sold my soul for beginner's luck

Rowan, they/them, gayer than you, in this house we love and support trans people

[northirish]

Noooooooo dont say that!! im 29 and i keep telling myself i just need to make it to my 30s and everything will be better 😭😭

LIFE ONLY GETS BETTER IF YOU TAKE AGENCY OF YOUR OWN PERSONHOOD AND ACTIVELY TAKE STEPS TO BETTER YOUR OWN STATE OF AFFAIRS. AGE IS IRRELEVANT, ONLY THE WILL TO COMMIT TO A BETTER TOMORROW MATTERS

[im-onthekitchenfloor]

The stab.

[evilbeast-moved]

ilove people who work at front desks of things. i can walk into a building and go to the desk and i ask how do i do this thing. and then they just fucking tell me !!!!

[evilbeast-moved]

i walked into my college found the first desk and asked hey where do i pay my student fees. did that. ok where i do find the academic advisor? got the general direction, went up to the first desk i saw, asked where to go to drop a class .awesome. went to the bookstore, walked up to the desk, asked how to find out what textbooks i need. and AGAIN they had answers for me. this is so cool thank you desk people

[evilbeast-moved]

no this is so real actually !! it always feels like you'll be expected to know everything when you do Adult Things but you don't, actually, you just need to know who to ask

[identitty-dickruption]

sounds silly but. one of the greatest things ever as someone with a trauma background is learning that things aren't inherently as bad or as scary as I thought. it IS possible to assemble Ikea furniture without arguments. is IS possible to discuss boundaries without having something thrown at me for speaking out of turn. it IS possible to spend hours on end sharing your favourite things with your favourite people, and not get called annoying for it. the world is an incredible place

[greatatuintheworldturtle]

It is possible to listen to someone's problem without it becoming your problem to fix. It is possible to have a difficult conversation without yelling or cursing. It is even possible to have arguments without bringing up the cruelest things you know about the person. It is possible to find people who give you credit for your merits instead of reducing you to your flaws. The world is indeed incredible.

[cellobuster]

Whoever invented "open in app" links that redirect you to the app store instead of actually opening the app even when you already have the app installed on your phone should be involuntarily turned into a beanbag chair

[patricia-taxxon]

u gotta be hedonistic about vegetables. they're not good boy food that u eat to prove you're mature, they're the food that you can shovel into your mouth at 5 am without getting nauseous

[hellolovelyscientist]

#they also taste DECADENT baked with butter and honey#or olive oil and herbs#or fried with sausage#or made into salad with cheese and nuts and dressing#or simmered in beef broth with baby potatoes#INDULGE in your veggies#this is a manifesto

[troutlawyer]

Grandmas were so right about puzzles and knitting and crocheting and solitaire and reading slow and slippers and baking and watching deer in the backyard send post

[wheelie-sick]

“oh, I live in a desert and-”

“wow that must be so terrible” “deserts are so ugly” “I would never want to live in a wasteland like that” “it’s just empty nothingness”

wishing 10,000 exploding hammers upon you

behold New Mexico

[ID 1: tall, snowcapped rocky mountains rising above a plain filled with desert scrub

ID 2: brightly colored banded cliff walls of several mesas climbing their way into mountains

ID 3: a desert prairie

ID 4: colorful hoodoos against a twilight sky

ID 5: white sand dunes as far as the eye can see

ID 6: a collection of hoodoos against a stormy sky at sunset

ID 7: a juniper tree standing with a cliff wall in the background

ID 8: several juniper trees on a rocky landscape]

[jadewolf-writes]

And the Mojave!

[jadewolf-writes]

No, wait. I’m not done. I love the desert too much.

Have some Utah! too.

And those last two should be a reminder that humans have been living and thriving in the desert for thousands of years!

[snommelp]

My beloved Sonoran Desert

[strawberry-crocodile]

i think you are not going to be able to actively serve and help social justice without first coming to terms with the fact that it might have downsides for you, personally.

helping disabled people sometimes helps able bodied people, yes, but we must accept being inconvenienced, too. feminism can benefit men, but it must also mean relinquishing privilege and changing your behavior. you will not be able to eat bananas and chocolate cheap, year-round, in the northern latitudes.

[cum-rade]

calling the cops on an unhoused person for being weird/rude/"scary" in public is so weird to me on such a fundamental level... like even before you get to political beliefs about jail and homelessness, you are beefing with a dude who has to live on the sidewalk. like sorry if he was rude to you dude sorry if he made you uncomfortable but to be fair he lives and sleeps on the fucking sidewalk. sorry if hes being too mentally unwell on the street late at night but like you gotta understand that he lives on the fucking sidewalk. sorry if he seems a little bit "off" today dude i think maybe its because he lives on the fucking goddamn sidewalk

[sandersstudies]

Sometimes I relate a little too hard to trans men and women talking about expectations for performing femininity but I think that actually says nothing about my gender and a lot about our society’s expectations for women.

[sandersstudies]

Even many cisgender women feel like they’re performing or “faking it” sometimes. Even many cis women have that horrible “lipstick on a pig” feeling when they try to conform to gender expectations. Even many cis women have dysphoria related to how their bodies conform to expectations.

This is not to downplay the struggles experienced by trans people at all, this is just commentary on how a society with strict gender norms harms everyone.

[elf-indulgent]

I really like what this physicist, Lamar Glover, has to say in Behind the Curve. 

+ this part from Spiros Michalakis:

[chemicalheart-deactivated202009]

Incredibly good take which is really rare for these topics

[clevermanka]

The key to fighting pseudoscience isn’t mockery—it’s empathy

Evidence shows that shoving data in peoples’ faces doesn’t work to change minds.

[spiders-reblogs]

Transcribed text:

Quote by physicist LAMAR GROVER:

“Truthers, flat-earthers, anti-vaxxers… when we leave people behind, we leave bright minds to mutate and stagnate. These folks are potential scientists gone completely wrong. Their natural inquisitiveness and rejection of norms could be beneficial to science if they were more scientifically-literate.”

Quote by Dr SPIROS MICHALAKIS:

“The problem I see is actually not from the side of the conspiracy theorists. It is actually from our side, from the side of science. Very often it is difficult not to look down. My friend said: “Sometimes, the way to change someone’s mind is to shame them”. And I say, I don’t think that’s the last resort, ever. This is the same as saying that, if a kid doesn’t get a particular subject, it’s not your fault as the teacher, it is their own fault. I do not believe that. It is you haven’t developed your empathy to see from their point of view where they’re getting stuck. The worst case scenario is you just completely push these individuals at the fringe of society, and then society just lost them.“

[so-much-for-subtlety]

I’ve watched this documentary a couple of times (and also a related one called Rocketman) and my takeaway is that a lot of flat earthers just seem very lonely and enjoy the companionship of other flat earthers.

[greelin]

what they don’t tell you about uncluttering your countertops/tables/general spaces is you’ll think it’s dumb as hell & allow it to all pile up because the idea of organizing and removing shit is daunting but once you do it and step back and See how things look without clutter you will feel as though you just snorted a line.

[pansyfemme]

idk if this is a contreversial take or not but i think that the ideal internet experience is being able to remove specific things (triggers, nsfw, gore) if you truly dont want to see them but overall being also shown things you aren’t interested in. i think one of my fave things about tumblr is seeing like 50% of my dash be about fandoms im not in, bands i dont like and quotes from books i dont want to read rather than this endless feedback loop of tiktok showing me ‘exactly what i want to see’ in a trap to keep me online as long as possible and blind to communities outside of my own. i want a mix of curating my own experience and a healthy dose of content i don’t already know i want to see, yknow?

[frogsforthefrogwar]

I truly believe any neurodivergent person can be framed as manipulative if their doctor dislikes them. What is masking if not manipulation if you view it uncharitably enough?

[frogsforthefrogwar]

it doesn't matter what your diagnosed with, solidarity with the "bad mentally ill people" needs to be a priority for you. No one is ever more than one bad mental health episode away from being labeled as manipulative and noncompliant

[waitingforthesunrise]

and very, very often, self care is not plants and ice rollers and fluffy blankets of peace.

it’s standing over your kitchen sink and crying while doing the dishes because you just want to go back to bed but the dishes need done. and you don’t know why you’re crying but you're trusting you need it. and you aren’t listening to the music that pulls you into a spiral; you’re listening to some cheerful shit your friend sent you. it’s getting up and staring at your fridge and closing your eyes and then cooking yourself food even though you hate it and it’s miserable. because you know that you’d cook for your friend, and you are trying to befriend yourself. it’s dragging yourself into the shower because you know you’ll feel better afterwards. it’s doing mundane tasks with patience, cursing under your breath, trying desperately to give yourself grace. grace is the beginning of care. care is the beginning of love.

we think it’s supposed to be peace and yet the most powerful self care moments are when we hate everything but especially ourselves. and life does not feel worth the loving. to look into that pain and yet choose to care for yourself in however many pieces you are — that is care. love. grace. trust. belief. it hurts because it’s love where there was no love before. it heals because it believes there will be love, one day, soon.

[shirkers2018dirsanditan]

all that bimbo girl dinner girl math “i’m too pretty to understand the economy” passenger princess shit is not subversive. it does not make men mad. it is not reclamation. the joke is on you. they are laughing at you, not with you, and the tradition of women who play to men’s most heinous views of women in order to get a bag is long and established. these women are apart of that legacy no matter what idiotic, hyperonline choice feminism spin they try to give it. it is never and never will be progressive to treat women as though we are naturally incompetent and incapable