Just a girl (she/they, she/them or they/them) who is queer and has many mental illnesses that wants to spread some positivity to people that don’t usually see positivity. Icon by SarahR_Art on Twitter! If you need things tagged please tell me! IMPORTANT: I run a separate blog dedicated to the blm movement (@blacklivesmatterresources) but this blog we’ll be free of that and is a safe space for poc who want to escape from seeing all the info. All hateful asks and discourse asks will be deleted this is a positive space only. If you don’t want me to post your ask put ** in it. DNI: if you are a terf, a map, a racist, an exclusionist, ableist, a nazi/nazi sympathizer, and basically if you hate any LGBTQ+ people or minorities
Boys are allowed to be feminine and that includes trans boys, pass it on.
Girls are allowed to be masculine and that includes trans girls, pass it on.
Nonbinaries are allowed to use feminine or masculine expression, pass it on.
Yo if you’re a boy with mental illness, a boy with disabilities, a boy who is/was an abuse victim, a boy who has an ED, a boy with trauma, I need you to know that you are not a burden, that you don’t need to “harden up”, that you are very brave, and that you shouldn’t just have to “get over it”.
I literally do not care what you look like naked. I don’t care if you have stretch marks, a chubby tummy, or hair on your belly. I don’t care if your thighs touch. I don’t care if you forgot to shave. I literally do not care about any of those things. The only thing I care about is teasing and pleasing the fuck out of you. Ain’t no stretch mark or hair gonna stop me from hearing you scream my name.
When I love you I’m loving all of you.
Hi I think it's okay to not really have any strong human connections. Like as a society people need each other, society will not work if we don't work together, but when I say human connections, I mean it's okay to not really have close friends or family, let alone a romantic partner. That doesn't mean you're trying to cut yourself off from people or whatever, maybe you enjoy their company in a more impersonal sense. Maybe you're more invested in your hobbies and interests and passions and career or whatever. Not having very close, strong relationships with other people isn't inherently negative. Some people need close relationships to be okay, some don't. Most things in life are all about what works for you and what feels right to you. If you're more invested in your art or your culinary practice or starting your own business or getting a promotion then that's fine. Don't let people tell you how you should and shouldn't live.
Get some food and water if you haven’t in a while!
Plug in your device!
Feed any pets!
If it’s between 10 pm and 7 am and you have no reason to be awake besides being up on your phone, go to sleep or at least get comfortable and start trying to sleep!
Check around you and stack any dishes and bring them to the kitchen! Including plates, cups, bowls, and utensils!
Do a quick look around and pick up any trash and put it in the bin!
Message anyone to check in on them and yourself! Respond to any messages you may have gotten, answer some asks if need be, let your family know that you’re safe, whatever you need to do!
If you need to and are able to, go take a shower! Or clean your face! Get changed at the very least, put your clothes in the dirty hamper, and feel better about it!
That’s all for now! Good job, I’m proud of you for doing that!
Butches are kind. Butches are warm-hearted. Butches are nice. Butches are gracious. The fact that the overall impression of butches is that we are cold and mean is absolutely untrue. Don't call me a "soft butch" for my kindness, for my hospitality, for my big heart. Call me a butch, because that's how we are. That's who we are.
shit dude, here’s to all of the quiet victories. the things that other people take for granted but are so, so hard for you. the way your voice didn’t shake when you ordered your drink, the time you felt a swell of pride at something instead of shame, how you got out of bed after only the second time hitting snooze even though you couldn’t imagine anything more difficult than facing another fucking day. fucking cherish those. relish them, rejoice in them, do not let anyone pluck them from your grasp because they are yours and they are important.
I have been thinking about the importance of being non-judgmental towards people who change their labels, whatever those labels are.
Found out you weren’t autistic but actually schizophrenic? Thought you were ace and aro but you were just a late bloomer? Tried out new pronouns and a new name, but eventually learns that you are cool with your assigned gender? Thought you were gay, but then one day you also fell in love with someone of another gender?
….And so on and so forth.
We NEED to normalize this shit. No one should feel like they need to uproot their whole identity and move to a new blog because their label changed. No one should be shamed for getting that one step closer to figuring themselves out - even if that step is a step towards the “norm”, we need to celebrate the bravery and strength it takes to come out again and again and again.
I’m 28, and I’m STILL unclear on where I am on the ace and aro spectrum, if I’m even there at all. If you’d asked me 6 years ago, I would have told you I’m a monogamous, neurotypical, cis “bicurious” girl despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary. I can’t stand to think where I would be today, if I hadn’t been allowed to question this image.
Not so gentle fucking reminder that the groups that self-diagnosis is most common in are as follows:
- People living in poverty without access to medical care.
- Minors with parents who refuse to give them access to a doctor.
- Abuse victims who can’t see a doctor because their every move is being tracked.
- PoC who have faced discrimination from doctors or an inability to find doctors of color who would better understand their needs.
- Disabled people who don’t have access to the means necessary to see a doctor.
- Mentally ill people whose mental illness directly interferes with their ability to see a doctor.
And that the most common reason for self-diagnosis is a person’s desire to better understand themselves and their symptoms and find support and community.
And honestly, if you’re against that, you’re a seriously shitty person.
Trans women? S t u n n i n g!! You all are so beautiful!!
Trans men? Handsome af!!
Nonbinary people? Fantastic!!! They are all so amazing!!
Genderfluid and genderflux people? Fabulous!! You are a fashion icon!
People who are questioning their gender? Awesome!! I’m glad you’re questioning! I hope you find your place in this wonderful community!! I’m so proud of you 💚
Trans people with dysphoria and trans people with no dysphoria? Both are so valid!!! I’m so happy to see both parts in the community!!
Demigenders, demigirls, and demiboys? Amazing and out of this world!!!
People who don’t use “normal” pronouns? Iconic!! I’m glad you found pronouns that make you happy!! Just because they don’t fit society’s normal they are still very valid!!
All trans, nb, and anyone on the gender spectrum are amazing!! I hope they are all having a wonderful day!!! And remember me and Bulbasaur love you!! 💚💚💚