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18+ ONLY ♡ 23 ♡ minors/cishets DNI ♡ terfs eat shit and die ♡ it/he ♡ polyam (& partnered) ♡ tme transmasc aromantic lesbian ♡ autistic & disabled

this is mostly for me to rb nsft content (written, not images) but idk maybe i’ll post sometimes

im v much a sub lmao, mostly a bottom but i’ll top if my partner wants me to & i have the energy

i am autistic!! please use tone indicators if u can while talking 2 me!!

stuff i vibe with listed below the read more (all with the assumed caveat of consent having been given and boundaries having been discussed, naturally.)

sideblog for darker kinks is butchdogy

#butcht4t #butch.txt

k1nky-r0b0t-g1rl

ive said it before and ill say it again, self harm is an incredibly valuable grounding technique and without it i almost certainly would have done far more harm to myself than any cutting or burning could have. We need to stop framing self harm as this ultimate horror indication of damage, why is this form of self harm any different than another?

We should be teaching people harm reduction not that self harm means you're broken. I'm sorry if anyone has ever made you feel that way. If self harm makes you feel better, even for a moment, why shouldn't you be allowed to do that? people do shit that harms their body all the fucking time but this one thing is off limits?

I'm edging around the topic because it's almost certainly ban worthy but like, if it helps fucking do it, id much rather you use a "less than ideal" grounding technique (which im already rolling my eyes just typing that) than have no way to help yourself.

I hope this makes sense and helps at least one person, i love you <3

ign1ted-ember666

THEY KILLED AMITY???????

xenasaur

you're not allowed to tell girls who are in a terrible place that they're not broken. it's a bannable offense on tumblr.

estrogen-blood-chalk

Honestly, fuck @staff. This post helped save my life and @staff banned her. Fuck you @staff, when ya'll are *anywhere* close to the level of harm reduction that this post provided, maybe then you'll be a real blogging site again

gaynessopimizationalgorithm

THEY KILLED ESTROGEN BLOOD CHALK TOOO?????

estrogen-chalk-blood

they cannot kill me in any way that matters. Thanks for being here, lovely.

herefortodazeylily

they've been very clear with us on this point: you're not allowed to tell girls who are in a terrible place that they're not broken. it's a bannable offense on tumblr.

I'll do it again.

doyoulovethewayzeylily

Do you remember when Amity risked her blog to give love and paid the price? I haven't forgotten.

enbaluka-tokyo-drift

analog-delight

Forcefem isn't a fucking kink to me, it hasn't been for a while now. In a world so dead set against letting trans women even think for a second that they can be women, forcefem is about letting those girls know that it isn't wrong or shameful or just a kink to want to be a woman.

I'm sure a lot of the forcefem posters on this website, both of the original flavor and the new and improved formula, do get sexual gratification out of it.

But the thing that I don't think TME forcemasc and/or detrans kink posters understand is that for a lot of us girls, we would've given anything in the world to have someone genuinely look at us and go "Hey. You're a girl. I see it, and I'm going to make it reality."

Forcefem may have started out as a kink rooted in misogyny, but that isn't all it is anymore.

daughter-of-sapph0

"HRT IS BEING FORCED ONTO CHILDREN AND UT HAS AN INCREDIBLY HIGH REGRET RATE" they scream, denying all the facts and the actual amount of people who stop taking hrt (which is roughly 1%), ignoring how incredibly expensive it is, refusing to acknowledge the difficulties in actually finding a doctor to even prescribe it to you at all, and pretending that this button isn't a requirement for literally everyone taking it

the only reason someone would "regret" hrt is if they changed their mind (which yeah, that happens), or they lied and didn't read the box before taking it.

hon, its not the hrt thats dangerous. its you. dont choke on arsenic because it looks like candy

daughter-of-sapph0

detrans cisgirl after taking the medicine that makes you a man, reading all the benefits risks and side effects of the medice that makes you a man, and telling a doctor that she wants to be a man: "I dIdNt KnOw ThAt ThIs MeDiCiNe WoUlD mAkE mE a MaN!!!!"

faerevolution

personally I think if your first response to "have you considered transitioning" is to list the ways women are expected to perform in society that you don't want to be expected to comply with, what you need is estrogen plus feminism, not more experience with makeup

faerevolution

like girl let's be be so for real right now none of the dykes I know are shaving for anybody. that is not a mandatory task. you could be so free all you have to do is reach out and take it my friend

w0nderland42

i get that americans love their cultural imperialism, but it really does piss me off that june is “international” pride month just because something happened in the united states.

in aotearoa, june isn’t our pride, it’s theirs. marsha p johnson and sylvia rivera are their historical figures, not ours. the phrase that “you owe your rights to Black trans women” is true there, but here we owe our rights to (mostly) Māori historical figures. i have the freedoms i do because of the legacy of an entirely different set of people operating in an entirely different context at entirely different times.

But because of american cultural imperialism, most queer people in Aotearoa don’t even know our own queer history. Carmen Rupe, Ngahuia Te Awekotuku, the Dorian Society, Gillian Laundon, Georgina Beyer, and the Wolfenden Association are some of our queer history. We should know their names! we should know what they did for us! but because of the power of the american imperial machine, we don’t.

our national pride month should be july, the month that the Homosexual Law Reform Act passed in 1986. our two largest cities hold their pride festivals in february and march, respectively. american queer history has very little (or nothing, depending on who you ask) to do with our queer history. anecdotally, from my own queries, queer youth in aotearoa know more about american queer history than our own.

anyway, happy pride, americans. i’m truly sorry that most of you don’t see the negative impact your nation’s culture has on the rest of the world. and to the rest of the world reading this, try searching for your own country and culture’s queer history, don’t accept the american narratives as your own. we deserve our own histories divorced from the cultural hegemony of the USA.

mousidy

on TME/TMA: being mistaken for a transfem and catching strays is not the same thing as actually being a transfem: the actual targets of transmisogyny

I know a lot of trans men want to be TMA reallllll bad because someone mistook them for a transfem once and called them a tranny, but the "Affected" in "TransMisogyny Affected" doesn't just mean you have been Affected by transmisogyny at some point--it means it affects you, inescapably, in uncountably many more ways than just random harassment, every minute of your damn life. and it worms into your brain and stays there, because you ARE the tranny they were talking about

you may be a tree near the target and catch the occasional stray, but you are not the target

mousidy

storyweavingspider

I had a really good example of this pop up on the bus a while back. TLDR an older cis woman accused of being transfemme was protected by several people, while I, visibly transfemme, was not when the same person started threatening me.

💬 11 🔁 1676 ❤️ 2448 · Transphobia is so fascinating sometimes because I just got an example of why “everyone is transmisogyny affected” is

mousidy

milf--adjacent

As much as I appreciate the support and understanding of the TME persuasion, it is endlessly disgusting and disheartening that all to frequently it takes someone who isn't transfem talking about how they see the axis of oppression is real to convince people we transfeminists aren't just manhating-ugly-chronicallyonline-sexpredator troons who should be hunted for sport 😾

pokeballvictimized

Doesn't the shinigami eyes extension mark transphobia to trans men as green?

Hoo boy. This sure is a question! I'm gonna try breaking this down a bit.

Shinigami eyes is more useful for the red marks, not the green marks

The marks ARE community sourced, so it's not impossible

Honestly, though, that doesn't sound very likely! I think you're probably hearing talking points from people who don't like it when people push back against transmisogyny

I'm not sure how much you've been following the discourse, but there's this ongoing argument about the concept of "transandrophobia" as a counterpart to transmisogyny.

Transmisogyny is the intersection of two different kinds of sexism - oppositional and traditional. Traditional sexism is the idea that masculinity is superior to femininity. Oppositional sexism is the idea that male and female are rigid and mutually exclusive.

Trans men obviously suffer from transphobia and discrimination, and in the lens above, they are victims of oppositional sexism constantly. However, they are also beneficiaries of traditional sexism; there are advantages that trans men specifically have over trans women, even if access to those privileges is limited.

You can also understand transmisogyny as the unique phenomenon that arises from the intersection of transphobia and misogyny. In both of these understandings, "transandrophobia" is an unhelpful and counterintuitive idea, as it asserts that there is a unique form of discrimination levyed against men, which is a distinctly anti-feminist idea.

People who push back against this are generally not trying to deny the countless ways that trans men are discriminated against, rather, the misunderstanding of feminist ideas that allows "transandrophobia" to exist is something that allows people to shout down trans women trying to talk about our own oppression; it's a shallow desire to claim "transmisogyny for boys" which is, again, anti-feminist.

Some of what you're seeing is likely part of that debate - feminists discussing the ways in which feminist ideas are misinterpreted.

I'm curious to know where and how you got the idea that transphobia to trans men is something marked as green - i would be rather suspicious of anyone echoing that claim.

soup-mother

probably should have seen it coming I guess but it's pretty fucking annoying everyone saw a conversation about "people don't understand how difficult it is clothes shopping as a trans woman" and proceeded to show just how much they don't understand it by assuming it's only about sizing and not the constant societal surveillance and inability to use the change rooms and fear of being kicked out of the story and unwillingness even for friends to recognise that there's barriers in your way and try and help you.

even people trying to commiserate with me complaining about the dumb responses assumed that it was just about sizing. and phrased it all like "you're so seen and valid". fucking christ.

wow it's almost like people don't understand how challenging it is clothes shopping even years into transition as a trans woman! who could have guessed??????

soup-mother

Not the strongest comparison here but

"It's incredibly difficult and challenging using public bathrooms as a transgender woman and it should be obvious why if you have paid attention to anything ever"

"Girl I feel you, welcome to womanhood. sometimes the seats are gross or someone's left something on the floor, we all experience this, you're so valid for this"

(meanwhile I'm lucky if I'm not immediately stopped upon entering)

with clothes it's like ok cool but you might notice that you are wearing womens clothes from the clothes store that you bought and were able to try on before buying and weren't called a pervert and/or pedophile over it. meanwhile I am not. so maybe this is not actually "something all women experience" or just about sizing yes?

ribstongrowback

hope this isn't derailing but i think that this is heavily shaped by this condescending attitude people have about trans women's womanhood. they treat us like little girls discovering every aspect of being a woman instead of understanding us as adults who can have fully formed and informed opinions and analysis about our lived experience.

folks assume we have everything to learn about being women, because the idea that they would have anything to learn from us about it or about being a trans woman is simply too ridiculous to even cross their mind.

manuciruja

awww the like button turns into a rainbow when you press it! that's so cute...hey staff what's with all the trans women you keep nuking?

manuciruja

i think we should be ridiculing them more for this. you don't get to try and go all "queer website" when your staff likes to go on nuking sprees targeting the trans fem users

sadist-posting

Unfriendly reminder that Fascists can get the fuck off my blog. This includes Trump Supporters, Conservatives, Terfs, Homophobes, Transphobes, anti-feminists, "Traditionalists," and anyone who supports the actions or government of the settler colonial genocidal ethnostate currently murdering children by the thousand. Block me or I'll block you.

the-sensitive-sadist

Kink is an inherently political act. Ensuring that all parties have the agency to consent and participate on their own terms, willfully submitting or dominating rather than being forced into a role by the socioeconomic hierarchical status quo is not apolitical. It is a direct contradiction of the dominant social hierarchy. A deeply personal action defined by its focus on consent and self determination in a system which constantly robs people of both.

You cannot practice ethical kink while being a conservative. You cannot practice ethical kink while being a racist. You cannot practice ethical kink while being a sexist. A homophobe. A transphobe. An islamaphobe. You cannot be anti-immigrant, anti-refugee, or anti-asylum seeker while practicing ethical kink. You cannot practice ethical kink while being a theocrat, whether it be Christian, Hindu, or Islamic nationalism or zionism. You cannot practice ethical kink while being a fascist. Holding any ideology which dehumanizes others, or allows for their dehumanization removes ones ability to practice ethical kink.

Gatekeep your submission. Gatekeep your dominance. Don't you dare give it to someone who doesn't respect others.

the-sensitive-sadist

Bigotry against one is bigotry against all. Keep that shit out of kink. Fuck Donald Trump. Fuck the colonizers. Fuck authoritarianism, fuck racism, fuck misogyny, and fuck queerphobia.

missstrogen

You won't be able to defang pedojacketing as a tool of transmisogynystic and racist opression without making being a pedo or lolicon or map or whatever else something that doesnt warrant punishment btw

missstrogen

As long as there exists an accusation that isn't based on real harm but a percieved sexual perversion that accusation will be levied for obvious reasons. You can't protect yourself without having to accept that you will also protect people that you might feel are nasty perverts.

Then you have 2 choices. Accept that or become a transmisogynist in months or years from now.

missstrogen

I'm not saying that we should be proud pedo advocates or whatever. I'm saying that if you want to make the world safer for trans women, it takes the first step of deciding that if you see a girl doing wierd nasty shit you have to not care. It takes the first step of not complaining about the pedophiles hiding in your community. It takes the first step of accepting that if you "hunt pedos" you will hunt trans girls. Not because trans girls are pedos but because being a pedo is a trivial accusation to send to people that everyone is already primed to see as sex perverts.

corpsehusk-creaturedoll

getting into transfem culture? i'll show you something interesting.

the two types of transfem culture are "co-opted by tmes" and "harmful to the greater trans community". all transfem culture is placed into these two categories.

blahaj? co-opted. referring to each other by familial roles? harmful to the community. the term egg? co-opted. age regression? harmful to the community.

tranny? co-opted. transfeminism? harmful to the community. despite being co-opted into forcemasc, forcefem is "harmful to the community".

corpsehusk-creaturedoll

sorry to everyone who started following me today. ive had that post cooking in the back of my mind for weeks. im never posting anything even remotely good again

satanfemme

lakemojave

paper-mario-wiki

do not forget the patron saint of these weeks that we celebrate ourselves proudly and openly in the streets

her name was Marsha P Johnson, and we have her to thank for so much.

remember, the first Pride was a riot, and she was one of the brave souls who endured it to help carve the path which so many of us walk today. she helped found several activist groups regarding LGBT safety and wellbeing. and she was absolutely radiant, too.

thank you, Marsha. we remember you.

ratliker1917

TRANSMISOGYNY EXEMPT PERSON: Anyway this is why calling me “transmisogyny exempt” is exactly the same as being a TERF. If you point out I am unaffected by transmisogyny that is actually literally the exact same as being part of a group of people with an ideology founded in transmisogyny.

ratliker1917

TRANSMISOGYNY EXEMPT PERSON 2: Asking me if I am trans feminine or not is basically the same as demanding a detailed description of my genitals. I will not let you know if I am trans feminine or affected by transmisogyny in any way, if you’re a trans feminine person who asks me this I will double down on the “you’re asking me for a full-length, detailed description of my genitals” part in order to rhetorically construct an image of you as a sexual predator, which people are inclined to believe about you, a transmisogyny-affected individual, even regardless of a total lack of evidence, because of transmisogyny, which I refuse to clarify my relationship to despite the fact I am currently enacting it.

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