[identitty-dickruption]

I say this constantly, but: we have to chill out about the things that are happening in other peoples’ heads. we have to chill out about the fact that some people are going to have violent or sexual thoughts 24/7. we have to chill out about the fact that some people will hear voices and see things that aren’t there and that’s not the end of the world. there are many ways that brains can exist completely harmlessly. there are many ways brains can exist that only hurt the person experiencing that brain activity. chill out. it’s mostly none of your business

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

getting older can be so amazing? you get more familiar with yourself. learn tips & tricks for troubleshooting your own brain. trial & error helps you build routines that minimize discomfort, maximize reward. your preferences/interests don't get set in stone, but you do find out which ones are going to stay with you in the long-term, and which ones are fun but transient joys to appreciate in the moment.

you learn that the world is so much more complex than you were taught, and that that's okay, and that there's an endless supply of things you can learn or watch or experience or think about if you want to. if you're lucky, you loosen up, stop putting so much pressure on yourself. if you're lucky, you learn to recognize that negative inner voice, and whack it with a baseball bat until it hushes up. if you're lucky, you learn to treat yourself gently, not because you are fragile but because you are worthy of gentleness. (i hope you are lucky.)

and some things will change. some things will get better. some things will get good. and maybe you start to recover from the dehumanizing stress of childhood/education. maybe you learn the power of your own autonomy. maybe you learn how to walk away from bad situations (which is a superpower even if you don't realize it yet). and you get to choose your own clothes. and your own food. and which relationships to pursue! and what you do with your free time. and with your life (but don't worry you get to choose that gradually). and that's crazy! and sometimes scary. and extraordinarily, indescribably precious.

[tiktoks-repost]

[koios]

Video desc:

A yellow and grey cockatiel "sings" the chorus to "September" by Earth, Wind, and Fire in a high-pitched whistle. It occasionally pecks a metal object to the beat, and it makes a deep, short sound similar to that of a cowbell.

[papasmoke]

world seems pretty bleak rn man ngl

[fesenjan-deactivated20231206]

thats completely understandable given everything going on but please remember that all of the things happening rn are the result of world imperialism succumbing to its own contradictions. a cornered beast will lash out and it will lash out violently, but it’s crucial to remember that the huge increase in counterinsurgency efforts, reactionary violence, etc all reflect the desperate attempts of a dying system to keep itself afloat.

and while yes, the grief we have to endure as a result of that violence is immense, never forget that there was a time in history where there was no organized anti-colonial resistance to speak of, where workers hadnt seized the means of production in one country, let alone several, when colonial hegemony went almost entirely unchallenged except in the form of scattered revolts and rebellions.

we are not in that period anymore, we are living in the aftermath of the october revolution, of the chinese revolution, of organized international solidarity in the periphery, of the US empire spreading itself thinner and thinner and losing on more and more fronts, of recurrent and pronounced crises of the capitalist system,

an era where colonized peoples have become/are becoming the subjects of their own history, rather than merely the objects. all of this is reason to stay optimistic, to stay vigilant, and to channel that grief and anger and agitation into drive to fight, drive to resist

and perhaps most pertinently for this current struggle of palestinian liberation, please remember that the fight is ongoing and far from lost, on the contrary, there are many reasons to believe the tide is turning, that the palestinian people will rid themselves once and for all of the occupation and strike a massive blow to world imperialism in the process

[gemsandjunk]

Everyone is nostalgic and no one is sincere. Do you get the idea

[gemsandjunk]

Reboots made by people that don’t respect what they’re rebooting. Punching down before buzz feed listicles punch first. Isn’t it weird that the princess married the prince after just meeting him? Isn’t it cringe that magic exists? Irony poisoning of childhood classics. Well that just happened humour. Say something true and beautiful or I will start throwing rocks

[disgustinggf]

did u get home safe are u getting home safe when will u get home safe

[ace-and-ranty]

I gotta say, one of the greatest achievements of my 20s was that I learned (mostly) to differentiate between:

"I truly do not want to go" and

"I'm just feeling the Demand Avoidance, and I will like it once I get there."

[ace-and-ranty]

Well, goodness, this one resonated much more than I was expecting. I mean, I get it. My mind was also blown wide open when I found out "demand avoidance" was a thing that existed, and that I'm not the only weirdo in the world who suddenly wishes it wasn't her birthday after anxiously waiting for her birthday for days.

Loads of people in the tags are asking how I do it? I feel this won't be groundbreaking advice, but here is what I have learned:

Previous experience. Really no way around it. Now that I hit thirty, I feel like I have done enough things to know, intellectually, from experience, what will feel nice if I overcome the avoidance, and what won't. For example, every time I go to the beach, I wake up early and would rather eat a tire than get off the bed. But I remember that every time I got up and went to the beach, I was glad I did it. So I just get up, feeling like shit, and get ready, feeling like shit, and I get to the beach and magic!! I feel great, I love the beach!! Sometimes you just gotta do it scared feeling kinda like shit.

Am I avoiding the thing or getting to the thing? I have a lot of demand avoidance around just, y'know, getting up, getting ready and going out the door. Universal human experience. If I notice that doing the actual thing (Swim in the pool!) sounds nice, but I'm avoiding having to rally myself to go do that (Fetch swimsuit! Sunscreen! Towel!), then I know it's demand avoidance and I should just fucking go.

Is the thing making me feel excited at all or just anxious? I have had previous occasions when I did the opposite; I convinced myself it was just demand avoidance when I really just. Hated the thing. And wanted to stop. If you feel a mix of excitement and dread, or excitement and anxiety, that might be demand avoidance. But if thinking of doing the thing just makes you feel actively anxious, then yeah. You don't want to do the thing.

Do the thing a little bit. Used often with dishes. I've seen this advice float around Tumblr a lot and it's correct. Commit to doing just a bit of the thing; a little bit of the thing; the smallest bit of the thing you can do. Getting started will make it clear right away if you don't want to do it (and in that case, you have permission to stop), or if you just having trouble getting started.

[ladycordis-deactivated20240208]

you don't have to do it all alone. I know it's scary and vulnerable. But societies and communities naturally form precisely to prevent this; they exist because nobody can do it all themselves. We are meant to rely on each other. We exist together so we can be vulnerable as individuals, but still strong and powerful as a community. It is our duty as fellow humans to give what love and care we can, count on the fact that someone else will even when we can't, and be open to receiving it ourselves. That is the pact of humanness; that is what we owe to each other.

[chthonic-pain]

nobody warns you this but addiction happens without you noticing and one of the first things that it attacks is your ability to care. if you find yourself using recreational drugs every day, stop and take one day a week sober. if you struggle with this or if you don't see the point of the exercise, you are likely already addicted and you need help.

[chthonic-pain]

nobody ever taught me the warning signs for drug addiction, only that "it costs lots of money and destroys your life!!!1" which is not helpful if you can't recognize a developing addiction in yourself.

so here's some things to watch out for with recreational drug use:

planning your day around drugs e.g "i'll give myself an extra half hour before heading out so i can get high first"

rapidly switching emotions around drugs. you love them but you hate that you love them so much. you hate the way you feel on them but you hate being sober. feeling guilty after using even when you didn't give a crap beforehand.

caring less about spending money. if you are budgeting for drugs like they are food, you are likely prioritizing them more than is healthy.

getting high to do household chores and other unpleasant things because it would suck less and be more bearable on drugs

feeling anxious or restless while sober, not knowing what to do with oneself, feeling lost or ungrounded.

thinking about doing drugs constantly even while sober. maybe it's the first thing you think of when you wake up. maybe when you're bored or otherwise have free time, drugs are one of the first things you can think of to occupy yourself with.

going to work or school while under the influence, especially if it happens regularly and if you're seeing your performance suffer as a result.

the idea of taking a 'tolerance break' sounds good to you until it's actually break time, at which point you can come up with 20 very reasonable sounding points to explain why it wouldn't benefit you actually and you should just keep doing drugs regardless.

even if you succeed at quitting the drug, you keep your dealer's number on your phone "just in case"

you pretend to be sober when you aren't. you worry about other people noticing how much time you spend high. you make efforts to hide your drug use or minimize how much other people think you're using. you're scared of other people's judgement if they were to find out.

you have mood swings laced with self-hatred, regret, financial worries, and guilt. these mood swings are then very quickly wiped away by feelings of "but it doesn't matter, i can do what i want, and clearly i'm doing just fine while using drugs frequently". news flash, if you are rapidly switching between feeling numb-ok and hating yourself more than anything because of your drug use, you are mentally ill.

yes this applies to weed. weed is a drug and you can get addicted to it like any other substance. addiction is not the same as physical dependence; it is psychological and it can happen to anyone. you are not immune to addiction.

[heedra]

if you learn to love bugs with all your heart the world will feel half as hostile and a thousand times as big

[heedra]

Theres a sentiment I'm noticing in the tags that I'd like to address. I dont think learning to love bugs with all your heart means forcing yourself out of discomfort you have with them overnight. It's about observing a different sort of being going about its life and deliberately trying to reframe your observations through a sense of wonder and delight. It's about cultivating a positive interest and curiosity for their ecology and behaviors. It's especially about trying to uncouple the value we find in them from how 'convenient' they are to us; to face head on the part of us that wants to assign moral evil to another organism who just happens to live life in a way that is not harmonius with ours. You can love insects in this way and still recognize your own health and safety needs. We are animals living side by side within a biosphere. This is how it is, sometimes.

I think this is important to cultivate because, if you are alive at all, you are coming into conflict with countless other people and things that dont owe you an apology for their existance and needs. If you are alive at all, you are encountering countless other people and things that harmful bias and personal discomfort have made repulsive to you. This is about bugs, but its also about way more than bugs.

[invertebrates]

It's hard to explain to the uninitiated that you can just go for a walk just about anywhere with a bit of green (and sometimes even in the heart of a city) and find like a dozen neat little unique guys if you're patient and observant.

People get really into bird watching but here's a secret: bugs are WAY easier to find than birds and they let you get a lot closer.

Try to approach the world with wonder and curiosity rather than fear and revulsion. Bugs are a great place to start.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

I'm realizing that the question I need to be asking myself often isn't "do I feel like doing x?" but "will doing x make me feel better?" Because even if taking that shower or going for that walk or sitting down to draw or showering or eating or cleaning isn't what I'd prefer to do in the moment, it's very likely that I'll feel better afterwards. And maybe that matters more than whether I initially feel like getting started.

[lil-reminders]

it’s okay to let go of things you thought you once wanted. we’re ever-changing creatures. it’s natural to shed old skins.

[retrogamingblog2]

[forwhomtheblindbellstoll]

[ID] a screenshot of Animal Crossing: New Horizons of a player talking to Bones the dog who is shuddering and saying "I had to work once. It was the worst!" [/ID]

[minyardlumberyard]

legitimately from ages like 12-25 i thought everyone was exhausted to the point of suicidal depression and i was just bad at handling it. kids the normal amount of suicidal ideation is NONE and if you don't physically recover by sleeping you should see a doctor

[yourhealingjournal]

like sometimes it's just it is what it is. it's not the most hopeful happy ending that most people would dream of, but i gotta accept that yeah maybe i'll struggle with this for the rest of my life, so i'll focus on doing something that makes me happy then. sometimes grief cannot be healed. sometimes things cannot be fixed. i'll carry this weight for a long time. i may never be able to put it down so i might as well make peace with it.

[tennesseewillams]

not to call all young people snowflakes or anything but i do think a lot of people are soooo averse to anything that makes them uncomfortable (and tend to conflate things that make them uncomfortable with being problematic) and that’s why we have all this dumb sex scene discourse and grown adults who only watch kids stuff and nostalgia-bait and why hollywood is refusing to release anything interesting (because if it makes people uncomfy they won’t make $$$). and it’s so sad like sometimes a piece of art does make you sick to your stomach or make you jump out of your skin or make you weep or turn you on. and that’s a beautiful wonderful thing!!! that’s what art is for!! to let you access all sorts of crazy emotions you can’t access in boring everyday life!!! that’s what makes you feel human!!

[sweatermuppet]

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