The delights of uncertainty

[cheaphalloweencostume]

these are the people you have to share a highway with

[cheaphalloweencostume]

genuinely what is the alternative here

[cheaphalloweencostume]

also i cropped the image but the thing they were using as an example was the nut allergy in Hereditary

[gaycop]

[giltori]

Butch Diarmuid is funny because it turns Sola-Ui into a sheltered rich girl from a conservative family who just found out that gay people exist.

[giltori]

Saber who lost to Diarmuid because she just found out that you can be trans AND happy is also funny.

[melonisopod]

OP your mind

Edit: could you draw it? 🥺👉👈

[giltori]

Eat, my child.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

one of the funniest conversations I ever had with my ex was when they were still getting used to Celsius and asked me "what's 20 degrees?" and instead of converting it, I said "it's the highest your dad will ever let you set the thermostat and when you say you're cold he tells you to put on another sweater, we're not made of money" and they went "oh, 68"

the fact that this reference was that fucking precise was something they went on to tell people about for years.

[sapocipo]

[rpfofficial]

levels of mutualship :

the closest thing to real soulmates you can find

we fought in the same trenches and have a warrior's bond that carries over into every stage of life

friend i sit next to in every class and pass notes to/whisper to constantly

academic peer/colleague that i respect and have a little intellectual crush on

neighbour in the same apartment block that i say hi to on the stairs

neighbour across the street who i wave at every morning and evening

we're regulars at the same bar

i can't even remember who you are but if you weren't here there would be something fundamental missing

[canid-sys]

which mutual is prev?

the closest thing to real soulmates you can find

we fought in the same trenches and have a warrior’s bond

friend i sit next to in every class and pass notes to constantly

my little intellectual crush

neighbor in the same apartment blog that i say hi to on the stairs

neighbor across the street who i wave to every morning and evening

we’re regulars at the same bar

i can’t even remember who you are but you’re fundamentally important

nuance/prev is bald/tags

Voting ended onMay 30

i polled it 👍

[alexanderwales]

Here's a legal PSA:

If you've committed a crime and a detective gathers everyone involved in the room, especially if he's not actually a detective and is instead a novelist, puzzle-setter, psychic, fake psychic, dog, chess grandmaster, etc. ...

YOU SHOULD NOT CONFESS.

Every year, hundreds of people are put away by non-traditional "detectives" who have either inserted themselves into the case or are working with the police in a dubiously legal capacity as advisor. In 99% of these cases, the murderer gives a full confession even though the evidence against them is circumstantial at best and often requires a long just-so story which can only guess at motive.

If this happens to you, stay quiet, do not attempt to defend yourself or talk your way out of it, only say "I want a lawyer".

Now if you find yourself being investigated by a boy genius, magician's assistant, anthropologist, classics scholar, or philosopher, it's likely that refusing to talk to the police (or investigator with no legal authority) is merely the end of the second act, and by the end of the third act they will have you dead to rights.

YOU SHOULD STILL NOT CONFESS.

Make them take it to court. Force the eccentric detective and his straight-laced police partner to take the stand and explain their methods to a jury of your peers. Have your lawyer look at the chain of custody on the evidence, especially if you believe it to have been handled by someone who has only bumbled into detective work through their natural charm and/or unique set of skills and outsider perspective that come in handy more often than they should.

Know your rights. Don't let eccentric detectives put you away.

[hellenhighwater]

I see a lot of people who tell young people–especially young people who are heading into college–that they should “do what they love.” And they’re right. You should do what you love.

But there’s a world of difference between doing what you love for you, and doing what you love for a paycheck. 

I went to undergrad for graphic design and 3-D design–art and more art, I usually say–and I loved it. You know what I didn’t love? Trying to collect my fees from clients. Trying to meet unrealistic, over-simplified or over-specific briefs from people who didn’t know what they were talking about. Coming home, having worked creatively all day, with no creative juice left for the things I wanted to do.

You know what I would tell you instead? Do something that you can be interested in, with people you like.

You don’t have to love it. Loving your work can be a lot, and it often means you have to live in your job 24/7. Some people can do that. Not everyone can, or should.  But if you can find work that’s interesting enough that it doesn’t feel tedious, and people you can enjoy spending your 9-5 with, and you can make money, that’s great! It means you can do the things you love for you.

I’m in law school now. It’s interesting work, and difficult, and I like doing it. I like how complicated it gets, and I like the stories it tells. But I don’t come home and read law journals for fun. I come home, and I sculpt, and I draw, and I paint, and I read. I do these things for me.

And I love it. 

[hellenhighwater]

This is still circulating and it’s been a few years, so let me update. I’m officially a lawyer now, and still not a single regret about this choice. Settling into a stable job is such a gift and a privilege in ways I didn’t expect. I’m not going to repeat the advice given above, but I want to make it clear that having passed through my student years and into my career proper, I stand by this in every respect. 

I chose to take a job that was not the most high-paying option available to me, because it wouldn’t require me to bill my time, I would have a better work-life balance, I found the work more engaging, and I really loved the office. It has paid off so much.

I get to walk to work, and most days I leave my laptop behind when I walk home at five. I have a little house with a little garden and a bunch of seedlings sprouting too early for spring. I have two stupid cats and two stupider doves and they make me happy. I put a little money into food and shelter for the neighborhood strays and name all my visiting opossums Harold. My art gets done when I feel inspiration striking, sometimes in the middle of the night, and I let my hobby fund itself without the pressure of deadlines. There is so much joy in making only what I want to. My sleep schedule has stabilized. For the first time in my life, I know the shape my days will take weeks and months away, because my routine is consistent, and I never knew what a peace that was. My job is predictable but never boring, interesting but not consuming, and it’s just a job. 

There are people who will tell you–people who have told me–that turning my back on an artistic career or a career you have “potential” in is selling out, or settling. 

Let me tell you, friends, I have never felt so settled. 

[smallercommand]

Tags from galwednesday:                                                                                                                                                                                                             financial stability improves your quality of life in SO many ways   and there’s a lot of middle ground between “your artistic passion” and “soul-sucking job you hate”   and many of those jobs in the middle ground have health insurance and paid vacation time

[despazito]

[cilceon]

Only thing from the Met Gala that matters btw

[sigynsilica]

I needed some pictures that showcase the full look she's got on and show off her amazing hairstyle here you go ✨✨✨

Incredibly classy and iconic :)

[hellyesbro]

I’m far less interested in fiction where it’s like “This power/ability/prophecy is gender specific but trans inclusive” and for more interested in fiction that just… doesn’t do that

[hellyesbro]

Stuff that’s like “Only girls can use moon magic but that includes trans women :)“ is still stupid and honestly a really reductive view of gender. Now if you wanna write some shit like “It’s believed that only girls can use moon magic but surprise it’s just surpressed/ignored in men because of gendered norms” like have at it. If you’re writing a fictional society you don’t have to stray away from fictionalized gender norms as well, but don’t right some shit where gender is baked into the laws of nature. Gender isn’t a force of nature, it’s a societal tool, and understanding that in real life means understanding that in fiction as well.

[ashenmind]

truly breathtaking just how many series would be massively improved if the author gave a shit about women

[beardedmrbean]

this sounds like a party to me

[grand-theft-carbohydrates]

[los-copa]

her name was Juniper Blessing, she was 19 and she was just doing her laundry

[wispthicket]

From one of her friends on a Reddit post.

[doubleca5t]

Listen, fellow trans women, I love you all, but if you think that trans men or transmascs are an oppressor class you need to log the fuck off because you are being brainpoisoned by discourse-mongers. That is a legitimately rocks for brains take

[doubleca5t]

There is a HUUUUUGE gap between "transfems experience a unique intersection of oppressions which are not experienced by transmascs", which is true, "some passing trans men benefit from male privilege", which is true, "trans people are not immune to transphobic rhetoric and this can sometimes take the form of transmascs engaging in transmisogyny", which is true, and "transmascs should be treated as equivalent to cis men because trans men are men and therefore as men they are a danger to trans women" like do you see where the gigantic leap of logic comes in here?

[doubleca5t]

There is something personally offensive to me about accounts that go out of their way to post about transmascs being dangerous or untrustworthy or transmisogynistic when the primary danger to trans women right now is the goddamn United States government. Like we've got people in the white house who would outlaw all HRT if given the opportunity and you're gonna post about trans men?? I don't even mean this in a "we have bigger fish to fry" sort of way I mean this is the sense that building solidarity is one of the most important things you can do when faced with a hostile government and society. It's not just that the claims being made are bullshit and transphobic it's that the whole thing feels actively self-destructive toward creating any kind of community that's of any use to anyone

[havinganormalone]

Fanfiction is insane. You can write porn so good you make friends.

[tanya-gavva]

It’s all about ivy that wraps around you

[mens-rights-activia]

lol my friend asked me to be in this silly music video he made and I thought you all would enjoy it