[lavendermenace666-blog]

[cannabiscomrade]

Please consider donating to Callie! She is fighting stage 4 cancer, and as this is going on, her parents are facing homophobia and lesbophobia from people who could be helping.

Here is her gofundme: https://www.gofundme.com/tinybutmighty17

Click here to support Callie Strong organized by Callie's Crusaders

I am asking friends and family to please help if you can and to please pray. This is my sweet niece who is 18 months old. Her name is Callie

[officialweatherwax]

Full offense but if you can understand why “all lives matter” is problematic but still insist on turning women’s events into all-gender events, I am forced to conclude that you don’t actually believe that women are oppressed.

[darcula-dreams]

[nunyabizni]

Remember to check

[femaille]

Let’s promote sexuality free from fear, humiliation, or pain. Fear isn’t sexy. Humiliation isn’t sexy. Pain isn’t sexy. Stop trying to train women into compliance.

[imeverywoman420]

Men trying to sound not horny by hating women is so funny. whenever i hear the word thot or e girl it sounds like an 12th century man saying temptress

[lets-talk-about-sects]

If she breathes she a TEMPTRESS

[josouprince]

[bigforeheadgaaal]

Me, on the outside looking at this relationship.

[wethrowaway111111world-deactiva]

- 95% of those in prostitution experienced sexual harassment that would be legally actionable in another job setting. 

- 65% to 95% of those in prostitution were sexually assaulted as children.

 - 70% to 95% were physically assaulted in prostitution 

- 60% to 75% were raped in prostitution 

- 75% of those in prostitution have been homeless at some point in their lives. 

- 85% to 95% of those in prostitution want to escape it, but have no other options for survival. 

- 68% of 854 people in strip club, massage, and street prostitution in 9 countries met criteria for post traumatic stress disorder or PTSD. 

- 80% to 90% of those in prostitution experience verbal abuse and social contempt which adversely affect them. 

Farley, M. (2004). Prostitution is sexual violence. Psychiatric Times, 21(12), 7.

[radfemichigan]

But sex posi liberals only care about the 5% that have no complaints about the job.

[fatale-stripper]

All of these apply to me except having been homeless. Sex work is more traumatising than glamorous.

[feministvenus]

I just struck up a convo with a random woman in the check out line and she gave me coupons and told me she’s in such a good mood because she dumped her bf because he couldn’t make her cum and he watches porn all day. What a QUEEN.

[reidentified-girl-deactivated20]

You met God

[respectthefemalebody]

If a man says he’s going to hurt himself unless you do what he says, let him. You aren’t responsible for his actions. You are not guilty for what he does to himself, you don’t owe him, you are not his thing to control, you don’t exist to serve him, you are allowed to go on living your life.

[antiporn-activist]

well, you could give him the suicide hotline and go.

[lightanddarkkh]

Also you could baker act him. If he says hes gonna kill himself if you break up with him. Break up with him and call 911 saying you suspect this person at this address is going to kill themselves. Like chances are they are lying and trying to manipulate you but if you are scared and think you might feel guilty, you can do that.

Don’t stay woth anyone that pulls that shit. Drop em.

[askagenderfluidandgenderflux]

Dropping this here because abuse isn’t limited to straight people.

[stegosoreus]

goes for anyone of any gender

[kyraneko]

People who hold themselves hostage do not get to be treated only as the hostage. They are the hostage-taker as well, and they are trying for a second hostage.

Also, the ideal wording for a 911 call after someone has threatened to kill themselves is that the person themselves has announced their intention to kill themselves, or said they were going to kill themselves, something like that. “I suspect that they’re going to kill themself” is subjective and vague; “they have said that they are going to kill themself” is a factual statement that communicates useful information about their stated intentions, and if there’s any suspicion that the person is being dishonest about those intentions as a manipulation tactic, it preserves, documents, and centers their dishonesty and releases you from the responsibility for sorting out the person’s true intentions.

Somebody threatening suicide or self-harm as a means of control is trying really hard to be your problem. Yours specifically. Punting that problem to the emergency services and medical system that is trained and equipped to deal with such problems is not only the proper thing to do, but makes it clear that you aren’t about to be guilted into assuming any responsibility that person wants to dump on you.

[jenniferrpovey]

As a note, this is not limited to romantic relationships. Suicide threats are very common in toxic friendships.

The response should be the same, but I just wanted to point out it’s not limited to intimate partners.

[gritsinmisery]

Not just toxic romantic and friendly relationships. Parents, siblings, anybody who pulls this act. Do not be held hostage by blood relationships, either.

[carharttlesbian]

Its really wack how quick males are to change their identities to feel absolved of male guilt. Dinks you donk.

[carharttlesbian]

[carharttlesbian]

might get kicked out of my friend group for this 1 like=1 prayer

[carharttlesbian]

got kicked out of my friend group for this #femaleresilience

[carharttlesbian]

You know… it is weird that me that just saying I have observed a phenomena is enough to get cut out of two people’s lives. One of whom only knows about this thru the other. Not that anyone must stay friends with me after becoming a friend, but there was no conversation about this post before I was cut off. We didn’t discuss anything. So these people haven’t discussed my beliefs with me beyond what they can assume from this little meme, even though we agree very closely on many things that are not sex based socialization and identity politics.

Radiqueer is one hell of a drug.

[oldmaninatee]

feeling very grateful for all that the women in previous feminist waves have done to make my life safer and more survivable and so so sad & sorry that today’s mainstream feminist movement is so ready to let them go- their art, their work, their goals. older women: I love u. thanks

[b-bro-deactivated20200502]

im feeling very sad for feminism today… i think where we went wrong was trying to commodify and commercialize feminism with these “girl power” and “the future is female” t shirts which were created by this minimalistic pastel aesthetic and kind of softened what previously was a very anarchist and rebellious movement (see early 90s feminist rock bands which glamorized the opposite of femininity with shaved hair, unshaved pits and legs, no makeup)

and now we have artists like ariana grande, nicki minaj, fifth harmony, daya, etc (this isn’t a callout post for them i don’t care about them as individuals i’m just commenting on a trend in pop culture perpetrated by the music industry) who put out music with feminist sentiments but absolutely no evidence of actively rebelling against societal expectations for women. “i don’t need boys i don’t need to be pretty i don’t need to be sexy” performed in scantily clad clothing with makeup sponsored by perfume and makeup companies is proof that capitalistic pressure has kind of destroyed the rebellious nature of the feminist movement.

so now we have a generation of girls raised on the internet convinced that performing femininity and caking their natural face in makeup in order to conform to unrealistic standards of beauty, placing their worth in their physical appearance inherently by paying money in order to appease some made up standard of what is acceptable for women, and they’ve convinced themselves that this, this conformity of expectation of feminist for women, is inherently feminist?

like it sucks like you guys know feminism is a counteractive movement right? like you know to be feminist is to rebel right? it’s not enough to consume pretty, neat, but wholly hypocritical ideals of feminism. it’s lazy. we have a generation of girls who want to adhere to expectations for women, who want to become that ideal that men have constructed, but now because they “reclaimed” it, that’s feminist?

like no sorry you Can do those things you Can put on makeup and shave and look pretty and girl you Can but don’t pretend that’s feminist it’s literally not. you’re not helping feminism the commodification of feminism is not helpful. men are not upset by you saying “the future is female” when you still look pretty and pink and non-threatening. we aren’t liberated by expectation just because you are now accepting of it. feminism is not complacency.

this post doesn’t apply to the reclaimation of femininity in the context of trans women which is a whole other discussion but generally i think the idea still applies. thanks

[b-bro-deactivated20200502]

and like you know what else sucks? the fact that women are going to reply to this saying “SOMEONE doesn’t know how to apply makeup” as if that’s some burn like no i never felt compelled to because makeup clogs your pores which makes you break out which makes it easier for the makeup industry to sell you shit for your skin which wouldn’t be happening if you didn’t put that shit on your face. acne is natural, washing your face is natural, but clogging ur pores that much is not. it’s an industrial decision.

also like women today who love makeup And feminism mocking gnc women sound exactly like men in the 70s who protested feminism on the basis that it makes women “man hating lesbians” so congrats?

die mad about it but makeup and shaving isn’t feminist even if it’s a “personal choice/preference”. it was socially ingrained in you from birth to perform this way so the easiest choice is to accept it but it isn’t feminist.

[wenchyfloozymoo]

[suotar]

This! THIS!!

It is essential to go to therapy and take medication if there’s such that works for you. Because it won’t numb you but instead it will enable you to function and THEN create more.

Sure it’s not the same than what it would be without the meds but let’s be honest. Would you rather feel good about yourself and create from a positive point of view or rather be creative with a possibly unstable, dark and even lethal state of mind that sees death as a solution to even the tiniest problem?

It is an extreme example but in my case true. I’m always choosing the positive over the negative. 100% of the time. Even though it’s not the same. But it hasn’t stopped me from creating. Not even a bit.

[brazenbipolar-blog]

Men and white women do not like me being comfortable with myself

[shadowlhunters-deactivated20200]

You know how 1st world feminists get told that they don’t need feminism? They’re told that they should be glad they’re not “really oppressed” like the women in 3rd world countries. That things could always be worse.

You know what my mother tells me? She says I don’t need feminism because I should be glad I’m born in an urban city of Pakistan. She says, at least I wasn’t born in a rural area where girls are married off to men twice their age. That things could always be worse.

And our house maid, Shabana, who was married to her uncle at 15 and, at 18, has 2 children, she doesn’t even know what feminism is. She was told by her father that she should be glad her husband doesn’t beat her and hasn’t thrown tehzaab (acid) at her. That things could always be worse.

Am I the only one seeing a very disturbing pattern here?

[agnosticlib]

Okay…

But women in the West really don’t need it lol.

‘My struggles trying to find clothes with pockets are just as bad as those women who get tortured and murdered just for being women’.

Yeah… okay. Whatever you say

[cecaeliawitch]

[brazenbipolar-blog]

Libfems and sex posi feminists end up on my Twitter timeline a lot and they stress me out. I’ve seen so many women who call themselves “thots,” joke about sex with men, porn, and sugar daddies, and display their bodies as a show of “confidence.” But look closely and their other tweets show that they actually still have low self-esteem and view themselves through the male gaze. I’m not sure if they are aware of it but they’re always “jokingly” putting themselves down and saying other women are so much hotter than them. They’re so brainwashed by Instagram model-type beauty standards that they don’t see none of it is real and they don’t have to look like that. They’re going about their self-love journey the wrong way; it makes me sad to see them constantly seek male validation by performing the height of femininity. They honorably try to advocate against rape culture, for body positivity, etc, yet don’t realize how they are still harming themselves. I wish I could get through to them and help them heal with radical feminism. I really need to make a radfem Twitter.