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Dilraba Dilmurat being effortlessly beautiful in The King’s Woman
"stop destroying your city to protest!!!!" cries every white moderate on twitter. a city is not a fucking target. a city is not an autozone. a city is people who are literally suffocating under the boot of the state. cry about that. god.
100 Attraction Principles from “Why Men Love B!tches” 1. Anything a person chases in life runs away. 2. The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care too much. 3. A woman is perceived as offering a mental challenge to the degree that a man doesn’t feel he has a 100 percent hold on her. 4. Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond. 5. If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it. 6. It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt. 7. Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer. 8. The biggest variable between a ***** and a woman who is too nice is fear. The ***** shows that she’s not afraid to be without him. 9. If the choice is between her dignity and having a relationship, the ***** will prioritize her dignity above all else. 10. When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her. 11. Being right on the verge of getting something generates a desire that has to be satisfied. 12. A man knows which woman will give in to last-minute requests. 13. Whether you have terms and conditions indicates whether you have options. Almost immediately, you present yourself as a doormat or a dreamgirl. 14. If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom. 15. Whenever a woman requires too many things from a man, he’ll resent it. Let him give what he wants to give freely; then observe who he is. 16. A ***** gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then..he sets out to trap her in his. 17. If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind. 18. Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard. 19. More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him. 20. He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner. 21. If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take him time to appreciate who she is. 22. Sex and the “spark” are not one and the same. 23. Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t. 24. Every man wants to have sex first; whether he wants a girlfriend is something he thinks about later. By not giving him what he wants up front, you become his girlfriend without him realizing it. 25. A man intuitively senses whether sexuality comes from a place of security or from a place of neediness. He knows when a woman is having sex to appease him. 26. Bad habits are easier to form than good ones, because good habits require conscious effort. Waiting encourages this effort. 27. If you pull the sexual plug at the last minute, he’ll label you a tease. 28. If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide. 29. A quality guy fantasizes about a woman who genuinely loves sex. 30. Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself. 31. When there is that undeniable “spark,” there is only one key to the lock. 32. Let him think he’s in control. He’ll automatically start doing things you want done because he’ll always want to look like “a king” in your eyes. 33. When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way. 34. When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete. 35. He’ll let a woman who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn’t think of it with his dreamgirl. 36. The token power position is for public display, but the true power position is for private viewing only. And this is the only one that matters. 37. If you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world. 38. When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything. 39. Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact. 40. Talking about the “relationship” too much takes away the element of the “unknown” and thus the mystery. 41. Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another. 42. When you are always HAPPY; And he is always free to GO; he feels LUCKY. 43. If you allow your rhythm to be interrupted, you’ll create a void. Then, to replace what you give up, you’ll start to expect and need more from your partner. 44. Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves. 45. A woman looks more secure in a man’s eyes when he can’t pull her away from her life, because she is content with her life. 46. The second a woman works overtime to make herself fit his criteria, she has lowered the standard of that relationship. 47. You jump through hoops any time you repeatedly make it very obvious you’re giving your “all.” 48. You have to keep from being sucked down into quicksand. Unless you maintain control over yourself, the relationship is doomed. 49. Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he’ll stay on his best behavior. 50. The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.
51. The relationship may not be right for you if you find yourself jumping through hoops. When something is right, it will feel easier and much more effortless. 52. When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention. 53. When a man takes a woman for granted, he still looks for reassurance that she is still “right there.” 54. When the routine becomes predictable, he’s more likely to give you the same type of love he had for his mother–and the odds that he will take you for granted increase. 55. Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know that he has you–right where he wants you. 56. When you treat him casually as though he’s a friend, he’ll come your way. Because he wants things to be romantic, but he also wants to be the pursuer. 57. A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you. 58. A man takes a woman for granted when he’s interested, but will no longer go out of his way. 59. When you nag, you become the problem, and he deals with it by tuning you out. But when you don’t nag, he deals with the problem. 60. If you take his chores away from him and praise someone else for doing it, he’ll want his chores back. 61. When you nag, he sees weakness. 62. He perceives an emotional woman as more of a pushover. 63. In the same way that familiarity breeds contempt, a slightly aloof demeanor can often renew his respect. 64. He’ll forget what he has in you, unless you remind him. 65. Many women talk a lot out of nervousness–which is something that men will often perceive as insecurity. 66. Talking about feelings to a man will feel like work. When he’s with a woman, he wants it to feel like fun. 67. Forcing him to talk about feelings all the time will not only make you seem needy, it will eventually make him lose respect. And when he loses respect, he’ll pay even less attention to your feelings. 68. In the beginning, the only thing you need to pay attention to is whether he keeps coming around, because he’ll only be able to suspend or hide his emotions for so long. 69. Men treat women the way they treat other men. They “play it cool: because they don’t want to appear weak or desperate. 70. The element of suprise both inside and outside of the bedroom is important to men, and it adds to the excitement. 71. Don’t always do the same thing over and over in the bedroom. Vary it so that it doesn’t become a predictable routine. 72. Most men tend to disrespect a woman who appears to be too malleable. 73. Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on. 74. Men often automatically assume that a *****ier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid. 75. When a man falls in love, suddenly he’ll go out of his way and think nothing of it. He’ll do things for this woman he wouldn’t have done for anyone else. 76. He’ll never respect you as being able to hold your own unless you can stand on your own too feet financially. 77. You have to show that you won’t accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect. 78. Your pink slip is maintained when you can stand on your own–with him or without him. He should never feel that you are completely as his mercy. 79. When a man views a woman as a “little girl” or a sister he has to take care of, the passion diminishes. He doesn’t want to make love to his sister. 80. The ability to choose how you want to live, and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that give you more power than any material object ever will. 81. In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person isn’t bringing anything to the table, he or she will begin to disrespect that person. 82. Financial neediness is no different than emotional neediness; in both instances, he can still get the feeling that he has a 100 percent hold on you. 83. Regardless of how pretty a woman is, looks alone will not sustain his respect. Appearance may pull him in, but it is your independence that will keep him turned on. 84. When a man is very consumed with not being taken advantage of, this is a sign that he’s “on the take.” 85. People will show you they have self-respect simply by virtue of the fact that they want to carry their own weight. 86. The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be. 87. If you make it too obvious that you’re excited to get something, some people will be tempted to dangle a carrot in front of your face. 88. When you alter the routine, your not being there is what will make him come around. Men don’t respond to words. What they respond to is no contact. 89. Don’t give a reward for bad behavior. 90. He simply won’t respect a woman who automatically goes into overdrive to please him. 91. If he doesn’t give you a time, you don’t have a date. 92. Often the best way to adjust or fix the problem is by not letting him know it’s being fixed. When you alter your availability or change a predictable routine, it will mentally pull him back in. 93. Once you start laughing, you start healing. 94. You can get away with saying much more with humor than you can with a straight face. 95. A man feels he’s won, or conquered a woman, when she eats out of the palm of his hand. At which point, he begins to get bored. 96. The tension that arises with a slightly *****y woman gives a subtle feeling of danger to a man. He feels slightly unsure because she is never in the palm of his hand. 97. A “yes” woman who gives too much sends the impression that she believes in the man more than she believes in herself. Men view this as weakness not kindness. 98. Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way. 99. Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them. 100. The most attractive quality of all is dignity.
Even if you say you don’t like me, I’d still shamelessly stay.
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I hope black women out there are doing okay. There has been a lot of brutality and senseless hatred in the news. It is tiring. I’ve seen planned protests on my socials, and that may have been enticing in the past, but today...
I will not march, nor go outside and hold up a flag and shout. I am not a man nor a warrior princess—stop expecting this of black women. I care very much for our lives (especially women, who are publicized less), but there is nothing feminine about dying on the front line.
I can protest economically, study court law, donate time/support for women, and protect children. This is more effective for me as a woman than being unprotected on the streets. I incite more of us to avoid risking our lives.
-less than 1% real death rate -"dying on the front lines" You know what, that's fine, it's better than you running around in industrial-Germany inspired collectivist vanguard gangs and being a pretensious thug or a Zarna Joshi. You should try video games too, they'll keep you off the street also. Good luck representing Zarna Joshi and Jussie Smollett in court, by the way.
“Less than 1% real death rate”.
As if any amount of black women dying is okay. Goodbye. 1% can be 1 or 1000, so don’t use statistics dishonestly. How about we risk NO black women’s lives, or depend on NO black women to physically hold down the front line and fight like men? We are not exempt from abuse, brutality, and becoming statistics.
Assuming that being feminine means uncaring is dangerous to project onto any woman. I will not stand on the front line. That does not mean that I don’t donate, sign, support, listen, hug, volunteer, or write to politicians. And I’d like to do more safely. Perhaps you have some safe protest ideas instead of snark and jargon?
Black women have the right to be Corretta Scotts, Michelle Obamas, Jackie Kennedys, Eleanor Roosevelts, and many more women who fight for good without being in the crossfire. We are allowed to use our feminine strengths in our fight.
Stay safe, black women. Seek emotional healing, take breaks from media, and if it can save your life—stay home.
Listening Snow Tower pusher post - aka get you someone who loves you the way the hero of this one loves the heroine
I am adoring Goodbye My Princess precisely because the hero is so messed up, but it made me think of Listening Snow Tower because it had one of the ultimate ride or die for heroine heroes as in he always puts her first and would probably turn himself into a carpet if she asked, while remaining the deadliest thing on two legs. Plus, it’s visually stunning, tragic and angsty (in fact constantly whumpy), but with a happy ending. What more can one ask for? Oh, yes, a hero who is arguably Mousie’s cdrama boyfriend.
LST is about two star-crossed lovers and a hell of a lot of fights. Our heroine is a daughter of a famous fighter who gets taken in by the Snow Tower sect once her father is killed by the bad guys. Our hero is the son of the then-master of Snow Tower and eventual master of it.
He wears all white and furs, has been deathly ill since childhood (he basically has a wuxia magic version of pneumonia) but still can fight like nobody’s business. She is pretty much cursed and he is doomed to an early death.
Yet despite the tragedies in both their pasts, her prickliness and his usually being cold (haha pun) and ruthless, they fall in love. By that I mean, she falls in love while he basically goes into the next dimension and almost destroys himself for her repeatedly.
Together they are gorgeous…
There is so much angst, internal and external. If you love basically never-ending hurt/comfort fest (the only time he’s not collapsing or suffering is when he’s either fighting or she’s collapsing in his arms), this one is for you.
A typical day for our hero:
I kid, I kid, this is a more typical day for our hero:
OK, fine, if unlike me this isn’t as much your bag, there are a lot of spectacular fights and delicious villains and all that.
But you know me.
Anyway, they were amazing and gave me ulcers as I was watching lives terrified of a bad ending. But I got lucky.
Have a MV:
And a trailer:
And a representative day in the life :P (He must cure some horrible wuxia condition by an even more painful method, heh.)
Someone stop me from a rewatch.
SacDelux is a luxury consignment business, built, owned and operated by Shanice Ga… Shanice Gaither needs your support for Support SacDelux
hey! do you have any sources for the black-owned business being damaged that you mentioned?? i would really like to spread awareness about them and donate to help them out if possible!
ofc! not all of these are black owned, but all are poc and small local businesses.
scores sports bar, owned by black firefighter kb balla, was burned down. his wife is a member of the sounds of blackness singing group. they have four children. you can donate here.
ghandi mahal burned down as well. owner ruhel islam’s statement was, “let my building burn. justice needs to be served, put those officers in jail.” however he is still left with immense financial burdens. you can donate here.
holy trinity lutherin church opened their doors to act as medics for protestors, most of whom came in for tear gas related injuries. you can donate here.
jose tamay’s local and immigrant owned business was destroyed, just weeks after being destroyed again in an incident unrelated to the riots. you can donate here.
e&l supermarket and deli, owned by adil albosaad, was damaged and looted. you can donate here.
midori’s floating world cafe is a japanese owned resturaunt which was destroyed. they also appreciate what the riots are representing, but again, are faced with financial and timely damages to rectify. you can donate here.
and i’m sure there are much more, but those are some i found really quickly!! i will be donating to all of them within this next week.
To add one to the list, SacDelux is a black and female owned consignment shop. It was broken into, damaged in the process, and stolen from. Credits go to this post and they have the Go Fund Me link on their post.
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Best advice to give someone in early 20’s
Don't fall victim of FOMO. Most of the "fun" activities you see advertised on social media or by the greater youth culture are detrimental to your growth as a person and will pay back in negative ways later on: partying, consuming alcohol/drugs, being promiscuous, recklessly spending money traveling and buying food, etc.
Instead use your precious youth working on layering the foundations for your life and growing as person, focus on:
• Gaining financial literacy
• Acquire proper manners and etiquette to best blend in with important people and be taken more seriously in business settings or formal gatherings
• Learn how to properly dress and keep a prudent demeanor. Avoid at all costs replicating the fast fashion trends of social media and the culture of neurotic impulsivity many of your age peers may have
• Work hard to overcome childhood traumas that keep you from properly interact with other and affect your own self-image
• Build valuable connections from people who can mentor you
• Be active networking with people who are in similar professional or interests groups as you to have connections for future projects
• Spend your time reading self development books and applying the learned concepts into your life
• Work hard and learn to invest your money, prioritize exercise and proper dieting to keep your vitality high, your health and help you preserve your youth.
• Acquire transferable skills that you can use in different scenarios such as: learning how to sell, learning multiple languages, improving your emotional intelligence, etc.
Despite what the world might try to yell you your 20s are the most important years of your life, wasting them doing futile hedonistic and irresponsible activities may feel comfortable in the moment but let me assure you will pay the price for your actions sooner or later. Be conscious of your youth and use your time and resources as wisely as possible so that you may have a life of success, greatness and fulfilment. Plant the seed now, your future self will be thank you later.
Even a man would be hypergamous . So why wouldn’t you ? Don’t allow society to shame you into wanting a protector and provider.
Great tips and a good read 💕
Cultivating how to be a classy woman is a characteristic that every feminine young lady should refine. That’s because although many societal
Date Ideas
Hell Yes: Day spa Lunch or dinner followed by shopping Luxury hotel stay Vineyard tour Pottery/painting class Casino to gamble his money Really anywhere bets are placed Gallery that has a great shop and restaurant (I love art books as gifts) Yacht sailing Dinner on a yacht Country Club Custom fragrance shopping Gala Film Festival / exclusive screening Networking or charity event Art tours / open houses Ski / snow trip The theatre Jet/small plane/helicopter ride Exclusive tasing menu with a popular chef
Hell No: Coffee date Anywhere he won’t pay for an uber/cab to Road trip Any sports/exercise classes Hikes Your place His place Netflix and chill Movie Comedy show / stand up Home cooked meal Less than $$$ restaurant or bar
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