the things they define themselves by are becoming unisex and therefor not masculine. #and to them the ONLY solution is to push back and keep women out of those spaces and force them back into "truly feminine" things. #despite constantly preaching strength they are all too emotionally weak to consider the alternative. #and you can SEE the anxiety in their rambles. it's like they think they're being forcefemmed.]

[whatbigotspost]

2021:

Spanking has negative long-term effects, Texas researcher's review of nearly 70 studies finds

Researchers focused on whether kids that are spanked are more likely to share or, conversely, more likely to have anxiety, years down the li

2021:

The Effect of Spanking on the Brain

Spanking found to impact children's brain response, leading to lasting consequences.

2018:

Science Again Says Spanking Hurts Kids Long Term

The American Academy of Pediatrics says new evidence and research not only show that spanking affects a child’s brain development and increa

2016:

Spanking Harms Kids, Doesn't Work And Leads To Long-Term Problems

Kids who are spanked tend to act out more and have more problems later on.

2012:

A study reviewed more than two decades of research on the effects of spanking and found nothing positive to report, only that physical punis

2010:

The Long-Term Effects of Spanking

A multiyear study shows spanking kids makes them more aggressive later on

I haven’t pissed people off lately by reminding them that ALL types of physical punishment of kids has been proven beyond ANY reasonable doubt to have only negative long term outcomes.

So let me scream it from the hilltops:

Stop hitting kids. End of sentence.

If you think, “but I was hit and I turned out just fine” let me pre-reply: NO YOU DID NOT. You think hitting a child is ok, how the fuck does that qualify as “fine”?????? From one abuse survivor to another: please start healing yourself.

[whatbigotspost]

This post needs a "it's been 5 years" update, so here we go:

2022:

Spanking and children's social competence: Evidence from a US kindergarten cohort study

Spanking is a risk factor for children's social competency. However, establishing causality is a challenge, given selection bias in samples

The effects of spanking on psychosocial outcomes: revisiting genetic and environmental covariation - Journal of Experimental Criminology

Background There is a vast literature on the negative associations between spanking in childhood and various psychosocial developmental outc

2023:

Corporal Punishment in Schools - PubMed

The use of corporal punishment in schools is not an effective or ethical method for management of behavior concerns and causes harm to stude

Spanking and executive functioning in US children: A longitudinal analysis on a matched sample

Spanking has been linked to multiple maladaptive child outcomes. However, previous research linking spanking with children's executive funct

2024:

Corporal punishment is believed to precede various forms of violent behavior, yet prior research has yielded inconsistent findings, partly d

2025:

Corporal punishment of children: the public health impact

This technical report describes the prevalence, risk factors for, and consequences of child corporal punishment, which it defines as “any pu

Spanking and other physical discipline lead to exclusively negative outcomes for children in low- and middle-income countries

Physically punishing children in low- and middle-income countries (LMICs) has exclusively negative outcomes -- including poor health, lower

[whatbigotspost]

YOU GOTTA BE FUCKING KIDDING ME TUMBLR

So annoying. So GD annoying.

[headspace-hotel]

The World Health Organization report I highly recommend because there are so many conclusions that are shocking and yet completely obvious.

For example, being exposed to corporal punishment as a kid makes it more likely for a person to commit domestic violence against a partner. In places where corporal punishment is normal, people are more likely to think that rape and intimate partner violence are normal. Kids who are spanked are more likely to be violent with and to bully other kids.

Spanking is literally teaching a kid that violence is okay and normal and it affects the whole society.

It also talks about how corporal punishment affects the brain in its development. It changes the structure of the brain and slows the development of mental abilities. Kids who get spanked have much stronger hormonal responses to stress.