My Talent? Complaining

The genderless gremlin qanon says is out to get you. 27/They/England.

[inber]

hate it when you see something in media that has great kink potential so you skedoodle post-haste to ao3 only to discover there's none fic left beef and then you have to sit there going oh I see I'M the pervert weirdo I'M the problem with society and everyone else in the world is going to heaven with a hundred innocence dollars preloaded onto their ole fashioned wholesome funtimes themepark fast pass card like fuckin oath man

[mintbees]

steam repeatedly notifying you that a friend is booting up a game thats clearly not cooperating feels like ur sitting inside and someone outside keeps trying to rev up a lawnmower

[mintbees]

[resurrectedteleport]

losing my shit over this

[hydrachea]

> turns on my computer

> disables a new AI feature that was turned on by default

> opens my email

> disables a new AI feature that was turned on by default

> launches a software

> disables a new AI fea

[northern-punk-lad]

The guardian trying to find who’s responsible for increased transphobia in this country

[disorientation]

Having a "stupider people have done this" attitude about the things you want to do can open so many doors

[wingkink]

btw it's so fucking stupid you can be anxious physically in your body even after you've decided mentally you don't care. I'm supposed to be in charge here

[surewhynothings]

why is something heterosexual always happening to these two please release them

[surewhynothings]

but you know, when i first heard the original idea jack had; to make romeo and juliet but with a happy ending, i thought it would be interesting. because r&j will always be a tragedy like if it wasn't a tragedy, it would not be r&j but something else entirely. so here i thought, it would be an interesting concept to be doomed by the narrative yet still try your best to make it work. come to find out they actually meant that shit. if we follow the thread they sowed at the beginning, it doesn't actually make sense for any of these people to end up together. jack is manipulative and only likes dean when he's at his lowest and dean's always miserable when he's trying to win him back and lets his whole life unravel for the sake of that quest. they are like the scorpion and the frog in it that jack will always find something to be mad about or hold over his head and dean will always spiral about it. they were built to break sooner or later. arnold and tua are wholly incompatible because tua is sensitive as fuck and too insecure to ask for what he wants while arnold doesn't even truly know what he wants and mostly goes with the flow. one needs clear communication and things defined, the other runs away from that. arnold did know that he was flirting with tua the whole time and he was fine with that, he didn't need or want labels or straightforward conversation because he thrives in the undefined. tua on the other hand, overthinks every little thing amd bums himself out at any hit of a grey area. they both radically changed as people overnight, for no apparent reason might i add, just to make that relationship work. rome and raffy could only ever be hate fuck buddies because raffy does have a chip on his shoulder about being the son of someone great who in turn, deserves great things. he is a clout chaser and needs everyone to acknowledge he's someone important so he would spend his time running after whatever gets him there. it doesn't matter that he doesn't want to be an actor deep in his soul, he would pursue that like a dog with a bone. he would not give up on jack because it was never even about him, but what he represents. even if he let that go, he'd find another jack. he would never settle for a life outside the spotlight. if anything, he hates that he likes someone like rome. while rome, who did truly fall for him, would be doomed to suffer knowing they could have something great if only raffy wasn't obsessed with meaningless accolades and status. he'd stick around for the potential he sees until the amount of resentment for the constant disrespect and humiliation ate him all up. none of these pairs were built to last yet somehow, all decided to go through major character development seemingly unprompted and somewhere behind the scenes just to give themselves a happy ending. it doesn't really land for me.

[surewhynothings]

Different Anon. But were you going off the fact that bl's give inherently heterosexual moments? Because the whole push and pull thing of Rome deciding to reject Raffy's "confession" then basically test him does give heterosexual honestly. The public confession with what looks like a face of disbelief/irritation that follows a yes that seems like a chore to say? That definitely gives heterosexual. But I wonder if we put too much thought into roles when something that seems inherently heterosexual can simply be environmental, media trained, and not what it seems.

Why give credence to heterosexual when everyone, no matter your sexual identity, are products of where they grew up? Something that seems heterosexual could just simply be a norm that's been labelled as heterosexual because what else could it be? Does that give it more purpose, more importance of a label?

I don't know. But I do know that many BLs lean more into the norms we see for Heterosexual couples, which helps nothing in the LGBTQ+ community by forcing boxes. The problem is that I don't think labelling things as heterosexual helps either because it denies the idea that something just is despite who you're with, romantically or sexually.

Oop. That was probably a lot. Sorry, the brain was running a bit. I'm always curious about the idea of how to separate norms from labels that shouldn't define them yet somehow do.

that's a lot of questions anon, idk if i can cover them all in one go. as far as labels go, to keep things short, i view them as important but not as prisons of perspective. it's helpful to have a word that describes a norm or a behaviour, however, as individuals we are always going to be far too nuanced and complex to fit perfectly neatly into any category. they are meant to serve as guidelines that help us understand ourselves better, not there to place immovable limitations we should fit into. in that sense, labelling something this or that doesn't necessarily take away from any other layers, it simply highlights an important/notable aspect. now, do i think bls cater a little too much to the straight gaze? sure, a lot of them do but there's also a plethora of lovely, deeply queer stories out there for me to enjoy so i don't tend to focus on that too much. when it comes to rome and raffy specifically, their story irks me a little because it has a very queer framing of their initial conflict yet offers a heteronormative solution to those tensions. the reason why raffy is cold and distant at first, is because he is ashamed of rome. he is ashamed of his attraction to him because, in his elitist mind, a random dj fucking in bathrooms is unbecoming of someone like him. random hookups are unbecoming of him. giving in so easily is unbecoming of him. a rome doesn't fit in his projection of who he is (should be), nor would he realistically fit in his actual life/the vision his mother very publicly has (and that very obviously weighs heavily on him). and not only is he keeping him a secret, he's also being rude and hurtful while he does it. because on one hand, he resents himself for going to him continuously, on the other, he knows rome genuinely likes him and will let him get away with a lot. this kind of dynamic is irrefutably queer; coming to terms with the reality that you can't be who you're expected to be, feeling shame about your desires, being forced to make the choice of who you are going to be even though you'd much rather avoid it, then living with that choice and so on and so on. from rome's perspective also: being someone's secret, feeling constantly rejected and undervalued, swallowing your pride and dignity, knowing you can't really voice any of these grievances because they'd fall on deaf ears and then staying anyway because you fell in love and can't think in your own best interest. but the story doesn't really address any of that. they set the scene and then shifted the focus entirely on raffy getting over jack. he never gave a fuck about jack in the first place. he was at war with dean, because he wanted the spotlight and everything that comes with it. that included an up and coming director boyfriend. it's why he rolled his eyes instead of looking hurt when he saw them together; he wasn't hurt about unrequited love, he was hurt about not getting what he thinks he deserves. his big realisation doesn't revolve around an identity crisis, like it was supposed to. turning away from jack and running to rome can not happen unless he unpacks a fuck ton of issues first. but instead, the story of their reconciliation is a silly power struggle. 'i let you mop the floor with me and humiliated myself for you, now you do the same for me and we're even' that is a very heterosexual game, because straight people are always on the power struggle bus. relationships at all times have a winner and a loser, the roles just rotate depending on who can get the leverage at any given moment. so that's basically what i meant. i was promised a queer story and given a 2000ish romcom plot where the popular guy realises the underdog girl is not so bad after all then does a public song and dance to appease her and apologize for whatever bs he pulled and then they lived happily ever after.

[becomingabeing]

the thing is ofdo was boring. the first season had its flaws but it was never boring

[chenouttachen]

oh dean you deserved sooooooooo much better

[becomingabeing]

I think part of what made Only Friends so compelling was that the story was inspired by Ninew's real life. the characters were interesting and well rounded because they had real people and experiences to draw from whereas the characters in Only Friends: Dream On felt hollow and two dimensional.

this is not to say that we should only write what we know but writing what we know definitely has its advantages.

[pjharvey]

we have to start running a massive PSA campaign to young gay people so everyone understands there is a difference between being a dom and being a top and between being a sub and being a bottom. and also that sometimes you are neither a sub nor a bottom and you're just like shy. we need to be handing out flyers we need ads at every train station spreading the word

[zmpl]

it’s funny how we’re getting to the point in the AI lifespan where you can feel the desperation from tech companies to have you use their AI features. instagram has moved their AI effects to the top of the menu when you’re creating a post for your story, exactly where the draw/edit button used to be. gmail is creating one-click AI-generated replies right before you open up the text box. spotify put a beta AI playlist generator on the front page that looks just like a search bar so all of their users accidentally click on it when they go to search for a song.

tech companies are shaking in their boots trying to prove to shareholders that their investment in AI is worth it, to the point where they’re tricking their users into using the AI features even for a split second in order to fudge the numbers. like awww is your little environment-destroying toy not wielding the results you hoped for? so sad!

[okthatsgreat]

why are scissors packaged the way they are it’s like they’re taunting us. Oh wow this is such a difficult awful packaging to get through that seems to cause physical damage to your hands as some sort of sick self defense mechanic, if only i had something to help get through it, something sharp perhaps

[okthatsgreat]

what sort of sick twisted game is it trying to play here

[okthatsgreat]

LEAVE ME ALONE

[spankerella]

Happy Lizard Fashion Day to those who celebrate.