Okay, here's some ice cold takes for today, because I'm so immensely fed up of seeing queer discourse/people trying to find out which identity is now okay to exclude
Queer people of all identities and sexualities experience oppression for their identities. No queer person is really gaining privilege from being queer in any way. This oppression can change a lot based on many factors. Location is important. Intersectionality is very much relevant here.
The oppression that queer people face will vary a lot based on their identity and on who is committing the oppression, and sometimes it manifests in completely opposing ways. Ace people are often belittled or dehumanized for their overall lack of sexual interest, homosexual people are often seen as predatory instead. Transfems are often hyper-visible, transmascs and nonbinary folk are often invisibilized instead.
The main oppressors of queer people are not other queer people. We're in a cisheteronormative society, and that's the main force against us. Lateral violence can happen, but it's far from being the main form of oppression
Oppression can vary A LOT based on one's country. I know this site is very US-centric, but please be aware that one's experiences can be very different based on a country's laws and society AND language. For example, a few countries that are otherwise safer to be a binary trans person in, don't recognize the existence of nonbinary people because their language does not have neutral pronouns or gender to work with.
Exclusionism has never helped anyone, and has often been used as a gateway to entering hateful movements. TERFs have often mentioned they started out as ace exclusionists, for example.
Exclusionism is often temporary. There's been rises in trying to exclude specific identities from the LGBTQ+ collective for ages, and while they CAN be harmful, they have fizzled over time, again and again. I know it can look dire at the moment for some identities, but trust me: It will pass.
No queer identity makes anyone morally superior or inferior.
People from different collectives are allowed to coin terms to better explain their specific circumstances, and it is ultimately up to people within these collectives to decide which ones are appropriate to use or not, as long as they're not directly using them against others. If you find yourself coining a derogatory term against another queer collective, that's where you need to stop and revise your own bias.
Trying to measure who has it better or worse is really not worth the time. This ain't the Blizzard diversity chart bullshit where you assign numbers based on 30 different factors. Stand with other people in the collective and help each other as much as possible.
Stop with the micro-labelling policing. Really. It's a waste of time.
Give intersex people the space to talk about their own experiences and use the labels and terms they are more comfortably with. Intersex people tend to have a very different experience compared to perisex people, as it is often (but not always!) present since literal birth. Defend them, but do not speak over them.
And maybe the most ice cold take here: Trying to guess what is in someone's pants to determine whether their identity is valid or not or if you care for their opinion or not is literally transphobia 101. I can't believe we've got trans people transvestigating other trans people just to determine whether their opinions are okay or not, holy shit.
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