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20, they/them nonbinary aroace i am in too many fandoms help me

[boring-romance]

i wanted to do a little intro for this blog since i have nothing to do and i’m bored

so… hello everyone! i’m Gin (they/them)

i’m 20 and i’m autistic + adhd!

i am sex-neutral asexual and romance repulsed aromantic + nonbinary! 

i am in too many fandoms but the main ones right now are:

The Beatles, Ace Attorney, Attack on Titan and music in general! music is my main special interest and i also play acoustic (and sometimes electric) guitar!

on this blog i would like to talk about aroace experiences, nonbinary experiences + queer experiences in general, and i would also like to yap about my hyperfixations! i spam sometimes so bear with me :,)

DNI LIST:

• this blog is obviously sfw, but i won’t directly interact or talk with people under 15/16 because it makes me a bit uncomfortable. you can interact but i won’t directly interact with you

• transphobes, homophobic people, ableists

• right-wing people

i also might block freely !

thank you for reading!

[roseapollo]

[autistickiramman]

if you think headcanoning a character as asexual or aromantic is infantilizing them then that says a lot about how you see aro/ace people

[evilphrog]

You can tell by the uniform design that Eva Stratt was genuinely terrified her astronauts would be too busy sleeping with each other to finish the mission...

(But also, thank you to the costume designers for really driving home the point of the movie)

[cloudytwilightythingy]

saw an aro post that was angry over allo people in tags being arophobic, and an allo added onto it agreeing with one of the arophobic tags. the tag basically saying "i see romance as friendship BUT BETTER" and. SHUTUPSHUTUPSHUTUPPPP

friendship and romance are relationships. none is better than the other. they are different things. they are two different types of relationship. one is not the other "but better". A FRIENDSHIP DOESN'T NEED TO BECOME "MORE" FOR CERTAIN ACTIONS. YOU CAN PLATONICALLY FUCK. IT'S BEEN DONE. YOU CAN KISS YOUR FRIENDS. IF EVERYTHING IS CONSENSUAL IT'S FINE. FRIENDSHIP DOESN'T NEED TO BE "ELEVATED" FOR CERTAIN ACTIONS TO TAKE PLACE.

i just got up and i am so fucking tired of allo people and romance propaganda.

[proudnb]

You don't have to settle for a shitty relationship just because you're nonbinary.

There are plenty of decent people out there who would appreciate all of you.

Find someone worth your time and make their life brighter, too.

[specialagentartemis]

Aro and ace activism is housing reform, is well-funded public housing, is an expansion of affordable housing, is allowing single people to get affordable and public housing, is rent controls to make it possible for single people to be able to afford to live alone on a single salary.

Aro and ace activism is healthcare reform, so that no one needs to rely on a spouse for health insurance, so that healthcare is available to everybody regardless of income, so that no one’s lived experiences or basic dignity are dismissed or overridden by doctors

Aro and ace activism is well-funded and expansive public transit, so that you don’t need to have someone on hand to drive you places if you are incapacitated, so that you don’t have to pay for an ambulance if you need to get to the hospital quickly

Aro and ace activism is disability and elder care services, so that no one needs a spouse to care for them, so that no one needs children to care for them, so that marriage is not a bind for disabled people, so that people on disability who want to and can live alone can

Aro and ace activism is community-building, it’s public events, it’s free social activities, it’s mutual aid, it’s activities that bring community members together without socializing relying on just a romantic partner

Aro and ace activism is developing a culture of believing when people tell you who they are and what they want rather than assuming you know them better than they know themselves

Aro and ace activism means a better world for people without “normative” desires or “normative” social support, which means a better world for everybody

[sphxxshthealien]

when i say “aros can still date” i mean that as in “aros can do whatever the fuck they want and it doesn’t have to make sense to you”

but some of y’all say “aros can still date” to mean “aros are still able to fit your standards of an acceptable person despite their abnormality” and i do not fuck with that

[boring-romance]

HM to Kate Bush, The Kinks, Arctic Monkeys and Duran Duran

[boring-romance]

me and my comfort characters that i headcanon as aroace/aroace spec because. well because it comforts me

[aro-ace-culture-is]

Aroace culture is being hit with the "it's natural human nature to crave sexual and romantic connection" among the allo spaces and the ace and aro spaces.

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[blackblownbusiness]

cheek kisses are such an underrated form of platonic intimacy.

[i-suggest-aro]

the reason why i think so many alloromantic people outright refuse the idea of "aromantic subtext" being a legitimate thing is that people view aromanticism as inherently shallow. to a lot of queer fandomites, "aromantic" is what they make the side character they don't really care about, so they don't have to bother coming up with actual analysis of their interpersonal relationships. it sucks, because aromantic narratives in fiction, intentional or otherwise, are worth exploring, analysing, and appreciating.

[aceinthefreakinspace]

This is just the energy he radiates, I don't make the rules (follow up to these two posts)

[boring-romance]

i still can’t fully accept that i’m aromantic. like, fully aromantic. this society is so rooted in romance that i always feel like i’m missing an important experience and i feel behind :(

[boring-romance]

all i need is a queer friend group where i can be myself and a person i can have a queerplatonic relationship with

is it too much to ask for

[lwillphysicallyfightyou]

Whos paying for those kid's needs Phoenix you're jobless 💔💔